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well i really like this guy and he is real nice including really HOTT. Well i want to do some thing with him because ive not got to hang out with him out of shcool. but im not alowd to have him over. eny ideas were we could hang (link)
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Hi, theres plenty of options:
1. Cafe
2. Park
3. Go to his house
4. Go somewhere were it's quiet. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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I wanna be a flight attendant, so after high school I'm gunna get trained to be one. Is it hard to become a full-time flight attendant? I have a family friend who works for a flying company and is well known with the company, so will this help me? If I become a flight attendant, do you know how much time I'll be flying...like will I be at home only for a day every month..? I'm kind of clueless. (link)
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Hi, it all depends on what flight your on. If your going around the world let's say to London then you might not see your family for roughly a week. If your going through America then you might not see them for lets say, part of the day. Being a flight attendant can be quite stressful because your constantly on your feet surving people, getting food organised and at the beginning letting the people to their seats and what have you. It might sound like it's nothing, but believe me Ive flown on a plane and they are constantly on their feet. But Im show if thats what you want to be then go for it. Work hard, because being a flight attendant, you need to work hard. Daniel.
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Ok i'm 15/f and i haven't done anything with a guy exept kiss and its like a peck not like making out or anything. i feel like a prude but i think i would be ready to have sex if the opportunity came up. I have gone to a catholic private school all my life and next year will be my first year at a public school. My question is will things be different will ibe pressured into things more so than at my old school? (link)
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Hi, there will probaly be the average few teenagers who talk about sex and do things stupid. It is 100% normal to have had not sex at your age. Your still quite young. Don't let any pressure you into it. If anyone pressures you into things then talk to a school Counsellor or better still, a Teacher or even the Principle. Take your time. Don't rush into anything. Daniel.
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I'm a 14/f and i haven't had a bf in like over a year!i think i might be giving off the wrong vibe to guys but i'm not a les.I'm supposedly the prettiest out of my friends and i like guys but they dont seem to like me!Help please! (link)
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Hi, people like people who know people. What I'm saying is people tend to talk or go out with you if you join in something that their interested in. This could be anything from lets say sport to clubs. The best and possible way of making friends is to show your face a little more. Go out have a laugh and join in the fun. Boy's tend to go for girls who are with friends and have a laugh. That means that your a fun person wich Im show you are. But whats the rush, your only 14. Get to know people as friends first. Daniel.
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How do you make a good natural conversation? (link)
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Hi there, you've basically got to go up when the time is ready to her and introduce yourself. Or sometimes like for example if you were at a party or something similar then say something like, "Hi, what do you think of the party" and take it from there. What are you looking for out of the conversation. If your looking for a date or girlfriend then just talk to her every day and as each day comes talk even more. Aventually it will get easier and you won't feel as shy as before. You might find that your confidence lifts you up and you can talk more and more. Then maybe when you feel ready just say something like "You know, I was wondering if you would like to hang out and talk some more sometime" If she says yes then congratulations. If not then just keep your head up and say "OK, maybe another time" Aventually you will notice if or if not she actually wants to go out with you. Complimenting her will tell her that your friendly and a nice kind guy. Making eye contact with her will show that your interested in her, especially with a smile. Heres 3 tips when talking to a girl:
1. Compliments
2. Ask open questions
3. Small talk
Say things like "Hi, wow have you done something with your hair? Because it looks really nice" or "Hey that dress really suits you" or basic "Hi, your looking very beautiful or nice today". Remember not to say things rude like call her sexy or hot. And don't keep looking down at her bra's. Girls would think your after sex. Just go with the flow, and remember those 3 tips when in a conversation. Goodluck!!! Daniel.
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i told a guy i like him over 4 days ago and we haven't talked yet! well, we don't talk on the phone becuase we dont have eachothers phone numbers but we talk on aim a lot. i have to talk to him soon because waiting 5 days for something that i wanted to know 5 seconds after i told him. Do you have any ideas about what to do. and i don't want to sound like a stalker. lol (link)
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Hi, just pop round to see him sometime. Look up his name in the phonebook. Be careful though, you don't want to be seen as a stalker. Daniel.
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okay, to start off, when i see a hot guy on the street, i automatically think "they're hot" and when i see a pretty girl on the street, that NEVER crosses my mind, i just say to myself, "i wish i looked like them, i wish i had their body" etc. but there was this myspace with "i'm horny, fuck me" as the name, and when i looked at her pictures i got horny. they were of a woman's body, lubed up and she was covering her breasts and her vagina. an di watched a video on youtube of a woman dancing and stripping, and it showed her butt. i'm fifteen and female, and i admit to masturbating, and when i masturbate to men i get turned on, but i tested myself and thought about women, and i just got grossed out. could dirty pictures of women just turn me on because i wish i LOOKED like that, or should i question my sexuality, taking everything else i've said in this question into consideration. help please, i rate high. (link)
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Hi, just because you got turned on by a women does'nt mean your Bi. Really you decide wether or not your Bi. Some boy's get turned on by men. Sometime's we can get turned on because we wish we were them. Do you feel that way? Ask yourself, do you really like girls? Or is it boy's that you really like? That should answer your question. And remember, just because we get turned on by the same sex as us does'nt mean that were Bi or gay. In fact the only real way to know if your Bi is if you had sex with a girl really. You decide. Who do you like the most:
1. Boy's?
2. Girl's?
Daniel.
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Hey! Does anyone have any advice on how to successfully make out? What exactly do you do? I rate! Thanks so much for any answers! (link)
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Hi there, basically you just go up to her slowly and open your mouth a tiny bit and will you know the rest. French kissing involves exploring each others mouth with your tongue. Try not to be sloppy and perhaps take a mint before doing it or some listerine. Girls don't like boy's who have bad breath. Daniel.
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On September 20, 2004, i started going out with this kid, Bryan. Me and Bryan only lasted like what? 3 months? we broke up on January 3, 2005. Even though it was a short relationship, i can't get him out of my mind. But when we were going out, the world felt like there was no misperfections at all. During the time we were together, i met this other kid, Rich. Rich was hotter than Bryan, and I wanted to get with Rich. [which was stupid of me]. Bryan did everything he could to change my mind. When I broke up with him, he came to my house the next day with roses. Anyway, now, i think about him all the time (bryan). When we broke up, he started to pretend like everything was okay. He was an ass to me, and everyone knew that it was because he was still mad that i dumped him. and i told him i was sorry. But he just doesnt listen. I know that he still loves me though. The bad thing is, is that he went to DR two days ago. He's staying there for a YEAR. i cried when i found out. Me and bryan had our convo's where we talked about the past, and he always said stuff like "I was the best thing you ever had". or like "I gave you my all, and you gave me shit". And i know he's upset, but i still love him. And i don't want to tell him [even though i think he knows], but what should i do? He says that he never loved anyone in his life, but theres a feeling in my gut that tells me that he really loves me, but he doesnt want to admit it. Maybe i'm just imagining things, but i dont know. So what do you think? Should i just get over him [which i've been trying for 2 years]? Or should i tell him everything..how i feel..and all that. I'll rate 5's to anythingg. (link)
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Hi, the best thing that you can do is tell him how you feel. Hopefully then he will tell you how he feels and yeah, take it from there. Keeping things inside for to long can upset us. See how things go when you ask him. You might never get the opportunity again. Daniel.
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How do you kiss someone without a slobbery mess or something stupid like that? and how do you let someone no u want to kiss them without an awkward silence or a lame saying? (link)
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Hi, a kiss with out all that slobby stuff is probaly one that does'nt involve french kissing. How do you know when it's time? Will for starters when it's the right time and place and it's relaxing. Just sit with her and maybe do a little flirting or talk about something very very slowly something that's relaxing. Then move your head forward very very slowly and if she's ready she should move forward slowly too. If she moves her head to the side, don't get offended. Maybe she's just not that ready for that, or she does'nt want to do it now. Just say something like "Or I'm sorry, was I moving too fast?" Good luck!!! I will be interested to see how it works. Daniel.
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OK let me just say I am the type of person who can settle arguements easily and I can cooperate and really liten to my partner so dont think I am selfish. But lately we have been fighting about everything. And he likes to just ignore it and talk lets say the next morning or w/e. The problem is that I cannot sleep until I fix the problem. Today he said something that really hurt my feelings and i am sick of solving problems and him not giving a shyt. I love him to death but think i should dump him. (link)
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Hi, you both need to really sit down and talk about this problem if your relationship is to go on. Relationships do involve arguments and bad feeling but if it's constantly happening and it keeps on hurting you then it really really needs to be discussed. If he won't and refuses to talk to you about this problem then really things are'nt going to work out for long, and then I suppose it would be fair to dump him. Try and talk to him. If he carries on and just can't be bothered to discuss it then he's not really that bothered about you or the relationship now is he?
Daniel.
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I trim, and I want to start shaving. but do I just, shave it all off? I've heard that you can do different shapes like the "Bermuda Triangle", or do the "landing strip". But which would be the best thing to do? And are there other types of ways to have it look?
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Hi, theres probaly loads of things you could do such as, checks, stripes and shapes. I would keep it on though really. Daniel.
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how acceptable are erections on nude beaches how do i keep from getting one? (link)
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Hi, there probaly quite acceptable because erections do occur mostly around people. However it can also be quite embarressing. But be careful, some girls could get offended if your talking to them with an erect penis. Wearing shorts would be an advise. Daniel.
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Ok, so I've liked this girl for a long time, and during the beggining of the school year she also liked me (I didn't know it back then). Now, she's going out with one of my friends, but we still talk a lot. She also keeps on asking me who I like (A lot!) Every time she says that though, I just ward it off by saying something else. So my question is...should I tell her that I like her, or keep that secret safe with me? (link)
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Hi there, Yes I think it would be a good idea to tell her because it gives you the chance to just tell her once in your life how you feel. Even if the girl rejects you, hey you can still be friends and maybe work on it again next time. She will feel flattered. And heres 3 tips when having a conversation with her:
1. Compliments
2. Questions
3. Small talk
Just go with what your heart says. Now it's up to you. Let me know how those tips go on. Daniel.
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I can usually keep my cool but get shy hence my name but like i've kissed girls but i've never made out liek french kiss. How do you actually french kiss do you just put you tongue in the other persons mouth? On dates what topics do people usually talk about? and when you call a girl and talk for hours what do you talk about there also like ive talked for a long time but it was random stuff not anything like a topic... (link)
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Hi,
1. French kissing is exploring your partners inside of her mouth
2. On dates you can talk about pritty much anything, things like what you would like to do when you grow up, or funny things that have been happening in your life lately. Things like past girlfriends and sex you should'nt really talk about
3. On the phone you could plan your next date, were she's going and questions like what sort of a day have you had? Remember to ask open questions than closed questions. Daniel.
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All the popular girls in my school (yeah this is kinda mean but its true lol) they're all pretty ugly. yeahh some of them are pretty at times, they have nice clothes. but they're not like extremely gorgeous. some of them are even a little overweight. (not a lot, just like kinda chubby) even so, the boys are always all over them. and i really don't understand why. yeah, they're outgoing and flirty.. but still. i know i'm not the prettiest girl out there, but i'm not bad. i have nice clothes.. but the boys in my school hardly even notice me. the only thing is, is that i'm REALLY shy. but around my friends, family, and people i've known for a long time, i'm really talkative and outgoing. the people in my school don't seem to realize that however. so i'm known as some girl who never talks practically. and it pisses me off because i know i do talk, they just don't know anything about me. but like, the boy i like is popular, and is always flirting with and around those girls.. what they see in them, i don't know.. how can i get boys to notice me.. especially since i'm going to high school in september and there's gonna be new people. i've never had a real boyfriend before either =[ 14/f thnx. (link)
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Hi, boys can be funny creatures can't they? If you want to increase your chance of having a boyfriend then use these tips:
1. Start more conversations
2. Flirt, show signs that your interested
3. Look good but most of all FEEL GOOD about yourself (boys like girls who are positive and feel good about themselves)
4. Give body language, smile alot use eye contact, flirt and give a guy a little wink
5. Create the opportunity
Heres 3 tips when talking to a guy:
1. Compliments
2. Small talk
3. Questions
See how it goes, but you must create the opportunity, get back to me if you like on my column. Daniel.
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alright you guys i need answers fast and i need good ones. theres this guy nate who i met about 5 months ago and after about 2 months we started liking each other and we made out a couple times. now, tomorrow he wants to hang out and he plans on taking it to the next level. im 15. everyone i know is telling me to wait and lecturing me so please dont. the thing is, is i want this to be really special and i dont want him to just think of me as just antoher girl (im a virgin and hes not) and i know that im getting really strong feelings for him and the thing is is like i dont know how he feels about me and hes not the type of person to come out and say it and it would be akward if i asked. today i was trying to talk about it and i was like if i said i didnt want to what would you do and hes like well id try to sweet talk you into it but then id just give up and i mean thats how he is and it was funny but i dunno im really stressed. what do i do? (link)
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Hi, Are you ready to take it to the next level? You don't sound to show. You are still quite young and have you 2 even considered contraception? I would'nt do something your not show on, especially if it's stressing you out. If you don't know how he feels about you, how do you expect to have a good relationship with him. That sounds all one sided. Daniel.
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So i was dating this guy and we were getting pretty serious and I was completley head over heels in love with him, and he claimed he was too. EVerything was perfect. Than out of no where tonight he dumps me because he wants to date around and doesn't want to be in a relationship. What do i do?? Is he lying? i Need advice ahhhh (link)
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Hi, if he really loved you, then he would want you, not anyone else. It sounds as though he has lust for you than love. And when we feel lust, we tend to go from one person to the next. Were as love, our feelings are all towards one person. I think he might be agreeing to lust than love. If he is, then hes not worthy of your time. Its love, honesty and respect and he seems to be breaking all three of those rules. Yes I do think hes lying and he does'nt deserve you. But first try and talk to him about it. Let me know how it gets on. If you've got anymore questions or want help then just go to my column. Watch this guy, he sounds as though he's after you for sex or make outs. Daniel.
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so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple months and i love kissing him. and i always want to. we havent done it that much though. and its because i am a nervous wreck every time. he was my first kiss and weve never really made out or anything and he knows that im nervous and that he was my first and he knows i think i have no idea what im doing and he trys to make me feel better about it but i still cant help it. i want to make out with him but i dont know how to or how to get over the nervous thing. please dont say just go for it cuz i wish i could lol. any help you can give would be GREAT!! (link)
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Hi there, it basically will come the time were you 2 will be in a quiet warm cozzy spot and you will both stair each other in the eyes and lean forward. Then you've got to decide wether or not your going to do it or your going to move your head to the side. Being nervouse is only natural at first, but if you keep feeling nervouse then you will never get to the next level. Why? Because your losing confidence. You need to be a little more confident in what you do. Confidence is the positive side to nervouse. Just make out with him when you really feel as though your going to burst if you don't. Trust me that feeling usually comes when your in love with someone. Here is the facts:
NERVOUSE
negative, hide away, not confident
CONFIDENT
positive, feel ready, just go with it, follow your heart
Sometimes when we are nervouse our body is trying to tell us that we are'nt as ready to do whatever than we actually want to. Sometimes we need to listen to our feelings. When you feel confident do it. At least you know you were ready. Daniel.
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okay me and my boyfriend has been dating for 3 months now. but we spend everyday together baicually we see each other at least 2 days or more.. so it feel like from both of our point of veiws we have been going out for at least 6
but we havent and we have kinda been you know moving fast in the sexual area i have liked him for 3 years and..and we kissed b.c we went out not make out kiss. but pecks and he went on some dates b4 we went out and now that we go out.. we have been going fast..... we are to the point that we are thinking bout ORAL!??!!
so is that bad can and relationship have too much lust me and him has talked about it he gets kinda annoyed everytime i bring it up because he says at least 3 times a day i love you more than anything/with all my heart... and.. i dont know
its the the oral that bugs me its the time period we have been dating. i mean its been 3 months it feel like forever....
is that good or bad?
and too much lust ruin out relationship
he says i can stop it if i want to.....
ILL RATE HIGH!
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Hi, for starters I think 3 months is'nt long enough to be deciding for Oral sex. Maybe an extra 3 months before you consider doing it. A relationship should have many feelings and desires involved, but most of all it needs:
Love
Respect
Honesty
For it to work. Yes, having lust wich includes sex is a big part in it, but love and being a friend has even more. Limit your lust. Create more love, love is affection. Don't mistake love for lust. Too much lust could possibly ruin a relationship if the other partner does'nt want it as much as you do. Just think love love love. Love, honesty and respect are the only 3 major things that you need. For lust to happen, you've both got to love each other, not have oral sex because of what he looks like or what he might have to offer you, but first, love which includes affection. Once you can be a friend to him and love each other, then really your ready to take on the next step, Oral sex. Do you understand what I mean? Let me know how it gets on. Daniel.
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