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14/f
Hey. Basically Im depressed. About my whole life. I have different issues like school work and guys and i really do not want to go to an adult about this. I dont know if im really depressed or am i just bored. Like i havent had a boyfriend since october. I really dont know, i should be very happy right now because i won this contest, but im not. I cry everyday, and nothing big happened that i should be depressed about. I mean there are little things but seriously im so confused right now and i realy need help. I do talk to my friend but she has no adivce cuz shes going through the same thing. Please help (link)
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If you are spending a lot of time crying every day and feel down for no apparent reason that's not right. You could in fact be clinicially depressed. In that case you need adults to help you even if you don't want them around because it can get much worse.
Talk to your parents, your guidance counselor, teacher or an adult you trust in confidence about the way you have been feeling. these adults can either talk to your parents for you by saying "I've noticed a change in your daughter with her moods and being upset a lot. I would like it if you spoke with her as she may be depressed."
Your parents would then take you to your family doctor for their opinion and then you would be referred to an psychiatrist who would diagnose you and perhaps put you on medication to make things better for you.
In the meantime document your thoughts, feelings, how your mood is in a diary and keep it close by. Especially record dark thought down or spikes in mood as that could be sign of a mood disorder too. Present that to an adult you trust as evidence something's up and they'll get you treatment.
As for boys be patient you'll meet someone. Don't push too hard for a relationship as it will happen when you were'nt looking. as for your friend she tries to help the only way a 14-year-old or 13-year-old knows how. She's just as unsure about her ownself as you are about you.
Definitely, find an adult you trust and talk to them. They won't judge you but in this situation you need adult help only and perhaps professional help too if you really are depressed.
You have to also consider too that puberty which you are going through causes mood swings especially in girls every so often because a lot is changing and hormones are wonky. If you find yourself being unhappy usually towards the end of the month before or after a period or during it could be related to that and pre-menstrual sysmptoms.
For now though, take no chances here, write down how you've been feeling each day and if you're having dark or scary thoughts too and what has been making you upset and approach an adult and get things checked out. You'll feel better for doing it.
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what should i wear to a rockish concert, with fall out boy? It will probably be warm, but idk what to wear. helpp!
p.s. i dont have a jean skirt or jean shorts..just normal jeans.. thankss (link)
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Be sure to wear comfortable shoes. That may sound obvious to you but when it comes to being in the stands or being in the ground level floor section you'll be doing a lot of standing up to see what's going on onstage.
You don't want to wear heels or anything that is bound to hurt you feet. I recommend sandals if you've got them. Wear comfortable pants such as jeans, courdroy, khakis and a T-shirt.
When it comes to T-shirts or articles of clothing be very aware of one thing. Make sure they don't contain solid colors or any color a gang would wear. Why? security at arenas in some cities for example the ACC in Toronto won't let you in if you're dressed in those colors. Call the venue or place you bought tickets about that. I know as I go to tons of concerts that this true.
You should be A-1 though in sandals or comfortable shoes, your average t-shirt and jeans, khakis etc. as long as they are comfortable and you can move around freely.
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I'm going to my boyfriends house tomorrow. BTW I'm 14/f. We've only been dating for 2-3 weeks.. but we've been on and off for about 3 years. I've never been there before by myself... can you give me some tips incase things get awkward?? About 3 months ago I had this other guy at my house and it was totally weird so I want this to be different. What are some things I could do if it gets weird? (link)
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You should tell him upfront before going to his house that while you really like him you aren't ready for X,Y, Z and think it's way too soon in the relationship to consider anything sexual. He should respect that.
In the event he doesn't understand and tries something you don't want to have happen all you need to do is push him off and tell him "I thought I told you we weren't going to go there." Then leave immediately and go home. He will learn from that that you mean business.
You have to tell him upfront before going that just because people aren't home doesn't mean that you are going to do anything sexual or that you aren't ready for. Let him know that before going.
Also tell him you want to hang out but the whole idea of being alone sort of bothers you because you don't want him to get any ideas something is going to happen when it clearly won't.
If you've known him for 3 years and trust him that's excellent but even still before you go set out some ground rules about what will and will not happen with him so you both agree and don't cross the line.
Tell him about the bad experience with the other guy and that you don't want a repeat of that. you have to tell him this before you go or make the decision to back out saying you don't feel ready to be alone without adults nearby. It's okay to say that.
If it gets weird you can go home early, push him off of you, or defend yourself from anything physical or sexual you don't want to happen should you have to.
More or less telling him before you go that you have rules, beliefs, don't have interest in doing sexual things etc etc. he'll understand. If you truly feel weird and uncomfortable about going invite him to your place with adults around or don't go.
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13/f
Ok first, anyone who wants to answer this and tell me I'm 13 and too young to be worrying about this kind of thing, please just don't answer.
I've been single since the beginning of October and I am so sick of it. I always get upset cause I miss having a guy to kiss and hold.
Another problem is I happen to REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY like this guy who is two years older than me and who I don't get to see very often and who I'm pretty sure doesn't like me.
What do I do to
A)get over this guy
and
B)find a relationship and stop being single
thanks! (link)
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The thing you need to understand is that relationships just sort of happen and when you least expect it and usually with people you know or who know of you that you never considered in a romantic way before. You cannot force a relationship to happen it just kind of unfolds itself.
People become close friends and things develop from there usually. The problem is every guy and girl for that matter knows you have been single since October.
You don't know you are doing this but by fretting over it and pushing for a relationship to happen you've been telegraphing it to them. Guys pick up on it or that intensity you have and are nervous some even are turned off.
You cannot appear to look desperate for a guy in any way, shape form even if it's inadvertent. What you need to do is make them want to come to you. Be friendly, open to others, meet guys, introduce yourself and see what happens.
Are you sure this guy doesn't like you? Do you know him well? Are you friends? If the answer to those questions is no you need to introduce yourself, strike up a conversation, try to become friends and ask him if he's interested.
The age gap isn't large however, the world of a 15-year-old is different from that of a 13-year-old. It's a different social circle, more pressures, difference in maturity and he's probably thinking of someone older than you but that's okay.
How do you get over him? Start by realizing that you are beautiful, desireable, smart, funny and all the things guys want in a girl but sometimes because of age, a friendship or other reasons certain guys (not all guys) might not be in to me that way.
How do you find a relationship and stop being single? That's easy. Stop looking for one. Seriously, relax, be confident in yourself, be open and friendly, get to know guys and bang they'll come to you first about a relationship.
You have to stop going in search of it as it will elude you because guys may think there's something wrong or you are too desperate. Keep getting to know guys by throwing parties, hanging out with friends and see if they ask you out or if you are interested in one see if he wants to hang out one on one on group dates and take it from there.
You have to patient even though that's hard sometimes as the right circumstance and the right guy will come along. If you really like that guy at least try and see what happens first of all and don't be discouraged.
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When it comes to singing I'm so breathy and it's really not a good way to display my ability because it muffles my voice. Could anyone provide me with a way to correct this? (link)
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You need to hire a voice coach. They will teach you proper breathing and techniques so that your voice is strong and not breathy.
That is the best way of handling this issue because they can make your voice so much stronger. While it can be pricey it's worth the investment as sooner or later you'll have to correct this problem if you want to go far in singing or acting.
Also, it may help if you have a school music teacher to ask them what they recommend. They may know techniques you can employ. However, having said that the techniques are not much help if you don't have that teacher or a qualified voice coach standing next to you to see where you're going wrong.
We hear our own talking and singing voice much differently than others do. They'll notice imperfection first and find ways around it.
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Hello ,
Okay im not sure if it goes under the right category but okay. Im getting really mad at my friend because she wont go swimming ever. Shes to embarrest because she has hair on the sides of her vagina and she doesnt know how to get rid of it because she said she tried shaving but it didnt help is there anything else to get rid of it except for like bikini waxes or anything!?
Please help.
Thank youuu ,
Dianna. (link)
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You should try talking to your mother or an older female adult you trust. Tell them that your friend refuses to go swimming with you because pubic hair tends to stick outside her suit. Explain what your friend has tried and see what they can come up with.
I think however, you should tell your friend to come over and bring a T-shirt with her and you'll lend her shorts. It's the perfect compromise and will easily hide any unwanted hair from showing. I cannot see her balking at that at all.
Tell her that even you wear shorts to swim from time to time. If it's your own private pool there should be nothing wrong with this idea.
If it's a public pool I can see why she's upset about it as they require people to wear proper bathing suits no exception. You should talk to your mom or another female adult and ask for advice.
As embarassing as it may seem for you, your friend maybe you can invite your friend swimming and tell her that you have the situation covered. Have your mom tell her how to take care of this in the future or have your mom in private explain to this kid's mother why she's so mortified of swimming with you.
Somebody has to say something to someone on how to deal with this situation without making a big deal out of it. However, getting her a pair of men's bathing shorts ought to fix the situation unless it's a public pool.
The girl clearly needs some tips from an older female who has dealt with this before or know how to help her. Aside from shaving or waxing the only other idea I would have is trying to trim the hair that sticks out of her bathing suit with scissors.
I myself don't know any way to fix it beyond that (being male) but if she can wear shorts she's fine unless she doesn't know how to swim at all ;) if it's just you, a few friends and your own backyard pool. In public she might not be able to get away with wearing shorts.
If she still refuses to come after you help her with the situation don't invite her again as she's being pretty silly about it especially if you help her figure out how to deal with this.
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14/F
Okay. Here it goes. Me and my friend [Dree] and her friend [my crush Drew] were going to the movies. The movie was so boring that we decided to play truth or dare. So, Dree [my friend] dared me to kiss Drew [my crush]. I said umm...okay. Drew [my crush] was like NO NO NO! WE ARE JUST FRIENDS!!! I felt like crying. I don't know what to do. I want to go out with him but I feel like I choke every time he is around! WHAT'S A GIRL TO DO?! (link)
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How embarassing. I would have to say this guy isn't interested in you the way you are in him. If he was interested in you he wouldn't be refusing a kiss from you no would he?
Regardless of who was present if most guys are given an opportunity to smooch with an attractive girl they're interested in they aren't going to turn it down. He's plain and simple not into you and i know that hurts like hell but it's the truth.
His objection to a kiss ad the way he embarassed you makes it abundantly clear. It's his loss. I'm surprised the inconsiderate lout still seems attractive to you and friend material.
You need to move on as he's shown you where he stands regarding dating you. It's not going to change and you shouldn't allow him to embarass you ever again. Who needs someone like him around? His reaction was a very poor one.
You should confront him when you see him next and tell him straight-up "You really embarassed me last night in front of my friends. Would it have killed you to go along with the game? I used to think you were my friend and hell I even liked you but I'm beginning to re-think where you do or do not fit in my life."
Walk away after saying it and let him think. He'll realize that he really hurt you and made you look bad the other night. If you still want him as a friend keep him but he's never going to come around and be your boyfriend. It's evident he's not interested.
He may also not want to ruin things between you as friends but his whole act where he expressed such a reaction of disgusts suggests he's not romantically interested in you in the slightest and that's not to be mean it's meant to deliver the truth.
You can do better and it's his loss anyways. For all he knows he may have missed out on a great girl, a great kiss and a relationship. I wonder if he has feet left as he's shot himself in both of them.
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ok well i am a virgin and i got my period when i was 10. i am now 13. there has been cancer and diabetes in my family, and my mom has fibroids and she found out less then five years ago. she tells me whenever the subject is mentioned about her wanting me to go to the gynacologist. i feel nervous.. in that cold room, and im in jamaica, and for my orthodontistry they dont do it exactly ight and theyre arent so careful. normal doctors arent so good here.. so i feel nervous.. im scared that when he/she tries to take cells of that he/she will poke to hard and leave me in pain for days. and you know after you pee sometimes you get that disturbing kind of airy feeling in your vagina? i dont wanna get that. and i know ill jump.. and ill know that ill get wet... and will they see if i masturbate? like how could they find out? also... i know about those tongs that spread you ... kind of embarrassing for me because i want to be tight for my first time.. i dont want my doctor stretching me out..and how do i request for a girl doctor? id feel much more comfortable, in jamaica its hard, theyd say sorry no women doctors at the moment.. but no!!! i want a woman doctor!!!!! also... my period.. i have had it for like 3 years or so and well some periods cause so much pain its diarrhea, constipation, light headedness, cravings, tiredness, i have no concentration, i have to stay home from school sometimes. also some periods i get these cramps with soreness in my back and tummy, then like ... exploding shooting pain going from the bottom of the inside of my vagina going to the top of my uterus. it may seem worse than it sounds.. but is it just bad periods or could i have something seriously wrong with me.... i really wanna know how i can achieve what i want... and i really dont want anything bad to happen.. and all i need to add to my miserable life is someone to tell me i have cancer.... im scared, i want to die because of it. also.. everyday i have discharge and some days i can have these big white sticky gooey chunks of it where it is just disgusting. help me!!! i dont wanna have anything wrong happen with my vagina.. id appreciate it a lot more if you help me with everything and possibly more from my question... (link)
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First you need to take a deep breath and exhale. You have nothing to fear as these doctors are professionals and all of them must follow the standard proceedure for a gynaecological exam. A nurse is always present with or without a male doctor and your mom can be in the room if you feel you need her.
They cannot tell that your masturbate at all. Don't worry about that and even if they could which they cannot it's no big deal as the majority of people do including those giving the exam.
As for getting wet if it happens they'll be unphased having seen that before. The device they use to hold open the area won't make you any less tight for intercourse however, you can always increase that tightness with pubic-coxogeal (sp?) exercises as I've learned in human sexuality classes.
Now, the biggest thing you said here was about the runs, constipation, light-headedness, cravings, tiredness and no concentration while on your period. This is the first thing that they need to know and don't hide it or forget it as it's the reason you're there.
They need to know about the cramps, soreness in your stomach area and back. Relax, while something is clearly out of whack you don't have cancer, diabetes or anything that's going to kill you off immediately or in the future. Don't be scared as you're in good hands with your gyneacologist regardless of where you reside.
I thought this article on what to expect as well as an exact rundown on every single thing they do would help ease your fears a lot. http://www.scarleteen.com/pink/gyne.html
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Lately I've been having problems with my stomach, but it usually only happens when I go to my dads house. It's always at night time, and I start feeling very naseous like I'm about to throw up, even though I never do. Sometimes I gag and almost throw up. This happens sometimes at my moms, but it has happened every time I've gone to my dads for the past 2ish months. Maybe longer. But the thing is, it only happens on the Friday nights that I get there, and the rest of the time I stay there, it doesn't. I usually take some Pepto Bismal, but I can only take it a little at a time or I feel worse. I also have to pace around. What could be wrong with me, how could I prevent it, and what are some ways to cure naseua fast? (link)
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What kind of foods are you eating at your father's house that may be different from those you normally eat? You need to ask yourself that question first and foremost.
Obviously, there's food or a style of cooking with too much grease, oil, sauces, spices etc. that is getting to your stomach and causing this to occur. Eventually, if it continues you might end up vomiting each time you are there.
Maybe you are intolerant to certain foods he is serving you on those Friday nights or to certain sauces, textures, fast-foods without thinking about it.
This happened to me and I ended up vomitting every single time certain sauces, foods, spices and fast-food were introduced. I had to go in to the hospital to be checked out and I was told that it could be an ulcer or a galbladder issue. You might have something like that developing.
What you ought to do is tell your dad tha you often feel nausea after eating on the Fridays and are taking ant-acids to avoid vomitting. Ask him to stop serving the usual fare and to take you to see a doctor about what's happening. If you're feeling any pain accompanying the naseau see a doctor pronto.
They'll know what you'll need to do and if it's a big problem will have solutions or it could be as simple as you never eating certain foods again as your stomach can no longer take it. Check in to an ulcer related problem or galbladder acting up. This is based on personal experience.
You really should get your father to stop serving what he usually serves first of all and see what happens. Grab for the ant-acids only if naseau happens again and when and if it does go see a doctor immediately following.
It sounds as though your stomach cannot handle certain foods anymore and is telling you this is the only way it knows how. Something funky is going on here that needs to be throughly checked out.
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Any tips for giving head?
I think I got it down, but once the guy cums..
Is it bad.. to keep pleasuring them?
[I've heard stories.. that it hurts the guy?]
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Typically questions like these get deleted on here because we cannot give out how-to info about sexual practices. The person who asks as well as the person who answers giving such tips to minors usually are instantly banned and for damn good reason.
I wanted to point that out incase you are wondering why there are so low a number of responses. To answer your question it's not wrong to keep pleasuring him after he ejaculates and it won't hurt him any.
However, his penis is going to be ten times as sensitive and much like your clitoris as an example won't be able to withstand all that stimulation. You should ask him if he wants you to stop or keep going.
The thing is even if anyone did give you tips you couldn't use them anyways as every guy responds to different stimulation. The key to satisfying him is to ask him what he would like and if this or that feels good or not.
Have him guide you along and also speak to him before and afterwards about it to get a sense of what he did or didn't enjoy or will enjoy and or why he didn't. You need to know also what he doesn't like. You cannot be expected to know how to please him otherwise.
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I've been giving my boyfriend handjobs and recently a blowjob.
And in those times.. he has stopped pleasuring me. He doesn't really touch me/finger me.
Is it rude to ask if he would do something to me ..?
Is there a good way to ask?
I'm kinda shy haha. (link)
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You shouldn't be so willing in the future to give if you are not receiving. It's a two way street here and you are in control. You should use tact to let him know you expect him to give back sometimes.
Say to him "I don't mind pleasuring you but perhaps you can reciporate more as i like that." There's nothing wrong with letting him know you want it to be a two way street. If he doesn't get it then stop giving for a while.
He'll understand then. Just tell him what I said above in the quotes verbatum and he'll understand. You can also try another method such as "I see you're enjoying this. I really enjoy it when we do X." That let's him know that you are interested in him doing something in return.
If you enjoy doing certain sexual things with him for your own pleasure you can always initiate things with him by telling him you'd like to have a bit of fun doing X together etc.
There's nothing wrong in asking him what you want or telling him or even suggesting it to him. You shouldn't be shy at all as there is trust here and he's only going to react well to it. If he's not shy to ask for what he enjoys or wants from you why should you be? There's no difference.
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i've had my period for 5 years now and my boobs have grown considerably. last week i was a size DDD and i think i'm getting into an E. please tell me if there's any way of making my boobs smaller. all the guys just look at my chest and they want sex but i'm not a slut!!!! just a girl w/ huge jugs! what should i do? (link)
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You should talk to your parents about how you feel and how taunts etc. at school or people staring at your chest and not looking at you when they talk all the time is bothering you and hurting your self-image.
Are you in any pain or discomfort? Odds are you must be as those size breasts don't belong on your size body and can and do cause a lot of back and other pain.
There's not a lot you can do unless you can talk to your parents about having a breast reduction plastic surgery proceedure. My ex best-friend's 18-year-old sister had the same exact issue as you did and she went under the knife and had the surgeon put her at a lower cup size and she was fine afterwards with confidence.
Talk to your parents about this and then see your family doctor and get his/her opinion on such surgery and if it's right for you as health comes into it and all that. He should then refer you to a plastic surgeon for further consultation.
Yes, it's costly and not to my knowledge covered on any plan but if you can afford it and it makes your life better and you don't have any pain etc. anymore it could prove worthwhile for you. You might want to consider it. There's no other way to reduce the size of your breasts.
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oh god here it goes.
Well me and my boyfreind were just looking up what will happen if he cums in my butt when we have sex. And
1) it told us if you cum really deep in your ass will get bigger casue of the testorioin in his cum.
He tells me like Oh My god your butt is getting bigger i swear. I don't know if were like imagining it getting bigger casue we think thats whats spost to happen or is it acually getting bigger?
AND
2) We also read that You CAN get pregnant when he does that.. Witch i thought was weired. Is that true? AnD
3) the last time we did it it was on my period but it was still in my butt. It was like my last day on it. but yeah Again we read when your on your period you STILL can get pregnant. Is THAT true?
I don't know someone please help me? (link)
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I'm not sure who and or what your information source is on sexual matters but I would stop listening to them or getting information from whatever source told you this as it's all flat out false and very weird.
1) Your behind is not going to become bigger no matter how many times you have anal sex and he ejaculates in you. Like the previous poster responded that's not possible and likely something new guys are trying to get you to do this.
You have to admire their creativity but no your butt won't get any bigger. The only thing that's getting bigger is the whopper of lies he's feeding you.
2) You cannot get pregnant from any other sex act except for intercourse itself. However, if semen dripped down to your vaginal opening that's the only way possible.
Really, with anal sex because it's high-risk for STD and HIV transmission from what I learned years ago in human sexuality courses you need to wear condoms every time and use artificial lubricant as the walls inside your anus easily tear and it's not a pretty situation.
3) See number two above. You cannot get pregnant from this and having your period or not is irrevelant. The vagina and anus as you know are two different openings. Only vaginal intercourse can get anyone pregnant.
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What happens if your partner's penis is too large for your vagina? Is there anything you can do to prevent this? (link)
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Actually it's a misconception that one's penis is too big for a partner's vagina. It's one size fits all. His genitals are meant to work with yours regardless of size or circumfrence.
The only reason it's not working is that you are too nervous and tense and your vaginal muscles have tightened up not allowing for entry out of fear you'll get hurt.
The other reason could be because you aren't lubricated enough making for easy entry. Try really relaxing and an artificial lubricant to help with insertion. It should be fine after doing that.
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ok so i was having sex with my boyfriend and i was already having an amazing orgasm but then we both thought it would be fun to add my back massager into the mix, when he put it on my clit i squirted so hard it was like i peed. was it pee or was it vaginal fluid...it shot out of my body as if i had been tickled too much and pissed my pants but it didnt feel like it came from my urethra. so what was it? (link)
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Consider yourself very fortunate as many women cannot experience the G-Spot orgasm or a regular orgasm for that matter like you did.
The fluid that looks like urine and is secreted through your uretha is G-Spot vaginal fluid. You might feel as though you pissed your pants or urnated all over but you haven't. It's G-Spot fluid that came out of your urethra and is in some ways similar to what happens with guys when they release semen.
The reason it felt like you urinated all over is that that you feel the same kind of urge to push down like you do when you pee just before the G-Spot fluid is released and you orgasm. It's okay to let your body and muscles push down as it's part of this kind or orgasm.
Just be sure you put towels down or a garbage bag under your sheets next time as the amount of fluid that comes out can vary. I heard from sex-ed that it's like one bag of milk in some cases that can be secreted.
The fluid will look like urine like you noticed but will be completely odorless so you can tell the difference right away.
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I'm unsure if I want to go to university or not. I do want to get a good job and everything and get a degree, but it's a long time to spend there if you're not really that into higher education. Plus it's seriously expensive and I don't want to move too far away from home.
I've thought about taking a gap year, working to get some money saved up and then either doing a part time Business Management course or something, but I'd be 20 by the time I decided to go. Arghh dunno what to do.
I know not going to uni isn't the end of the world, but I'm so confused! (link)
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I think you do know exactly what you want to do based on your note. You're just scared that it's the wrong choice or will disappoint your parents or others. I may be reading between the lines here but I sense you have that fear.
It's justified however, you have the right idea here. Take that year off and save for university and get the business courses in. This is what you really need to do for yourself right now. Save your money for university and approach it next year or when ready.
The worst thing you could do is spend thousands of dollars on signing up for a university program you just aren't interested in but are doing to please your folks. Remember, this is your life, your career and your choices.
if you aren't sure what you want to study or do in university or college take a year off and come back to it. You really have to get to the point where you know exactly what turns your krank and gets you excited about having a career in or doing the rest of your life and go after it.
Until you discover what that is there's not much sense in going to university and wasting your money or your parents on trying to become what they envision for you rather than what you truly want.
Go to college or university for sure as you certainly do need it in this world but go when you are ready, when you know what you want to do and be and on your own terms. Your parents may not like this decision but tell them you're doing it so you don't waste money, taking other courses and then going for FOR SURE when you are ready and have looked into things and picked a career choice.
Make them a deal that it's a year off only and then college or university. Also being 20 or 21 entering college or university is no big deal and actually better. You'll be more mature than everyone else and not in the high school mentality and drinking, drugs etc. You'll be totally focused on earning your degree.
Also, who said you had to move away from home or spend thousands on a degree or diploma? Community college's are just as good as those you have to move away from. They're better as the programs are hands on and low student/prof ratio.
Look into those as there's something you might be missing in their course calendars that may leap out as far as a program and career.
If you want to stay near home do it as your education at a community college is just as good as one far away. If you want to get away from your folks you can get an apartment near the school but close to them that you can share with a friend etc. But yes, make sure you do things with this situation when ready.
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let me go out wit my guy friends
i have to lie to her just to go sumtimes but i haven been feelin real guilty so i have stopped
she basically thinks that all my guy friends are my boyfriends
now i know she doesnt think im a whore but come on
wat can i do ?? (link)
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I would invite them all over for dinner and introduce them to her as your friends. Once she sees they are good guys and not out to date you or do anything with you she doesn't approve of she should be fine.
Be sure to invite their parents too or if you cannot invite them all ask your mother to talk with them and get to know them. Do you have an adult you really trust that knows your mother and these boys or their family? If the answer is yes have that person talk to your mother about them and what great friends they are or could be to you.
You should also talk to your teacher as they are your advocate. Tell them that you are friends with a lot of good people and keep your nose clan but when it comes to certain guy friends you cannot associate with them ever outside of school. The teacher would then slip so and so and you into a conversation with your mother.
If your teacher or a trusted adult shows your mom that they think these boys are great friends for you to have mom will have to rethink her stance about them not to look embarrassed.
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I gave head for the first time.. it was an overwhelming sweet taste and i got up to spit..
is there a certain way to clean my mouth?
Brush teeth, mouth wash.. ?
The taste is lingering on my tongue and I can't seem to get it off.. every time I try cleaning my tongue.. I gag a little.
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The advice you were given recenty here about mouthwash and toothpaste will indeed get rid of the taste. However, I wanted to recommend that you use flavored or non-lubricated condoms in the future to catch his ejaculate so it never has to be swallowed or end up on your tongue making you want to gag.
The other thing you could do is ask him to tell you when he's about to ejaculate so you can pull away and catch it in a kleenex.
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ok first of all for 2 years now, people have been spreading rumors about me saying that i am bisexual and IM NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today i got this really rude note from a girl named " hilary" ( i dont really think someone named hilary wrote it)
this is what is says:
Shelby,
you are a hore. some people even think that you are bisexual. i know thats what i belive. i know this because of last year. by the way, your ex boyfriend tyler said eww when he heard that you like other wemon.
Chow,
hilary
this is really making me mad and depressed. I DO NOT LIKE WEMON~!~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM STRAIGHTER THAN A BOARD!!!!!!!!! I HATE THIS!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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If I spread a rumor about you being an alien that turns purple in the dark would you get upset? You would probably laugh about it and not let it affect you. The rumor about you being bisexual is like the rumor about you being an alien that changes color.
It's not true, cannot affect you unless you react, and other people who genuinely know you or those who don't won't put much stock in it. You're reacting to nothing really but allowing a falsehood uttered by someone else affect you.
The person who wrote the note did it to see you react. The sooner you stop stewing over this and go about your business the better. The people who started the rumor did it to see you react or get angry as that's what bullies thrive on.
Don't react the rumor is BS and anyone with a brain in that school will know that and not care. They'll forget about it in hours or days easily as long as you never react. When you don't react the people who created the rumor will move on to someone else that is an easier target.
Bottom line don't show emotion, anger or anything in the face of a rumor. Also consider the source of the rumor. Do the truly know you? What's their beef? What's their credibility? If they're someone not to give a damn about than don't.
Other people will see for themselves who you really are but getting to know you. You shouldn't give a damn about what anyone who doesn't know you has to say. You need to develop a thick skin for this kind of thing as you'll deal with it less but not being a target or someone who reacts to it.
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there is this guy i realllly like.
weve been talking a lot, but he just turned 17 on the 14th and i just turned 15 on the 12th.
today was really the last day i could really talk to him because we are taking exams, and i had a class with him and i dont take that class anymore because tommorow is the last day os school.
anyways, we flirt around ALOT!
like i would take his car keys or his i.d or something and we would fight over it.
today he asked me for my number so he could come over sometime, and he asked me to go to blue bayou (waterpark) with him sat. but i told him i had noone to go with me, and he said i could hang out with him. he also said that he would get me a job with him as a lifeguard somewhere, idk.
in class, i sit directly behind him. i used to sit 2 seats behind him but he told me to move up a seat so i can be behind him. we talk and flort alooooott! and both of our little sisters have the same disability, i know thats not a positive thing but that means our family has something on common.
someone please tell what to do next, i plan on going to blue bayou sat, just to see him.
i dont have his number or anything, i have his myspace but he's never on.
tommorow is the last day i can see him and we get out of school at 11.05 then i leave right after that, but he parks by my friend who brings me home.
what should i doo.
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This is what I would do: When you go to class tomorrow and see his car in the lot (make sure it's his car for sure) put a note under his wiper blades that reads "
It's me, you never told me how to reach you except for Myspace. Here's my e-mail (don't put your number for obvious reasons) I want to take you up on the water park and talk to you about you finding me a job. i couldn't leave today without you knowing where to find me."
If he's offering to help you get a job let alone inviting you to go to the water park he's head over butt over you. All you have to do is take the bait he's offering and go from there. show him you're interested.
When school gets out at 11:05 walk down to where your friend parks before this guy leaves and see that he got said note and make your plans.
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