Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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me and my bf are both 13 in 7th grade. we were going out last year we broke up over the summer and 2 monthes ago we got back 2gether. he keeps telling me about how were so in love and were getting married and all of that. and usually im like so in love like he says we both are but a lot i feel like hes just using me. he always tells me please dont break up with me id die but i think its all a game how can i tell? because im really getting sick of feeling like its not real. (link)
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Your 13, you don't know what love is! Even if you do, do you really want to be tied down so young? Seriously girl, think about it!
You have your whole life ahead of you and your worring about a 13 year old boy using you?
Go out, party, respect yourself!
Spend time with the girls, your too young for relationships right now! Enjoy life!
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I"m seriously doubting anyone can help me with my problems but here goes anyway. I have a daughter that just turned 18. She is so lost, she has given me problems since she was 11, well now shes 18 and her life consists of black men,crack and sleeping with as many as she can. She was recently disgnosed with a veneral disease and confessed to her oldest sister that she may of slept with a man who was HIV. She is a leading influence on her 13 yr. old sister who is following in her path as hard as she can. I"ve had to get the law to look the 13 yr. old twice this week. She is failing school and I can't reach her. She and her sister are so full of hate towards me, I;ve been called so many foul names, I can't take much more. I'm thinking of sending the 13 yr.old to boot camp. I tried to send my 18 yr. old last year, but they called me to come and get her because she was threating staff. I am a decent person, I dont drink, smoke, I work hard, I feel like its my fault, they are this way. I so depressed, I think it would be better to be dead sometimes, if I didnt have to keep watch on my 82 yr. old father, I saw a therapist once ,but they cost to much. what do I do? (link)
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Your probably not going to like what i'm about to say but you've asked for advice..
You care too much about your daughters, you love them so much that it hurts to let them go. I'm sorry but if they hate you and they want to live their lives because they think they know everything.. let them!
They obviously think they can handle everything so give them the freedom they want, kick them out of your house!
Anyone who calls you foul names and makes you feel like you should end your life doesn't deserve to have the love and respect your giving them.
Give them what they deserve.. nothing!!!!
Your their mother and you will love them continuously but you don't deserve this.
Seriously think about this. You are a good person and you deserve good! This isn't for one second your fault. The world has changed and teenagers are growing up a lot faster then what they should. Your girls think they know everything but lets see how much they really know when they don't have you around anymore.
They know that it doesn't matter how many times they screw you over that they are always welcome back, make them learn the hard way!
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i have found out were my birthmother lives and everything .. what should i do .. i dont know what to doo what would be best she obviously didnt want me around in the first place.. but wat i can i do to meet her and my little brother i have never met.. i neeeeeeeeeeeeed hhhhhhheeeeeelllppppppppppp please :( (link)
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Ok well is there any particular reason why you want to meet her other then the fact she gave birth to you?
This is totally your choice to make but from my point of view, why would you want to?
She's had absolutely nothing to do with you and what about your family that raised you? Just because their not blood related doesn't mean their not your family.
What do they think of this? Do they approve? Will they be hurt to think they've done everything for you and raised you but now your want to meet your mother?
But then again, as I said this is your choice to make. Do what you think is best for you. Just remember that she gave you up and whats to say she wants you now? Don't get hurt!!!
I wish you luck and hope things work out for the best! :)
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K so i have a boyfriend and we have been going out about 4 weeks and the thing is... he is really commited and i am not. and i think he likes me more than i like him.. what should i do? (link)
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The best thing to do is be true to yourself! There is no point in going out with someone if you don't feel as commited or the same about them. Things will only get messy!!
Talk to your boyfriend, make him aware that you have only been together for four weeks and things are moving too fast.
Let him know that your not wanting to commit, you only want some fun and you need space.
If he really likes you then he will understand. Don't say things you will regret.. be nice to him.
Hope I helped!! Good luck! :)
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so, Ive recently met new friends..and they are good people like amazing people. And ive been spending most of my time with these people, and Ive been "changing" my appearance and i know it too. I like who I am, but my parents are all worried. Im not a bad person, I have new friends who im influenced by. They aren't some pot head crazy drunk friends, they are christian people and accept me as me. What can I say to my parents to get them to understand that these new friends aren't bad people and me changing my appearance isn't going to affect my personality or anything of the sort. help. (link)
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Easy fixed... talk to them! Be open and honest to them and show that you are a mature person and you are responsible and your not going to turn out to be a bad person!
Get them involved with your friends.. parents appreciate that! There's nothing worse for a parent to now know what their kids are up to!
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ok this is getting me really really mad. Every1 says I really like a guy who i trust will all my heart and I think hes starting to believe it and its like getting me really upset. Like, I think of him as a really good friend and i tell him alot but i dont like him. I know your gonna say calm down but like its sooo annoying when every time i go to talk to him their like "oooh Mary" and im getting so annoyed and like i know he doesnt like me. So he used to hang around with us alot but not anymore and hes starting to ignore me and when i try to talk to him in private hes like anything you say you can say to any1 else around here. Im like "i can't" but then he gets mad at me. Its like im loosing a friend that I REALLY wanna keep....also like i dont react ill just say no i dont and thats it but he reacts and just like leaves as soon as they start. I was really mad at him day about it so i tried to avoid him and when he came over to us we talked and stuff and he said something mean so i kicked him hardish and he like kicked me lightly back and stuff so I playfully kicked him back then he like pushed me like not a quick push like the one were its like puhing ba ck so i pushed back so i wouldnt fall in tthe snow and he just like snapped and yelled Mary stop flirting with me already!
I love him sooo much as a friend but now everythings starting to fall apart. I admit I flirt with him but I can't help it...How can I get him back to his old self?
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If I were you I'd talk to your friends first. Tell them you are loosing him as a friend because as the lies they are saying.
I would be sooo mad with them if I were you.. I would tell them to go up and apologise to this guy and say they were only joking and didn't mean to cause anything between you two!
Then again i think it's wrong of your guy friend to act the way he is.. thats wrong of him too! If he's your friend he should trust and talk to you about it not run away from it! Perhaps get him on his own away from everyone else and talk to him too! Before you really do lose him!
Hope I helped :)
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My best friend's brother just got out of a four year relationship on Friday. He immediatley jetted off with his buds for the weekend to clear his head because -she- dumped him.
I've been friends with his sister for about four years too and I've been attracted to him but I've told myself to leave it alone because he seemed so happy with his girl friend.
Now he's alone for the first time and I was wondering whether it was a good idea if I gave him a go? He's a genuinely nice guy and he's a girls dream because he's so sweet and dedicated.
One problem is his sister. She shares all her feelings about him with me (i.e. she was mad at him because he was a tight a-- or she was sick of him and she wanted him to move out) and she loves him but would it be too weird for her if we hooked up.
Secondly, I need to actually figure out if he's interested or not but I can't because I've treated him as a brother. I've never actually made a transition from friend to something else before. Usually, men are either platonic friends or hot male friends I want to get with, never both. So how can I start changing the way act around him without freaking his entire family out?
I don't want to approach the sister and ask for her permission if I don't even know if he's interested because she likes to hold on to things. At the same time, I don't want to get him interested and then have to ask her in case she rejects the idea of him and me.
Help? (link)
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Ok.. well.. First of all its not up to your friend who you love or like or who you go out with! Brother or not!
As you said he's just come out of a 4 year relationship so don't move too fast! Because she dumped him he might still have feelings for her!
It sounds like you already know him quiet well so it wouldn't be weird for you two to be alone? right?
Well next time your alone, take advantage of it. Just move slowly though.. Give him the indication that YOUR SINGLE TOO!!!!! But don't get too close if you think him and his ex might get back together.. you don't want to get hurt!
As for your friend.. once you have spoken to this guy.. talk to her about it! Tell her how you feel, if she's your friend she will be happy and she will understand! Don't let her ruin a good thing for you!
Hope I helped :)
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Hey
There is this kid at school that is in my English class Ill call him "Jason" and he flirts with me all the time. I try not to flirt back because I dont like him that way. His best friend was talking to my friend and he said that "jason" is gonna ask me out. This is really bad because I dont want to break his heart. I would go out with him because he is really nice and stuff but the thing is that i have had a crush on this kid "Paul" for more than a year now. So my question is do i give up on "paul" who i really really really like and go out with "jason" or do i just tell "jason" that i dont have feelings for him. Omg please help I really dont want to hurt "Jason"!!!!! (link)
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Ok first of all be true to yourself. This 'Paul' guy... does he like you? does he have a girlfriend? have you approached him to tell him you like him? do you talk to him?
If you've liked this guy for a year now I suggest you try to talk to him, there's not point in liking someone and only wishing you had them, make a move on him!!!!!!!!!! hello!!!!!!!
Then..... If things don't work out as well as you hoped they would, put it aside! Don't dwell on it forever! There will be plenty of other opportunities around!
On the other hand, you said you would go out with 'Jason' because he's nice and all, well there's your other opportunity if things fail with 'Paul' BUT.. If you don't really like this 'Jason' that much well then tell him how you feel.
If you say yes to go out with him and you don't really have feelings for him, it will only work out for the worst! You will hurt 'Jason' in the long run and you will more then likely be uphappy because your not with the guy you want to be!
Hope I helped :)
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how can i find a friend or how can i bring up the subject of making out/ fooling around with someone close with me. me and my friend use to play around but we never got serious about it and nothing happend. what are some signs that she wants to fool around... (link)
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You obviously want to make your experiences with the same sex with a friend..? Do you really think thats a good idea?
If you are afraid it will ruin your friendship then I suggest you find someone who is willing to do it with you. But then if your friend is into it as much as you are then go for it!
You can either sit her down and tell her how you feel and that you want to experience things with her or you can sort of drop a hint every now and then. Make it into like a joke or something.
You never know she might feel the same she just doesn't know how to approach you either. If you feel like your friendship will be at risk if something is said then move on.
Hope I helped :)
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what does it mean to "get your cherry popped" and what happens? (link)
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Basically it means when you are a virgin and you have sex for the first time. You then loose your virginity and your 'cherry has popped' its called a hymen.
The hymen can be broken by a number of ways other then sex. It can be broken by riding a horse, being fingered, using a tampon and so on...
Some girls bleed from it (I didn't really) but some girls don't.
It can hurt a little bit if you have sex but it's normal.
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What disease can you get by licking/sucking a males privates without a condom? If both people have not been with anyone else? (link)
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First of all there are many diseases you can get from a partner.
Make sure your boyfriend/partner hasn't lied to you about not being with anyone else.
But if neither of you have been with anyone you shouldn't need to worry.
Just make sure your not being pressured into anything aswell. Sexual experiences can be sometimes not what they make out to be! Be careful!
Hope I helped :)
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Ohk well my bf has a really small penis, and i no it isnt really a big deal or nothing but i just dont no how to tell him without hurting his ego, coz i mean he thinks is massive but really.......
any guys advice would help
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Maybe he's really embarrased about his size and saying its huge makes him feel better! If you were to tell him he would probably feel hurt and embarrased.
The penis thing is a real big issue for a lot of guys, don't ruin his man hood. It still does the same job doesn't it?
There's really no need to tell him but if he keeps going on and on about it just tell him that there's no need to keep telling you.. you've seen it before!
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What is up with these 13 yr olds and getting pregnant/asking for advice about fingering and sexual things like that. wtf is our world coming too.When I was 13 I was still playing coodies with the guys next door or riding my bike around the neighborhood. Gahsh by the time I turn 30, 5 yr olds will be worried about sex. WTH (link)
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I totally agree with you! I was nearly 18 when i first had sex, yes it was still young but I wasn't pressured and I felt like it was the right time. I definitely don't regret it!!! At all!!!!
I didn't do it because everyone else was doing it, i did it for me! Not to mention that I had been with my boyfriend for a year and we're still going strong!
I don't know if its because they think its cool, they want to do it, they feel like they have to do it.. what ever it is... its stupid!!!
Mean while... where are their parents while all this goes on..?? Thats my question!!!!!
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Well, I've asked many questions about masturbation, and people say 'it's healthy'. Then why do I feel so ashamed? My hormones are taking over my life, and I'm stuck in between telling my mom and either masturbating or not, or not telling my mom and masturbating or not. I know it's a very personal decision but I'm not swayed easily by a couple of 'it's healthy' or 'don't do it' or 'tell your mom and she'll tell you not to', ya know? I just need it flat out - what should I do?
Thankyou in advance! (link)
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I think you should do what YOU feel is right. It's not up to anyone else whether if you want to masterbate or not, it is a personal thing to do!
I wouldn't let anyone know because it could be quiet embarrasing! If you feel ashamed... you shouldn't! There is absolutley nothing wrong in masterbating!
If you still ashamed about it.. think if it as exploring your body! I'm sure your mum would appreciate you doing it to yourself at the moment instead of some boy hm?
Hope I helped :)
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This is for girls. I want an honest answer; is penis size an important factor in relationships and does it matter? (link)
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My boyfriend was really self concious about his size.. but i think its huge lol
It depends on the person really.. too big is too scary for me lol but it's never really occured to me!! :)
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okay...first off i am 20 years old and I am a virgin and dont plan on EVER having sex until after marriage, so any relationship I have will always be innocent. so now my question...
There is this guy, who really loves me, and whenever I am with him I feel great. He is like the perfect guy that every girl dreams of meeting. and I love him very much. The thing is he is only 16 years old. :S so I feel like its very wrong for me to have any type of relationship with him, other than friends.
he keeps telling me it doesn't matter how old I am, and he doesn't care. but i feel like its really really wrong. and i told him that once he turns 18-19 to call me up. i could tell it really hurt him, and i cant stand the thought of not being with him. :( have i completely lost my mind? please give me your opinion and advice. negative or postive, as long as your being honest. and please no jokes. (link)
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First of all i think its illegal for you two to be dating with him being 16 and you being 20!
Besides that, if you feel strong towards this person well don't put your life, or his for that matter on hold.
If you truly love each other well then date! It doesn't sound so bad when your 44 and he's 40 now does it? Yes people might judge you but if you love each other none of that will matter!
ok so the bad part of the advice...
He is only 16! In the future he might regret being tied down at such a young age. You have to remember this.
While all his friends are going out to parties and getting with girls and having different experiences he will be home with you.
ALthough at the time its great for the both of you but don't let him take it out on you if he realises on how much he would have missed out if he was to be in a full on serious relationship with you.
The choice is totally up to you, go for what makes you happy!
Hope I helped :)
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Hi.
I have been dating this guy for almost three
months now, and his mom doesnt want us dating.
We arnt even allowed to talk on the phone and we've only been on one date.
but were both 14
what should i do? (link)
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You could always talk to his mum. Form a relationship between yourself and his mum.
You have to see it from her point of view aswell. She's probably worried sick that her little boy now has a girlfriend.
You need to earn her trust. You could get your boyfriend to ask his mums permission for you to go over his house for tea one night and then watch a movie or something.
Maybe even watch a movie with his parents, don't smother all over him to start off with because that wont give her a good impression on you.
If you show her that you are a nice respectable girl she will respect that and she will then, hopefully let her son see you more!
Hope I helped.
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hey! my best friend who dont get me wrongs is absolutly awsome!!!!! but its just she always has a boyfriend and theres noth in rong with that eather its just she always puts boyfriends before friends which i just dont do!! i finished my boyfriend because him n her hated each other and i thort friends were more important! with her last boyfriend she did invite me to places they went together but she would go off with him and i felt in the way!! and her latest boyfriend shes on about goin to live with his family!! milles away from where she lives now (about 5 hours drive) and i was like but what about our friendship but shes didnt sean that bothered shes just said oh youll be ok and them started talking about him again! im not jelous am i? or obsessive? i just dont want to lose her as a friend but that how her previous friends stoped talking to her as she was always with her boyfriend and not them. i just dont want to lose her as a friend as shes absolutly brillient when shes not with a lad (link)
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You most definitely have to talk to her! Tell her how you feel! Tell her that you think she's awesome and you don't want to lose her!!
Tell her that you appreciate her and you don't want to lose her friendship as you two are so close!
Your not jealous or obsessive!
I mean i'm in the same situation but im in the other place, i'm the girl that puts the boyfriend first!! Seeing what you have written here has also made me realise how much my friends would be missing me!!
They've never said anything so how am I to know?
You must talk to her!
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My friend has tried to kill herself many times because she thinks shes ugly. I tell her shes beautiful but she won't believe me. People make fun of her and say shes ugly, but I told her its just because they are JEALOUS. I feel if I post a picture of her on here, and I want to know if you guys really think shes ugly. Honestly, I think shes really pretty but she thinks I'm just saying that. Do you think she's pretty? http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=21583599&imageID=983295681&MyToken=72866b2d-41b3-4a0f-89b8-e84a24a369a8 I'd mostly like guys to answer this because most of the time she tries to kill herself is over guys, but girls can give there opinion too. I need a lot of answers so I'm going to rate everyone who answers. She wants me to help her change her appearence so if you think anything needs to be changed like her hair or whatever just tell me, and I will try to help her. I don't want her to die, so please answer as soon as you can! (link)
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Well I think she looks beautiful, ONLY if she smiled! There was one photo in there where she's smiling a little bit, she was wearing a pink and grey top... she looked georgous!
But she obviosuly needs a bit more help then people telling her she looks good or not! Especially if she's trying to kill herself!
Maybe it's an attention thing! It happens sometimes.
Maybe she knows she looks good and she feels secure when people say she's pretty, she just wants to hear it!
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hi i was wandering if anyone could help me find a cute middle name.... my daughters first name is gonna be Kylee ( pernounced like (kigh leigh) and i need a cute middle name to match with it. i appreaciate it! Thanks!!
*sarah* (link)
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