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been single for WAY too long
13/f
Ok first, anyone who wants to answer this and tell me I'm 13 and too young to be worrying about this kind of thing, please just don't answer.
I've been single since the beginning of October and I am so sick of it. I always get upset cause I miss having a guy to kiss and hold.
Another problem is I happen to REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY like this guy who is two years older than me and who I don't get to see very often and who I'm pretty sure doesn't like me.
What do I do to
A)get over this guy
and
B)find a relationship and stop being single
thanks!
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The thing you need to understand is that relationships just sort of happen and when you least expect it and usually with people you know or who know of you that you never considered in a romantic way before. You cannot force a relationship to happen it just kind of unfolds itself.
People become close friends and things develop from there usually. The problem is every guy and girl for that matter knows you have been single since October.
You don't know you are doing this but by fretting over it and pushing for a relationship to happen you've been telegraphing it to them. Guys pick up on it or that intensity you have and are nervous some even are turned off.
You cannot appear to look desperate for a guy in any way, shape form even if it's inadvertent. What you need to do is make them want to come to you. Be friendly, open to others, meet guys, introduce yourself and see what happens.
Are you sure this guy doesn't like you? Do you know him well? Are you friends? If the answer to those questions is no you need to introduce yourself, strike up a conversation, try to become friends and ask him if he's interested.
The age gap isn't large however, the world of a 15-year-old is different from that of a 13-year-old. It's a different social circle, more pressures, difference in maturity and he's probably thinking of someone older than you but that's okay.
How do you get over him? Start by realizing that you are beautiful, desireable, smart, funny and all the things guys want in a girl but sometimes because of age, a friendship or other reasons certain guys (not all guys) might not be in to me that way.
How do you find a relationship and stop being single? That's easy. Stop looking for one. Seriously, relax, be confident in yourself, be open and friendly, get to know guys and bang they'll come to you first about a relationship.
You have to stop going in search of it as it will elude you because guys may think there's something wrong or you are too desperate. Keep getting to know guys by throwing parties, hanging out with friends and see if they ask you out or if you are interested in one see if he wants to hang out one on one on group dates and take it from there.
You have to patient even though that's hard sometimes as the right circumstance and the right guy will come along. If you really like that guy at least try and see what happens first of all and don't be discouraged.
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