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how to cope?
As part of my value system, I feel it is necessary for me to save my virginity for whomever might become my wife.
My foresight has not predicted I would be in my early thirties and still not in the position whereby I would be in a deep relationship.
Being without this in my life has detimentally affected my emotional health.
How can I find the best way to cope?
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If porno and lotion don't help I'd advise paying a hooker. This is simply no way for a man to go through life.
Oh wait you have values....hmmmm....let me think for a second.
I'd seriously lower your standards. I'm surprised you're so distraught when you haven't been able to see what you're missing.
Advertising and mass media can be a bitch in that regard I know, because sex is everywhere. I'd re-evaluate your moral beliefs or start dating overweight mormons.
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Masturbate.
Channel your sexual energy into something else - write a book, paint, learn to play the guitar.
Focus on getting to know people - male and female - and forming connections.
Think more about your value system - does it still line up with your life?
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I know I'm young being 15 and all but I would like to give my insight. I think it's really great that you're saving yourself for marriage. You have your morals. I just wanted to let you know that it's great, other people have already given you advice. At least you know that when you do find someone, they won't be expecting you to use them or anything of that sort and I wish us kids had that type of security now-a-days. I'm sure you'll find the one, because I believe that there is a reason for everything and who knows, the next woman you see could be the love of your life. Just hang in there, you know? You are a good person for having this "value system" and I'm sure that everything will work out. Do you go out? Do you try to meet new people? Well if you don't, then you should. You're never going to find anyone if you don't get out there and meet people.
Lots of Love*
Becca
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I think it's awesome that you've made this decision. It is so hard to find men who share this belief. I truly believe that the greatest gift that you can give to your spouse is your virginity. I don't know if you are a religious person or not, but I believe that God has put a perfect match for everyone, and you just have to be patient, and trust God to lead your soul mate to you. I know it's difficult and it gets lonely, but you have to keep your eye on the ultimate prize. Just think how special it will be to share yourself completely with your future wife.
A friend of mine once said, "Choosing a wife is like, buying a pack of gum. Do you want a pack that everyone's already had a piece of, or would you prefer a fresh unopened package."
I think the same can be said for a husband.
I wish you all the luck in life and love. I hope I helped and if you have any other questions, feel free to drop them in my inbox.
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Well it sounds like you need some female interaction. I know how you feel...Im in the Marine Corps and sometimes we dont get to see women for a while and yes you get depressed. Find some female friends and if you have some go chill and i know you will feel better! Good luck
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damn those some big words ur usin, most the ppl that use advicenators are lost from reading your question ha. neways...if it means a lot to you that you save yourself for some1 special, then theres not too much you can do. but if ur in pain cuz ur not gettn ne action then just get like oral or somn, dont go all the way.
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Hey..just hang in there..the wait will be worth it. These are your values..stick to them. Just watch lots of porn, masturbate, whatever lol. Hang in there..and when your married you`ll be happy you waited.
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