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Long distance relationship.
Hi me and my boyfriend been together 5 months now. Well little bit over 5 months. We are both 20 we live in California. And I don't have a job and he lost his job, and cost of living is high, and we both been trying to look for jobs. so recently my boyfriend's cousin who lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma says cost of living is a lot lower. And he was like I might get a job through my cousin and leave to work so he can save up and spend rest of his life with me, and send a ticket when he has money save up. We love each other a lot. But we will separated for 5 months. which is hard for us. But guys have tips for long distance relationships? and how to get through it?
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It is not easy to keep a relationship going when you cant see each other trust me I have been there but it is not impossible... I had to do it for a year and a half... you are going to need a lot of communication... calling texting emails... remember to reply as soon as you get the messages you dont want him to feel like you forgot him.... warning arguements can seem worse over the phone if you have them but mainly because you miss each other so much and you dont know how to deal... also if you want this relationship to survive you have got to have faith and trust eachother.... good luck and best wishes to you
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It can be done, but it is not easy. i wish my daughter were here to answer this as she hasn't seen her husband since January. He's in Iraq and she's in Korea in separate deployments. But let's see if I can make a few helpful suggestions. Number one is to maintain frequent communication. This is not as natural to men as it seems to be to women, so I am aiming this primarily at your boyfriend:dude, she needs to hear from you often, so make an extra effort. Fortunately this is easier these days with cell phones and the internet. Secondly, avoid temptation. Be careful of your contacts with single people of the opposite sex, when you're lonely and alone you're more prone to emotional entanglements and confusion or even outright cheating. And thirdly, make every effort to make your communication positive and enjoyable. Don't be superficial or fake, but do your best to ensure that your texts, letters, emails, or calls are uplifting. This will boost the confidence of the other person and will help to maintain the good feelings between you.
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