Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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Age: 21
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Often times I act like I don't trust my boyfriend; even when I don't realize it. I'll check his phone and his myspace because I know he flirts with other girls, I mean he's told me he does.
Well, sometimes I get really defensive and mean to him because I'll just assume he wants to be with some other girl. How do I chill out and just be sweet to him like I used to be? (link)
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Honey I am so in the same sitation.. it hurts I know!
I have come to the conclusion that its because I love him so much and I never want to lose him!
How long have you two been together? If its been a while then why would he want to throw that away?
Trust is a major thing in a relationship and you can't really have a relationship without trust.
Perhaps talk to him and make him understand why you get all defensive and mean to him, if he's flirting with other girls it shouldn't be happening.
He is in a relationship with you and only you, flirting with others just isn't on, you need to make him understand that you love him but him flirting with other girls hurts you amd thats why you get defensive!
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13/f i used to be spoiled but now they do not care about me, mainly just my brother. i got along so good with my mom. now my mom is against everything i do. so im going gothic. but now im alot happier? exept with my family especially my mom! im just so happy in my room and around friends or at school. but then i even see my family i get VERY deppressed i just get very mad and cry and confused and have to just leave.but i hate her she says i do everything wrong! ~A~how do i change this i HATE it? i can not talk to her or get a theripist. ive been alot better now with headphones in all evanescence. she doesnt like my jewelery, clothes, friends, music, how i act and what i do. and its a fact. THE HOLE FRIENDS THING STARTED WITH MY HUGGING MY BEST FRIEND CUZ I WAS CRYIN SO HARD I HAD A SUICIDE THOUGHT. should i tell her i had a thought, someone i knew also just died from suicide i would probly get sent somewhere like rehab for deppressed people. she also wont let me go anywhere or be with guys. or my best friends. my main best friend is a guy. then im in a group with 5 girls and 2 other guys. so i sneek. shes taking away all i have. im deppressed enough as it is. my friends say shes the one making me deppressed. i sneek with guys and my friends. i have nothing without my friends. i say im at the mall with other people i could care less if she catches me but i want to be with my friends the only people in my life who i will talk to and have fun with. she HATES my friends becaus their gothic and my best friends because he a guy but hes preppy were in total oppasite groups we dont care. but im so mad and crying my head off! if i ask her she gets pissed so i cant ask ~B~how do i make it so i can go with my friends and guys. also tell me honestly anything you think i should do and any questions i forgot. (link)
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Your 13 hunny, you want to grow up to fast! It's not good for you!
I can understand where you are coming from when you feel happy when your with your friends and your not when your with your family because I use to feel the same way!
I got into a bit of trouble about when I was your age, I hated everything, hated my life, hated everything, especially my family.. but when I was out of control and really needed someone to talk to my family were there for me! No one else.. not my friends who I thought were my friends but just my family!
You are only 13, if you want to live your own life and think you know everything about the world well i'm sorry sweety but no one is really old enough to take on the whole world.
As for your friends, if you didn't want to change and you want to have a good relationship with your mum, invite them around and make a good impression. Your mum is only looking out for you! She doesn't hate you and the things you do, she's just trying to teach you whats right from wrong.
Just think through what you really want to do in life, think about how you want your relationships with your friends and family to be then act on your decisions but DO IT THE RIGHT WAY!
Yelling and screaming and crying isn't going to solve anything... it will only create heart ache!
Your family loves you no matter what you think! You think the whole world is against you but really its not. You are against the world! Do you really want to be the person who has nothing? Who is out on the street? You may get the freedom you want but what else will you have?
Just think about this and the way you are treating you mum.
If you were to take your own life how do you think your family felt. Your parents would be heart broken to think their little girl hated life so much and they couldn't do anything to stop you because you never opened up to them. Your friends will cry i'm sure but will they be the ones to visit your grave? Will they be the ones to will cry every night for years after and will always remember you?
Probably not!
Sorry Hun but you have to look at reality now, this is your life you are playing at. It's not such a bright idea!
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Ok well i got my braces off a few months ago...but i dont like them...they are like tiny and go inward and its really annoyng...and yes i wear my retainers all the time...so my question is, is there any way that they can make it so my teeth don't go inward?? I hate it! (link)
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I'm affraid you would have to go to the dentist for this one. You can't physically change your teeth by yourself.
I'm sure your teeth are a lot more nicer then what they looked like before you got your braces.
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I'm a lacrosse player (womens) and I was wondering if there are any "experienced" players here who could give me tips on how to get a more powerful shot. thanks in advance (link)
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I'm from a little town in Australia so we don't have lacrosse here but what I could suggest is build your arm muscles up.
If your arms are stronger then you will have a more powerful shot! :)
Do some weights!
Hope I helped and good luck with you lacrosse games! :)
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15/f (16 This Year)
Everyday I literally spend hours trying to take great pictures. A typical photoshoot involves choosing a camera (usually my Nikon D40), choosing a model (usually my best friend), applying her makeup, arranging several different outfits for her, setting up lighting, taking hundreds of pictures, reviewing them on the computer, arranging them into folders, cropping them, editing them, retouching. After this I send them to her and we talk about what worked well and what to try next time. Sometimes I do this for myself, because (like most teenager girls) I like to put pictures of myself for my friends to see (myspace, etc).
I never realized how much effort I put into this, it doesn't even seem like work at all. Right now I do it for fun, but could I use this as a career? I am planning to get a degree in marketing and go from there. Right now I have a 4.0 GPA (straight A's - and have for the last few years) so I can basically do anything that interests me.
Does any of this hint to a suitable career path for me? I find advertising very interesting if that helps. I also love to be creative, indepdendant and to be a leader of a group. I am also interested in trying to promote positive messages (anything that makes a person more happy, confident, comfortable with who they are, etc).
Thanks, help is greatly appreciated! =) (link)
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Hi there,
I say go for it, if you are doing this just for fun but are also really good at it why not use your talent for your career?
This is like a hobbie for you, you obviously do it as a passion so if you enjoy it so much then take advantage of it.
I would luurrvvee to get paid for doing things that I do best!
Hope I helped.
Oh by the way.. I wouldn't mind seeing some of your pictures :)
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hi im to embarrassed to moan during sex and i feel like im bad at it?
what do i do to overcome this fear?
19/f (link)
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Ask him if he thinks its hot!
I never used to moan but my boyfriend started too and I thought it was hot!
Your partner may not think you enjoy sex if you don't moan, you don't have to but it sort of gets you into the mood!
Don't be embarrased.... it's normal hun!
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would this dress make a person's hips look larger?
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2888866/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6001765~6001766?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6001766&P=1
Do you like that dress or this one better?
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2922331/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6001765~6001766?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6001766&P=1
thanks ! (link)
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Well the first dress could make hips look bigger it depends on how small the top half of the body looks!
I luuurrrvve the second dress! It's hot!
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okay i have a six inch penis and i am uncircumcised. i feel like am the only peson uncircumsied.is there anyway you could be circumcised at the age of 14.I NEED HELP FAST!!! (link)
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Is there any reason why you really want to get it done?
My boyfriend is nearly 21 and he hasn't got a circumcised penis and he pleases me just fine!
The only difference is that you are able to keep a circumcised penis cleaner then an uncircumcised penis.
Not to mention the excruciating pain you will go through!
But then if you really want it done.. ask your mum to make an appointment!
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15/m
So recently, I told my sister that I'm gay (her and I are really close) and she promises to keep it a secret. She just got out of a relationship with this guy(let's call him X). I recently found out that X is bi so we started being friends and now were secretly dating. When my sister found out that we were dating, she completely flipped out because since I'm gay I should follow the girl rule: "Girls don't date other Girls' exes" and told me that if I don't end things with him now, she's going to tell my parents that I'm gay. I really like X, and I don't want to end things off with him just because my sister believes in this girl rule. I know for a fact that my parents aren't very understanding with this situation because we're Catholis I'm supposed to degrade gays. So what am I supposed to do? Do I choose love I mean I've never had a deeper connection with anyone else in my life, or do I choose acceptance, shelter, food, and an empty, unhappy life? (link)
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I don't have a problem with anyone's sexuality, it's totally an individual choice!
Well for starters.. put yourself in your sisters situation! How would you like it if she dated one of your ex's who she may have been sexually active with, who she may have once loved, who she doesn't want to see anymore because he perhaps broke her heart?
You two are close as you said, do you really want to ruin that? Just because it seems like this guy is the wrong choice doesn't mean your going to be unhappy for the rest of your life! Of course your going to find it hard these next few weeks if you decide to break it off with him but I think it will be for the best!
You can choose your friends and lovers but you can't choose your family!
I think you know what to do here!
Hope I helped.. Goodluck! :)
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what should i do if i find my teacher sexually atractive (link)
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Stay away!!!! That is the best possible solution ever!!! Although you find him/her sexually attractive just leave it!
If you try to make anything of it you could cause your teacher to be sent to jail, loose his/her job or you could totally ruin the relationship you have!
Just leave it please! Even if you find it hard.. would you rather not say anything and be able to stare at him/her all day or would you rather ruin everything and probably never see him/her again?!
Just think about!
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I have been married for 8 years. My husband and I have grown distant over the past 2 years. I started sleeping with someone which I don't believe in, and still can't believe I did it. I fell in love with this other man and he is the father of my newborn. I still love my husband and do not want to hurt him, but I do not want to hurt the other man either. I believe in God and that he doesn't believe in divorce, and the roots of this are so deep now. I would be happier with the other man, but does that matter at this point? (link)
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Of course your happiness matters. You have a baby now you must think of the baby's best interest as well as your own.
So you don't believe in cheating but unfortunately in your situation it's happened. This is something that you cannot fix at the moment.
First of all are you 100% sure that this new man is your baby's father??
God may not believe in divorce but god lets everything happen for a reason, maybe you being with this other man is gods way of making you happy?!
I know you don't want to hurt your husband but I don't think you have a choice honey, your husband thinks he's a Daddy. Can you really hide the truth from him? Not to mention how this other man may feel because there is another father figure in his baby's life?
I know that it might be hard and it might destroy some people in the process but you really need to tell your husband! Think long and hard about what you are going to say but you cannot go on with your husband thinking he is a father.
Its not fair to live like that, plus you have to live with it too!!!!!!!
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I would like some advice, if its weird or not:
Since ive been about 16 I have been getting these really strong feelings, about how I really want to become a mom. I mean is that weird, is there something wrong with me? (link)
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No it's normal for women to feel that way. I fantasize about having my own home, I have like every room planned out in my head. hehe!
Just as long as you feel totally ready when you want a baby and you have a strong environment for the baby to live in there is no problems!
Good luck with baby planning in the future :)
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Okay, so I want to paint my room because I've had bright green and I'm getting sick of it. I want to paint my room a lighter color and I guess more "mature" looking. At first I wanted to paint it purple and have a theme of purple black and white but now I'm thinking I should paint it a light brown color. Any opinions? I'll take any, and I won't rate you low if you say something I don't want. Thanks! (link)
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I am totally into designing rooms, I love it!
If you want a more mature look but a funky look at the same time, have a theme wall!
I love theme walls.
Why don't you paint one wall a deep purple or like a burgundy colour and the other 3 walls a bone colour, the bone colour is like a creamy colour.
In my uncle's lounge room he has a deep dark red wall with 3 bone colour walls and it looks great, he's into the more egyption style.
Once you have a theme wall you can change things to match it and have your quilt covers a similar colour as the theme wall, it brings out the colours.
Also the lighter colour walls make your room look larger!
Hope I helped! :)
I love brown colours, anything goes with brown.
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I'm a virgin (15), and my boyfriend is not(17). he doesn't care that I am, or anything like that, he has a girlfriend for a long time and she's only the other person he's had sex with.... Well I'm really scared to do it, and it's not liek he's pressuring me or anything, I just want to know, what his reaction will be like. because I'm really afraid, and do guys usually have patience with girls during their first? and how bad does it actually hurt? (link)
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So he shouldn't be pressuring you into anything.
It all depends on how much the guy likes/loves you if he is willing to wait. I was with my boyfriend 8 months before we had sex and it was my first time and wasn't his. Because your boyfriend has already had sex and depending on how often he had it, he might not be willing to wait as long as you expect him to. But that doesn't mean if he makes you feel bad about it you have to do it. You can say no!
For some girls it hurts pretty bad, they bleed alot but for others like me, it hurt but I didn't really bleed. It's not like an excruciating pain or anything, once you get past the first few minutes it acutally starts to feel good.
Just remember that it being your first time you need to have lots of fore play before he enters you. This will get you relaxed and you will feel more aroused. Don't rush into sex!
Don't have sex with him until YOU are ready! Alot of girls, even guys think that their first time isn't a big deal. I didn't think it was either but I always think about my first time with my boyfriend!
Hope I helped! :)
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ok well by looking at this picture can you tell me do i have kankles????(sp?)
http://s158.photobucket.com/albums/t93/mmm_cookies123/th_100_4689.jpg (link)
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I need to see the other side of your ankle.. but from what I can see.. no!
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i'm trying to loose weight by not eating. im not going anarexic but im just like eat a LOT less.. how long is it going to take for me to be VISIBLY skinnier? (link)
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Honey.. this will not make you skinny! Even if it does you will make yourself sick!
If you want to loose weight, do it the right way!
Take a walk, do some excercise! Eat healthier! It really not that hard! If you are determined to loose weight you will do it!
Let me tell you something to make you understand the way starving yourself works..
When you eat you digest your food. When your hungry and don't eat anything your body eats your fats so you may eventually loose some weight!
BUT when you do eat something, because your body is so hungry it wont digest all your food and instead of your body digesting some it will keep all the fats of the food in your body so you wont starve! This eventually leads you to putting more weight on!
The only way you would get around it is if you don't eat at all.. this means death!
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i'd like people's opinions- do you believe that it's possible for two teenagers to fall in love? i'm 16/f and he's 17/m. this is our relationship in (very small) nutshell:
we talk about everything. we care about each other to the deepest, most loving extent possible. i don't see other guys [friends, random guys] in the same way i used to. neither of us would ever do anything to hurt the other [emotionally & physically, for that matter.] and anytime either of us even suspects something is wrong [which has only happened twice], we bring it up and talk through it. he makes me genuinely happy- the happiest i've ever been in my life. i'm constantly in a state of bliss when i'm with him, no matter what we're doing or what's going on. we've been dating a year and almost seven months. i can honestly see marrying him and spending the rest of my life with him. no words can describe how much i love him.
i'm sure i'm forgetting other things. but anyway- in love? or just a "teenage love"? [in your opinion. of course, my opinion is the former, haha.] thanks in advance (: (link)
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Yes I strongly believe its possibly for two teenagers to fall in love!!!
I am a teenager myself, I'm 18 years old! My boyfriend who is 20 and I have been going out for nearly two years! We are looking for a house together and like you talk about everything and yes we both have talked about marrying each other.
Love is something so special that forms between two people, once you have it you never want to let it go!
It doesn't matter what age you are.. people fall in love when their ready! Everything happens for a reason and there is a somebody out there for every someone.
You two may only be young, so are my boyfriend and I.. but if you love each other as much as you say you do, never let each other go! Even if no one else agree's because you are young. Its your choice!
I wish you two the best of luck! xoxo
oh and P.S my boyfriends friend has been with his high school sweetheart since they were 16, they both are now 23, married and have had a baby girl!
So it's definitely possible!
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is it wrong to just have some1 that you practice making out with??? if you guys just want to have it perfect for when you get with some1?? (link)
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No it isn't wrong.. just be careful in the process though!
I've been through this and got hurt in the long run because I developed feelings for the other person and they never felt the same way about me.
Be open and honest with each other about this! Don't do anything you don't want to do and do not get pressured into it!
This is your choice and the other person should respect that! Be safe.. use protection! :)
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There's this girl named Pam. She was in my art class, and she was really shy, so I felt bad and started to talk to her because she didn't have any friends. Now, I don't have any classes with her except History and English. She won't leave me alone! Everytime she sees me, she follows me. We're not even in the same 4th period class, but she waits for me at my locker anyway! I try to ditch her, but she doesn't get it. She thinks we're best friends. One time, I was talking to my friend in the hallway, and she just comes up to me and stands next to me. There's a dance in school coming up, and I want to go, but I'm pretty sure she'll go and follow me. Should tell her that I'm not going, and go anyway?
14/f. Sorry that was so long! (link)
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Ok, first of all.. have you given this girl a chance? Find out what she's really like and invite her along with you friends! She could turn out to be a really cool person!
If your not up for that tell her that your just mates in class, don't tell her that you felt sorry for her and that's why you started to talk to her but you definitely need to let her know.
Tell her that she needs to stop following you and you need your space! Try not to make it harsh because you wouldn't like it if that was you!
If she had no friends and you spoke to her she might feel like she does have at least one friend. She might look up to you and wish that she's always had a friend like you.
Dont hurt the poor girl.. just be nice! :)
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14/f.
Ok; my boyfriend and I have been getting very close the past two months we've been together, and we talk about everything. We were talking one day and he asked me to go to Miami Flordia with him and his family [Mom, Dad, Two little sisters, One little brother, Cousin] this summer. I know my mom trusts him completely, and my dad is on his way. But the thing is, we will be staying down there for a week. I just need some ideas on how to ask my parents if I can go. They won't like the whole "spending the night" part. And I really don't think we will do more than kiss and spend time with eachother. Can someone give me ideas to smoothe it over with my mom and dad?
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Why don't you tell your mum and dad that they can speak to your boyfriends parents.. it works for me! :)
Maybe talk to your mum on the side and tell her your not ready for anything to happen and your boyfriend hasn't or wont give you any impressions on anything sexual happening.
You will obviously be supervised by his parents.
Don't be mad if they say no.. act mature and they will respect that.. they will remember it for next time! :)
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