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Q: There is this girl that I don't know very well, and I overhear someone say that she likes me. She seems cool enough and I'd like to maybe get a relationship going but since I don't know her very well, I don't know what the best way is to kinda get things started in the right direction. I don't get a chance to talk to (or see) her much so to me it feels odd to just, out of the blue, walk up and start a conversation. Any advice on what to do or how to get something started?

get up the courage to approach her and walk up casually and tell her she looks nice, or just compliment her. just go with the flow of the conversation and try to be totally comfortable. just try to push everything out of your head. if you really think there could possibly be something there, you need to get to know her. maybe call her occasionally. just don`t take it too fast or you`ll scare her off. be confident in yourself and most importantly, be yourself. i hope it works out for ya!
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Q: Ok, I have the opportunity to go to this really good highschool, where you can have 2 years of college finished when you graduate and it looks better on your college application and everything.The problem is,I know some people that go there and they said that htey were straight A students, and when they got there they started making C's and D's, and that it was ALOT of stress and they never get to do anything anymore.Everybody keeps telling me to go, that I can handle it, but I don't really want to, and I'm scared to. At my school now, everything is going good, and there's a guy that I really like, and I would never get to see him again if I went to that other school. I just have no idea what to do. I don't want to give up a great opportunity, but I don't want to go either. I have alrady prayed about it, but I'm still confused. Please help! And please, no rude answers, I'm stressed enough as it is. Thanks! I'll rate!

P.S. Sorry so long!!

well i can`t tell you what to do but i can tell you what to think about. positives:great oppurtunities, earlier college graduation, scholarships, great jobs, wealthy and hopeful future. negatives:big challenges, not much time for a social life, losing the guy you like, growing away from your friends. if you really are hoping for a very bright future, i think you should go. and if you could take the challenges, i think you should go. think about the possibilities you could encounter! but high school is one of the best times of your life and you really shouldn`t have to miss out on it. there will be other guys, i promise. you need to continue to pray about it. don`t do all the talking, listen for God`s voice. keep an open mind and don`t rush your decision. i hope you make the right one!
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Q: my skin sucks ass. its been about a year and a half with ance. My dermatologist hasnt made a single difference! not alloud 2 go on birth controll pills. and my dermatologist wont let me go on accutain!!!!! HHEEELLLPPPP.

P.S. my days are so much harder with acne..everyone around me has perfect skin...and if u say "it will go away soon.. or in a few years" ill kill u!! lol.

wash your face every morning and every night. make sure you wash your face before you put make`up on. remove your make`up as soon as you can. i suggest that after you wash your face at night, you use alcohol pads. proactiv works really good and if your parents took you to a dermatologist they would probably buy it for you. and another thing.. wash your face with a different cleanser every time because if you use the same thing your skin will stop reacting to it. hope ya clear up.
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Q: my friends and I are popular. Recently a new friend entered our "group". She wasnt the most popular girl before lets say...well the point is, her grades were perfect before, and now shes with us they have gone lower. Her parents freaked out and she is not aloud to hangout with us as much outa school, untill they go up. She said she was happier with us and feels more apart of something. How can i still get her 2 have fun with us outa school and her parents not knowing?

- signed, trying to be a friend.

if you`re really trying to be a friend i think you should let her bring her grades up. if you really want to hang out though.. become friends with someone else that her parents don`t know about (don`t use or abuse anyone) and she can say she`s going to hang out with that person. then you and your friends show up later.
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Q: I have always liked guys. my 1st crush was even in grd 1 for a guy! but recently i have made out girls..either exparementing, or i really really wanted to...i like a guy right now, and ive never had a crush on a girl...but as i said i really wanted 2 makeout with her. Am i sorta Bi?

it'd take lot off my mind, thanks!

no. you`re not bi. the devil is trying to put horrible thoughts is your head and change your emotions. it says in the Bible that in the last days there will be bisexuality, homosexuality, etc. and it says that we should stay away from these things. look to God.
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Q: im 14/f and i just started goin out with this kid whos 15 and i was just wondering when it would be time to take things to the next level, fingering etc. thanks!

never. fingering and oral sex are pointless. making out should be the farthest you go until you`re married. save yourself for your husband and you`ll be so much happier.
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Q: my boyfriend and i wanna have sex but im still a virgin and pretty tight down there... and im scared to do it cause i heard it hurts really really bad... i can take a lot of pain, but how much does it really hurt? :-/

thanks!

save yourself until you`re married. trust me, God will ease the pain a lot more if you do it in good honor. don`t have sex with your boyfriend. save yourself for your husband and you will be a lot happier i promise.
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Q: Alrighty...I'm sick of it! I don't know what to do...okay, I've only made out with a guy and I want to do other stuff because...I don't know lol I just do! I mean people think that I've been farther, I wouldn't say I'm considered a slut...but not a total prude you know? Well the problem is..I would want to do other stuff but I get like shy around they guy...I know you're probably going to tell me to relax when I am with them, but I am..it's just I'm shy about things when it comes to doing stuff! And you wouldn't think that, because I have a very outgoing personality!! Does anyone know what I can do to like break my little habit of being shy and scared of doing other stuff?? Thanks so much if you can!

don`t do anything else sexually. making out should be as far as you go until you`re married. fingering and oral sex is totally pointless and wrong. save yourself until you`re married and be yourself around guys.
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Q: my boyfriend and me have been together for 6 months...we love eachother alot...and are a really happy couple...but lately i dont know...hes been really weird...all his friends have turned on him and now their telling me hes cheating on me...i dont know if its because their just trying to get back at him and take me away from him or if its true..ive asked him and he promises me that he would never do that and stuff and i seriously cant picture him cheating on me..ever...what do i do?? i dont know who to believe anymore... :(

if you really love him, you should believe him. if you`re confused, that just shows that you don`t trust him. love without trust is nothing. follow your heart.
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Q: abercrombie and fitch was the most popular store pretty much to shop at. now hollister is..its just like abercrombie practically but i guess u could say thier pants are cheaper..anyone who doesnt know..abercrombie pants are 70.00 and up while hollister is 40.00 .. anyways everyone is now wearing hollister and i havent gotten around to going yet. when i go to hollister i dont want to buy all this stuff and have people coming up to me saying i have that u copied me..and so on. should i care ..or should i just be up to date?

not everyone is wearing hollister. take me for example.. i wear whatever i want to wear and sometimes my clothes come from the thrift store or wal`mart. sometimes it`s hot topic and other times it`s old navy. stop caring what people think about you and be yourself!
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Q: my breasts are 2 different sizes but you cant tell with my shirt on but when itz off u can

iz there something wrong with me

?

it`s really not that odd. sometimes your boobs can grow at different paces but most likely they will end up the same size. you`re still growing so don`t worry too much.
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Q: my girlfriend doesnt tihnk she is hot what do i do ?

tell her she`s beautiful. girls love that.
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Q: I've figured out that i am bi...but i am a christian..and i realize how wrong it is...and i hate myself for it...im trying to change myself.....but its hard for me to completely stop liking guys....but its so wrong...in the bible it says that doing stuff with another guy is an abomination..and they should be destroyed..that scares me..so i am trying to fight it off..i have a gf...and she's helping me thru it too...but my ? is...is it really wrong to be bi?..

yes. being a Christian, i do believe that being bisexual is wrong. it is mentioned in the New Testament that in the last days there will be murder, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc. it states that as Christians we must stay away from these things. obviously you believe this because you are a Christian. you really need to pray about it and read your Bible about it. also, i know it may be hard, but you should talk to a Christian leader such as a youth pastor or counselor. i was in your position once myself actually. i used to be bisexual until i rededicated my life to God. i would love to share my testimony with you. IM me or email me if you would like extra support or if you want my story.
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you can go one of two ways. view your column and click on view feedback. and to see which question was rated click on the number (rating). or when you log in scroll to the bottom where it says feedback and find where it says view feedback or calculate feedback.
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Q: i want to spend more time with my dad. yeah i no that sounds weird but he may not have long to live but u never no and i want to spend as much time as i want with him but see i have never ereally hung out with him and i don't no wat to do with or or how to ask him.

well first of all almost any dad would be thrilled if their kid asked them to just hang out with them. just start off with a simple dinner and go from there. just have fun with your dad because good times go fast.
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Q: I was wondering, what's hooking up, because my mom's always talking about it (she's 29, i'm 10) and i think it has something to do with having sex, but i'm not sure.

it`s like having sex with someone. simple as that. or it could also be getting together with someone.
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Q: i liked this guy and all of my friends knew about it. i was talking to my friend one day and she said that he had a girlfriend and today i was asking my friend who she liked and she said that she was going out with the guy that i like. i'm really mad but i dont know if i should tell her.

that`s not cool. i think you should talk to her one on one and tell her how you`re feeling. she knew you liked him but she still went out with him? that`s not cool at all. you definitely need to straighten this out with her and if she is a jerk about it.. she`s not a very good friend.
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Q: my bestfriend looks at me when she spends the night over at my house in a weird way...like when we are gettin ready to go to bed i catch her lookin at me when im changin i really feel uncomfortable and i want her to stop but i dont know how to bring it up and i dont want to start a huge fight and i still want to be friends but im just not like that....what should i do?

ask her kind of in a playful way. i totally know what you mean cuz that happened to me. it turned out to be nothing. if ya`ll are good friends it shouldn`t be hard cuz ya`ll can talk to each other about stuff. don`t approach her like in a bad mood and don`t be too sarcastic.
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Q: does anyone know of any good s/n ideas. i'm looking for a new screenanme and i was wondering if people could just give some random ones. i asked beofre but people only gave ideas like "pick something that is your fave and some of your numbers before and after it".... well that didnt help to much. so please and thanks.

KiSsKiSs, pRoUdAiRhEaD, CuTeLiLhUnNy, OnEaNdOnLy, kIsSmEiMmE, SeXyBaBy, CuTiEbUg, KrAzYcHiCk, jUsTbEiNmE, etc. i`m out. use whatever numbers after them.
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Q: What would be some good screen name ideas for an 18 year old female?

how`z about iGoTtHeMoVeS then a random number?
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bio

I'm Katelyn. Not Katie Lynn.

PERSONALITY:
-God comes first.
-I am Pro-Life.
-I put others before myself.
-I'm usually nice.
-I don't cuss and I don't gossip.
-I'm not perfect, but I know God is.

APPEARANCE:
-I'm short.
-I have a mullet.
-I have freckles.
-I change my hair often.
-I have green eyes, not blue.
-I'm usually considered cute.