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So i'm bicuriuos. I have a friend whos bisexual and we're pretty close friends. She kinda like edgey and rough exterior type person. Not very sappy and stuff like that. But I've been crushing on her for a while now. Its been off and on. But I'm like very sure she's not interested in me that way. She naturally flirts w/ everyone & when she kinda flirts w/ me i put up 'emotional walls' so i dont get all attached to small things like that. But idk what to do. She's like hot. And i have terrible fear of rejection.ANother friend of ours, in my similar posistion told her hoe he felt and it did NOT go well. They dont hang out anymore, so i decided im not gonna tell my friend how i feel, i just dont know what to do. [and she has a bf at the moment] any advice? (link)
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If you two are as close as you say you are then I'm pretty sure she would be understanding. Friends should be able to communicate no matter what the subject is and if she DOES reject you then hun she isn't much of a friend nor was she ever.
Make sure you approach her the right way, Don't come out bluntly and tell her that you have feelings for her. Let her know there is something you really want to talk about with her and that it is a hard subject for you. If you say it that way at least it is giving your friend the heads up it is a tough topic to talk about. Who knows, Maybe she will give you some advice or spill out how she might feel about you.
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I was adopted when i was 1 month old. I was conceived in an affair so my mother didn't leave any information now i am 24 and i would really like to meet her or at least talk with her to find out about my heritage. What do i need to do to get in touch with her? (link)
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I am in the same situation right now, I was put into Foster care at 7 days. I haven't yet found my mother but I'm still in the searching process. Here is a list of things you could try
Locate the hospital you were born at, You can try to ask them to provide any documents about your birth.
Try using the internet, If you know her name you could try "Yellowpages.com" see if anyone by her name comes up in your state
I really don't have too much more information other than it wouldn't be a bad idea to possibly contact the adoption agency also.
Good luck on finding your mother, I hope your search is a success in the long run. I'm in the same boat
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My friend's boyfriend is cheating on her. I've seen him hooking up with plenty of other girls before.
I've told him that he's hurting her, that he should man up and tell her about it, etc. but he refuses.
What do I do? Should I tell my friend? Do I have a right to meddle in her relationship like this, even though her boyfriend's being an unfaithful bastard? (link)
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Mhm
I was in the exact same situation, My friends boyfriend was fooling around. Personally, I wouldn't tell her unless you have solid proof. When I confronted my friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her not only did she not believe me but she got the impression that I was trying to break them two up and it soon lead to her not being able to trust me. If you want solid evidence, Get a photo of her boyfriend and the girls he's been with or better yet a voice recording. Something along those lines should be good enough evidence. I hope you don't have too take it this far but another way to tell her is to find out where her boyfriend is taking the chick and meet up at the same place with your friend.
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is it true that giving head gives you sore throats? (link)
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Not that I know of, However when I gave head I experienced a sore jaw for a few days.
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soooo last night i gave my first blow job. haha. he starting moaning and saying oh my god. so i'm guessing i did alright? then he kept wanting to do 69 but i told him not this time. is 69 as akward as it seems? lol. oh & another thing. why don't alot of guys shave? i think it's so nasty. i usually try to ignore it but i can't it just makes it not as enjoyable. (link)
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lol
I wonder the same thing sometimes but honestly, Guys don't want to get rid of their "man hood" as the hair down there makes them feel manly.
Moaning and saying things while giving a blow job is a plus so did you do alright? Yep, If it worked then you did something right!
69, The first time will probably be a little uncomfortable yes, However the more you do the more naturally it will come to you. I suggest showering before you attempt this position and take things slow.
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im 14 yrs old and i have never had a girlfriend out even got my first kiss. I was wondering what is rong with me?? al my friends have and i havent i feel like such a geek (link)
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There is nothing wrong with you, You are still young and you are only 14 years old. Just because your friends have had a girlfriends/boyfriends and received their first kiss does not mean you won't get yours. It's not a race, Your time will come just be patient.
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im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.
mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.
This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.
what about breast enlargement?
are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?
is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?
i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!
Please HELP ME! (link)
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You are still young, As much as you think it's all about looks it's not.
If you find someone who is right for you, They will love you no matter what and they will except you for who you are. Breast enlargements is not the answer, Again it is not about having big breast, being skinny, fat, tall, short it's about someone loving you for who you are. I personally did not start dating until I was almost 18, Trust me 15,16,17 is not old.
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ok so im going to babysit this one family and i want to make a good impression so shell call me back... what should i do?
thanks i rate 5's (link)
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When parents hire a babysitter they look for someone who is responsible, Someone they can trust and that will be good to their children.
If you want to make a good impression, Just smile, be polite and act mature. Remember, They want someone who is going to work well with their children and handle responsibility. When you do go to babysit make sure you look the part, (No ripped up baggy clothing or revealing clothes)
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okay... so im 13 and my boyfriend just turned 14 he want to do setain thing that im afraid if i do i will get pregnant but the thing is i havent started my period so do think i will get pregant if i havent started my period. (link)
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Listen,
Period or not ANYTHING is possible, You are also very young. My advice would be to wait, Sex is not a race and to be fully honest with you sex is not ALL THAT either. If anything it's maybe 5 minutes of your time and it's over and done with. You are way to young, Wait until you are older trust me you will be better off.
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what do i do if the child im watching is being very bad and decides to get her head stuck in the stair rails
should i leave her for being bad
plaese say yes
thanx (link)
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NO, you don't just leave her there. You take responsibility as the child is in your care. If you leave the child with it's head stuck in the stair rails not only is this extremely dangerous but it's clearly and can be classified as child abuse.
Babysitting is stressful as we all know, But babysitting is a responsibility and if you can't handle that then I would suggest NOT babysitting any children.
To even have to ask a question like this, Not only are you immature but I certainly would not trust you with my child.
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what does it mean if his penis is or gets unerected. (link)
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Dies down basically
Example: A guy can be erected and in the "mood" then if a girl passes gas or something it kills the mood and he would no longer be hard (erected)
Unless they are referring to a penis that is not erected
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Iv'e had my period but don't know how to tell my mum.Whenever i go to tell her i end up getting nervous and don't say anything. How can i tell her? please help! (link)
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Okay hun breathe
A period is perfectly normal and every woman gets it, It is nothing you should be ashamed of or embarrassed about. If you need to tell your mother about your period you can say "Mom, I really need to talk to you do you have a moment" and you tell her that you have gotten your period. Your mother gets a period too, Again it's normal nothing to be ashamed of and I'm pretty sure your mother is expecting you to have this talk with her sooner or later.
Don't be ashamed, It's normal :)
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Hi my name is yousif and i need some advise.Ok here's the thing..i like one of my cousins who is also a twin..they are almost identical but i can know which is who and naturally i like one more than the other..this is probably my biggest crush so far(i hope you dont think its weird to like your cousin)..the problem is i donno if she likes me back..i see her once a week in my granpa's house(we go to different schools and have different friends)..and when we do see each other we r always in the same room with our relatives(including our parents)..i can tell she is the shy kind..sometimes i stare at her(i cant help it) and she knows it but she always looks away or to the floor..im not worried about other guys(especially strangers)because she rejects guys she dont know(im not saying shes a coquette)..anyway can u plzzz help me know if she likes me back without having to make a move or do something funny in front of my relatives..im running out of people to ask and im more desperate for an answer than ever..she just looks damn good even without makeup(couldnt help writing it)..thank u
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Okay this is your cousin....and if you two were to have a relationship that would not only be disgusting but illegal as it would fall into the category of Incest. I can almost guarantee you that you will probably get public attention and not in a good way either.
I'm not sure if you are aware of this, However if you were to have a relationship with your cousin that would be considered Incest.
Incest is any sexual intercourse between close relatives[1][2] irrespective of the ages of the participants and irrespective of their consent, that is illegal in the jurisdiction where it takes place, or socially taboo. The type of sexual activity and the nature of the relationship between people that constitutes a breach of law or social taboo vary with culture and jurisdiction. Some societies consider it to include only those who live in the same household, or who belong to the same clan or lineage; other societies consider it to include "blood relatives"; other societies further include those related by adoption or marriage.[1
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I usually have very clear skin I only get the occasional zit but sometimes I get those very big painful ones...
OF COURSE....I now have one right on the tip of my nose. I have a required class field trip this Saturday and I'm really attracted to this guy in my class it's gonna suck if I'm self conscious about my nose all day long.
It was still in the red stage, like before it turns into the kind that obviously can be popped...or so it looked....but just now I sort of squeezed it and it popped even though it didn't look ready.... So now I need help
Whats the best way to shrink it down by Saturday??? (It's Wednesday night) It doesn't have to be completely gone just gone enough to cover it up with make up and not be able to see it.
So I guess this is a two part question how do I get rid of the redness quickly??
And whats the best way to cover it up with make up?? (link)
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Clean it frequently and place a cold cloth on it, Cold cloth with help with swelling and soreness. Try doing this a good couple times a day and it should go down
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This is so embarrassing! When my boyfriend fingers me I really like it and everything, but I just kind of sit there stiff as a rock because I don't know what to do. He thinks I don't like it. :-( The problem is I guess I am afraid if I moan or something he will be grossed out. So what should I do if anything?
18 female (link)
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Your boyfriend fingers you because his intentions are to get you turned on. Moaning is probably what his intentions are, When he does this why not play with him back, Kiss him, Kiss his neck get into it. (Act like you love it) Trust me, He won't get grossed out
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hey, I saw someone ask for jobs for 15-year-olds, so I thought I would ask are there any 13-year-old jobs? I can't find any! Can anybody help? My family really needs money! (link)
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Most jobs do not hire under the age of 16, When they do hire people at 16 they usually want working papers. The chances of you finding a job at the age of 13 are almost impossible, Jobs that would probably take you are Babysitting and Dog walking.
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why do guys make such a big deal about popping cherries? I mean, it sounds almost like they are trying to get a collection of them or something? I certainly don't want to give mine to somebody who is just trying to collect trophies, so how do I tell if a guy wants me or my cherry? (link)
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If the guy is truly into you then that is how you can tell, By meanings, Respects you, Listens to you, Trust you etc. Not someone who seems to want to get in your pants and keeps talking about it every minute of the day.
Honestly, I do not know what the big deal about cherry popping is either but I can say these days it seems like it's a race to loose the virginity.
Good for you for keeping your tools on tight, It's nice to hear someone has a brain these days.
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can somebody please tell me what prude means? Somebody called me a prude, and I have no idea what it means but from the way they said it I can only assume I was supposed to be insulted by it.
Thank you (link)
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It means you are technically a Goodie
(Someone who is proper, Modest could be considered a prude to some people)
Being called a prude is no compliment, Yes it is insulting.
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maybe I am prude but I have never let my boyfriend do this. I guess I am afraid that I won't like it! So what does it feel like to be eaten out? I am a girl (obviously!) and I really want to know! You don't have to be all graphic and stuff but I think you know what I am asking. :-) (link)
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Depends
I personally didn't like it, If you are ticklish down there then (lol) you will more than likely be ticklish ya know?
My experience I am ticklish, I didn't like it because I am so ticklish I am very sensitive. I guess it all depends, It's a different result for everyone type of thing
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Okay, not sure if this is the wrong category....but what ever. So I'm 16 and he's...14? Yeah, we met...3 days ago? Wow, oh yeah by the way when I say met I mean, he added me on myspace 3 days ago.
So it goes down like this, I was bored and feeling lousy because of some stupid unrelated problems to this...and I get a random friend request from some guy. I accept and right after I accept I get a IM, we start talking about random stuff after we introduce ourselves, and then somehow we start talking about our past, we both had pretty crappy child hoods, blah. And we have this long constant conversation, he made me feel so comfortable and happy I started thinking wow, this guys really cool. Then I had to go after what...4 straight hours of talking to him through IM?! Geez anyways, right before I logged out I went to check his profile since I never got the chance to, and I see he put me on his top. I'm the second one? Already? Wow, the second day, I get home from school a bit excited to log in and hope he was on, why? I don't know...He IM's me, we chat things are going nice. Since him and I go to different campuses for school he asks me when he can visit, I asked him why'd he'd want to visit. He said to see what it's like. Hmmmm....I didn't believe that was the main reason then again...So well after our long convo' again, which I was feeling depressed he once again made me feel better and he's telling me to stay happy. Hm, I've come to find that I like him...alot. This has never happened usually it takes me a long time before I can like like someone and with him in just one day I started to develope feelings for him? Wtf?! Am I a weirdo? The other thing that bothers me is the age, I'm 16 he's 14...How could I like a 14 year old? Am I a pedo'...Gosh, He's not the best looking guy but I do like him alot, but I'm not sure if he likes me. Though I get the feeling, say...Intuition?
I'd like to bring up the idea of hanging out in person but...I don't know how. Or when, I'm also shy and concerned about rejection...I know this all seems so sudden only 3 days and I'm already frekin' out? Why?! I don't know!
I've only had 2 boyfriends, not because I'm ugly or anything and I'm not being conceded but there are always guys after me. I just don't listen to them because I'm not one to be from man to man and toss the word "love" around. Not saying that I love this kid. Just that I like him very much! :)
So yeah, I'm sorry if it's like very long...Thank you for any and all help! (link)
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3 days is fast, In fact too fast to say you really like someone. I agree with the person below me, I don't really think you like him as much as you think you do. I think you are flattered by the attention. Honestly, Meeting people off the internet is NOT the smartest idea even if you two have talked for years it is still not a smart idea.
Anyone can say they are 14,15,16 etc. I'm pretty sure if I tried hard enough even I could pull one off. The point is, People on the internet are not always what they say they are even if they show a picture because we know we can get pictures just about anywhere on the internet. 3 Days is a short time to say "Yeah I like him, We totally click!" Do you know anything about him? With that being said not what he told you. Anyone can say anything to get attention. It sounds like you have insecurity issues, I'm not saying this in a way to be offensive but think about the situation and the way you are handling it. If you want to talk online that's fine, but meeting in person should be a definite NO. At least give yourself that much respect
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