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ok so i moved a year ago and i kept in touch with 2 of my friends but i would only talk to them like every once in awhile one day i started to really miss them so i called 'ann' up and started talking like ussaul but then she started talking about how she thought i was on drugs and i asked her why she said thatand she said because i didnt tell her what i did every day like once i got home and stuff and so i was like well i hang out with friends or do laundry or just like do normal stuff and so i said ann look you know drugs destroyed my family i would never do them you know that please believe me you mean alot to me and then she was like well i dont but thats ok so i took this like she trust me and so now we havent been talking for like over 6 months but i hate how it is hurting my other friend because now i have moved back into town and she wantsus both at her birthday party but ann is afraid i will beat her up wich she should know i hate violence and i wouldnt do thats so what do i do should i just forgive her or what?
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Are you really still mad with Ann? After six months it seems to me like you have no reason not to forgive her. She said a silly, insensitive thing, but she doesn't sound like she was really trying to be cruel.
If you have forgiven her, or at least aren't too mad anymore, then you should go to party. Don't worry too much about what Ann does. You know you wont hurt her and you know you wont try and cause her pain right? Tell your friend that.
Hopefully Ann will believe your mutual friend and come to the party. If she doesn't, then she is just being silly again, and you can't fix that.
So just forgive her, let people know you aren't still angry, and go to the party.
EDIT: So, she was silly about the whole thing. Fine.
Have you forgiven her or haven't you? I certainly think you should, but even if you haven't, unless you feel like fighting with her at your friends party there really isn't a problem. Just go, try to ignore her out of respect for your friend and let Ann do what she will.
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You don't have to forgive her if you don't feel it's only your decision but try your best to act like everything is fine even though it isn't for now because it will mean a lot to your friend just do it for her birthday,I know it will be very hard,if your best fails,at least you tried,and put effort which should show your friend you were doing your part as a friend.
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I think you should try to forgive her. That's a huge accusation, but explain to her how horrible that is, and that you would never do anything like that.
I know, you've tried this, but REALLY stress it to her, and if she refuses to listen, get a friend to talk to her.
Try to reconnect with her, and build her trust. Don't push her away, hang out as much as possible, and even if you haven't talked for a while, theres' always something there deep down to rekindle a friendship.
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