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Q: i want to invite my bf over to my house so he can meet my parents and so we can hang out and thats the only way my parents would feel comfertable with me and him being together is if it under their supervision, so what can we do if he comes over?

Ha! story of my life. Just have him over and sit on the couch and watch a movie. Keep track of where your parents are at all times. When they aren't around, do wehatever you want lol. Get your parents comfortable with him. Tell him to be extra nice and use manners nd stuf. xO ali

Q: ok me and my bf broke up because he found that i was talking to another boy but that boy really dont mean nothing to me i love my bf so much. anyway he took me back but i no he dont trust me! what can i say to him to get him to belive me? plese help me im so sorry i didnt mean for none of this tohappen
shaiina

Tell him that he was jumping to conclusions and that if he cant trust you, you dont want to be with him. Tell him that you do love him a lot and it hurts you that he cant trust you. xO ali

Q: i joined lacrosse and my legs hurt really bad from running.. how can i make it feel better?? and do you have any lacrosse tips?

Yes! soak in the tub lol. Or just rub them and put ice on them. xO ali

Q: Hey, okay i'm very attracted to my best friend. I would like to go out with her.Were both girls and i'm 14 and she's 13. She said a few times it would be easy if she could be with me and that i understand and care for her better than anyone. We have experimented 3 times and we loved it just being with each other being close and intimate. I want to tell her how i feel but i get more scared when i get infront of her face. I hate rejection! It's not that i've been rejected by my friends or guys or anything i just hate it. I even feel bad and low when i call someone and they can't talk or when i ask her if she can come over. I end up getting this pity look like she's doing me a favor if she went to my house. I hate it because i make good time to be over their at her house and she can't because of her mom and her little sister. I'm very afraid and when i wanted to ask her today i just looked at her like i was doing the worst sin in the world. I feel dirty when i wanted to tell her how i felt today. I just wanna keep it a secret that i have feelings for her so i can not have rejection and still have her as close to me as we are now. I just feel like a complete loser for asking a girl to be with me. I want her to do that and then i would fall into her arms and we'd feel the love between each other and i wouldn'r feel like a loser.

Ohkay, one thing. I think you should do it. Later on in life you might regret not doing it if you dont. If you reallt like her that much, you definately should. If she likes you too, that is. You should wait a little bit to see if its really worth it. Like wait a week or so. xO ali

Q: I have my period about every 2 1/5 to 3 weeks.. then, when I do have it.. I have it for 2 days then I stop that night then I have it for one day then I stop that next day then have it for 2 more days.. is somthing wrong with me.. :-x
--I rate 5's!--

Absolutely nothing. It's totally normal for a girl's period to skip. xO ali

Q: is it normal for females to discharge everday?

Yes it is.

Q: One of my teachers is always making fun of the students. I know it is just in good fun but 2 girls started crying over this. Should i tell someone or just let him go on making fun of everyone?
Please i need help!

You should approach the teacher and tell him about your concern. If he doesn't listen, tell the girls to go to the principal. xO ali

Q: My boyfriend and i broke up a few days ago at school. Right after school that same day i saw him kissing another girl. I know we broke up and everything but how did he get over it that fast? My question is how can i get over someone quickly? Any tips on how to forget about someone?

Been there. Just try to forget about it. I know its not what you want to hear, but you need to move on. One thing: dont let him see that that bothers you or he might make fun of you. Just flirt with other guys and just dont pay attention to him. Or, you could do what I did, ask him. xO ali

Q: when do you start showing when your pregnant?? and does anyone know how much tests at planned parenthood cost?

Yes, it is free. It is designed to help teens that need help. You will start showing signs of being pregnant anywhere from 3.5-5.5 months after intercourse. Although early side effects are a possibility. xO ali

Q: my family doesnt pay attention to me at all... its all about my perfect sisters... i used to wear one of my sisters clothes (bc i dont have any) and my mom was gonna buy me some clothes but she gave the money to my sister bc i ruined my sisters clothes and like my parents dont do crap for me im not tryin to be selfish but what should i do?

sorry for the writing I RATE 5'S!

Talk to your parents. Tell them that you would like new clothes. Tell them that you are feeling a little left out. Parents are usually understanding for things like that. If that doesn't work, ignore them for a little while and after a while they might get the hint. xO ali

Q: I've got an issue that i really need someone to help me with.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months tommrow and I'm going to lose him very soon if I keep up my issue. Whenever I get the slightest bit upset, I get very close to breaking up with him. I few times I actutally did, but he took me back withen seconds. I don't know why I do this, it's really confusing me because I promised myself and him I'd stop. The first time I did this he cried. Yes I know, a guy crying "He must be a pansy", he's not he's affectionate, but just the other week when I did this he just said "Do what you want" and didn't care, at all. I've done this alot and he's begun not to care that I do this anymore because I think he realizes I'm not actually going to follow through with it, but someday I will. I don't want to break up with him, but I get in this tunnel-vison mode where the only way out is out of the relationship. Any advice on why I do this and how to stop.

♥

Been there. What you need to do is realize BEFORE you break up with him, how much you will be hurting the both of you. You will both miss each other. Just whenever you feel yourself about to break up with him, think about how you'll regret it. After a while, he's going to get sick of all this drama and might not take you back. So just be very careful what you do! xO ali *and good luck!

Q: ok i have a boyfriend im 13 and he recently asked me to have sex with him. I really want to but i dont want him to go on and tell everybody and stuff i want to wait til summer though what should i do?

Dont wait untill the summer. Wait untill you're married. You're 13 dont rush your childhood. xO ali

Q: any good april fools tricks??
hehe..
i rate 5's
thanks in advance

Crackers in shoes or peanut butter. The stain on the shirt is lame but funny. xO ali

Q: im so sick of not having a bf. im 13, 5'1" 128 lbs. blonde perfect teeth, no braces. anything a guy would want! the thing is i have NEVER had a bf. my frend has and she is really really unattractive. she has hideous crooked yellow teeth and puffy frizzy hair. i dont mean to be mean but i really hate the fact that an ugly grl has had 7 bfs and i had none. please please help!

i really dont care how low you rate me on this. but sweetie, you just answered your own question. the way you can just treast a friend so poorly and to talk about her behind her is just so dreadfully horrible. if any guy knew you did that baout your friends, why would they want to haveyou as a girlfriend. xO ali

Q: what is Chat Speak??

ill rate 5's to ne person who helps

Abbreviations, as some people would like to call them.

Q: there is this guy and i like him so much. We used to go out. We went out the whole summer. After we broke up, we havent talked since. We see each other all the time, and he stares at me sometimes, but never talks. We even hang out with the same people at church. The bad thing is, he has a girlfriend. We went on a ski trip with our church a month ago, and there was this girl who liked him, and when someone asked if he liked her (he had a girlfriend on this trip too) he was like "no i would never go out with her" but then like 2 weeks ago someone asked him if he would ever go back out with me and he said "umm .. i got a girlfriend". so he didnt say yes or no. i want to go up and talk to him wednesday, but im so scared. Do you think he still likes me and what should i say if i go up and talk to him? SORRY ITS LONG, BUT I RATE 5'S!!

He could still like you. THere is a possibility. But I mean the people on this site are not in the mind of that guy. Its all up to him. But yes, you should definately talk to him because that is the only way you're going to find out! xO ali

Q: i'm 15/f. i was at my aunt/uncles house today. me & my cousin were in the basement. her dad came down to look at his cellphone, then went back upstairs. once he left, my cousin said "i think my dad is having an affair." she opened up the text messages on his cell & they were from the same woman. they said "yeah what we're doing is so wrong i hope no one finds out" etc. my aunt & uncle have always had marriage problems, but as of now, me and my cousin are the only ones who knows about his affair. I asked my cousin if she's going to tell her mom and she said "NO WAY I'LL GET IN SO MUCH TROUBLE FOR LOOKING THRU HIS PHONE AND I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS!" She doesnt seem to care tho, but i'm so freaked out and my question is, what should i do, (should i do anything at all...?)

That's a really tough question. What you should do, is put yourself in her position. Would you want to know if your husband was having an affair? xO ali

Q: ok..i really like this guy ...he is perfect..but the only problem is that he is in 7th grade and im in 8th should that stop me from liking him?
-confused

Of course not. Look at most grownup couples, some are even a few years in age different. but no, that shouldn't keep you from liking him. xO ali

Q: this guys keeps calling me prude. i just dont want to waste my first kiss on someone i dont care about. do you think i should just kiss someone and get it over with or just keep waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect guy. i am 14 years old. please help.

oh course not! keep your pride! i waited nd i just ignored what other people said. After patiently waiting, the perfect guy at the perfect moment gave me my first kiss. maybe he could just like you and want you to just kiss him lol xO ali

Q: ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana