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Boys always go out with me and end up dumping me after i get attatched. They tell my friends the only reason they go out with me is because they think i am hott and easy.What can i do to change that? (link)
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Show them that you have another side of you that they don't notice that you aren't easy as they think,that when you know the guy is totally into you let him know that you too should get ot know each other well,then perhaps if things go well you'll go out with him.
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I'm a 19 year old female and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I know it may sound crazy, but I havent told my parents yet. His parents know and they approve of me. But my parents seem to disapprove of him because they think having a boyfriend in college would distract me. I've already proved them wrong because I've gotten straight A's this past semester. My parents met him during thanksgiving, but still disagreed with me having a boyfriend. Theyre also very hard to talk to and are shallow saying that he's too short when he's taller than me by 2 inches. I respect my parents, but after a year of lieing to them about our relationship makes me feel guilty.
What do you think is the most proper way for me to tell them? Write a letter? Have my boyfriend's parents talk to them? Or... straight up tell them in person and hope for no lecture?? (link)
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I think you really should have your boyfriends's parents talk to your parents so they could see that your in a relatioship where you are accepted,they will be reasonable,think that they should be fair,give your boyfriend a chance just like you were given one,they will be able to convince your parents to let you date him,and try not worrying about this whole situation.
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I finished school early today and I went to meet my mum outside the school. As I was getting into the car, I noticed the most popular guy in school walk past and he goes "Thanks for last night! See you tomorrow"
I don't get it. What exactly did he mean by this? My mum said he was trying to make me laugh. I'm..err.. not so popular so I have no clue why he would talk to me. He blew me a kiss once when I was in the car with my mum too. He is a major flirt and does get a lot of girls so I'm not sure if it means anything.
What's going on here? Was this just a joke or did he have some hidden agenda?
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He might of said it as a joke or he's trying to give you a sign to let him in your life, and that you could talk to him because he has interest in you.Either take the risk,talk to him to find out what's going on or get a friend to ask his other friends if he is into you.
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every boyfriend iv ever had has beet me up.they have choked me,kicked me,punched me.chased me and jumped me,some of my guy friends have hit me with bats and the list gos on and on.i have NEVER had a boyfriend who hasent.there has to be somthing wrone with me because even some of my guy friends have beet me up. whats my problem that i always get beet up.13/f im currently single (link)
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First of all they shouldn't have put their hands on a lady like yourself.A lot of these abusive men have reasons they hit their girls or women like because they want them to fear them or they want to control them or think they are cheating on them or being flirty with other guys or that their women are lazy or they want things done for them when they ask to or done things quickly for them.But whatever of these reasons they shouldn't take advantage of a female,if I were you I would of reported them for abusing me, also think about it they'll most likely do it to other girls,if you do something about it,you'll help out other people,and you'll be thanked for.Also you will be a hero for saving others from these abusive men.
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Alright, so I've liked this guy for most of the summer, but when he actually started liking me, and wanted to start "going out," I wasn't really sure if I wanted to do the same. I mean, I'm going into high school and I guess I don't really want to be tied down by some other guy. So, anyways, I did say yes to him about "going out" and now I think I made the wrong choice. I want to tell him that I think we should just be friend's 'cause I don't want anything to be awkward. Because now that we've started going out (about 3 days ago) he hasn't even called, or talked to me. I'm going to try and tell him that I think we would be better off by not going out and just being friend's, but I don't know how to make it so it doesn't sound mean or rude. I still like him, but I don't want to be "going out."
By the way, I'm a 14 year old girl. (link)
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Well the thing is he'll get over it,also good thing you found that out on time because when a person keeps seeing that person they like a lot then the feelings grow for the other,I'm completely sure he'll understand,step aside, and let you be happy with the person you choose to be with as it should be.
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ok so i moved a year ago and i kept in touch with 2 of my friends but i would only talk to them like every once in awhile one day i started to really miss them so i called 'ann' up and started talking like ussaul but then she started talking about how she thought i was on drugs and i asked her why she said thatand she said because i didnt tell her what i did every day like once i got home and stuff and so i was like well i hang out with friends or do laundry or just like do normal stuff and so i said ann look you know drugs destroyed my family i would never do them you know that please believe me you mean alot to me and then she was like well i dont but thats ok so i took this like she trust me and so now we havent been talking for like over 6 months but i hate how it is hurting my other friend because now i have moved back into town and she wantsus both at her birthday party but ann is afraid i will beat her up wich she should know i hate violence and i wouldnt do thats so what do i do should i just forgive her or what? (link)
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You don't have to forgive her if you don't feel it's only your decision but try your best to act like everything is fine even though it isn't for now because it will mean a lot to your friend just do it for her birthday,I know it will be very hard,if your best fails,at least you tried,and put effort which should show your friend you were doing your part as a friend.
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does anyone know good songs to listen to or dedicate to someone you miss or love .. could youu leave me some .. any answers are appreciated!! (link)
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Like some love songs would be like "Show me the meaning of being lonely"from the backstreet boys,"From the bottom of my broken heart"by Britney Spears,"I need love"LL Cool J, "Missing my Baby"by Selena"Because you love me"by Celine Dion,"Never too far",and "Always be my baby" by Mariah Carey.
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I hat my mom.She wants me to get new friends because she thinks that all of my friends are horrible (ugh i HATE her)so I wanted to go somewhere with A friend and she won't let me go b/c there is gonna be drinking but i see it all the time...even my dad drinks she is so stupid she alwayts thinks that she is making the Best disision.So my question here is how can i get her to let me go places???? (link)
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Show your mom that you are responsible,that you deserve to be trusted,treated like a growm up like for example doing housework,completing with your schoolwork,showing your good grades or doing favors for her when she asks you too,then she'll start to see things differently,and trust me she'll change her ways with you.
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OK. So my girlfriend is a little younger than me and I am really hot...literally. I know that she loves me but when we kiss I have to ask her for a kiss. I am also the one that has to try to start the romance. I am only 14 but I am really attracted to her.. I am going into the 8th and she is going into the 6th. But what I am afraid of is when she starts school at the end of the month is that she is gonna find another boy.. See she has already broken up with me once. but had to have my sister tell me that it was over then about 1week later she came wanting me back. I took her back but I am not sure if I broke up with her and things didn't work out with a girl I like if she would take me back. I think that this girl that is my age and is only 1grade below me is straight out cute. her name is morgan and she is cute.. I know she likes me and I like her.. I know she likes me because we like to play basketball every sunday before church. also I was at my youth ministers last night and she was there. we were sitting right next to each other and playing all the games with each other. The only thing is I think my girlfriend was jealous because she was there and so was my sister.. What should I do.. Should I express my feelings to morgan and see what she thinks or should I just see what happens between me and my girlfriend? Please ADVICENATORS!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!!!!!
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See what happens between you,your girlfriend because she must like you a whole lot to want you back so soon,shows that she can't be without you.But if you express your feelings to Morgan you'll hurt her because you have a girlfriend already,she doesn't deserve that,and do the right thing.If it doesn't work out with your girlfriend break up with her, and then you could express your feelings to her.
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Hi myself and partner are not married and im trying to decide which surname suits him better mine or my partners
Jack Harte
Or
Jack Stapleton
Im Stuck with the name jack as it really suits him.
Id be grateful for your opinions
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I think Jack Stapleton is better because the last name is a long one, and sounds like a famous last name as well.
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My sister is sleeping over my neighbors lake house tonight while my mom goes out to dinner with my dad and their friends. I'm stuck home with my grandma who is old and boring (no offence) and I don't want to spend a night playing cards and listening to her oldies music. I see her every week already so it's not like I don't spend time with her. My mom already said NO FRIENDS. So I can't see a movie with my friends or any stuff like that. I really want to sleep over my neighbors house with my sister. They didn't actually invite me but I have slept over plenty of times before and they enjoy me sleeping over because I help them watch the kids when they want to have a couple of drinks. My mom thinks it would be rude for me to ask them if I could come too, but they are the type of family that doesn't get offended if you ask. My mom made a deal with me. She said I could call my neighbors and ask to sleep over if I could make up a really good excuse why I should sleep over that's not cheesy rehearsed or pushy or sounding like I just need a place to stay. They live right next store so I can easily ask them. So if I'm going to sleep over I have to call my neighbors and ask them but not make it seem like I'm just looking for a place to stay. I want to mention the whole baby sitting thing but I don't know what to say. Help on what to say when I call and ask? (link)
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You could say that you would like to babysit the kids if they don't mind,that they know that you love kids, and it's always a pleasure to stay over sound cheerful,in a voice that sound real if you get what I mean, and don't sound nervous because then they'll think you're desperate to stay over.
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Okk so my dad booked a european cruise for us and i'm really nervous because of what recently amost happened in london. Now i'm even more nervous because we're flying to London as one of our first flights. I'm so nervous! I'm always nervous of plains even though I fly to australia every summer! Is there any way to make me less nervous?
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Try thinking that you're gonna be fine,entertain yourself by hearing music,having long conversations with your dad so you don't even think about what's making you nervous,time will past quickly or have a long sleep there, and relax I'm sure you'll be okay.
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ok, my dad owns a fifty foot boat, it's wooden, and it' was in really bad condition when he got it. He got it a year ago, and we have been down every other weekend since. (except winter and bad weather, and our tagsale) This weekend, we weren't supposed to go down on Sunday, and he was supposed to call our aunt to make plans so we wouldn't have to go. When we're down at the boat, we get crammed inside a little room, with a t.v. with cable. There usually isn't any food, and we're there for 6-8 hours. We can go outside, and check the marina out, but we have looked around a billion times. Lastnight he said we were going with him, and i asked what had happened, and he said he didnt want to deal with our aunt. Then I got upset, and slammed my door, and he came in and started swearing at me. Nobody deserves that, and if i ever have kids, i would never do that. Anyway, he yelled"I'll ******* stay home tomorrow, **** you, you little spoiled brat!" I don't know what to do. I'm sick of being yelled at, and hes sick of yelling.
Yeah, i don't like hanging out with my grandma, but what have we done all summer? I don't know who's right, me or my dad?
sincerely,
M.J. (link)
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Well maybe you shouldn't have slammed your door because it just infuriated him but yet he shouldn't had start swearing like you said parents should always set a good example for their kids,he's not doing a good job,he should learn to control his anger,try being a little patient he's going through a ruff time,I know you also but I'm also worried that if you don't he might go crazy,you never know what he may be capable of,I'm certainly not trying to scare you but people with big tempers it's very dangerous to talk back,and if his attitude still continues I strongly suggest that you should seek for help that is available as soon as possible.
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Okay, I dont need help coping,
I just need to know if I'm alright.
I mean my grandma died when i was in 5th grade,
I'm going into 10th now, and I was closer to her,
more close than the usual grandchild grandma bond.
I mean ever since I was born I came over to my grandparents house EVERDAY after school,
and I stayed there a lot. And I still cry over her, and how I miss her.
I mean when it happened, sure I was sad, and I understood she was gone, but today I understand more, and it just makes me wish she was here.
Especially since I'm volunteering at a nursing home, for some reason I get weird notions that my grandma is stuck somewhere in there, since she said she woudl hate to be there ever. And that I just cant find her, and shes miserable.
And this month, august, is the month she died,
on the twenty eigth actually, and it was a tuesday. and i cant take it, i don tknow what to do, and if i'm going to be okay? Is it usual to still beupst about things like this even if it happened a long time ago?
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Yes,it's okay to still have the pain even though it was a long time ago,things like that you never forget for some people they deicde to have like a photo or for others it's not enough they want like maybe a piece of them like something they used to wear or a piece of their hair,makes them feel like their loved one is still with them,it's something so precious that not even something newer or money can replace it.Try to think that your grandma is happier with god,that she doesn't have to worry,no more frustrations,she's watching you,and that she'll always love you.And that she wouldn't want to see you upset she wants to see you move on and that she will rest in peace until she see's that.Don't be sad know that she'll always be guiding your way even though you may not notice.
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My friend (19 Male) like just broke up with his girlfriend. I dont know what happened or why it ended. But i ended up going away so i can finish my show. But when i came back He was away. And his message was like "My heart is in pain & that i can never do anything right."
Every relationship he has been in has ended badly.
I really like this guy & i hate even reading things like that. We dont really talk except for online & whenever i see him at church. I told him that i liked him along time ago & havent really said anything else about it.
Is there anything i can say to him to make him feel better? (link)
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Yes,like you don't understand why his ex broke up with a nice guy like him,that he's worth it,you think he's very special,that he'll get another girl that is worth it,that will show concern for him,understand him well, and who knows maybe that girl is probably very near him.Tell him other things to make him feel confident.
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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...
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You have to tell her that she's got to let go someday,now is the time,you won't be able to share your stuff with her if she tries to overprotect you,she had a boyfriend so why can't she let you date,lots of girls that are your age have a partner,that you're young,youth goes out very soon,you want to be able to enjoy it,and that if she really wants to see you happy then one of the things she could start with is letting you date.All parents know that their kids are going to have to make their own life, and their own decisions even if they don't tell you it's true.
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Well today i wen't to my friends house.I wen't to keep my best friend company because our friend(the owners house) was in her room with a guy and she called me telling me she felt uncomftrable.So when i got there like 15 minutes later the guy left and my friend came out the room. When we were all kicking it outside they started smelling their hands talking about they smelled like weed!I was so dissapointed in my best friend because it had been so long since we hung out together and i didint know she had started smoking that stuff!So i told her "when did you start"and she said "we tried it last week" and i said "i thought u were never gonna do it again"and she stood quiet 4 a while and promised this was the last time.Then when we were in the back they took out the pipe and started smoking it and asked me to do it.I said i didint want to and they just looked at me like saying wtf!But the truth is i know i should trust her but i know shes gonna try it again.I don't want her to start doing it alot because shes barely 14 but idk wut to do so she won't!wut would you do?? (link)
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What I would do is try convincing her to seek for help to stop consuming that stuff,watch her,if I see her I will keep on telling her that by taking that she's going to kill herself one day,that it's very dangerous,if she still won't listen I will tell her that if she doesn't I will have no alternative but to tell her parents if she doesn't do what I told her to,and that I'm doing this because I care about her a lot.
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im not really sure that this goes in this category but umm...yeaa. my best friend,lets call him ,enrique, has just lost his virginity. im really worrid for him because i dont think that he was ready fo it. to make matters worse. he just got a phone call from his 'friend' lets call her,tiffany, saying that she doesnt love him anymore. he really got attached and im not sure what to do for him. he used protection and everthing. so im not worried about that. so what im asking is what do i do to comfort him. hes really upset.btw 14/f (link)
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Yeah he really needs comfort,all your support,he will thank you for it,and it will show you're a true friend because they say a true friend is with you on the good times as well as the bad times.
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ok im 17 and want a kid. ok i do see that its gona be hard and that is probly not best to have a kid yet. but do you think it might help me change my mind bout having a kid if i speak to my boyfriend.
what could the out comes be? im scared if i tell him that he will get worride and leave me. but i dont want to keep something like this from him.
please help me some one.
thanks
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Just tell your boyfriend that not to take it like that it has to happen but you just want to know if he's okay with what you want,discuss it have him say his version, and that his opinion matters to you so that's why you came to him to speak about it.The outs may be that you will have to spend a lot of time taking care of the baby,not have time for you to enjoy life like a normal teenager,you will have to get a job to maintain the baby,most mom's that had kids at a young age dropped out of school to devote their life to their baby,only few don't but it's very hard though since they have homeworks,projects or to study for exams,have to come home, and take care of their child.So think about this very well.
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This kid who might like me sits behind me in one of my classes. I was talking to my friend and I was saying something about him loudly so that he could hear (It was supposed to be a good thing about him) and it came out all wrong and sounded really stupid. Like he's 6'1 or something and what I said made him sound like he was a midget! I was saying the other kid was a midget, not him! But, it came out so that I had said the 6'1 guy was short and weird and the midget was really tall and cool. Then, I wasn't having a good day because of this kid next to him and I was glaring at him then they guy who liked me looked at me and to him it would have looked like I was glaring at him for no reason! The teacher kept calling on me and I answered the wrong question or said the wrong thing about four times! I really don't want him to think I'm some retard now. Do you think he'll still like me? How do I let him know I'm know THAT stupid all the time?! (link)
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There are some options like a)the next time the teacher asks a question raise your hand,if you know the answer,answer it correctly b)make a smart comment of a discussion you're teacher is having c)try talking to him that you are not like that like say that you act normal just as everyone else,let him see that you're really a nice person so he notices that what he seen before or heard actually was so not the real you
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