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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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I have had sex a few times with my boyfriends, but I have never gotten the chance to take it. My boyfriend tried to get it in the other day, but he is very very thick and it hurt way too bad for me to take it. Is there any way for me to stretch back there so that it will fit in? We did use a lube, and plan to always use lube. I just want to try taking it, but it hurt so badly. Please give me some advice as for how to stretch myself out. Thanks!
Try it by yourself using a sex toy... get yourself use to it.. also when you are doing it start off laying on your side with your back toward him until you get use to it and then try different positions good luck and have fun ;) ;)
How long should yeast infections last? I went to my doctor and when she examined me she told me i had a yeast infection. She gave me a prescription for Monistat(which did not work.) then she gave me diphlucan (which also did not work) this Has been going on for about 2 months now. So is it possible for it to actually. Be a yeast infection?
It could be something other than a yeast infection... My advice is to go back and tell your doctor about the problem let her know that it is not going away and see if it could be something else.... a girl I know gets them all the time her doctor says its because she produces too much yeast.... bt hers always goes away with the medication... def go back to the doctor and tell her what is going on you dont want to leave it untreated good luck and best wishes hope you get results soon
Okay my ex boyfriend and I talks almost everyday we broke up like two times before but I can't Neva get him off my mind like he just always in Ma head I think he knows I love but I don't know how much though he does tell me he love me bac but I dont know if he mean it like he went out with my cousin but she passed but before she passed I tried back to have a relationship with him and it was all fine but he Neva texted me or called me I always had to do that I really don't know I just wished he knew how much I loved him so we had an argument a month or longer ago becuz I can't let him go but I tried to tell him but he Neva listeners I just don't know what to do is this really love ? Hope this isn't what it feel like !
You really like him and It hard to let go because you are not ready to move on... I am sure you really do love him but if he is not going to put effort into the relatioship as well then you will always end up back where you are now,,, I know its hard to get over someone that you love and it is really hard to stop thinking about them.... but you can get through it and someday you are going to find a wonderful man who is everything you ever dreamed of good luck and best wishes to you
Ok ima 14 year old girl gone semi wrong. I haven't killed anyone or robbed a fricken bank at gun point, but iv befriended a 33 year old pedifile (dudes that rape kids), a rapest, and have gone onto sites I sooooooo shouldn't have been on!!! Iv got these voices in my head telling me to kill myself and in all honesty I hate my family, or at least a good portion of them. I'm planning on getting a dragon tatoo on my neck and acquire a taste for strong liquor. All im asking is how the hell am I supposed to get my act together? My grades have plummeted and so has everything else and informing out like my uncle and my dad that left befor i was born. Can anyone tell me how to straighten out???? Ppplllzzzz???
Its best you go to counceling it really helps... this is not a good thing... you are not a bad person you are just doing bad things you know the difference between right and wrong its just at the time you end up doing what is more fun... before you end up getting badly hurt, raped, or killed you need to stop this and as for the voices that is a mental problem huni you need to go to an adult and tell them what is going on and get some concelling good luck sweets and best wishes to you
I've dealt with depression, self-injury, and eating disorders for a very long time now. I've kept the last two hidden since my mother completely dismissed any ideas of me having depression twice when I was not even 13. Since then I've "trained" myself to never let anyone know that I have any depressive thoughts nor have I ever let anyone "in" to my life.
Well, I met and have been together with this guy for 8 months now and I really do love him. I'm happier than I have ever been in years when I'm with him and he really appreciates me. He knows that the cuts on my legs are self-inflicted, but I've been careful to not let him know I still do cut occasionally and he knows nothing about how I hate my body and my past eating issues. I thought I had been doing a good job concealing my depression from him, but he is extremely introspective.
He has been out of town for the past week and we were talking on the phone tonight and said that I need to get out of this "recession" and that we would do it together or I could do it by myself if I needed to. And that he's been through a lot and he'd like to to help me. And that just freaked me out.
I've never had anyone so close to me in my life, nonetheless someone that's cared enough to notice this. I'd like to talk to him because it's not fair to him for me to bottle this up and have it affect our relationship. At the same time, I'm really afraid that he'll realize he can't handle me and leave me. I'm afraid he'll judge me and reject me. I don't know what to do. Help?
He seems like he really cares about you... talk to him let him in... let him know everything that pains you... talking can be very helpful I know I have been there... I was in the same place you are in not long ago... When my husband and I first got together I was a cutter... He didnt know... One night he was working and I was staying at his house so I decided to fall asleep in his bed... when he came in his room in the morning he noticed I had blood on my sweater... he rolled up my sleeves and saw my cuts... I woke up to kim kissing my arm and crying... he loved me so much and it hurt him to see the pain I was in... I have not cut myself since then because I know how bad I hurt him by hurting myslef... finally I had seen someone cared for me... and the same goes for you... you dont need the cutting you doing this is hurting him... he cares for you and does not want to see you hurting... if you talk to him you will feel better... and please stop this before its too late I lost a friend to cutting.. she said it was her coping method and she never intended to kill herself... that could happen to you... dont let it good luck best wishes
I'm M/16, its really hot out. The past day & a half I've been getting cuts on my pointer & middle finger on my right hand. The first one bled, I noticed is after scratching my leg & feeling a sting (Like a paper cut) The second one was almost identical, I woke up with it on my middle finger, it did not bleed. Through out the day I guess it grew down the finger, its longer. Then just now I noticed on above each. So its 2 cuts on each finger. I haven't touched anything sharp. Can it be a health or skin problem?
it could be very dry skin but if it worries you .. you may want to go see a doctor about it .. it could be a skin problem... I had a similar problem but it was because I was allergic to the formula I was feeding my baby... this could also be a what you are expiriencing maybe it is an allergic reaction good luck
Hi me and my boyfriend been together 5 months now. Well little bit over 5 months. We are both 20 we live in California. And I don't have a job and he lost his job, and cost of living is high, and we both been trying to look for jobs. so recently my boyfriend's cousin who lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma says cost of living is a lot lower. And he was like I might get a job through my cousin and leave to work so he can save up and spend rest of his life with me, and send a ticket when he has money save up. We love each other a lot. But we will separated for 5 months. which is hard for us. But guys have tips for long distance relationships? and how to get through it?
It is not easy to keep a relationship going when you cant see each other trust me I have been there but it is not impossible... I had to do it for a year and a half... you are going to need a lot of communication... calling texting emails... remember to reply as soon as you get the messages you dont want him to feel like you forgot him.... warning arguements can seem worse over the phone if you have them but mainly because you miss each other so much and you dont know how to deal... also if you want this relationship to survive you have got to have faith and trust eachother.... good luck and best wishes to you
can I lose 20 pounds by August 25th by drinking water eating right and exercising a lot?
I'm 5'5" and 145 pounds
Yes you can do that but make sure you eat right and exercise and dont over do it with the sweets... also no starving yourself that is not healthy... here is a link with some tips on how to do it good luck and best wishes
http://www.ehow.com/how_5287406_lose-pounds-month.html
im not gay or anything haha, but yeah i kinda like the idea about the girlfriend thing, but i can't think of anyone who would be comfortable about that.
and i have a sister lol but i dont think she would do that and thats wrongg haha.
haha yea my sister would have looked at me funny if I would have asked her.... What about a close friend or a best friend? If you cant find anyone to practice with try looking on youtube "how to kiss" and maybe it can give you a few helpful hints and things to remember... if you have any questions come back :)
Theres this guy I see around the neighborhood. I really like him. The first time I saw him was in the laundromat. I thought he was so gorgeous. I couldn't stop staring at him though I didn't let him catch me. He kinda talk to me a little but he left before I did. Now I see him from time to time. We make a lil eye contact but not much else. When I see him I get so nervous. Does he like me what should I do?
He might like you in return but its hard to tell... just go up to him and start talking and make sure you compliment him most girls fail to realize that guys like compliments just as much as we do (yes I am one of the girls who failed to realize that and actually hurt my husband because I rarely complimented him :( dont worry I made it up to him) Don be nervous chances are he is feeling a little the same he might think you dont like im because you never talk... so just go right up to him and talk be breave :) ... good luck and best wishes I hope it does work out for you
14/f
Hey everybody, I was wondering- I have had fairly bad face acne since I was about 10. No medication seems to work for more than a week or two. Any suggestions as to what I can do? Thank you answerers
http://www.home-remedies-for-you.com/remedy/Acne.html
here is a website it has home remedies for acne... good luck :)
Hey, I'm looking for places in South Jersey to get kawaii clothes and accessories, like cute stuff with cute food and animals on it in cute colours that's weird but cute, know what I mean? All answers are appreciated, thank you!
I dont live in south jersey so I cant give you a place there that you can buy kawaii stuff from but here is a website you can order from good luck http://www.gesshoku.org/
how do you know when your period will srart.
If you have not had your period before then you dont know when you will start think of it as a surprise one you know about but you never know just when your going to get it... (more like a curse haha)
if you already got it than you usually get it once a month around the same day as it was in the month before
Alrighty, I am 16 female. He is 17. We have been aquaintences for, I guess 6 years. This past week, we spent six days together over night and everything. Mind you, this guy has a sense of humor most find unappealing or rude. But! If you get to know him, he is a sweet boy and only jokes. These past six days we were at a music festival. He was being nicer to me than normal. During the school year, he gave me rides home and such but this week it was like a new boy. We got matching bracelets from the music festival. Him and his friends went into the mosh pit during one of their favorite bands and after the band was done, they came back to the group and he fell into me because he was so tired, he also drank from my water bottle. There was also a candle lighting and we stood next to each other, when his blew out, he re-lit it on mine. His friends even walked ahead of him back to where we slept and he walked next to me. Then the wax started coming down his candle onto his hand and it was hurting him so the group of his friends and mine all started dumping the candles so the wax would fall and he usually dumped mine. Then we played in some water with rocks and we would splash each other. Also, one of the adults wanted to get a picture of him and his friends so I backed out because it was him and just the guys and then she took to picture and he realized I backed away and he grabbed me in a hug and we got a picture just him and I. Later that night, his friend took the place I was sitting, next to my friend so I asked if I can stand by him and he put his arm around me and said sure.
All of that made me think that he likes me but I look in the past and he doesn't ever text me and when I text him he doesn't answer or he answers very short.
What do you think? Does he like me?
PS--he has a girlfriend, but he never talks to me about her, he is going on vacation with her in 2 weeks, he just told me where he was going, he didn't say he was going with her but his friend told me he is. Idk why he wouldn't talk to me about her.
By the way yo put it he really likes you but since he is in a relationship I advise you talk to him about the way you are feeling and the way you think he may be feeling toward you and let him know that if he wants to get more involed with you the other girl needs to go but if he wants to stay in his relationship it would be best to respect that and step back but you can still be friends i hope everything works out for you good luck best wishes
I have a big crush on this guy but idk how he feels about me. I go up talk to him and he seems uninterested like I bother him. He gives like 1 word answers and it feels like I'm forcing the conversation. So i figure he doesn't like me so I go on about my business and start hanging out with my other friends. While I'm with them I notice he keeps looking over at me even my friend says he kept looking over at us. I don't understand it. I tried to be nice and friendly with him but he seem like he didn't want nothing to do with me so why does he stare at me all the time?
My husband was the same way when we met... he is just shy... keep talking to him and he will get comfotable with you... he is probably feeling a little intimidated because he really likes you and he doesnt want to say the wrong thing keep trying and let him know that you like him ... telling my husband that I liked him when we first met helped him loosen up a bit good luck
i am 10 and i wanna have sex so badly with a boy ,is it okay?!?!?!?
You should definatly wait... I know you are curious and want to know what it is like but at 10 you shouldnt even know what sex is... You are way to young wait until you are older and wait for that special person you love :)
im 15 almost 16 and i have never had my first kiss or had a boyfriend or had my hand held. i have had many guys like me but i wasnt able to date. in auagust i will be because i will be 16 haha.
but isnt that really bad and im going to be a junior and im not experienced, even a little? :( im not even sure how to kiss, what if we bump noses or something lol, or what about making out, and if i do get a boyfriend what if they ask how far ive gone, should i lie, because i dont want to make myself look like an idiot! :(
It is not bsd that you have no expirience with these things... in fact it is really good that you have waited uptil you were older and more mature for a relationship... If a guy would ask... tell him the truth... you wont look like an idiot... and as for kissing.. I was afraid of the same thing before I had my first... but when it happened it was perfect... no nose bumping or anything... although making out or kissing with tongue I have to say I was really bad at my first time... haha my poor ex boyfirend.... I had no idea what I was doing but then again I was only 12... when you get to that point in your relationship remember to swallow before you kiss and also during the kiss.... or you will do the same thing I did (drooled on him haha) but it was ok i was a little embarrassed but he showed me what to do... another thing you can do is go to a girl friend who is comfortable enough with you and knows what to do and ask to practice (dont worry that wont make you gay or anything a lot of girls learn from their friends) congrats on turning 16 that is a very special bday for girls! and good luck in the future and if you ever have any questions just write me and I will respond :)
Ok so there's this guy that iv been in love with for over a year, he's 18 and loved me to but had a girlfriend so the things we did didn't technically count as going out. But now I really love this other guy named Ben that is 24 and we'll let's just say he can play in the "special olympics" if u get what I'm saying. But despite that, he's sweet, funny, caring, everything I want. I'm 14 and I'm not sure how to deal with either boy! What the hell do I do??????
well they are both way to old for you.... If you dont want them to go to jail I advise you stop seeing them both. Good luck and dont worry you are young there will be other boys
I'm african american and I want to dye my hair red what should I get, where should I start, what should I do & how long do i wait after perming it ? also I have brown hair and I do not want to cause to much damage to it. Thanks in advance.
http://www.walmart.com/ip/L-oreal-Paris-Super-Blonde-200-Bleach-Blonde-Creme-Lightening-Kit-1-ct/10453283
above is a link that will help you dye your hair red... I have brown hair as well and when I dye my hair to a lighter color I do not get much results this dye will turn your hair color to a very light blonde... after you dye it blonde then try the red exellent results for me... my hair dye box said wait 3 weeks after perm... hope I helped have fun
I masturbated for like 10 min and i started to bleed a Lil and after i stoped my vagina is hurting? what did i do? i am a female and 13 years old
you probably just broke your hymen... when it breaks you bleed nothing to worry about