My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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Is masturbation healthy? (link)
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It is not unhealthy. It can be an enjoyable thing to do as long as it does not take over your life. Discovering what turns you on will help any future partners to please you.
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alright i hav a distant relationship with this girl. she is 10 years old and im 15/m. ok first thing i kno what your thinking, the age difference. well i really dont care, age doesnt matter to me its the the person you found true love with. well anyways we are just distant bf and gf but someday we hope to meet eachother. when we were talking on the phone she said that she's gonna might be in some sort of trouble for making out with a guy who is like 15 years old. her friends knew and are going to tell her dad because they think it counts as child molesting. first of all does that even count as child molesting? the guy is only like 5 years older than her and i dont think there was no forcing they just kissed. oh and the girl may be 10 but she is more developed, she has the body and mind of a teen and i know her friends were just protecting her. so does it even count as child molesting? she said she might get some sort of counseling and i dont wanna lose her if they do anything to keep her away from older guys. i'm not like the bad kind of guy. it's just something about her makes me feel all warm inside.. (link)
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If you mean making out as in having sex, then yes it will be classed as molestation. If they were just kissing then no it probably won't. Regardless of the fact that she may be a 'mature' 10 year old, she is still very much a child. Her friends should be commended for looking out for her and her parents will obviously want to protect her. The best thing you can do is simply remain her long distance friend for now and wait for her to mature a bit more. Good luck.
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my boyfriend is will be 17 in july. and i will be 15 in june. we have been dating for a like 3 and a half months, and we are both really happy together. the only real problem is my parents. they like him and all, but they just don't really want me dating. its not even the fact that he is older, but its the fact of my just going out on a date. oviously they know him and i know his parents too, but he ust got his lisence and he wants to take me out to dinner. my parents don't want me to go in the car with him driving. there is like nothing i can do to convince them either. they automatically think he is a bad driver, just because he just got it. i just don't know what to do. i'm so irritated that i have to say "sorry, i can't my rents won't let me" every single time he freaking asks me. please, anyone with help. it would be greatly appreciated. any tips too. and don't say like have your parents get to know him better and such, because they know him. and they like him. and they know i really like him. (link)
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From a parent's point of view it is very hard to actually let your children be a passenger in any newly qualified drivers car. We are very aware of the risks that new drivers take - not because they are daredevils but because they lack good road experience. Also, there are a lot of other drivers out there who don't care less about other road users and can be very reckless. Most parents will bite their tongues and pray hard that their children get home safe, however occasionally the worst happens and their child will never come home again.
I think that the suggestion of a parent taking a ride with your boyfriend is a very good one. I also think that if your parents had a chat with your boyfriend's parents, they may be able to come up with a solution together. It won't always be like this and be grateful that your parents care enough to be concerned. I hope that everything works out well in the end.
p.s. They will worry like mad when you eventually get a licence too. We parents are like that.
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I heard that pogo sticks can give you a workout. Is this true? (link)
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All that bouncing around is bound to give you a workout - it will do wonders for your heart, your stomach muscles and for toning the legs. Have fun.
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the end of the year is coming up and i want to give a little teachery gift to my english teacher. i'm in 9th grade, and my teacher has been so wonderful this year. she got me interested in poetry, was so nice, an awesome teacher and an all around good person.
do you think she would appreciate a note saying, you know, thank you for being so encouraging and making class fun, i really enjoyed this year yadda yadda yadaa....or do you think that's a bad idea.
also should i include a little gift? like something a teacher would like, and if so...what??? please help thanks (link)
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If my Daughter has had a particularly nice teacher I like to buy them a special pen. Not necessarily expensive but just a good one. Put it together with the thank you letter and I am sure it will be much appreciated, especially as your teacher teaches the written word.
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Hi i was wondering,for 14 year olds...what would be better?..oral sex or regular sex?...also for oral would it be better for the girl to do the guy first or the guy to do the girl first..or would it be better for both to do it at the sametime because i know that someone might not feel like doing something after orgasming..also is it better for a guy to wear a condom for oral or not?
thanks =) (link)
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Sex at 14 is really not a very good idea. You may not be able to cope emotionally or physically with the reponsibilities that come with sex. For example - pregnancy, STDs, VDs, and all the emotional packaging that you will experience. You will regret losing your virginity at such a young age one day, especially if it all goes wrong and you end up pregnant or with AIDS. Try a bit of research about such consequences before having sex and if you must go ahead, please use all the protection you can. All the best.
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So this is a survey that im doing..
If you would like to, please answer!
Thanks!
Do you believe in sex before marriage? (link)
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Yes I believe in sex before marriage as long as it is within a committed relationship.
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when sould i hve sex (link)
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Only when you feel emotionally and physically capable of coping with having sex. It is not just a case of doing it. Generally you will know when the time is right and the person you want to have sex with is the one to lose your virginity to.
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So, I'm 18 (and a girl). I like a 25 year old guy, and there's a pretty good possibility he likes me back. But the thing is, we see each other often. I dogsit for him sometimes, train his dog, and he's sort of my boss (if he needs help he asks me [he owns his own business]). So, if he says no, there isn't really time to avoid him. Should I start with something casual, like lunch or bowling? Just go all out and ask if he wants to see a movie or whatever? (link)
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I would suggest a softly, softly approach with this. He may have another life away from work and dogs that you don't really know about. Try starting with a cup of coffee in a bar or a drink after work to help with a "problem" that may have occurred somewhere. Taking him out of the office situation may help him to open up a bit. Once you have established there is no significant other around you could suggest catching a movie together or just a quick bite to eat. If he seems reluctant to talk about his private life or doesn't seem interested in going or for a coffee or something, he may just see you as an employee. With this approach it is easier to pull back from, and retain the friendship that you have. Good luck.
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can you get pregnant if you have sex in a pool?? (link)
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If you have intercourse in the pool then you most definitely could get pregnant. It is not the cleanest of environments to do it in because of all the chemicals used. These can cause infections such as thrush or cystitis. If you suspect you may be pregnant have it confirmed by a doctor or use a home pregnancy test.
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I got a problem. No one else but me in my entire family can extend our families gene legency. There's the district possibility that my genes may be gone completely from this planet if I do not get married, and have children, so it's important I do. As well as that, my father would really like to live to see his grand children, and he's starting to get old.
Well I have never even dated a girl before or even in the least hugged one. All the girls I know have boy friends, and they're in pretty committed relationships. I know I'm young, and still got a way to go, but going by everyone else's trends things are looking pretty horrible to me. The process of having a relationship, getting married, and then finally having kids could easily be a 10 year long process, and my dead could be on his death bed by the time.
Well am I over reacting by worrying, or does this sound like a bad situation? (link)
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It's easy to worry about things like this, but it isn't a bad situation. Even though your Father is aging he may live to a ripe old age. Yes relationships do take time to deepen and mature into marriage and children but don't speed up the process by choosing the wrong person. Sometimes little problems can get blown out of all proportion and you need to step back a bit to see a clearer picture. Just start the process off by meeting girls who have a similar outlook to yourself and who enjoy the same activities you do. It will happen for you, and everything that is meant to be will be. I wish you well.
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on the 18th, my boyfriend fingered me kind of hard, and ive been bleeding like my period since then, and it is now the 23rd. but my period shouldnt start until the first of the month. whats going on?? (link)
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If your boyfriend has scratched you close to the outside of your vagina, then it is possible that when you wipe after using the toilet you could be aggravating that scratch and making it bleed again. However, I do agree with Hollister Bitch that you need to have any continued bleeding investigated. Always ensure that your boyfriend has clean, trimmed finger nails and no infections before he fingers you to prevent you from catching anything - ie warts.
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so how can i tell if this guy at work is into me.. well here's some things, he looks at me alot, he makes my mop water for me every night [when i first started i didnt know how the thingy worked but now he jus still does it] and told this other guy while i was standin there that im the only one he'd do that for bc he cant say no to me and anyone else he'd jus tell em to do it themselves, i wear necklaces everyday and he like pays attention and keeps up w/ which ones and one time i didnt wear one and he asked if i made it melt off [i dont know if that meant i was hott?], he tells other cooks there that im cool [yay lol], i just got a new old car and he asked for a ride in it and i was like uh sure where ya wanna go? and he said blahblahblah how bout you drive and ill pay for everything [i thought a ride meant like down the street, not TO somewhere ha], he and this other guy pick on me alot but we have like comeback wars haha so its fun.. and he does some more but i cant think of what else.. does it sound likes hes into me? the thing is im 16 and hes like 20something soo obviously if he is its not going to go anywhere because theres too big a difference and all and im not really interested in him anyway i just love being pursued i guess, and he's never made any suggestive moves on me or anything soo i dont think hes like that. but just curious, haha =] (link)
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Sounds like he is interested but as he is so much older than you, please be careful. It could also be that he sees you as someone like a younger sister that he can tease. Keep this relationship light and fun and it could be great. Don't go driving with him until you know him a lot better too.
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I am 19, female. A friend of mine (20 years old) has just applied for a job at a massage parlour, where the masseuses are topless, but there is no sexual activity - it's more of an erotic massage experience. She will be paid $80-100 an hour, and earn $1000 a week for a day and a half's work.
As a student, I could really, really use that kind of money, and personally, I wouldn't have any problem with the work. The job sounds reputable and if she enjoys the job, it could be very tempting - however, I am not sure whether I would regret it on a moral basis or not? In theory, I have nothing against it. But something inside is telling me it's wrong? And yet, that kind of money could open up a whole lot of opportunities for me within a short space of time.
What should I do? (link)
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I have a 20 year old daughter and I really do not think that I would like her to be in that sort of position. The club may have a really good reputation, but can they really protect the girls against unwanted attention? There are many strange people out there and it only takes one idiot to make life very uncomfortable for you.
The very high money is a great temptation but when you are older and look back at this time, how do you think you will feel about it? Imagine you had a daughter and write down all the pros and cons for this type of work. Will it come back to haunt you? What kind of contract would you have to sign? Would it lead into "other" offers? How far removed from prostitution is it really?
Please listen to your inner voice that is telling you it is wrong? Always go with gut reaction and feelings with anything that comes up in life, because more often than not you will be protecting yourself. I hope that as a mother I have given you some insight into how your Mum might possibly feel, and how you might feel if you ever have a daughter. If there is any other way of earning money other than this way, then please try. I wish you all the best with this problem, but if you do decide that it is a good way to help out with fees, then please protect yourself with every possible means. Take care.
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i think i may be pregnate... i went to the doctor today for a uti and he said i have high levels of glucose in my urine but it wasn't diabetic... is this a sign of pregnancy? glucose in the urine.. thanks.
the doctor couldn't say anything, neither could i because my mom was in the room and im 17 (link)
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You have two choices here. Take a home pregnancy test as suggested in the previous answer, or make an appointment to see your doctor alone so that you can discuss the possibility of pregnancy and why there is glucose in your urine. If you cannot see the doctor without your Mum being there, make an appointment with the Family Planning Clinic (or USA equivalent). All the best. Even if you are not pregnant you will need to find out why there is glucose present and what can be done about it. All the best.
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the relationship between my older brother and i is pretty big i like to say hes like my left hand but when it comes down to his wife thats another mess you see me and her dont get along well at all but what hurts me the most is that it never use to be this way we use to get along really great untill my brother introduced her to my cousin. nothing wrong with that except i never thought my cousin would go that low to make not only her but also my brother hate me all because of jelousy please help (link)
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If I am understanding this correctly, your cousin has been saying things about you to your brother and his wife. This is causing them both to hate you, especially because you do not get on with his wife.
The first thing I suggest, if this is correct, is to ask your cousin what she has been saying to your brother and his wife. If she will not talk to you then ignore her and whatever she is saying.
Tell your brother that whatever he has heard about you is not true but you cannot defend yourself properly because you do not know exactly what has been said. It may be that your sister-in-law and you do not get along because you both love your brother very much and may appear to be competing for his affections. It will be hard for you to accept but your brother's wife will be more important to him that you are now. That is only natural - it does not mean that he loves you any less. Actions may speak louder than words in this case, try sending your sister-in-law a small posy of flowers or buy her a cake or ask her to meet you for coffee in town. Keep any conversations you may have light and away from any subjects that cause problems. Continue to keep in touch with your brother and his wife if only by sending the odd note to catch up on any news and to ask how they are. Over time things may get a lot better for you all but it may take some patience and hard work on your side. If you feel that your brother is worth the effort, then get to know his wife properly and appreciate her love for him too. I wish you all the very best with this problem.
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There was only liquid coming out of my breasts when a squeezed it and it stopped about a day or two later. The hard lump has almost all the way gone so i'm not too worried. I'm only 13, how bad could it possibly have been? (link)
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There is no way of telling how bad (or not)it could be because I am not medically qualified - I can only give advice on what you say. It is always better to be certain with a professional examination than to speculate on any sort of condition. If the lump and liquid have disappeared and you feel confident that it was nothing to worry about, then ignore my advice. However, if there is a little bit of you that is still concerned please get anything suspicious or worrying checked out. I am sure everything is fine but never leave anything to chance. All the best.
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My stomache is really weak as in I get sick easily on rides. I always have to go to kinda baby rides or else my stomache will feel sick and it's bugging me. One time I didn't eat and tried to go on and I barfed anyway
Is there any way to fix it? (link)
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Try taking a travel sickness pill before you go on any rides. Obviously only take the recommended dose and not one before every ride. It worked for me.
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My left breast is red and sore. It started to drip some kind of liquid. I have no idea what it is, but it doesn't seem normal. What's wrong with me? (link)
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You definitely need to see a doctor about this as soon as possible. There is no point in speculating on what it might or might not be, you need to be seen and examined by a professional. All the best.
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my boyfriend fingered me yesterday and now im sore. is this normal and how long will it take for the soreness to go away. (link)
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If your boyfriend was rough with you, it will cause soreness. This is normal and will take a few days to go away. Always make sure that your boyfriend has clean hands and nails, no warts on any fingers he may use on you and no infections of any sort before he starts fingering you.
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