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My sister is so annoying, she is always mad and yelling because she's fat,don't worry Ik that she is not on her P,and I truly hate her, she's also so mean, WE Never talk like normal sisters and I really like that because she will probably yell at any moment so what should I do, btw I'm 14 and I'm thinking of killing her. FOR REAL, so should j let her do whatever she wants and just hate her for the rest of my life just like how she hates me and pretty everyone at the family, I'm not kidding, I'm thinking of killing her cuz that's what she wants.thanks (link)
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There's quite often some rivalry between siblings. Quite a lot in fact. But actually killing one of is thankfully very rare! Still I guess most of us have entertained thoughts of murdering someone who is really getting on our nerves. Again, we rarely do it. In fact, after a time plotting their murder and disposal of the body etc in our minds we tend to suddenly be struck by how horrific it would be. How impossible would it be to live with the knowledge that we had taken all the hopes and prospects and potential of another living person and ended them in an instant? This has a tendency of working the anger towards them out of our system for good, which is a very fortunate and useful little mechanism of our complex minds. I'm prepared to bet that there will come a time when you are good mates. You'll confide in each other and help each other. And you'll tell her how horrible you thought she was at one time, and you used to plan ways of doing away with her. And you'll have a good laugh about it. She might well confess to wanting to bump you off too. Basically, it's a 'family' thing. Sometimes you seem to hate each other with a passion, but if and when it comes down to it you'd do anything you can for each other. Stick this rough and argumentative patch out mate. It will pass. And try not to murder her in the meantime, naturally!!
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I like this boy. Idk if he likes me too..he stares at me 24/7 and his freinds are weird around me....what do you think?? (link)
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I think there's a very good chance he likes you and is interested in you. That would explain the reaction of his friends when you're around. And those who study human behaviour have used eye-tracking equipment in tests time and time again and proved beyond doubt that if we look at things considerably more frequently, and for longer than usual....we're interested in them. There you go...scientific proof of the saying "Can't keep your eyes off of it/him/her." We really can't, even when we don't know we're doing it It's an involuntary/reflex response, as the science-geeks call it. I reckon you're in mate!!
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im 13 and I masturbate all the time especially with brushs and I go really fast and deep and I think the cum sorta smelled like blood the other day so I was wondering if that could pop my cherry (link)
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Hi there. See you've got some great answers. Very sound. The tearing of your hymen which can easily happen during masturbation does not qualify as popping your cherry/losing your virginity and it's nothing to get stressed about. Since a rather enthusiastic technique seems to work well for you, I'd suggest you might think about adding a good quality silicon-based lubricant to your shopping list next time you're out though. They're super-slippery, and even more importantly they don't dry out quickly. It's a sensitive area. Women who enjoy penetration with sex-toys when they masturbate often find it makes things more enjoyable at the time and less likely to feel sore afterwards. Especially if they enjoy vigorous (ie fast and deep, like yourself) and/or quite prolonged sessions.
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People shouldn't get abused .
its not right ... this world is so cruel .
I've been sexually abused all of my life . The thing that kinda kills me the most is that it was my own Father . man I swear I talk way to much . I have such a big mouth for the wrong reason ... I know I need to tell someone .
but im to scared I wish someone could do it for me ... but I know I have to .
and you cant help someone who wont help themselves... man sometimes I feel like just ending it all already and just commit suicide .
I cut myself do everything and cry but I just cant keep myself together . I hate my self my body . it's all my fault .
- just a stupid 14 year old girl who let people touch her because she was to scared to ever say anything .
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Hi there. Can see you have lots of good advice and info. I can see that you're scared to make that first move and report the abuse to the authorities. That first move is going to be hard, but you have to do it. The vast majority of people, and everybody who works in these authorities, know that it is wrong. Just like you know it's wrong. I promise you, once you make that first move you won't have to face it alone. They'll have your interests at heart in every way and they will take over the whole thing. They are in your corner and have the power to sort it out on your behalf. And sort it out they will. But they have to know it's happenning. And they can't know that unless you tell them. Look up some telephone helplines in your country, re. sexual abuse. Make the call. That's all it takes. It's not up to you to 'keep yourself together' in a case like this. Keeping silent is playing into the hands of your abuser. It's what they want you to do. They'll try to scare you out of reporting it. You have to fight back. And you'll have some powerful help. They won't frigthen or bully these guys once they're on the case, that's for sure. Best wishes mate. X
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Everytime i go for a bath when i get out i feel extremely dizzy like i am going too faint and like i am gonna spew this happens everytime i get out off a bath and one when it happened i spewed (link)
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Don't know if you've got any sort of gas heating (inclding central-heating) device in the bathroom, or in a room/landing adjacent to it? If so DEFINITELY get it checked for carbon monoxide leakage. Right away!! Gas fitters/engineers have electronic 'sniffers' which they bring along and check for the gas. And you can buy your own carbon monoxide detectors to fit in your house, which sound an alarm if they pick it up. Dizziness and nausea are classic symptoms of breathing this stuff in. If you stay too long in a carbon monoxide rich environment you fall asleep, lose conciousness and unless somenbody finds you...die. It's that much of a killer. It doesn't smell, and you can't see the vapour (you can smoke from an open fireplace if it drifts back down a blocke chimney and so on, but you can't see this lethal gas). If it checks out OK, then start looking for a medical reason. But check this out first, please.
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I'm a 23 year old f and I'm a complete sexual virgin. Never kissed or did anything sexual, ever. There are two main reasons. I grew up in a religious community with the belief that sex is for marriage, and I've accepted that until now. Also, during my late teens, I experienced a serious illness and didn't respond well. So I was distracted from most normal things dating and friendships for a few years. I'm better physically but since I've come to college, I haven't moved on with dating.
I still like the idea of saving sex for serious relationships, but I'm so sexually frustrated, it's ridiculous. When I see an attractive guy, I feel kind of crazy and like a pervert. When I see a hot scene in a movie, it really turns me on. I feel so weird because I never dated and all my friends (who are all girls) are into bar hopping, boyfriends or married. I kind of want to start dating but I have no experience. I went to a girls school so I started off being not used to talking normally with guys and I never picked it up in college. I wouldn't say I'm ugly or completely socially inept, but I do react oddly to some normal situations. I don't know how to start having normal guy friends. And the other week, my friend's friend took me to a bar and drunk guys started hitting on me, but it was seedy so I freaked out and left. She thought it was weird I didn't give my number because she has a boyfriend and 2 sex buddies.
Help, I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated (link)
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Hi there. You're definitely not a pervert/crazy etc for having these reactions to males right now. It's a case of repressing (squashing down or bottling-up) the urges for long periods. The repression was somewhat enforced (or 'wired' into your psyche if you like) due to the environment and conditions you were in, from what you write. Repressing any strong urges and emotions will ultimately have some backlash, and/or manifest itself in other ways. Rather like the way a child's 'Jack in the box' toy pops out when it's released. A lot of random energy spilling out, bit of a surprise...and so on. So, at 23 you've decided to make your own mind up about sexual relationships. Try not to think of dating as something you will have abstract 'experience' of, since every different guy is in many ways a unique and new experience. Think, would the fact that a guy had dated 'lots of girls' cut much ice with you one way or another. If you like him...so what if he has. If you just don't'click' then equally, so what if he has!! Finding a seedy, drunken guy hitting on you (in a bar/environment that you think is a bit sleazy as well) is unlikley to be a situation many women would really appreciate. Don't worry about that. Your friend finds it acceptable? That's her right and her choice. But she's not you. You did right to keep your phone number dark I reckon. He wasn't the one for you. Follow your instincts. If you find yourself drawn to a guy and connecting on a social level, it will look a totally different ballgame. You'll be fine. You've got a good self-image (when a woman comments that she's "not socially dysfunctional or ugly" I tend to find she's a WHOLE lot better in both respects than her modest description!).
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Before I met my current boyfriend, I was dating someone much older than me, with a lucrative past (he lied about his past, and even his age at first). My boyfriend knows about this guy, but not the details; certainly not his age.
He's never asked, but should I tell him? What if he doesn't want to be with a girl who has a stain on her past?
Thanks :)
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I think there's something to be said for the old maxim "Never hold back information....never volunteer information" in this case. Meaning if he ever asks direct questions about your old ex, give him honest and direct answers. If he never asks, don't feel compelled to tell him, and leave the past in the past. Which is where it belongs really, isn't it?
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I've answered about 20 questions. Gotten 3 ratings and one thank you. I started doing this cause I like giving advice and helping. The problem is that we don't even know if the person who asked the question even saw your answer. The only way to know is if your answer is rated or you get a thank you. I feel like I spend a lot of time on here and I'm just giving advice to nobody. It kinda takes away the whole "helping people" if you don't even know they read your answer. Sure, its good practice to answer some questions, figure things out about myself. Just not sure if its worth the time to keep answering questions that may never find their target. Maybe I'll look for a site that tells you the person read it, at least. Feeling a little discouraged. (link)
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No answer does not necessarily mean the person has not read your advice. We can't force help on people, only offer a new approach, try to shed some light and so on. Your advice, per se, may not be what they want to hear at the time and so the response is likely to be a rotten remark. Purely becuase it does not converge very closely (or at all!) to what they fundamentally 'want to hear'. The advice may well be very sound. Peoples problems are rarely two-dimensional, and a 'good-bad' evaluation is not always possible either. Neither are they always so definitely resolved by a single reply. And an instant response is not a thing we really have a right to expect every time. Possibly it sometimes plants a 'seed' of an idea which may indeed grow and flower when the time is right? Maybe some of your thoughts will slowly be factored-in to their reasonning. Along with other ideas. Don't get disheartend if you don't get a gushing thanks and a gold star every time mate. Not by any means. Their (our?) problems are often too subtle, complex and multi-staged to fit into this rather rigid framework. Remember there are more ways to open a door than banging on it. People other than the recipient browse the replies. Many may find some real gold in a reply YOUR recipient seems to have overlooked, or even dismissed. You'll maybe never know for sure. Taking away the instant gratification of a response does not make your effort futile. Counselling (which is what you're doing) should of course never be about YOU imposing your idea on the subject. Recognise when you ARE doing this, and search again before you post it. Write it again. Then offer it up. It's all about the person who posts it. Main thing, is keep on keeping on and don't be discouraged.
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So I'm a 13 year old female and I have imaginary friends. I know they are not real but I find myself talking to them. I also imagine myself as one of them and have a whole imaginary world with them in it. I sometimes just drift off into my head and then realize I was daydreaming for over an hour. One time in detention (Please don't ask, the reason I was in there has nothing to do with this) I was in there for an hour and a half , and I just talked to them in my head for the whole time. Is this normal, or am I just going insane. :( (link)
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You're not going insane, at least not based on what you've said. It's not unusual for a minds to sometimes 'dissociate reality'. That just means we reject the real stuff and kind of drift off into an imaginary/fantasy scenario for a while. It's a bit of an 'escape capsule' which is cut-off from the real world, with it's occasional stresses and worries. Being in detention is not a great place to be, for example. Much nicer to project yourself into a nicer place for while, eh? Even if you know full well that the place is purely imaginary. In some measure, we all dissociate when we really engage with a movie, tv show, book, or maybe a piece of music and so on. It's nothing to worry about. The fantasy worlds seem more appealing when life isn't going the way we want it to as well. It's a bit of a 'coping mechanism'. Meaning it provides a bit of a relief so we can re-group before we tackle things for real. While you're perfectly happy to acknowledge the fantasy-nature of the friends and scenaria (which you have done in your post just by saying "I know they are not real but...") there's nothing to worry about at all. Do you find that in your 'conversations' you discuss and argue-out things? You put your feelings/opinion out and then see if your friends agree or disagree, approve or maybe not approve, and so on? If so these imaginary conversations are actually having a pretty good effect on the whole. That's exactly the process we use to weigh-up our evaluative decision making. We ask ourselves questions like; 'Is this a good plan? What are the consequences likely to be? Would this be an acceptable path to most people' etc. You have some fully-formed 'friends' at the moment that you're reasonning with, that's all. No worries!
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So a few days ago I had a really bad cold, had been taking several different cold medicines throughout the day, hadn't eaten much and was tired. It was evening, a close friend of mine was going to come over after she was finished at an event later so we could watch some T.V, drink and just bullshit around a bit and take the edge off.
I don't drink very often, and normally don't drink a lot, but I decided to drink a little before she got there, I had two of those little UV vodka shot things you get for like a dollar at a convenience store, and about the equivalent of maybe a shot or two of Spiced Rum mixed with some soda in about an hour.
Which normally with that much, I'd maybe be a bit tipsy, but no where near plastered or actually 'drunk'. But for some reason it hit me really hard. I remember getting up for water and stumbling a bit, and my eyes would not focus. Besides the fact it just felt strange, not a normal drunk.
I fell asleep, and when my friend got there and I woke up, I was a little better but still felt it greatly, and we started playing a little drinking game and just talking, not doing much. And after a little bit, even though I hadn't had much more maybe a couple shots worth at most over another 2 or 3 hours, it was just as bad if not worse than before.
The next day, she told me I could barely walk, was incoherent part of the time and all around couldn't handle myself until I fell asleep, which if I had drank a lot more, I wouldn't be concerned but normally that much, as I said earlier, would get me a bit tipsy, not plastered like I was that night. I'm not the best at handling myself drunk either, but I normally can a bit better than that too. And besides the fact that it was just strange, I remember most of it and I don't remember feeling that drunk, mentally at least.
I don't know if being sick, or not eating or what could of been the reason for that, but I've drank before both on an empty stomach and when I was sick before and that never happened... I don't know, let me know what you guys think. (link)
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Off-the-shelf cold and flu remedies just don't mix well with the booze, like Rahzie said. A lot of prescription medications don't either. One of those lessons hard learned in your case, but I reckon a lot of us have been there? Apart from the active strictly medical ingredients (which often simply clash with alcohol in your bloodstream), a lot of cold cures have a fair bit of caffeine in them. Specially anything that says 'express' of ' super fast acting' (or such like) on the box. That will amp up the effect of the booze for sure. In broad terms, the booze and meds might have some unexpected side-effects. One booze and meds 'cocktail' might make you extremely sleepy and lethargic. Another might make you really wired, positively hyperactive. You can't rule out a really bad reaction either, particularly if you've had a lot of remedies and a lot of booze. Guess the message has to be lay off the drink altogether when you're taking them. Makes life a bit more predictable mate!
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I am a storm chaser and I'm becoming increasingly surprised, disappointed, and disturbed at how poorly my hometown is prepared for bad weather. I don't know if I'm being dramatic or not, but either way, we have a problem and I don't know how to fix it.
Our town does not use tornado sirens. We have them, but they're never used because the city feels they cause more harm than good, which I completely disagree with. In the past, when they'd go off, it would cause a panic, which would sometimes cause people to do stupid things, like get into car accidents and things like that. Although I understand why they quit using tornado sirens, I don't agree with the decision to do so at all. I mean first off, the whole car accident thing was rare and could be prevented if people were just better educated on tornado safety. People who are already on the road are one thing, but people who aren't need to know better than to get in their cars and try to go anywhere anyway. Even if the car accident thing doesn't improve, the lack of tornado sirens seems to be more problematic.
There was a tornado in town this past Thursday. It
damaged some houses and a golf course, but LUCKILY it didn't cause any injuries that I know of or deaths. Long story short, I wasn't working on Thursday and was home watching the weather channel all afternoon. There were thunderstorms that came and went all day and we were under a tornado watch, but a tornado touching down was never reported. It should have been. There's no way in heck that NO ONE saw that thing because It was in the middle of town. If tornado sirens were still in use, they'd have probably gone off and given people enough of a warning to get to safety. Instead. most people like me didn't even know it'd happened until it was over. I found out when I was driving by that part of town and saw the damage. What REALLY scares me is that the tornado hit very close to where my mom works and SHE didn't know about it until it was over as well. I also don't know how my town expects people who are asleep or somewhere away from a TV or radio to get the message if a tornado hits.
In addition to that, a terrible, terrible accident happened Friday night. That was the night that seniors from the town's high school had their graduation ceremony. After said ceremony, one senior, her parents, and her brother went to the airport to get on her dad's bonanza and fly out of town for a wedding on Saturday. For some reason, her brother actually stayed behind. He went to the airport to see them off, but relatives were going to keep him while his family was gone. There was a bad thunderstorm Friday night that her dad should have known he couldn't fly in. He tried it anyway, their plane crashed and burned, and there were, of course, no survivors. Not two hours after an 18 year old honors student, who was extremely excited about her very bright future, walked across stage and got her diploma, she was dead due to severe weather circumstances that her dad badly mishandled. Her brother is now an orphan and an only child and I can't say for sure, but I think he very well may have seen his family's plane crash.
Almost a month ago, a man from my city (although he moved away a while back) died in a flash flood. His city was flooding and while on his way to work, his car somehow ended up in a creek. They think his vision was obscured due to the storm and he couldn't see the water in from of him, so he drowned and made his wife a widow and his two small children fatherless. Oh yeah, and this happened to his wife TWO DAYS before Mother's Day. Happy Mother's Day, right?
I guess what I want is better awareness of the proper safety procedures to follow during such bad storms. I want tornado sirens back in use, and I want some kind of measure taken to prevent planes from being able to take off during storms. My question is, how do I get it done? Who do I talk to? Please help me if you can. I'm legitimately worried about the safety of my friends, relatives, and others in this town, but I don't know exactly how to help. Any ideas? (link)
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Letters/e-communication with the local government (that's the English term for the local civic officials, mayors and coucillors etc...not sure what you call it in the US, but I'm sure you know what I mean. Not central, in Washington/Whitehouse...local city/county hall and stuff). If you've got a local newspaper definitely try to get them interested in an article or story? I can't say we have 'storm chasers' in the UK. Our weather is not particulalry dramatic the majority of the time...just wet! But I'm aware of the scene in the US. Seen exciting pictures and video. And you've got first-hand, up-close experience of just what the storms can do. A local newspaper might well have a nibble at story like that. It's interesting and exciting. If I was editor, I'd be interested, I'm sure.
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Hi I'm Jay and I'm 15 and my boyfriend told me he bought condoms today, he's 16, and we haven't done anything more than make out and touching.And him buying condoms is kind of shock to me, I asked him why he bought them and he said just in case but we won't be doing anything anytime soon. He knows I'm still iffy on having sex and that I'm not sure If I want to do it yet. What does this mean. Is he planning on having sex with me? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks (link)
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Can see that your guy buying condoms would seem to be putting out a strong signal that he is thinking about having sex, and presumably with you? Sounds like you aren't making any actual provision or plan for the event just yet. That's fine. Has to be your decision. So, it's come as a bit of a surprise/shock to you finding that he's thinking about the practicalities right now. I'd put it out of your mind as much as possible. He's bought some condoms. Just in case....for as/or/when required, say? That's actually a very good idea in many ways. Shows he's being mature enough to understand just how essential it is to take precautions and acting accordingly. I mean, in the real world not every couple (espeially young couples) actually end up having their first encounter exactly when it's envisaged upfront and planned. He's got some...just in case. That's a whole load more sensible than finding things get a bit heated one day, neither of you has any but you take a chance and do it anyway mate. That is asking for trouble in a big way!!
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I am 14 year old gal i want 2 start having sex i just feel insequre and i fuck my self with a toothbrush.this man was wiling 2 pay me for it wat must i do i mean its worth it cause i need to break my vigirnity hardcore (link)
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This really does sound wrong, on every level. I'm sorry. Don't know if you're connecting with this man online, or face-to-face. Either way he's bad news. I'm not judging YOU. Quite honestly, you aren't the first, only or last 14yo girl to be eager in your mind to start sex. And find out what all the fuss is about, feel what it's like and so on. These urges are natural, common and don't signify anything unusual about you. This guy is planning to just use you for some short-term amusement. He's taking your natural curiosity and exploiting it for his own pleasure. Nothing more. He won't care what you want, or how you feel. Just forget about him, and forget the idea of going along with it. I promise you, you'll regret it if you do. In many ways. You'll get nothing positive or pleasurable out of it. In fact, you'll feel awful, during and afterwards. You'll find much more enjoyment and satisfaction pleasuring yourself (the toothbrush thing, if that works well for you...or experiment a bit). Really. It's perfectly appropriate for you to be doing that, and enjoying it. Take care.
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BACK STORY: I was with a boyfriend for many years, and I was on oral birth control (daily pills). Well, I suffered a burst ovary because of some sort of hormonal imbalance caused by the pills (don't use Micronor!) and was told that particular ovary may be 'gone' and not functional. About 2 months or so later we broke up (super stressful situation for unrelated reasons) and he moved out of town.
Approximately a month thereafter I was having severe lower abdomen pain and started a quick-onset super heavy period after not having it in the previous 3 months (it was becoming very irregular with spotting here and there around when it was supposed to arrive). I was informed by the clinic that it was probably because I had gone through extreme wight fluctuation (really skinny to larger, back to skinny and then bordering fat because of the hide-in-a-corner depression and then overeating), but they sent me for urine & blood tests just in case it was something else (cancer, heart disease and diabetes runs in my family). Since I was in a don't-eat-anything phase, I was able to immediately go to the lab, where they discovered that I was pregnant and sent me to an ultrasound clinic later that day. Basically within the 2-4 between my appointments my mind was racing trying to figure out how the heck I was going to get through this as 'dad' was now out of the picture, I was along and broke, about how much relief I felt that I was able to carry a child after my medical condition earlier that year, and how much I already loved it, and the stress of explaining this to my parents (i was 23 and live on my own, but am very close to my parents). I was once again confused/relieved/sad when the ultrasound tech told me that what I had experienced overnight (the whole reason why I went to the clinic) was very likely a miscarriage. Enter even more emotions of guilt, thinking it was my fault. I 'got over it' in about a month or so and didn't tell anyone, basically tried to block it out. Well, like 8 months later the emotions came back as it would have been the approximate birth week. That was hard as hell. Until I went through the emotional trauma of exactly a year later and it killed me.
I am currently with someone new, whom I love very much, and we are in a very good place and moving forward. I was able to hide the emotion (or successfully blame it on something else) but I just keep getting super depressed despite my life being very happy right now every time I think about it, which is increasingly a lot because we are making future plans including marriage and family. We've talked about my concern of not being able to have children because my ovary issue, and he's been super sweet about it, but he doesn't know why it worries me so much...
I guess my question is, should I tell him about it? Is it relevant to our relationship if we are not trying to conceive any time soon? Is he entitled to know? Or can I keep this to myself forever? Or at least wait until if we even do encounter conception problems? I am just confused and sad and can't think rationally. (link)
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Personally, I don't think 'right to know' issues are so much the criteria you should be evaluating your decision on. It's more the fact that you have suffered some traumatic experiences, and they need to be 'processed' properly. It's much to much to keep to yourself. OK, we can selectively edit-out bits of our past...and many of us do. And 'blanking' bad experiences does occur. You sound completely rational about the events themselves in your own mind, however. It's purely the question of disclosure that's the problem now, isn't it? The act of hiding and suppressing it will cause all manner of emotional and mental conflict and instability. Remember that guilt isn't valid here either, is it? You haven't brought these on yourself, either deliberately or through lack of thought. In many ways, and in many cases we have no choice but to play the hand we are dealt. I think you should discuss it, rather than put it off. It seems you've already told him 'half the story' as it were, and it hasn't put him off, has it? Get the whole thing out into the light, painful as it is. We all spend far more time worrying and fearing than we are actually hurt, I think? It's not fair on yourself trying to keep all that hurt bottled up mate. However strong you feel you are, it's too much to ask of anyone.
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I swear I'm not doing it anymore, I hated it. I wanted to see how it felt to cut myself. I tried only twice, one on the bottom of my wrist and one on top. The bottom one is bumpy, Is it going to leave a scar? The top one is just a normal cut that will heal. The bottom one is the one I'm worried about. Please don't lecture me on how I shoulden't of done it, I know and I feel guilty. All I want to know Is will the bottom one leave a scar? Thanks! (link)
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It's very hard to say which small wounds will leave a noticeable amount of scar tissue when they heal. Also, how critically are we judging? A slight mark that you have to pretty much know is there, and even then inspect yourself super-closely to spot? Will it be noticeable in a month? A year? For life? From the way most people cut themselves, I doubt you've given yourself a big, noticeable scar that will last for life. I doubt you wounded yourself so severely as that. And before long, no, I doubt there will be anything you need to worry about hiding or feeling stressed about. Main thing is, as you say, you don't go doing it again. It's easy to very quickly build up a mass of scar tissue by repeatedly cutting yourself. And that would indeed be something to worry about. I shouldn't think that twice, and in spots a good distance apart, will have marked you horribly for life and constantly remind you (and anyone else who notices) of what you did. By nature, it's addictive/compulsive and people who get into the pattern of cutting don't just do it twice. They keep on at it over and over agin. Then, it's gonna damage tissue permanently, and it's gonna show. We quite often do cut ourselves accidentally, and bleed quite profusely. I know I have. It seldom leaves a trace. But don't do it again mate. Repetaed cutting WILL leave lumpy, pale tissue showing, and it's not very attractive, is it? And hiding your arms and wrists is just about impossible. Unless you always want to wear long sleeves and a pair of gloves!!
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I have a very sweet boyfriend that wants to have sex. He is my first boyfriend and I want to , but im scared I will get pregnant. I know to use condoms but they can break. And if I were to get pregnant everyone would look at me like a whore. Should I wait?HELP (link)
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Providing they're used correctly, condoms are just about the safest method of contraception. Breakage is usually due to either getting air trapped inside the condom when he's putting it on, or perhaps accidentally tearing it slightly when it is put on (maybe a sharp finger nail jags it?). Both are easy to spot if you look carefully, so don't be in too much of a hurry to 'get started' (as you might say). Have a good check to put your minds at ease before he penetrates you. Or, to put it right. Obviously a nicked or torn one you discard and fit a new one. Naturally, it stays in place until he's ejaculated ('cum' or whatever you want to call it) and has fully withdrawn from you. Having him squeeze it around the base of his penis as he withdraws is good practice. Agree that if for any reason he feels it break of slip off (he'll be more likely to notice than you) than you stop immediately and put things right. Millions of people use condoms every day to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Discuss all this with him plenty of time before you have sex. Make sure you both know and understand how important it is to use condoms properly and responsibly. Now, the decision of when you have sex with your first boyfriend really has to be yours. Condoms won't be any more or less safe in a month, or six months...or whatever. And you still won't want to accidentally get pregnant. I'd say if you feel comfortable and happy about the idea of a sexual relationship with him, sort out the safe birth control issue and do it. If you've got any doubts about starting sex yet yourself then wait. In all honesty, the only way to be more safe than using condoms properly is not having sex at all, ever. And I wouldn't think a healthy young lady would think much of that idea. You'll want to be intimate with some boyfriend, some time! Have a think about the relationship. About how you feel about each other. About progressing it to a new level. Remember it's YOUR body, and YOUR choice.
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Sir,I'm having a cough for about 5 days and I'm coughing followed with a pain on my right chest like blowing up.I was given clamovid by my doctor but there was no improvement. My question is what caused the pain. Thank you. (link)
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Chest pains are never a good thing and if it persists go back and see the doctor as adviceman said. There are some muscles between your ribs, called intercostals and you can certainly strain these by coughing hard. Just one or two really deep coughs might do it. There's no actual treatment apart from rest and not over-reaching or exerting yourself for a while, though it's often very painful indeed and can take a long time to go away completely. The doctor will be able to get you to do certain actions to see which ones do or do not make it jab or ache and so on, and tell you straight away if it's a muscular thing or not. But don't ignore it if it comes back or goes on too long. Like we said, chest pains always need investigating. Muscular damage from coughing can be painful, but it's by far the 'best' result when you speak to a doctor about chest pains.
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I am not 18 yet but i want a tattoo and i know someone who would do it. what would be the best spot so my mom wouldnt notice it? (link)
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It might be a good idea to think in terms of not only where your parents can see it, but somewhere that it won't be revealed in a nice dress either. I'm including shoulderless dresses, ones with short hemlines and possibly with cutaway waists. They're quite honestly looking a bit 'yesterday' anyway, and not always things you want to be too obtrusive in certain company too. Tattooed arms, shoulders, necks, and (even worse) thighs and ankles can look a bit unpleasant sticking out above and below the line of attractive evening wear. Safest might be something quite small in the centre of your back, but low (slightly below the waist, or above your bum, sometimes called the 'small of the back'. You'll have your tattoo. It'll show on the beach in a bikini. And you can show it to people you know well of course. But it won't spoil the look when you want to dress to impress. Or maybe a small one on your hip, one side or the other? Even when you are 18 and can do as you please, I'd advise you NEVER to have your wrists and hands, neck or (god forbid!) any part of your face inked. There's no way you'll ever hide them, and it stands a good chance of completely ruling you out of high-profile customer/public facing jobs. Simply because a lot of people really don't want to see tattooed women and the chief executive of the outfit won't risk you. I know media celebs are often tattooed. They are the exception. They don't play by the same rules as the rest of us, and it's ridiculous pretending they do. But it's true that a model or actress just starting out will actually rule themselves OUT of many opportunities by having really 'in your face' tattoos. Get one by all means, but give a thought to where and how visible. In ten years they'll be as out of vogue as any other ten year old fashion. Diffrence is you'll be stuck with them, as they are permanent. Removal is not invisible by any means...look at people who have had them removed. ps. Agree with your other answers...make sure the tattooist knows what they're doing. No kitchen-table bodge jobs and dodgy hygeine practises please!!
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My dad and brother are always calling me fat. I got used to them calling me fat tho. But now at school most friends call me fat and always say I'm really heavy. When they call me fat I laugh it off and smile like it doesn't hurt but it really does. I'm 14 and weigh 118 lbs. I never saw my self as fat. My mom is saying I'm getting fatter. My jeans are getting tighter and tighter. And I feel like the more people call me fat the more I eat. I spend more than half an hour staring at myself everyday. And I feel like I'm getting bigger and bigger. I try to lose weight but I can't and that makes me feel worse. I don't know if I should let their opinions influence me. (link)
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Don't let people teasing you hurt you. Dads and brothers are notorious for teasing in this respect. Mums less so, usually. If your mum is suggesting you might be putting on a bit too much weight, and you feel like you are yourself (this second one is the really important issue here, because it's how YOU feel about yourself) then maybe it's a call to get more in the shape you'd like to be? What you don't do is stare at yourself and get hung-up about. It's in your hands. If you don't really like the way you look, change it! OK...no silly starvation diets, or making yourself sick after meals. That's a bad path to embark on, sure you know all about these psychological eating disorders? You could take a look at what you're eating? Sugar-laden soft drinks, sweets, snacks, fast food and fries? All guranteed to put the weight on. Sticky sugar, saturated fats and empty carbs mate! Look at what's usually called a 'more healthy diet'. It's not just about the amount you eat, it's about giving some thought to WHAT you eat. And get a good exercise regime working. Doesn't have to be expensive gym membership. There's plenty of stuff you can do at home/out and about and needs no equipment. Books, lifestyle magazines and websites will give you all the info. You can 'target' bits of yourself you'd like to tone-up too. Good muscle tone is key to presenting a good, pleasing 'shape'. It's all very well saying it's your right to look how you want to. And nobody has the right to criticise etc. But if YOU really don't like the way you look, that's all pretty academicc isn't it? If you don't like a thing, change it. I'd certainly have no hesitation if saying that being fitter and not carrying needless weight makes one much more healthy. Eating more because you're upset about people suggesting you're fat is one of those psychological 'vicious circles' by the way. Eating does make us feel good, more comfortable and reassured mentally. You might have heard the idea called 'emotional eating' or 'comfort food'? Obviously, it's counter-productive in the long term, because it makes you put on more weight and attracts more teasing and perpetuates a personal negative-image. I guess the acid-test is if everyone (Dad, Mum, brother, other people) was magically silenced and forbidden to mention your weight, would YOU still want to be slimmer? Just for yourself? If so....you know what to do.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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Hi. Sorry my reply is a little late. Been away. I think many people are uncomfortable with excessive PDA. Mostly people don't do it I find, at least not in very public places and spaces during the daytime. Like public displays of anger and aggression, most people realise it's not what one might call 'good form', not really what other people 'want to see' and behave accordingly. We might expect somewhat more unbridled displays of emotion (angry and affectionate) in a nightclub for instance. But there is clubbing behaviour, just like there is clubbing dress, and neither arequite 'the thing' in a queue at the supermarket! Sounds a lot like YOU couple were making some kind of statement by the behaviour. Enjoying the attention, reactions, maybe issuing a silent 'challenge' for someone to make a point? It's not exactly illegal, as they'd most certainly make an issue of pointing out if someone took the bait? It may possibly be that it was a challenge re. interracial relationships? Possibly they felt they had some point to make and were looking for a chance to make it? I reckon the best way to handle it is like this. Don't dignify provocative gestures/acts with any response at all. Deny the protagonist the attention they might be looking for, if such is the case. It's up to folks what they do (within reason) but how we react to it is our choice. Always has been, always will be. They cannot control/manipulate that. I agree with you that it is 'bad form' and not a case of envy, shock, anger etc. I would not engage in similar myself, however fond I was of my partner. It sounds like you wouldn't either? I guess it may excite some observers too. Once more, that is their personal reaction. Banning it would perhaps end up lending it more dignity than it deserves? And could certainly be seen as an opressive, heavy handed piece of legislation? It's maybe fair to say it becomes rarer in increasingly 'polite comapny' as we might call it. Where manners/protocol/good form etc still have a great value. I agree with all your sentiments in essence. But in general I wouldn't like to live in a society where a legal and judicial system could make it an actual offence. That strikes me a bit too much state power mate!
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