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I'm dating my sister's ex(I'm a guy...)
15/m
So recently, I told my sister that I'm gay (her and I are really close) and she promises to keep it a secret. She just got out of a relationship with this guy(let's call him X). I recently found out that X is bi so we started being friends and now were secretly dating. When my sister found out that we were dating, she completely flipped out because since I'm gay I should follow the girl rule: "Girls don't date other Girls' exes" and told me that if I don't end things with him now, she's going to tell my parents that I'm gay. I really like X, and I don't want to end things off with him just because my sister believes in this girl rule. I know for a fact that my parents aren't very understanding with this situation because we're Catholis I'm supposed to degrade gays. So what am I supposed to do? Do I choose love I mean I've never had a deeper connection with anyone else in my life, or do I choose acceptance, shelter, food, and an empty, unhappy life?
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I think if your sister really was close with you then she should allow this and get over the fact that u really like him. Your parents love you and they will find out eventually so why dont you just get it over with. I had a friend who was gay and he didnt want anyone to know, so when people starting dropping hints he asked out one of his friends who was a girl just to hide it. She knew that he was gay and did it for him because she cared. Finally he couldnt keep this fake relationship going and he finally spilled out to all of his friends that he was gay. yea we were shocked but we are totally over it now and we love him even more for telling us and trusting us.
I think you should stay with this guy and if she tells your parents then let her. Just remember that you are still a person no matter what, gay, bi, straight, or a freakin alien. it doesnt matter. And for confessing it makes you a stronger person as well. Dont let your sister get in the way of your feelings for this guy, and dont you let your parents or sister make you feel any less then you really are.
Remember that you are always strong and you can handle anything that might happen if you choose to stay with this guy.
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I don't have a problem with anyone's sexuality, it's totally an individual choice!
Well for starters.. put yourself in your sisters situation! How would you like it if she dated one of your ex's who she may have been sexually active with, who she may have once loved, who she doesn't want to see anymore because he perhaps broke her heart?
You two are close as you said, do you really want to ruin that? Just because it seems like this guy is the wrong choice doesn't mean your going to be unhappy for the rest of your life! Of course your going to find it hard these next few weeks if you decide to break it off with him but I think it will be for the best!
You can choose your friends and lovers but you can't choose your family!
I think you know what to do here!
Hope I helped.. Goodluck! :)
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hey, sorry i dont have a lot of time to answer, and if this doenst help; please dont rate me!!
first of all im all up for homosexuality.
anyways they say true love is life's greatest calling, so i say go for him! Your sister shouldn't be following the "rule"..because maybe you might not find another guy like him again(not to sound too negative). maybe your sister might just be kind of creeped out, i mean -her ex is dating her brother-. talk to her!
msg me if you need anymore help!!!
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