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well i weigh like 230 and im only 14 and i want to lose weight b4 high school cause of the formal plus i want to lose weight b4 my prom and prom is probably gonna b n may..well i need sum tips and stuff on how i can lose weight and how to eat right cause i have a eatn disorder to..i want to get over it..It Is driving me crazy. i want to get my belly button periced and stuff and wear a 2 peice during the summer and wear lil clothes not be fat (link)
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Ask your doctor. That is probably the best thing to do, but also exercise and go on a diet. Research some diets that will work best for you. You can work out at gyms or swim or join sports or anything. Stop sitting around and eating junkfood that is probably the worst you can do. Also, control your portions.
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Ok here is the thing.. this guy at my school likes me right.. but i dont like him. he kept askin me out and i kept sayin no so the other day he wrote me this note and it said i really like u so do u wanna go out with me if u say no i will leave u alone .. and i felt really bad for him cuz he sounded sooo sad so i said yes.. but he keeps callin me and i keep giving him excuses that i cant talk on th phone. . but yesterday he called me and his friend started talkin to me and sakin me questions about him like if i love him or not and i said i dont know then they both got mad at me.. i really want to break up with him but dont know how to put it.. can some one PLEASE help me! (link)
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You shouldn't have said yes in the first place because you see where that got you. You need to be upfront with him, but in a nice way. Tell him that you felt pressured into going out with him and were confused about your feelings for him. Tell him that you don't want to go out with him right now and that you want to wait awhile before you can decide if you really like him in that way. By the time he asks you again, you can tell him that you only like him as a friend. He should respect that and if he doesn't that is his problem.
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I have the lead role in a play, and i need advice on how to memorize my lines! any ideas? Thanks soo much! (link)
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Take little parts at a time. Memorize your lines in chunks so that you don't have a whole lot to memorize all of a sudden. Also, try working on them with a friend. Practice a lot. Repetition is key.
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im going out with the best guy ever his name is paul i love him 2 death he calls me almost everyday and i just love everything about him. I dont know if my friend is jealous or just mad. Well my problem is im sick of hearing that my friend says the me n paul are like married just because we hang out we go 2 eachothers houses, go to movies,mall, and friends house's. i mean i think she is jealous bc her bf austin doesnt call her talk 2 her or do anything with her the only thing they have dont together in the 5 months that they have been going out is that they say one movie and saw eachother at a foot ball game well i just want 2 tell my friend 2 shut up bc she's jealsous but i mean i dont want 2 be mean bc she is my friend i just dont know wat to do help me plz (link)
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Talk to her about it. Ask her why she's is being the way she is. You don't want to come out and just tell her she's acting like she is jealous because that would be mean and cause more anger than is needed. Explain to her how you feel and try to see her side of the situation. She might be having problems that she doesn't feel like she can talk to you about.
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Dear avice columnist,
there is this really hot guy that goes to my school.He is so nice to me.but he has this girlfriend that is really pretty nd he is head over heals for her.I mean lyk in LOVE LOVE LOVE with her.But the thing is that when ever we are watching a movie in science class he turns around and talks to me sits on me lays on me nd my heart skips a beat everytime he does.But I dont think that he really likes me because of this over girl. she is Rich,can do alot of flips and splits in cheer and is pretty,so I dont think that he does but that does not keep me from wondering well maybe he does but I dont know.
Thank you,
Does he like me (link)
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He is probably just flirting with you. The friendly flirting way that doesn't mean anything. Guys are confusing in that way. By the way, it doesn't matter that she is rich. If he's in LOVE as you have said, then money is not an issue with him. She likes her personality and the way he feels when he's around her. When you describe the girl you describe only physical things, you need to get over the outside and realize that it's the inside that counts. Even if that sounds corny it's true.
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Hey. Alright, this guy really likes me and no one has ever liked me like that before..people keep telling me to go out with him because he likes me and even if i dont like him, i should just "settle." Well, yea, um, i don't think thats right and im curious what your opinions are on that. Plus i really like this other guy but it would never work out for different reasons, and the guy thats likes me is sort of experienced and im..not..i want to save all my firsts for someone i really like. Should i just settle for the guy who likes me? Is it stupid to wait for someone i really like? (link)
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NEVER settle. It'll hurt the guys feelings eventually and it'll be uncomfortable for you. You'll end up feeling obligated and it will just ruin relationships for you. You deserve more then jhust what you can get. You probably feel excited that someone likes you, but trust me it will not be the last time. I also agree with you saving your firsts for someone you like. It is a special thing and it deserves a special person. If you will feel uncomfortable with the guy that likes you then there is no point in going out with him. Maybe the guy you like won't like you back, but you'll move on to someone you like and who likes you back and then you'll know it's the right time to have a boyfriend. Don't wait for the guy to like you back because that might not happen, but don't settle just to have a boyfriend.
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I have some friends that I used to know really well that I would talk to all the time, and we could talk about almost anything with each other; well not so anymore. And it seemed like all of a sudden we didnt talk. What happened and why? Is there anything I can do to reverse this? (link)
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Not really. Maybe you guys have just drifted apart and it is time for some new close friends. It might come back to the way it was eventually, but don't try to push the friendship. It might make it more awkward.
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what does "two stepping" mean, like you do it a rock shows and stuff... explain, cause i feel stupid (link)
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I know with R&B 2-steppin is a dance step like the new Ciara song 1,2 step, but it could be a completely different thing.
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I go away to school and I have a little sister who I dont get a chance to see a lot. This past weekend, I came home but I didnt spend as much time with her as I should have. We got into a little fight and when I left, I didnt even say goodbye to her. Do you think she can forgive me? (link)
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Sure she can forgive you, sisters love eachother no matter what, but you need to talk to her as soon as possible and apologize. You also need to listen to her side. She could be having some problems that she wants you to help her out with or maybe she just really misses spending time with you. She should understand that you want to do your own thing sometimes, but you need to understand that sometimes she needs you.
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This year i started a new school and made a really good friend. We do a sport together so we became pretty close fast. Well I am switing back to my old school cause i'm really unhappy at the one i am at now. Well i have to tell my new friend that i'm not goin to be goin to school with her anymore. What should i do cause i dont want to hurt her feelings but i need to tell her. (link)
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Just tell her the truth. Tell her that you love being her friend but everything else is too hard and too much for you to deal with. If you live close, then you can possibly still hang out with her. It won't be like it used to be, but it will be better than nothing.
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I have been cutting myself for a while now. My best friend Dylan knows about it and he wants to me stop. It is very hard to stop doing because it is addicting. Dylan and I got in a big fight last friday because he found out the night before I slit the crap outts my arms. He cares about me alot but I honestly dont want him to care. He always tells me that he loves me and I tell him not too. I hate when he tells me he loves me bc he only loves me as a friend and I wish that he loved me as more. I am in love with him. He hung up on me last friday and it is monday and we havent talked since. IDK what to do. Is he gonna stick by me through these times of pain or abandon me. If I love him should I stop doing what I have been doing and try to get some help. PLZ help me! (link)
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That's exactly what you need to do. If you love him you will stop cutting yourself and get some help. Obviously there are some emotional issues that you need to work out and cutting yourself is not the answer. He might not end up loving you back but you will have to accept that and find a way to move on. He obviously cares about you if he has stuck through it with you for this long, but he might be getting frustrated that you are not listening to him. He can only help you out for so long before he loses hope. It also seems like you are pushing him away. It is hard to help someone when it seems that they do not want to be helped. Especially with someone who is not a professional and who is your peer and has emotional ties with you, it is hard for him to deal with a situtaion like this. Once again, if you truly love him you will get yourself some help. He might think that he can not be in love with someone who does not love themselves and cutting yourself doesn't show that you love yourself.
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I am a 16 yr. old female and I have a question to ask you.What sould i do if my best friend has told a total private secert about my childhood and private life that she wasn't suppose to tell anybody? (link)
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You should confront her and talk to her about it. She needs to understand how important it was for you to trust her and how she has broken that trust. It is possible that she will never regain your trust and your friendship with her will suffer because of it. There isn't really much else to do because once something like that happens it happens. It depends on the people involved on how it will be resolved.
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I'm very overshadowed by my best friend. She's a very flirtatious, outgoing, redheaded vixen and everyone wants to be friends with her. Now, I don't mind it so much, I'm happy that she is well liked by people, but it's the fact that I seem to be getting less and less attention from her every time she meets somebody new. Especially guys. Every guy she meets has had a crush on her. (Except, thankfully, my CURRENT boyfriend...note that I said CURRENT..ex-boyfriends are another story) And often times she has crushes on them, but she still has to complain about them liking her. She seems to treat me like a child and she's the "All-knowing-one", especially when it comes to relationships, and it's really starting to piss me off! She steals my jokes and claims them as her own OFTEN and she says that I'm a bad friend because I once decided to stay with my boyfriend instead of going to hang out with her, while she has ditched me many a time to hang out with guys. (I can think of two instances from just last week.) I'm really bothered by her, yet I remain her friend and most of the time I really don't know why. And I want to talk to her about this, but I've tried before and she always apologizes and then forgets about it two days later.
And when it's just her and I things are fine! We have a great time and everyone's happy and once again I've become the comedian between the two of us, (material she later steals from me to use in front of her flirting victims), but when it comes to boys I'm completly ignored and she's off in the corner creating some sort of drama. It's weird for me, because before I befriended her I was always the center of attention among the group. I was the loud, funny, loving one who everyone wanted to give hugs because I would gladly dish them out. And now it seems like nobody has any time for me because they all want to be with her. Like she's taken all of my friends, but still claims that I'm her best one.
What should I do? I know the most logical thing would be to stop being friends with her, but we've been together for so long and we have most of our friends in common with each other, so there really would be no way to avoid hanging out with her. (link)
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Truthfully, it seems like she's is your safety friend and vise versa. You two are probably pulling apart from eachother and your personalities might be clashing. She might be jealous of you like you are jealous of her. Both of you wanting something the other one has. It seems inevitable for you two to have some kind of problems. My only advice is to not cut her out of your life completely, but to slowly distant yourself from her and get other friends you can depend on more and feel happy with. A friend that you can only be happy with when you two are by yourselves doesn't seem like a very good friendship. Also, ignore her drama and call her out sometimes on it. Make her realize that what she is doing is ruining your friendship along with it not being needed. She might not realize what she's doing because noone tells her.
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My boyfriend and I have been together since the summer, I'm 15 and he's 16. He has mentioned the holidays coming up and he really wants to get me something. I never even thought about it because I didn't even know we got to the stage in our relationship where we buy eachother things. Now, I have no idea what to get him. We haven't been together for that long and I'm worried whatever I get him he won't like. How do I make something sentimental, without looking cheap or stupid and how do I buy something for a 16 year old boy? (link)
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Talk to him and ask him. Tell him that you want to give him something he will like and if he says anything you get him he'll like then you tried. He will probably appreciate that you attempted to do something to make him happy. I think it is better to get something you know he will like then to waste money on something he won't ever use. Then again, whatever you get him he might not use but could think of you everytime he saw it. I guess it depends on how comfortable you feel with each scenario.
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k, so my ex and i broke up about two weeks ago from a two-week relationship, but the thing is, he thinks were on a "break" which isnt the case at all, because i really need to get over him. He was a really bad boyfriend and used me for sex pretty much, it's not as bad as it sounds, but yeah, so he wants to be friends still talk n stuff, but i really cant stop thinking about how bad he was to me n stuff, but should i call him and talk to him about this since were still "friends" or should i completely blow him off? please help, i`ll rate (link)
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Blowing him off could come to haunt you. Try talking to him and making him understand how you felt about how he treated you. Friends is always a great way to go, but if that makes the situation worse then you just need to cut him out of your life. You also need to make sure he understands that you are not on a break. That kind of confusion could cause so many more problems. If talking to him doesn't help and he becomes bitter or angry, then stop talking to him. You can say you tried.
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im 14/female. i used to have this really good friend. we could talk about anything. he was like my big brother. well lately (in the past few months) we've grown apart so much. we can't talk to each other about anything and i get mad at him over little things. i don't know why our relationship is changing so much. i miss how things used to be. any ideas why things are happening like this? any advice on what i should do? (link)
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People change and grow apart. That's how life is. Your might not ever have a relationship like you used to, but try to maintain some kind of relationship. If not a strong friendship, atleast be able to talk to eachother. Talk to him about how you are feeling, maybe that conversation could explain some things. Try to think about why you get mad at him for little things. If you realize your doing that, it's a step in the right direction. Sometimes relationships are just not able to be fixed and you have to come to terms with that.
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we just started going out and i have a feeling that he has girls that he flirts with and makes out with and stuff. I know he likes me and i like him so much but i'm affraid he just wants to have sex with me. I cant talk to him about because he gets all touchy.What should i do? (link)
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If he can't talk to you about it, there is something wrong. You deserve better than someone who can't put all of his attention on you. You need to confront him without backing down, if he gets touchy than thats how it is. It looks like it's going downhill already, so don't go down without a fight. Make it work. Make him understand that you need answers or it won't work out.
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I'm 14 and a female. i have been liking the same guy for a little over a year now and he likes me too but we havent dated becaues he said his dad told him i was too young, (im 14 and he's 15) but he said when i was in high school we would date. He told me he loved me and i said it back because i meant it and thought he did too.Right before high school i heard he did things with another girl and confronted him when i called his cell phone and she answered,so we didnt talk for a few weeks. Then, he began to talk to me and began to act really nice and told me how he regretted what he did and how sorry he was. So, we started talking again and it didnt feel like it was working out. THis was after homecoming, which i went with a senior who now likes me. Well me and this 15 yr old were supposed to date after homecoming, but it didnt happen because he hardly called me and it felt awkward, so we called it off again. recently he has been calling me a lot and inviting me places, like to his house and to a wedding, and he told me the song my boo reminds him of us and he's really serious this time , but we still are not dating and he hasnt mentioned it, i know it sounds crazy of me to still like him but he says he loves me and he means it and that he wishes he would have done things differently, so what do i do? (link)
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Feelings are difficult to understand and so are teenage boys. Although you might like him a lot, be careful especially if he has led you on without coming through so many times. Talk to him to make sure his feelings are true and see if this is really going anywhere. If you find out it's not, then although it might hurt and you might like him for awhile, move on. If he did stuff with another girl, he could always do it again. Have faith in him just be true to yourself. You don't need a guy to define yourself. If he's really the one for you and worth the trouble, you'll know in your heart.
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