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what is sXe

sXe means straight edge.

It refers to people that refuse to do anything that might be considered a vice. Refusing to drink, smoke, having sex would put them into this category. Some hardcore straight edge people probably would even refuse to cheat on a homework assignment.

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Okay well me & this guy are best friends and we really love each other a lot {but just as friends not bf gf}. and he told me today that i make him feel like shit. So 2nite on the fone he said its the way i always turn everything good in his life negative, and i think im just telling the truth. We both know that i don't have the will to try for anything, I have never had the will to try, so he won't believe me when I said I'm gonna rly try not to be so negative. Also tonight on the phone i asked him if I was a horrible person for doing this to him and he said I'm not gonna lie and didnt answer... and when he finally did answer he said im rly tired and I need to go to bed. So i dont kno if he was jus ttoo tired or if im a horrible person! Please please help me!!! he's my wprld and idk how to get him to trust that i'll try!!! help this heartache is killing me!!!

Can you say specifically how you make things "negative" in his life?

From what it sounds like, your guy friend likes you as in he wants you.

Try to figure out what exactly he wants, you can either figure this out through being direct(asking him what he wants) or subtle(asking his friends). Chances are that he wants you though. Other than that, just be as nice to him as possible.

But just for the record, he sounds like he's trying to play a guilt trip on you.

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What are some good AND UNIQUE ways to write a class prophecy(10 year-forecast of you and your mates...)? Can I find some examples in the Net? If so, where?!
Please help me! I need to write one within the next two days and I don't want it to end up like those that i've read which all seem the same....

Thanks in advance!

Well one thing you could do is analyze each of your mates and see which kind of profession and future will best suit them. If you want your prophecies to come true though, I would recommend that you write your prophecies very vaguely(like what they do in chinese fortune cookies) If you want to see a good example of vague prophecies, search up nostradamus online. A lot of his prophecies, which were written hundreds of years ago, have come "true" because his prophecies were written so abstract.

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My boyfriend and I got in a fight today. I would really like to talk to him but I do not wish to pick up the phone and call with nothing to say.

I need to think of a voicemail I can leave him that will make him worry and once again pay attention to me.

Any advice?

Well, you could always suck another guys cock and let the whole school(I'm assuming you go to school based on the immaturity of your question.)know. Then when your boyfriend asks you about it, deny it. Deny it completely.

Or you could attempt to become a decent human being and instead of being a complete manipulative, heartless, bitch, you could just try to talk to him directly and try to get over your fight. Something along the lines of "Hey, I know we both disagree on (whatever you guys fought about) but i don't want this to harm our relationship so...."

If being a cold heart bitch is indeed what you want, then I got a few more suggestions if sucking another guys cock seems a bit too extreme for you. First of all don't act a terribly disease fell upon you, guys don't give a shit if you are sick. A few things you could do is

1. Record a voicemail with a male voice in teh background saying something that could be implied as sexually suggestive.

2. On your AIM, MSN, Yahoo, messenger programs, have an away message saying "hanging out with (insert male friends name here)"

3. Dress and act like a slut but stay away from him. If he's not gay, he'll come for you.

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i did something totally embarassing on friday that makes me never want to go to school againn. okay well we were reading some boring paper thing in science and it was about organisms and how they pollute water or something like that, i don't know. well my teacher passed out a worksheet and we had to write down the answers to the questions from the text, and by mistake (i wasnt paying attention) i wrote down "orgasm" instead of "organism". when my teacher was correcting the papers and she came to mine, she just literally burst out laughing and that freaking asshole TOLD THE CLASS that i wrote that down. i died of embarassment, seriously.. i cant even face that class anymore. what can i do?!!?!?!?! pleasee helppp. thankk you.

Just blow if off or laugh at it.. Chances are no ones going to think bad of you, they'll just think it's funny and laugh(not laugh at you, but with you).

Also, go up to your teacher and tell him that what he did made you really embarrassed and feel really bad. That way he'll feel bad about what you did and will be more likely to give you a better grade later on in that class.

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I work for a solicitor in a town in Australia. This morning my boss came out to me and another work mate and told us that we may have to start looking for new jobs in the next few weeks.

He told us that he's going to have to close the business because he will be declared bankrupt if he can't do anything about it before the 16th of April!

I don't want to lose my job, I love working here! The girls are great, I like the work, but we are struggling for money every week to pay us!

Is there anyway at all that I could possibly do something to help my boss keep his business going?

I feel so sorry for him, he has no family and his life is dedicated to this place! I just want to help him out.

Any suggestions? Thank you so much!

Well first of all, how big is his business?

Also, prehaps he could go public with his business and sell stocks or have a larger company invest in it? Another option would be merging with another company.

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okay so i have upper abs, but what are ways to get lower abs? cardio & running which i'll do when its warmer but what else? crunches don't work so don't say them haha.. thanks

Leg lifts or pretty much any movement involving lifting your legs up against gravity. You can do situps in which you not only bring your head toward you knees, but your knees toward your head.

Another thing you could do is to go in push up position, except have your elbows and forearm touching the ground, and then hold that for as long as you can. that burns fat in your abs and shoulders. Remember that only your toes, elbows, and forearms can touch the ground, no knees, abs, or stomach.

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13/f. im depressed. i really wana do track. but my mom wont let me. because she thinks id run away bc i could run longer and faster. she doesnt think i could go far if i didnt do track. i can. i would. i have alot of nerve and reason to. is that a stupid reason for her to say? how could i get her to change her mind. whats wrong. im just confused.

Your mom is a fucking retard. Tell her you don't need to be in shape to run away from home. A lot of kids who run away from home are out of shape coked up meth/cocaine addicts. They couldn't run a mile under 20 minutes.

In addition, doing track will help you relieve your stress and make you feel better about yourself. This could be a key factor in helping you get over your depression. Tell your mom that track will help you become healthier both emotionally and physically.

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I haven't gotten my period for about 2-3 months. Just so you know, I'm NOT pregnant that I know for sure. I'm still a teenager so what could be the cause of this? Could I just be erregular or something, I mean it would be a little strage if I were but can someone tell me ALL the possibilites for why I haven't gotten my period for almost 3 months. Is it possible for me to have entered menopause already? What are the symptons of it? Could someone get it this early?


All reasons possible?

Several reasons

1. You're a teenager and teens don't get their periods regularly.

2. You exercise too much. Exercise prevents girls from getting a routine period.

3. Being too skinny/eating disorder. Both of those will make you lose your period.

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I was molested by a family member of mine when I was little. I don't remember what happened at all and I've questioned my sexuality since I was 11 or 12 years old.

I've been afraid of penis' since I started fooling around with guys at 13.

I don't know what it is but unless I'm "under the influence" I can't muster up the guts to go down on my most current boyfriend.

Now, I've done it before but every time there's a new guy involved, I freak out.

I really feel like I'm being selfish to my boyfriend. I've also talked to my sister and him about it, but it just seems like there's nothing anyone can say to make me feel better about the whole thing.

What in the world should I do?

Being molestested when you were young has probably left you some childhood trauma and screwed up emotions that you keep bottled up inside. I'd recomend seeing a therapist to help sort this all out. Unless if you've already seen a therapist for this, chances are this tragic event will harm you even more later. A therapist will probably help you get over your fear and insecurity.

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Ok I just want to know some stuff about drinking:
how do people pass out from it?
Drinking how much is ok?
why do people pee in their pants when they're drunk?
and what does a hang over feel like and how do you know that it's a hangover?

How much you drink depends on your body weight as well as your body type.

People pass out from drinking because alcohol is a drug and it does that to you when you drink too much. It messes up bloodflow, heartbeat, and metabolic activity. It also destroys your liver over time as well as your brain.

If your body lacks enzymes that break down alcohol, you should not drink alcohol at all. This trait is often seen in Japanese people.(not being racist, but it's a genetic fact)

If you're drinking for the first time, I'd recommend no more than 7 beers, and that's considering you're weighing about 150 lbs.

If you're female and around 120, I'd say 3 beers and bring a friend with you.

if you're 220 lbs, 6 ft 3, irish, german, and been drinking your whole life, drink as much as you want.

People pee their pants when they're drunk because they're stupid and make lose self control.

A hangover feels shitty. You will know a hangover when you get one. If you don't know if it's a hangover or not, it 's not a hangover.

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Last night I cut my self shaving by accident and there was like three cuts and they bled a lot. Like.. The blood soaked through a tissue and a bandaid and now around the cut its like purple.

What should I do ? Like why is it purple?

There could be a chance it's infected. The solution to this is rubbing alcohol. It will be painful but necessary.

Also, are you a hemophiliac? If you are, I'd suggest going to a doctor.

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ok here are most of the bands i listen to: the offspring,green day,sum 41,blink 182,all american rejects,the used,korn,hawthorne heights,nickelback,my chemical romance,red hot chili peppers,avenged sevenfold,nirvana,three doors down,system of a down,from first to last,bowling for soup,linkin park, taking back sunday,and rise against. mostly i like punk rock like the offspring and sum 41 so i was wondering if anyone knew any punk rock bands? and anyone know good emo rock bands like the used? im into that stuff :D. and any other good rock bands like my chemical romance etc.? i listen to the radio but i dont really find it quite helpful >.

Sum 41 and and offspring aren't punkrock.

Here are some recommendations

Based on the bands you listen to, try some of these bands

nine inch nails
marilyn manson
secret machines
soundgarden and alice in chains(if you like nirvana you'll mostly like those to)
Postal service
Jet
White Stripes
Yeah Yeah Yeahs
Death Cab for Cutie
Trapt
Bad Religion
Underoath
Hollywood Undead

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have you read any really really good books lately? i haven't read a really good book lately, so i was asking for your opinions. something teenage-y, and something you enjoyed reading. i would love to get some suggestions for books.

thanks.

heh

The best teenage books of all time:

1. The Catcher in the Rye-J.D. Salinger
2. A Clockwork Oraneg
3. The Perks of Being a Wallflower-steven chbosky
4. The Fuck Up

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what is a good diet pill to go on. i want one that wont react with my birth control (yasmin) and i actually want results! has anyone gone on any really good ones that you dont need a doctor to get or are very expensive?!

Here's something you might not want to hear, but the truth.

Diet pills are retarded and don't work very well.

If you take diet pills(which are unhealthy), you'll immediately gain back the weight you lost once you stop unless you change your eating habits.

The best way to lose weight is to exercise and to eat healthy. Diet pills should only be used by those who are extremely overweight, not someone who is only 10 15 pounds overweight.

If you still really want to take diet pills, try trimspa. If that fails, try laxatives.

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I really want to be a model. a lot of people tell me that id be a good one. the problem is, i'm too short. i'm not a short person, and i have really long legs. but right now, i'm only 5 foot four and a half. i did a thing that predicts your height when your older and it said i'd be 5'5.5. thats not good enough. does anyone know if that should be around right?
my height: 5'4.5
my weight: 86 lbs.
my fathers height: 6 ft
my mothers height: 5'4

if anyone knows if ill be tall enough PLEASEEE let me know! :)

you can still be a model for magazines, advertisements, etc... The only thing you probably can't do is runway. I believe the minimum height requires for runway is about 5 10ish. Other than that, you can probably do whatever you want.

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I am having a boy/girl party in 2 days, with 30 people. (I am 13/f.) my mom is ok with having guys there but she says if she finds out we are playing spin the bottle or other guy/girl games that i will be grounded. and some of my friends moms are calling to talk to my mom to make sure we wont too. i need some ideas for games. i will have music and food but what else should i do??

Well as you said, your mom will ground you only if she finds out. The trick is to not let her find out.

You guys are too young for your parents to be ok with you making out, but you're too old for little games like pin the tail on the donkey.

I'd recommend you'd not let your mom find out that you're doing stuff that you want to do(but she doens't want you to do). If you're not willing to do that, I'd suggest just having a dance

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13/f

I am going to a party Saturday with people from another school who I do not know very well. It's just a birthday party; but supposedly the guy who throws these parties makes them crazy fun [hookups, major freak lines and stuff].

The thing is, I need a cute, sexy, not sleezy outfit. Skirts are a "no no"... I do not want to look like I am dressing up.

I dress sort of preppy/vintagey.

Does anyone have any good ideas?

Tight jeans and a tank top.

If the party is really crazy, don't drink anything and stay away from the brownies.

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At school we play volleyball. I love to play and i am going to try out for to team in high school. but at school every one yells at me when i go for the ball. they dau that i am not staying in my spot. However, they are not going for the ball so if i dont the other team will win. what should i do?

Belinda

If you're good and the rest of your team sucks, screw them.

When I played volleyball in middle school I did the exact same thing. My team won every damn time.

however, if you don't want to appaer to be an ass, I'd recommend staying in your spot.

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im trying to lose weight and i figured that the best approach would be to eat 6 small, healthy meals every few hours, and do a total of 2 hrs of cardio. if i continue that, how much weight do you guys think i would lose in a month? my current weight is 168 right now. thanks.

Well how tall are you and are you male or female?

If you're signifigantly overweight(20-30+ pounds) than you'll lose a lot of weight from 2 hours of cardio. I'd say probably 10-20 pounds a month if you're very overweight.

If you're slightly overweight, you'll probably get into the weight that is average for your size within a month.

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