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omg my hair is sooo frizzy and i dont know what to do about it! i've tried many products but nothing seems to work!

please help!

John Frieda's Frizz Eaze Serum works really well and it won't make your hair that frizzy. Try using Smooth and Sleek shampoo and conditioner by Pantene ProV and it will help tone your frizzy hair. Like what LostAngel has mentioned, you could get your hair Japenese straightened and it does work but then when your roots start to grow, you will start to see frizz. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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(Sorry, i wasnt sure what category to put this under!)

I'm afraid to have feelings for people and I dont know why. If I find a guy I like...and then he starts liking me, I start backing out, and its always like this. There was ONE guy that I liked a lot and he liked me a lot but then we only became friends and we were really close, you could say he hurt me because now we hate each other and hes the closest ive gotten to anybody at all...so could anyone help me with my problem? Do you know whats wrong with me??? Please help :( Im getting extremley upset.

The reason that you are like this is because you are afraid of getting hurt by a guy. You need to face the fact that you may get hurt and that you may not get hurt when it comes going into a relationship with a guy. Don't worry, you just want a guy to actually to want you first. You need to change and just go out there and start dating and knowing that you may get hurt.
-Karen

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what are some cute names that like Gurlfriend's callthere boyfreinds... lik example like him calling her babe or something, what are some different names tht are cute to Call eachother!

Some names are: cutie, honey, darling, sweetie, sweetheart, baby, and etc.
-Karen

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is there any way i can convinve my REALLY overprottective mom into letting me go to bording school?! lol everytime i ask she puts on this sad face (like to make me feel bad) and says "you really wanna leave your mom?!" and i always say "no but i really wnat a change"....and i just think it's time for me to be able to be a little more independant! but i guess my mom thinks im gonna be a baby forever..anways do any of you know a way to convinve my mom to let me go!? and also i know this is totaly irrelevant to the subject (lol) but how can i convince my mom to let me date already when ALL my firneds have been allowed for a while now!...thanx i RATE HIGH! lol xox Ari

Tell your mom that you can't be her little child anymore and that you are old enough to make your decisions and that you shouldn't be treated like a baby. If I told my mom that I wanted to go to boarding school, she would be the happiest person ever, since she wants me out of the house and wouldn't care how much it costs. Tell your mom that it's time for you to make a change in your life that you need to be independent. Also tell her that boarding school would make an inpact on your life somehow.


To convince your mom into letting you date, talk to her and tell her that you are old enough to know who and not to go out with and that it's time for you to start dating. Tell her that you are older and you know what to expect in life when it comes to dating and so on. Just explain to her your reasonings on why you want to start dating and I'm sure she will let you.


You should tell your mom that it's time for her to face the fact that you are older and that you are going to be making your own decisions, whether or not she knows about them. Tell her that you can't be her little child anymore, where she treats you like one. Things will change, once you talk to your mom.


Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I am a 16 year old female. I've been dating this guy, Jared for the past 2 years on and off. While me and Jared were broken up I started dating this other guy, Seth whom I dated for like 6 months. Its been like 8 or 9 months since me and seth were together. We had a really serious, deep conversation about us (this happened like 2 months ago.) and he told me that he loved me. He really meant it. I could tell. But at the time I was still with Jared. And I knew, deep down that I still had feelings for Seth, but I didn't want to admit it. I wanted to stay completely loyal to Jared, and that I did. But just recently I started feeling neglected by Jared. Like, he barely calls anymore. He's always hanging out with his friends. And I've started thinking about Seth a lot. Seth is a really great guy. And I know that I love him. I've always loved him. But I'm still with Jared, and I know I'd regret leaving Jared, if I decided to. What should I do about the whole situation? Seth doesn't know how I feel about him. Should I tell him? What should I do???????????????????

If you are feeling unwanted be Jared, since he always is hanging out with his friends and he never calls you anymore, you should break up with him and start a relationship with Seth, since you two have feelings for each other that are deep. Talk to Jared and tell him how you feel before you break up with him. Once you are over Jared, you should definitely talk to Seth and tell him how you feel about him. It sounds like things between you and Seth would work out great, since he is a great guy and that he talks to you. Good luck!
-Karen

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okay here's my story, about four months ago i meet this boy named ryan at night with my three best girlfriends, they dared me to go up and start flirting with him because they thought he was like the hottest thing ever (i didnt AT THE TIME lol) anyways so i went up to him and i had a REALLY LONg and sweet convo with him.. we ended up trading sn's and phone numbers and we still end up talking until now... and i dont want to sound stupid or anything but i REALLY liek him and i want to know if he'll like me back but i have a HUGE problem. im NOT allowed to date until im fifteen and im 13 now and turning 14 in AUG. and he;s 15 and turning 16 in july...and one more thing, PLEASe everybody PLEASE dont think im like racist or anything when is ayt his but im not allowed to date\marry anyone who sint jewish.. and Ryan is catholic!!! please help..first of all i wanna know if i should disobey my mom bcuz i REALLy like Ryan and it hink he lieks me back and also is there anyone else out there with the whole mom\dating situation!!?!?!?1 lol PLEASEEEEEE HELP!!
-CONFUSED ONE =)

Sweetie, you only have one life to live and you need to take chances whether they will get your grounded or not. You should definitely go for it and date this guy. I know your parents don't want you to date for another two years and not to date anyone who isn't Jewish but you need to not listen to them and do what you want. If you like him and if he likes you, then date him.
-Karen

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i am going to an interview because i want to become an actress but i am scared because i dont no who is going to be there and i am frightend that i will throw up or do something humiliating. does any one have experience or advice so i can calm down?

You need to convince yourself that nothing is going to happen that will ruin your interview. Just be confident and yourself and you will be fine.
-Karen

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ok, i went out with this girl for four months (13/m), and she dumped me over a small fight and tht she "didnt like me anymore". i thought i got over her, but now i love her again. she knows but doesnt like me back. idk wht to do im going crazy i love her so much

If you two broke up over a small fight, you should move on and forget your feelings about her because if she doesn't like you, then you know nothing is going to happen again. One day, she will realize that she made a mistake and will come back for you but then you may not like her.
-Karen

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I'm 13 and weigh 120 pounds.. is that really overweight? what can i do to louse some pounds and how much should i weight for my age? i`m pretty short too. about about 5feet

Nope, that's not overweight at all, you are at an average weight. Everyone has a different body shape so everyone weighs differently at different ages. To lose some weight you just need to do three things: eat healthy, watch what you eat, and exercise daily. Don't eat foods with a lot of carbs and calories in them. Drink a lot of water too. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Ok so I love my boyfriend very much ..like alot..I mean really I do..but my friend who is a girl adn is seriously attracted to me and I like her kinda really wants to make out with me and I kinda wanna make out with her to..but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend..what should I do..and I already talked to him and he goes "I love you and I trust you and it takes alot to hurt me" sooo im sooooo lost..please help me!

If you love your boyfriend, then you shouldn't hurt him by making out with this girl who wants to make out with you and who is attracted to you. If you like her, then this is considered cheating because you want to do stuff with her. If you don't want your boyfriend to get hurt, then don't "cheat" on him with this girl.
-Karen

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Well, I'm a little unsure if I should be upset or not.
Okay. Well my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now and I found out a few months ago that I was not his "first" (talking about making out.) He was mine without a doubt. But it's not just that i'm not his first that upsets me, it's with who. It's this girl from another school named elena. She's a slut and she knows it. My boyfriend "didn't even like her" he claims. But, what concerns me is that if he didn't like her, what if he made out with me and he "doesn't even like me." Am I upset over a stupid thing? Because if I am I want to not ruin our relationship over something so stupid.
Once again,
Retro_Romance

Sweetie, there is nothing to be upset about and you don't have to worry. If you think your boyfriend just made out with you if he didn't even like you, then why is he still with you? He likes you and this happened in the past and you don't have to look back at his. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I want to hang out with this guy that I like over vacation but i dont know how to ask him. Were like best friends but he has a girlfriend (but hes thinking of dumping her). I think he might like me, my friend thinks he has a "thing" for me but i cant tell. We dont talk on the phone much or hang out out of school. So how can I ask him to hang out? -Sandy S./13/f

Tell him that you want to hang out with him somewhere because you haven't hung out with for a while, since he has a girlfriend. If he has AIM, you can IM him and ask him there. Just nicely say that you want to go somewhere and hang out with him.
-Karen

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14/F. Next time my dad goes to the movie store I get to pick a few movies. I prefer scary movies rated pg-13 or R. Movies I like were Saw and the Ring. I personally thought the Grudge was stupid. Any ideas? (I will take suggestions other then scary movies if they are good)

I suggest that you either rent one of the many Chuckie movies or the Texas Chainsaw Massacre. The Scary Movies are good too, but they are old and you have probably seen them.
-Karen

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ok i havent gotten my period yet this month but it seems like i never have a regular period cycle..and my boyfriend and me were like messing around at his house but i was just giving him a handjob but he cumed but not on me....and i dont think it was any whree near me...and i was expecting my period around the 13 or 14 or around there and me and my boyfriend just recently did this stuff like a few days before the 13...is it possible to be pregnant? but i didnt get morning sickness or anything..

If you actually got some cum inside of your vagina, then there is a possibilty that you could be pregnant but it sounds like you aren't pregnant, your period is just irregular and it will change when ever it wants to. Usually, every girl gets morning sickness before they find out they are pregnant so you probably aren't. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I really like this guy but I cant tell if he likes me. Can a guy or someone tell me how to know if some one likes you!PLZ. hes always flirting with me and stuff but i cant tell!!!!

You know when a guy likes you when you catch him smiling and staring at you, when he always talks with you and wants to be around you, and when he flirts with you. Sometimes, when a guy likes a girl, he will actually be mean to her by teasing her and such. Every guy is different and if you still can't tell if this guy likes you, just ask him yourself. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I've seen in previous people asking questions about making out and kissing.. but i'm wondering something. What is the differance, if there is any, between "making out" and "french kissing"

thanks a bundle. ha

The difference between "making out" and "french kissing" is when you make out, it lasts longer than a regular kiss and it involves more movement and french kissing is just like a regular kiss, except it involves using both tounges and it lasts a little bit longer than a regular kiss.
-Karen

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Hi. I was just wondering if there was anything I could dod to have people looking at me because i have cool clothes. I have a lot of people i know that think I have cool clothes, but I want people to know all around the world.

Wait, you want people to notice you more? Just start wearing your hair different and do your make up different. Just be really friendly with everyone and people will start to notice you.
-Karen

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Me and my brother both bought Betta Splendens. (Better known as-Siamese Fighting Fish) We wanted to know how much to feed them we bought tiny pellets that they have at the pet store. We both have males so they cannot be together. How much do we feed them a day? How much do we change their water and any other basics? Thanks.

I owned quite a few Bettas when I was little so I can help you out here. You should feed both Bettas twice a day; once in the morning and once at night with a little pinch of food. You should change both of their bowls at least once a week or when the water starts to get cloudy. Don't not put both of the fish bowls close to each other because both of the Bettas will get angry. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Across the street from me, an elderly couple sold their house and the people that bought it have two young boys, ages 4 and 7 I believe. They have asked me if I'd like to babysit for them and that's fine with me. I've babysat before but normally I'd do it free of charge. It's come the time where I'm getting older and I need to get money. I'll be driving in a year and my parents aren't going to be paying for my gas and car insurance. What would be a good amout of money to ask for? I don't want to be asking for too much. I'm 15/ female.

Well since both of these kids are really young and active, you should probably charge at least $5.00 an hour or more. It all depends on how long you babysit them and if they are good and such.
-Karen

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Ok, I wrote in earlier about the guy that hates me and everything. Well now he said that he is going to ask out this really discuting guy for me tomorrow in 1st period and I know he will. What can I do because I dont want to go out with this guy but I know that he will ask him. Someone please help me and plz hurry

Talk to this guy that hates you and tell him that if he is going to ask out this guy for you that you are never going to talk to him. If he still doesn't understand and asks this guy out for you, then just go out with him for a like second and then dump and explain your reasonings. Tell this guy that hates you that he needs to stop teasing you because it isn't worth his time and he's just making everything worse. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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