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Boyfriends House.
I'm going to my boyfriends house tomorrow. BTW I'm 14/f. We've only been dating for 2-3 weeks.. but we've been on and off for about 3 years. I've never been there before by myself... can you give me some tips incase things get awkward?? About 3 months ago I had this other guy at my house and it was totally weird so I want this to be different. What are some things I could do if it gets weird?
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Bring along some funny movies and a deck of cards. Maybe a fun board game? That way you two can have fun and things shouldn't get too awkward. You guys should bake a cake together or make cookies. That's always fun and eating them afterward is fun too! :)
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watch a funny movie, like borat! :] laughing will make u less tense & yeah going for walks is good. flirt with him. go outside & play basketball or something with him. hopefully he will have something in mind to entertain you so you won't have to worry so much. :] ♥ corey.
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You should tell him upfront before going to his house that while you really like him you aren't ready for X,Y, Z and think it's way too soon in the relationship to consider anything sexual. He should respect that.
In the event he doesn't understand and tries something you don't want to have happen all you need to do is push him off and tell him "I thought I told you we weren't going to go there." Then leave immediately and go home. He will learn from that that you mean business.
You have to tell him upfront before going that just because people aren't home doesn't mean that you are going to do anything sexual or that you aren't ready for. Let him know that before going.
Also tell him you want to hang out but the whole idea of being alone sort of bothers you because you don't want him to get any ideas something is going to happen when it clearly won't.
If you've known him for 3 years and trust him that's excellent but even still before you go set out some ground rules about what will and will not happen with him so you both agree and don't cross the line.
Tell him about the bad experience with the other guy and that you don't want a repeat of that. you have to tell him this before you go or make the decision to back out saying you don't feel ready to be alone without adults nearby. It's okay to say that.
If it gets weird you can go home early, push him off of you, or defend yourself from anything physical or sexual you don't want to happen should you have to.
More or less telling him before you go that you have rules, beliefs, don't have interest in doing sexual things etc etc. he'll understand. If you truly feel weird and uncomfortable about going invite him to your place with adults around or don't go.
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just have fun and be you =] obvously hes there because he wants to be with you =] but i mean you cna do anything.. haha attempt to cook, bake something, play a board game, play a video game, take walks, be crazy, dance, listen to music, do boyfriend girlfriend stuff.. tlak.
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