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Q: Ok well i am 14 and i like this guy and he acts like he likes me but i am not sure and like i have known him for a year and a half and we are good friends but i like him more than that i am so confused what should i do?

just come right out nd ask him if he likes you. guys like that.

Q: I know about cutting and what cutters do..but i watched tv the other day and it showed a girl who snapped a rubber band on her wrist and needed phyciatric help for it...what does a rubber band do and whats the purpos?

It just hurts yourself and its a "lighter way of cutting" I hope that makes sense. But it probably just keep stunning or messing up what's going on under your skin in your wrist. xO ali

Q: Ok here's the deal....I like this kid named Brett we are going out and stuff i think he likes my friend,Kalysta but he says he likes me my friend kalysta likes him.What can i do???

Please help because i ♥ him,

Confused

I dont really see a problem here. But is you catch him flirting with her, tell him that it's bothering you. And tell her to back off nicely because its a lil freaky that she like's your man. xO ali

Q: Ok, I've been thinking about dumping my boyfriend for one of my guy friends. I know they both really really like me, and I still want to be friends with my boyfriend that I have now. Anyone have any advice on a easy break up?

"__________ I hate doing this, and especially to someone I have such strong feelings for. But I think I need a little bit of time to think. So much has been happening and I just need to straighten everything out" idk its something. Just tell him the truth. xO ali

Q: ok me and my bf just broke up last night ok and it was all becuz i told him the truth about something i told him that i was starting to have feelings for someone else and i mean i hadn't cheated on him or anything me and the other guy just talk alot and i think im starting to have feelings for him and my ex was asking me what was wrong and i told him and i told him becuz i felt like i was lying to him and i didn't want to feel that way ne more and now he thinks im imature and sex hungry for some reason which im not i not stupid and i don't plan on doing any of that kind of crap any time soon just cuz the fact my parents would kill me and cuz im to young......so really who's being the imature one here me or him??? and should i have told him?? i mean was it a stupid mistake telling him or did i do the right thing???

Tell him that you love him so much that you wanted to be totaly honest with him. No its wasnt stupid, it was the right, mature thing. xO ali

Q: Alright heres the story ... I had to break up with the man I love becuase he cheated on me ... I still really want to be with him though but i'm staying away form that for now. We talk online all the time and on the phone, he says hes really sorry he had to loose me to a girl he doesnt even like. Well I recently asked my mom if he could come and visit me over the summer for two weeks and she said maybe, yes its an internet relationship but dont think about that cuase I know hes not a creep trust me I'm so paranoid about that stuff well anyways what I wanna know is should I have him come up here? We both really want to see each other and I know we will be making out the whole time and i know he still loves me he didnt even ask the girl out she asked him.

I'm almost 16 and he will be 16 in a few days.

If he cheated on you, no, dont. He could just do it again. xO ali

Q: Hi I really ned help! Ok well u know the shooting that happened in minnesota? Ya well me and my bf go to that skool and he was one of the victims! Ah! and he's in the hospital and they say he might die! he's in a coma and wont wake up! I strted freaking out when I heard his name on the list of the shot! They said he was still living but it was a 80% chance of dieing! He is the love of my life and I do not know what to do! Help me some one plz?

why are you still here? GO BE WITH HIM. the only things you can do now are just spend time with him and pray. xO ali

Q: On Wednesday in school I asked my friend if she wanted to go to the movies afterschool on Thursday. She said she'd go home and ask her mom, yada yada. Well, on Thursday she didn't know if she could go for sure, so she told me to call her when I got home. When I got home, I called her and she couldn't go because she said 'her mom was going to a party'. Well, later that night..thanks to her other friends away messages, I found out she was at her other friends house. I know for a fact this girl invited her over that very day, and I had invited her on wednesday. Wtf is her problem? Should I confront her about it, or what..cause that just pisses me off. And, she's ALWAYS doing stuff with this girl, she has no freaking time for anyone else.

Yea you should confront her because thats sorta rude. xO ali

Q: is it important to you [personally] to save youself until marriage.. why or why not? to me i think its something to due with mental health and stuff.. but.. just answer i'll rate good

Its not about mental health, its more about pride. not saying that people that have sex before marriage dont have pride. its just something that some people perfer. xO ali

Q: Theres this girl who is my ex best friend. I HATE her now. She does anything and everything to piss me off. I can not stand this girl!! I mean she will ruin me, I want to basically like ruin this girls life because of all the things shes put me through. What do I do to make her know that she better keep away from me and not to push me too far?!?

In front of a ton of people, say to her things like: i hate you, i dont know why i was ever friends with you, i dont know how you have any friends now. Just make her seem really bad. Then just calmly walk away smiling. xO ali. need any revenge tips? feel free ;)

Q: is it stupid for me to want to impress a guy by wearing a skirt and do my hair good? i mean i really like him and i really wanna impress him. also, do u know of anything else i can do to impress him?

Its not stupid. Other things: just be yourself.. as corny as it sounds.. its right.if there is something your good at, use that. if your really good at sumthin and have been doing it for a while, he'll see that your a dedicated person and you could be dedicated to him and a relshionship.. if thats what you want. idk but good luck! xO ali

Q: i have asthma and i wanna start smoking cigarettes *kinda depressed* but yah.. i don't wanna die from it lol.. but you'd think i'd be getting used to it bc my sister smokes everyday on the way to and from school.. soo ya.. would it be that big of a harm to me? if ur gonna lecture on how bad smoking is.. then dont answer

So let me get this straight, your going to smoke because you're despressed. ohkay. And when you find out your life is going to be cut short because of smoking youre going to be happy? Dont smoke. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING GOOD COMES FROM IT. But anyways you shouldnt do it because it is a harm. and it takes away from your life. You said you dont want a lecture so im gonna give it to you straight: dont do it. xO ali

Q: um.. ok i go to a catholic school and i'm going through rough times. i know many of my friends who've cut themselves well i was doing my s.studies project and i was using sharp scissors and i was questioning myself if it would go through my skin b/c the last time i had i tried to cut myself it didnt work.. well this time it did. so know i have 3 cuts on my arm, i seriously regret doing it, i showed my mawmaw and im never doing it again BUT i have a passion play tommorow and i'm afraid that my religion teacher will see it.. should i be afraid or is there any tips to hide it b/c a big band-aid will be noticable. thanks for the help
13/f

Hmm.. maybe cover up lol. or wear long sleeves or braclets. xO ali

Q: I've known this guy since like 2nd grade. He and I have been boyfriend and girlfriend off and on for about 2 years. He and i usually hook up most during the summer and not much during the school year. My friends say that we sould either stay friends or boyfriend and girlfriend. I don't really know which one i should choose. i really like him saome days and don't really talk to him others. should we be boyfriend and girlfriend or stayt friends? thanx

stay friends until you both decide that you want to go out. xO ali

Q: When I was six a firecracker went off next to my head and it permanently messed up my hearing. I have a constant ringing that never, ever goes away. It's been giving me insomnia cause it keeps me up, and I can't drown it out with music cause that keeps me up even more. Does anybody know something I can mask this with that won't keep me up at night? Thanks...

First off, im sorry about your hearing. This might sound stupid and frankly i dont care if it does lol: Try cleaning your ears with a qtip. just to maybe make the hair thingys stop moving as much. Idk lol thats what i would do. xO ali

Q: ok umm im going to this kids house i just met and hes cool and i have bin talking too himALOT and his friends and everything and he wants me too go too his house after easter and sleep over but hes not sure if i can bring a friend and people are saying thats not a good idea cause they think i dont no him thaat well but like he is really nice and he would never ever do that and his mom is one of my teachers and i dont no she wont find out cause we are gong too his dads house and i dont no he are going to smoke and drink and i dont no what too do?

My opinion: Dont go. He might not "be the type to do something" But this might sound weird but once you are sleeping, youre free game. Meaning that he can do anything to you. And especially if he's drunk. If you ask me, DONT GO. sry its probly not what you want to hear but just dont. so many bad things can come from that. xO ali

Q: on myspace is there a specific place to put links to other sites?

there isnt a specific place, you can put it anywhere. xO ali

Q: OK, so I have this friend who is being mean. Ever since these two new girls came into our class, she has been hanging out with them. I am always left out and she makes me feel SO unimportant. I have tried to tell her about it, but she doesn't do anything about it. I mean she was a great friend, and I don't want to tell her that we can't be friends anymore because she has hurt me way too much. What should I do?????

Tell her that you miss hangin out with her. Do stuff with her that you used to do together. Remind her about how much fun you guys had. But if she treats you like dirt and shes making you upset, tell her that. The only way she'll change is if she knows whats bothering you. xO ali

Q: OK let me start from the beginining:
I was set up with this guy by my best friend. He is so cute and nice and I was starting to really get into him, but then he got too into me (i.e. he wrote all about me on his xanga and profile and invited me to prom on our 2nd date and he called like once if not twice a day at least.) So i had a talk with him telling him that I felt we were moving extremley fast and there was no reason for that so he took it so well and totally agreed, he even said "yeah I agree, I thought I might have been coming on very strongly." So everything was good and he laid off just a little bit. we hung out again not last saturday, but the saturday before and everything was fine but he hasnt called me since. When I go online and he's online, he doesn't IM me. I texted him yesterday and he didnt text me back (he is always good with returning my texts within like an hour.)
I really do like this guy, and I don't know what to do now. Can someone please give me advice (I don't want to sound desperate, so thats why I'm not calling him. I assume that if he's not calling me, there is a reason). Please help me. Thanks for taking the time to read this. I'll rate high.

Tell him straight out how you feel and what you're thinking. Tell him that you miss hearing from him and that you miss his calls. Tell him its always nice to get a call from him. Make him feel as important as he is in your heart(if that makes sense, good. if not im sorry lol) xO ali

Q: Hello, im 15/f. Heres the problem, it sounds really stupid but please dont laugh. Ok so whenever im at my friends house or out somewhere and i start laughing really hard i start to well "pee" my pants. I can't help it and i always get embarassed. Does anyone have any ideas to stop this?