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Virgin with an older mate
What happens if your partner's penis is too large for your vagina? Is there anything you can do to prevent this?
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Your vagina is like a rubber band that will never break penetration will not hurt if you are aroused enough and you use a lot of lubricant no matter wat the size my first time was with a guy who was 9.8 and it didnt hurt not one bit you just need 2 relax
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I assume you're worried about the girth of your bf's penis, since almost every vagina can accomodate very long penises. If his girth is really impressive, say more than 4 inches, there are some things you can do to make your first time more enjoyable:
1) Use A LOT of water based or silicon based lube.
2) Stretch your vagina by fingering at least a couple of times before you try intercourse. If your partner's penis is normal size, penetration won't hurt if you're able to insert two fingers into your vagina without feeling discomfort. If his penis is really bigger than average, using a small dildo would be best - choose one smaller than your bf's penis. Both fingering and penetration with a dildo can be very enjoyable activities you can try with your partner or alone.
If you take time and use gradual approach - first inserting one finger, then two, then a small dildo, with a lot of lube every time, your hymen won't tear, it will just stretch. (But keep in mind that the presence of hymen doesn't mean that a girl is a virgin - some hymens are so elastic that they just stretch, they don't tear even from intercourse, so women have them until childbirth. On the other hand, some virgins have torn hymens or they don't have them at all - a girl is a virgin until she has had sexual intercourse, i.e. until a penis penetrates her vagina.)
3) Make sure you're VERY aroused before you try any kind of penetration. Not just because your vaginal wall will be wet and therefore more elastic, but also because your pain threshold will be higher.
IMPORTANT: I am not saying that your first time will inevitably hurt, I am talking about extreme cases of penile thickness - I wasn't a virgin when I had sex with a guy whose girth was 5.9", but it hurt.
4) Repeat the same process before you have intercourse again, because it takes time until your vagina can stretch enough to accomodate your partner's penis, one intercourse is not enough.
5) Last, but MOST IMPORTANT - have fun, be relaxed, and enjoy yourself :)
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Actually it's a misconception that one's penis is too big for a partner's vagina. It's one size fits all. His genitals are meant to work with yours regardless of size or circumfrence.
The only reason it's not working is that you are too nervous and tense and your vaginal muscles have tightened up not allowing for entry out of fear you'll get hurt.
The other reason could be because you aren't lubricated enough making for easy entry. Try really relaxing and an artificial lubricant to help with insertion. It should be fine after doing that.
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