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She won't leave me alone!
There's this girl named Pam. She was in my art class, and she was really shy, so I felt bad and started to talk to her because she didn't have any friends. Now, I don't have any classes with her except History and English. She won't leave me alone! Everytime she sees me, she follows me. We're not even in the same 4th period class, but she waits for me at my locker anyway! I try to ditch her, but she doesn't get it. She thinks we're best friends. One time, I was talking to my friend in the hallway, and she just comes up to me and stands next to me. There's a dance in school coming up, and I want to go, but I'm pretty sure she'll go and follow me. Should tell her that I'm not going, and go anyway?
14/f. Sorry that was so long!
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Ok, first of all.. have you given this girl a chance? Find out what she's really like and invite her along with you friends! She could turn out to be a really cool person!
If your not up for that tell her that your just mates in class, don't tell her that you felt sorry for her and that's why you started to talk to her but you definitely need to let her know.
Tell her that she needs to stop following you and you need your space! Try not to make it harsh because you wouldn't like it if that was you!
If she had no friends and you spoke to her she might feel like she does have at least one friend. She might look up to you and wish that she's always had a friend like you.
Dont hurt the poor girl.. just be nice! :)
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Well, it seems like she just really needed a friend & she's getting a little bit to excited about it. you shouldn't completely reject her & hurt her feelings, i think you should just tell her that she's nice & you wanna be friends but you would appreciate it if she would give you some space.
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Don't tell her you aren't going to the dance, because if you do & go anyway she'll see you there & take everything the wrong way. Alright so, she probably is just doing that because she doesn't have a lot of friends well actually no friends as you put it, so she's not used to having a friend & isn't sure how to act. I think you should tell her this,
"Hey Pam, I've been meaning to talk to you about something. It's kind of important. Well...we've been hanging out for a little while now & I was having a lot of fun with you lately but I don't have as much time to spend with my other friends, & it bothers me. I'm sure you miss the way things were too, right? So I've been thinking maybe we should hang out a little less to catch up with the rest of our lives, & see what happens from there. We'll pick up where we left off some other time but for now, I think it's best if we have a break from each other. I'm really sorry." Don't say it in a mean way or anything though. Good luck & I hope everything works out!
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First of all, don't tell her you aren't going and then go. If she finds out you went, she'll be crushed. Also, the reason she may be so clingy is that she doesn't have many other friends. Yes she bothers you, but you may be the only person she has to talk to in school. Try to find someone you think would match well to her and hook them up. You never know it may turn out to be a friendship and then she would leave you alone. Just don't be mean about it. That's the worst thing you can do. I hope this helped if not.. sorry!
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