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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

I get mad to the point of crying no one knows what I feel does anyone know a site that could offer help dealing with it?

Advicenators.com

seriously- we have great columnists on this site, and they could probably help you out. Just post another question with the advice you're seeking. Someone is bound to be able to help you.

Heck, I may be able to also.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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my boyfriend said he had to go and that he loved me and i didn't want him to leave and i told him if he left i would dump him. he still signed off, and i dumped him on the phone. and then i called him again and he hung up on me.

who did the wrong thing? me or him? did i over react because he had to go? or was it him?

=/ i feel like crap. i think i overeacted

how can i tell him how much he means to me?

This might not be what you want to hear, but your over-reacted. Dumping someone because they have to leave off from the computer on AIM is kind of ridiculous. Just tell him you made a mistake, but don't seem too desperate to "get him back".

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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Ok this is really strange, but whenever i'm like hiding or something and it's dark and i'm alone by myself or hiding with someone else (for example pulling a prank or man hunt or hide and seek) I have to go the the bathroom. It's really weird! I'm just sitting there quiet and I have to go! I'm curious, why is that? I know it's gross.

This happens to the best of us. Its just nervousness and minor anxiety. You're excited to pull the prank or be hiding, and it just causes you to feel like you have to use the bathroom. The adrenaline in your body is pumping fast, and your bladder is the first thing it effects.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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At about what age or grade or something along those lines do guys finally grow up? lol.

Guys mature at different ages/grades. Most guys don't mature until their junior year of high school (11th grade/17 years old), but some do mature even before high school (8th grade/14 years old)...

It really varies with the guy you're talking about. Guys always will have a sense of immaturity with them, but most mature before high school is over, and if they haven't matured by then, they really learn to grow up when they enter the "real world" as they call jobs and college.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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So guys go for personality over looks. To a degree. No matter how sweet a girl is, a guy isn't gonna be interested if they think she's ugly.


When do guys go for like, mainly personality? Is it usually after highschool? Because I've had one boyfriend in my life (for a day) and he only asked me out because he was desperate and bored.


So, will I ever find the right guy, or am I gonna die ugly and alone; the crazy old lady with too many cats?

No, you're not going to die ugly and alone. There's someone for everyone- really. Guys usually start to look for personality after high school or in their senior year. Personally, I go for personality because I've learned that sometimes the "prettier" girls end up being bitchy and snobs. So, for the most part, girls without looks are usually the nicest.

Wishing you the best of luck,
--Jack

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on AIM, is there any way to make your profile longer? like i always run out of room and i want to make mine bigger is there anything i can download or anything?
thanx soooo much!!!!
xo
LIFEis2CUTE4U

A buddy profile from buddyprofile.com is just a page linked to your AIM profile that has quizzes, countdowns, and about 10 pages with anything you choose to have in them. There is also a guestbook that people can sign. Its a lot of fun. Try it out! =]

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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well i'm a little slow, so what is phone sex and how do you do it?

Phone sex is where two people talk dirty over the phone. They talk about what specifically they would be doing to each other if they were actually together having sex at that time.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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How do you create a forum?

The link is:


http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=


and you find your user ID, which is at the end of the URL when you click on "Ask Me a Question" button in their profile.

post that number at the end of the link I gave, and it will give the forum page for that user.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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One of my so called best friends
- I dont want to be friends with her anymore.
I'm sick of her always talking as us as a "we" and that "we suck" "we are stupid"

because i dont like downtalking myself.
she can, but not about me.

dont tell me to telll her not to talk bad about herself either becauase this isnt the point.


SHE loves drama and stupid crap like that,
so she will do anythign to cause it.
she plays the victim all the time.
I'm sick of it, how she always thinks shes right.
What do I do?

I know you said not to tell her to stop talking bad about herself, just talk to her and tell her that you don't like it when she talks bad about you.
If you don't want to be friends with someone, you don't have to be. If you decide to not be her friend, give her a chance first, and then if she doesn't stop with her drama, tell her you don't want to be her friend anymore, please let her down nicely.
If a friend ever does crap that you don't like, just talk to them, because sometimes they don't even know that they are doing it.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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I am a freshman in highschool and i received papers from my school and the superintendant Stating that i could have the option of graduating a year early. which would mean i would be in the class of '09 instead of 2010. I already have my career planned out and what i want to do with my life and so i should accept it and graduate early right?? Well im not so sure that i want to. i mean, i dont want to leave my friends, and i know you guys will probably say " Put your life infront of your friends ". But im not to sure on what i want to do. Any suggestions?

I think this would be a great opportunity for you. You would get into your career a year earlier.
Then again, I think that you should think about your friends. They are a huge part of your life. Friends help you through the good and the bad and the ugly. Friends are for a lifetime, and sometimes, leaving them isn't a good thing to do if you've built up these friendships over many years. Yes, most friendships die out after high school, but some remain.
I think if you can handle graduating a year early, but still staying in the school with them (I would assume this, of course), then by all means- GO AHEAD.

Personally, I would stick with the friends, but its really up to you!

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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Where is the Strait of Magellan located?

Buenos Aires to Valparaiso (cities in South America)

I believe its at the bottom tip of South America

Interesting Question!

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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Ok, so I'm one of those shy guys that doesn't know how to approach a girl...But there's this girl I like, and she's like one of my bestfriends and I don't know how to tell her I like her...Anyone have an ideas??

The best way to do this is to just be upfront and honest with her. Tell her exactly how you feel about her. This shows confidence, which is apparently attractive to girls. She might end up feeling the same way about you, so its always worth the shot!

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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My friend Nick broke a vase at my house party, that I held very dear, and he absolutely refuses to pay for it. Should I continue to be his friend, or should I stop?

You should tell him how you feel about him breaking your vase. If he acts like a jerk, he shouldn't be one of your friends anymore.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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hey.. i was wondering where i could get a playlist for a myspace.. also some music links

This site works excellently!


www.projectplaylist.com


You just search for the song/artist and it gives you many results.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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when you upload this new version of itunes, do it completly wipe out your songs on the older version? i have like 2,000+ songs on it and really don't want to loose them.

No- the songs stay there, you just get a newer version.


Thank you so much for being my 300th question!
Hope I helped!
--Jack

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how can i make one?

The link is:


http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=


and you find your user ID, which is at the end of the URL when you click on "Ask Me a Question" button in their profile.

post that number at the end of the link I gave, and it will give the forum page for that user.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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My boyfriend's birthday is coming up. I want to make a big fuss over him but I am kind of broke. Does anyone have any ideas?

Hand-made gifts mean the most.
Make him a scrapbook with pictures of you two. Make him a powerpoint with pictures of you and him. Just make him feel special, and it doesn't have to be with something you buy, because you can't buy love =]

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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My fiance has had premarital sex, and i haven't. so i dont want to do anything sexual with him, until he has had tests and stuff. but we have kissed, and yesterday someone was telling me that it is possible to get aids from someone by just kissing them, is that true?

Absolutely not. AIDS is a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD), and that means that it is transferred through sexual intercourse.
AIDS can also be transferred from a mother to offspring during gestation and also through a non-sterile needle that was used with someone who has AIDS.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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Hey. I was just curious as to how people get the gold stars. Like when I was looking up some columnists some had one gold star. Does it mean they answered like a lot of questions or that they've been on advicenators for a really long time? I'm just pretty curious. Thanks so much in advance help is really appreciated! =)

It means they have a paid account.

Here's some information if you're interested!
http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php


Hope I helped!
--Jack

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is there any way 2 get autostart videos on youtube? cause i want 2 put this song on myspace but i could only find it on youtube

help?

Yes, this is possible:


This is the code you get to embed a video:


To make it autoplay, just add "&autoplay=1" after the VIDEO ID so it looks like this:



I hope I helped!
--Jack

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