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Gyna worries!
ok well i am a virgin and i got my period when i was 10. i am now 13. there has been cancer and diabetes in my family, and my mom has fibroids and she found out less then five years ago. she tells me whenever the subject is mentioned about her wanting me to go to the gynacologist. i feel nervous.. in that cold room, and im in jamaica, and for my orthodontistry they dont do it exactly ight and theyre arent so careful. normal doctors arent so good here.. so i feel nervous.. im scared that when he/she tries to take cells of that he/she will poke to hard and leave me in pain for days. and you know after you pee sometimes you get that disturbing kind of airy feeling in your vagina? i dont wanna get that. and i know ill jump.. and ill know that ill get wet... and will they see if i masturbate? like how could they find out? also... i know about those tongs that spread you ... kind of embarrassing for me because i want to be tight for my first time.. i dont want my doctor stretching me out..and how do i request for a girl doctor? id feel much more comfortable, in jamaica its hard, theyd say sorry no women doctors at the moment.. but no!!! i want a woman doctor!!!!! also... my period.. i have had it for like 3 years or so and well some periods cause so much pain its diarrhea, constipation, light headedness, cravings, tiredness, i have no concentration, i have to stay home from school sometimes. also some periods i get these cramps with soreness in my back and tummy, then like ... exploding shooting pain going from the bottom of the inside of my vagina going to the top of my uterus. it may seem worse than it sounds.. but is it just bad periods or could i have something seriously wrong with me.... i really wanna know how i can achieve what i want... and i really dont want anything bad to happen.. and all i need to add to my miserable life is someone to tell me i have cancer.... im scared, i want to die because of it. also.. everyday i have discharge and some days i can have these big white sticky gooey chunks of it where it is just disgusting. help me!!! i dont wanna have anything wrong happen with my vagina.. id appreciate it a lot more if you help me with everything and possibly more from my question...
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WOW! Um, i didnt think that going to a gynacologist was necessary till after you've had sex for the first time. At least thats what i've been told. If you can't have a female doctor then say no. You have the right to choose which doctor you have. Tell her before anything that you are a virgin, that way they might go easier on you.
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Chill out. Trips to the gynocologist aren't so bad.
When your mom calls the place to set up your first appointment, ask her to tell them you'd like a female doctor. They'll be sure to give you one. They understand the issues with comfort & male doctors, so they can change that for you.
Gynocologists however CANNOT tell that you masturbate. They know when you're not a virgin, but they wouldn't know that you masturbate unless you told them. They're going to ask you lots of questions which you need to answer honestly so they can get to know you better & get their files on you proper.
I doubt there's anything wrong with you because of the way your period is. My period gives me the worst cramps ever. I usually end up throwing up & staying home from school. Sometimes they're so unbearable I pass out. It's best if you ask your gynocologist for a birth control pill so that it'll make your period better for you & ease up some.
Also, you're not going to get cancer. Don't freak out so much. You're worrying so much about things that may not even happen & probably won't happen. By doing this, you're just shocking yourself & setting yourself up for something that won't happen. Discharge is normal. It's always a sign your period is coming. Every girl gets it. In order to prevent it from getting on your panties, wear a pantiliner & change periodically as needed.
Your life isn't miserable & neither is going to the gynocologist. It's normal to be nervous but the level that you're putting it upon is insane. You'll be fine, there's no reason to worry!
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First you need to take a deep breath and exhale. You have nothing to fear as these doctors are professionals and all of them must follow the standard proceedure for a gynaecological exam. A nurse is always present with or without a male doctor and your mom can be in the room if you feel you need her.
They cannot tell that your masturbate at all. Don't worry about that and even if they could which they cannot it's no big deal as the majority of people do including those giving the exam.
As for getting wet if it happens they'll be unphased having seen that before. The device they use to hold open the area won't make you any less tight for intercourse however, you can always increase that tightness with pubic-coxogeal (sp?) exercises as I've learned in human sexuality classes.
Now, the biggest thing you said here was about the runs, constipation, light-headedness, cravings, tiredness and no concentration while on your period. This is the first thing that they need to know and don't hide it or forget it as it's the reason you're there.
They need to know about the cramps, soreness in your stomach area and back. Relax, while something is clearly out of whack you don't have cancer, diabetes or anything that's going to kill you off immediately or in the future. Don't be scared as you're in good hands with your gyneacologist regardless of where you reside.
I thought this article on what to expect as well as an exact rundown on every single thing they do would help ease your fears a lot. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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