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Q: i recently found out my 7 year old cousin, danny what raped by a neighborhood kid. this is really just depressing for me... BUT also for him. so my question is, anyone with experience know what well cheer up or help rape victim cope? hes very young.

You just need to be there for him. Do things with him that he likes to do, things that you know will make him happy. Don't try to get him to talk about it, just be his friend.

Q: Hey i have only gotten my period 2wice and usually get my period for 7 days and this time it is stopping today and its the 3rd day!what is happening?

Don't worry about it. It is perfectly normal for your period to be irregular when you first start. It can sometimes take up to a year for it to become regular.

Q: As part of my value system, I feel it is necessary for me to save my virginity for whomever might become my wife.
My foresight has not predicted I would be in my early thirties and still not in the position whereby I would be in a deep relationship.
Being without this in my life has detimentally affected my emotional health.
How can I find the best way to cope?

I think it's awesome that you've made this decision. It is so hard to find men who share this belief. I truly believe that the greatest gift that you can give to your spouse is your virginity. I don't know if you are a religious person or not, but I believe that God has put a perfect match for everyone, and you just have to be patient, and trust God to lead your soul mate to you. I know it's difficult and it gets lonely, but you have to keep your eye on the ultimate prize. Just think how special it will be to share yourself completely with your future wife.

A friend of mine once said, "Choosing a wife is like, buying a pack of gum. Do you want a pack that everyone's already had a piece of, or would you prefer a fresh unopened package."

I think the same can be said for a husband.

I wish you all the luck in life and love. I hope I helped and if you have any other questions, feel free to drop them in my inbox.

Q: hey guys! does anyone have any really cute unique babie names for (both boy and girl) that you like/kno of?! i need help thinkin of some very cute ones for my sister-in-law! i'm going to be a aunt! please answer quick.. ill rate high! :)

BOYS: Declan, Isaiah, Dakota

GIRLS: Reanna, JaeLyn, Nevaeh (heaven spelled backwards)

Q: I broke up wit my boyfriend and I still love him to death.. And i cant stop but I broke up wit him cuz of parental reasons ** He's 15 and im 13 ** Now all i do is think of him... But what makes me feel worse is that he was cring the whole day :-( i dont know what to do.. Cuz If i didnt break up wit him i would get into troble, loose my trusts from my parents and never get to see him or talk to him.. But now that i broke up wit him i can talk to him and see him :-(

Maybe you can work out a compromise with your parents. Suggest that they allow him to come over to your house (while your parent's are home) to watch a movie or have dinner, then maybe you can work up to going out in groups. Then eventually, once they get to know him, they'll trust him enough to let you see him one on one.

Q: In December my dad lost his job. But about a month later became self employed. By then my mom had been suspecting that hes cheating on her... now my mom has confroted him about it((about 3 months ago)) and he has admitted to having a "friendship" whith the lady.He tells my mom that hes nothin with her JUST friends. So my mom asked him to please tell her to stop callin and to just loose all contact.Thing is my mom tells me everything and my dad has always been a role model to me... well mom and i went to his work when he wasnt there and set up a caller id well we found out that shes still callin at like 1am and 2am when hes sopposly painting a car. Sometimes dad doesnt come home till 3 or so. I see how this effects my mom who literally does EVERYTHING in the house and it makes me ANGRY! She crys constantly only shes like me and shell hide before she crys. Well ive been catching her and it hurts me soo much soo then i get really mad at my dad and sometimes all i want to do is Scream in his face and kick him out of the house! I want to tell him to please leave the lady hes having an affair with but i dont know how i dont want him gettin mad at me. Thats when my whole "indenil" stage pops up! i start to think that hes not and when she brings it up i get fusturated and ignore her or justr say some rude comment. Which makes her cry more! I just wanna know what to do without making my dad mad and my mom cry... should i write him a letter telling him how i feel???? ALSO my mom says she doesnt want me talkin to him about it but its effect my relationship with him... WHAT THE HECK DO I DO?
Ps. i have a boifriend and hes really supportive about this he gives me a shoulder to cry on and a ear to listen to me with but i feel like i cant be happy with my mom goin through her problems cause i feel like im rubbing it in her face HELP ME.....

Backed up in a corner

I think you should write a letter to your mom and your dad. In your dad's letter you should let hin know, not only how much his relationship is hurting your mom, but also how much it is hurting you. Also point out that you have always looked up to him, but his current behavior is making it hard to do so now. In your mom's letter, let her know that you will always be there for her, and tht you appreciate her trusting you enough to share everything her. But gently remind her that she's the parent and that you don't feel comfortable bearing all this weight on your shoulders. Just be open and honest with both of them. Tell them how sad, angry, and scared you are. I've often found that it's easier to get your thoughts down on paper, than it is to say them out loud.

Q: OMG!! I really can't take this anymore! Ok well all my friends and all are like you changed blah blah!! ANd i dont get the bigg deal it not like they havent changed either! Just cuz im turnin a lil Skater !!! I dont get the big deal and im really sick and tired of it .. what should i do and i tried talkin 2 them but it doesnt work at all !! Please Help me !! I dont kno what i wanna do and i feel like ______
Signed
FED UP!

If they are true friends, they should accept you for who you are. If they don't, then they don't deserve your friendship. Maybe you should find other friends who will share you interests.

Q: my moms boyfriend molested me.. and im really scarred for life!! i told my mom about it.. but she thinks its fine and that it happens to alot of girls.. she doesnt understand how freaked out i was and AM! i think we should go to therapy but i dont no how that would help.. what should i do?

Therapy can help alot. You have to find a way to deal with this, because it'll be 10 times worse if you try to keep it all bottled up inside. If your mom doesn't want you in therapy, you can contact a rape crisis center. They can help you deal with this heavy burden.

Q: I live in Orlando, Fl., dose anyone know a good place to get your hair dyed (unnatural colors ex. blue, purple, etc.) or any good hair dye products that can be found in stores.

Loreal has a good dye kit. It's called burgandy black, but it comes out purple.

Q: Ok well See i may have changed i dont know but im really confused of who i am. SOme of my friends want me to go back to my gurlie gurl fun normal self and some want me to stay my sorta Skater type self?! I want to g0 back and i dont ? I dont know! Im so confused ! Please help me!!!

Signed
*Confused~~

Be your own person and merge the two together. If they are true friends they will accept you no matter what.

Q: i rlly dont wanna go to school tomorrow...i get made fun of, but thats not the point. i just wanna make myself throw up one time. ill never do it again..is that really bad?

Making yourself throw up is very dangerous. one time turns into one more time, then one more time, and so on. Then before you know it, you have a serious problem that you can't stop. Please don't let yourself get sucked into that death trap.

Q: I'm 15 years old & have been with my boyfriend for a few months. He's not a virgin and he's done sexual things with many girls. He told me he was ready to have sex whenever I was. I feel like I don't live up to his old girlfriends and that I'm such a good girl - being a virgin & unexperienced. I'm a little scared to have sex but when will I know I'm totally ready and mature enough to do it? Is it that wrong to not be sexually experienced at 15?

There's nothing wrong with still being a virgin at 15. When the time is right, you'll know it. If there's any doubt in your mind, you shouldn't do it. Once you lose your virginity, you can never get it back. Hopefully your boyfriend respects you enough to wait until you are absolutely ready. He can wait because you're worth it.

Q: This may not be the right category, but I couldnt find a better place. I just found out today that one of my friends from school, that I graduated with passed away yesterday. His friends were going through his cell phone, found my number and called me. I had one class with the person, we always flirted with each other and talked about hooking up. I never called him after we graduated because I thought, yeah hes to good for me. Well, he still had my number in his phone and I feel bad for never calling him. I want to go to the viewing to see him one last time and to pay my respects to him. He was a great guy. But, then again, I dont want to go because I want to remember him from how he was before. I dont think I could handle seeing him in a casket. I dont know what to do. Should I go to the viewing or not? The viewing is Friday..so I need answers soon. Thanks!!

If you really feel that you can't handle it, then you shouldn't go. But on the other hand if you don't go, you might regret it because you'll never get another chance to see him. Maybe you should compromise and go to the funeral/burial, rather than the viewing. That way you won't have the image of him in the casket.

Q: I'm really attracted to my friend. Hes 17 years old and is a total hottie. I really would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He gives me chills down my spine to see him happy and when hes sad it kills me ... literaly. The only thing is, that is stopping me from being with him, is my religion. In my religion it is against my code to have sex with another male. What do you think i should do? I really want to be with him and have sex with him but when i do i feel bad... help please. im an 18 year old male. Weve known each other for 5 years now. please help.

If you are a religious person, then the best thing for you to do is pray about it. Though homosexuality may be against your religion, you have to remember that the rules of religion were set by man. They all depend on how man interprets the Bible (or whatever doctrine you follow). I think there is at least one thing that we can all agree on, and that's that God wants us all to be happy. If the only way for you to be truly happy is to be with this man, then perhaps it's your religion that's wrong and not your heart. God has given us the gift of free will and the ability to love, do with it what you will.

I hope this helps and if you have any other questions, feel free to drop them in my inbox.

Q: Hey, its your advice columnist NicoleMarie. I had my first sonogram yesterday but its still 2 early to see if its a boy or girl. But now i'm excited. Can anyone give any ideas for baby names? But nothing too common. Thank you!

GIRL: Malia
Nevaeh (Heaven spelled backwards)
Liberty
JaceLyn

BOY: Declan
Dakota
Jansen
Gabriel
Isaiah

Q: One of my friends said that her parents thought people who attempted suicide or thought about killing them selves were crazy- and i said that i thought that to, and then my friend said that when people have depression they cant help it so they just kill them selves..i didnt believe it..but is it true that you cannot control ur self when ur depressed? i mean isnt there something u can do about it --HelP * i RaTe hIgH

Sometimes when people are depressed they feel so hopeless that they think suicide is the only way out. But there is a difference between being depressed and being crazy. Depressed people make the choice to commit suicide, but crazy people aren't in their right mind to make the choice.

Q: I'm going into 9th grade, and I have red hair, freckles, and light skinned. What would you suggest I should wear? My school really doesn't have much of a dres code either. THANKS :) [I rate good =)]

I'd avoid too much red or orange. Green and blue look awesome with red hair.

Q: How do u put on liquid eye liner????? i rate high!

Very carefully follow your lower lash line, but be careful becuse if you get it in your eye it burns. I really don't think it's worth the hassle. A pencil looks just as good and it's so much easier.

Q: i need help. i like my best friend. and im not sure if he likes me. and i really like him. he says if we go out it could ruin our relationship. but hes went out with almost all of his best friends.i want his so bad. i havnt had a boyfriend for a long time, and this could be my chance PLEASE DONT DELETE I NEED HELP IM SO CONFUSED!

If he's gone out with almost all of his best friends, and he's single now, then he probably knows what he's talking about. Maybe he really values your friendship, and he's afraid to lose you. Don't push to hard because you might push him away. Just be patient and if it's meant to be it'll happen.

Q: i was dating this guy for about 3 months and things got pretty serious. we spent every day together and he would stay and my house and vice versa. his ex girlfriend called one night and he broke up with me to see if things would work with her and they didnt. he called about a month after we broke up and said that he made a huge mistake for breaking up with me cause i was the best thing that had ever happened to him. we got back together and things were great, actually better than ever or so i thought. one day when she called again he started getting weird again and told me that he once again needed time. i took all of my stuff from his house and said that i wasnt playing second best anymore. i gave him all i had and thought that this was it. that he was the one. and unfortunately im a mess over him. i know he treats me horrible in this situation but ive never been so inlove with someone before. and i dont know what to do. someone just help. please.

If you keep letting him treat you this way, you'll always be second best. You need to try to find someone else that will put you first.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.