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alright Im 16/f and Im in the 11th grade. My boyfriend left last week for college football. And next sunday I can go and see him!.. yay!. I miss him. We have been together for 11 months on the 20th. Anyways. Im going with his parents Im pretty sure, But the thing is.. I realllly just wanna be alone. Just to cuddle and mess around. Any ideas on what to do to be alone?? Thanks!!

maybe mention this to your bf so after awhile of hanging around with his parents your bf could say something like .."i really want to take her around to meet all my friends and hang out with them for a little while today/tonight." have him suggest for them to check out a nice place to eat he knows about or somewhere to shop or something. its better for him to hint at his parents he wants time with you..im sure they will get the hint.

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just like any ...friends... or a romantic one..

I'm considering one.. and I need opinions..

what do YOU think of online relationships?

i would not suggest for you to actually go out and look for an online relationship. i am not totally against them, but i think they are very hard to maintain. if you and your online bf will only be apart for a short time, i can see things working out. but if you are so far apart or if there is no way for you to actually be together in person, i find them to be pointless. i beelive they are pointl;ess because you will become so attached to this guy by talking to him and it will kill you inside to know you cant see him or be with him. trust me i know the feeling. i believe at such a young age you should be dating people you can actually be with. whatever you decide it is your choice, this is just my opinion

-melissa-

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Hey Mel,

Can I call u maybe talk to u about my issues and all.. maybe get some insight to it all. plss

cheers
MO

i guess thats okay, but unless you get in contact with me on AIM or myspace, i dont know how it will work because i dont want to give my number out on the column. my sn is eatapasty.

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ive ben dating this guy for a long time about a year and one day my boyfriend and my bff were hanging out my bff said go buy us some pizza so i left to get the pizza when i came back with it the door was locked so i went in the back door and when i came in i didnt see then i looked in the hole house ecsep her bedroom so i went in her bedroom an they were both naked having sex.what should i do about my friend and my boyfriend?

thats horrible! dont be friends with a slut like that. forget her. and as for your bf, dont ever go out with him again. thats so horrible. you desserve a lotttt better trust me

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Okay so heres the deal.. Ive been talking to this guy for a month now.. its going great.. he lives in Virginia.. he came down on Saturday night to see his family and see me too.(hes here for a visit for a week). We met on Sunday.. Had a great time.. and the next day I asked him if he wanted to do something on Tuesday.. he said he dont think hes doing anything but he will let meknow.. ok.. day goes by.. next day I ask him.. wondering if u still wanted to do something today.. didnt respond to that but he tells me that hes soo tired went to the border yesterday(monday) and had to renew something and that he came back at 4 in the morning..took him 7 hrs to get there and that he is exhausted.. I had mentioned that he shud rest so that tomarrow he will be refreshed.. and he agreed.. and then went offline. My question to you is....do u think its wise to ask him if he wants to see me again.. honestly speaking? or am I jumping the gun too quickly..

Honestly, i would back off from him. You dont want to seem really desperate. I hope this isnt the case, but maybe he just wanted to chill with someone for the day and didnt really think you guys would hang out again. If I were you I would either not mention anything until he does or ask if he wants to hang out one more time and if he makes an excuse up be like "alright you obviously dont want to hang out anymore so fine"
See what happens if you dont talk to him first. Maybe he really was busy and hopefully soon he will initiate the conversation and want to hang out.
hope it goes well!
-melissa

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Okay.
I am currently reading a book called “After Diana: William, Harry, and the Royal House of Windsor.” And in one of the chapters they were talking about how drunk the Princes get and when they do drugs the Princes’ Royal Protection Officers are told not to watch. And how there family doesn’t care if they get drunk in the different Castle’s (Buckingham, Windsor, Balmoral, Etc.).
So my family is very wealthy and I think it would be so fun to be crazy like the Princes’.
I want to get drunk.
I want to do drugs.
I want to have Pharm Parties.
I want to have huge parties at my house when my parents are gone.
I want to crash my Mercedes.
I want to be the kids in school who everyone wants to party with.
And I know that I won’t get in trouble. Except maybe by the police, but that’s what lawyers are for.

Is it weird to think that?
Or does everyone have a bad streak like that.
Thanks

Cody*

Cody, i dont think you should worry so much about popularity first off. just have fun with the friends you have. dont be fake or desperate for friends because that isnt cool. just this summer i made three really cool friends from meeting them through my friends. make friends, not people who will use you just for parties. getting hooked on drugs is not cool. drugs ruin peoples lives and totally changes who you are as person. wanting to party a little is understandable. but i mean you want to crash your mercedes? thats crazy. those are hot cars..and people like me would kill for one.
i think its ok to be on the wild side a little bit, but dont live like that, its not smart.

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I really like this guy. But i dont know if i can trust him. we've been going out for a year, and whenever we hang out he shows me pictures of his other girlfriend naked. We do threesomes sometimes, and dont get me wrong, she's really nice, i just dont know... is it normal for me to be jealous? im crying because i feel like im not as special as she is. I admit she looks better naked and has a vagina that tastes really good, but i feel really left out. what can i do to win him over? i really love him and he's really good at doing stuff to me. and i really dont want to let him go.. advice?

(13/f)

if you are being for real and not joking, then wow this is quite the situation for a 13 year old to be in. you should be hanging out with friends and going to the movies or swimming. not being involved in some messed up relationship. i cant beleive you would go out with someone who has ANOTHER gf! and to get involved in such sexual activities at your age is honestly disgusting. My advice is to dump your bf and stay away from sex for a few years until you find someone who REALLY loves you. Im not going to lie to you, this is a disgusting situation. You are only 13 and getting involved in stuff like this? Do you want to end up pregnant or with an std? You should be spending your time being a KID, not in bed with two other people. Gross.

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alright so theres this boy and i used to be together with him and we had an odd relationship it was a loveysex relationship. Well it was all going great then one day he told me he liked someone else and didnt wanna hurt me like he has before which i respected but it still hurt because i finally let my gaurd down and let him in and that son of a biotch pulled this. Anyways he still talks and sometimes it gets deep like when we were together before and I will always have feelings for him so it makes me happy that its like old times but then i remember his girlfriend...


what do i do?

this guy is a real player. if he wanted it to be like old times, he wouldnt be with someone else. he just is a huge flirt and i think you can do a lot better than that in my opinion. he has a gf now..hes off limits. and thats so shady that hes talking to you like that if he has a gf! imagine if YOU were his gf. wouldnt you be so hurt? hes a loser..find a better guy hun

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its so hard for me to not be able to see my best friend in the whole world. he and i got really close in the last semester of middle school. those were the most special and unforgetable months of my life with him but now i wont get to see him that much anymore. we're going to different school next year so i wont get to see him everyday anymore. its summer now and here i am at home missing him so badly. we talk to eachother almost everyday but i just want him back beside me. its kinda hard to explain my feelings for him since i dont really even know anymore....i saw him nearly 3 weeks ago and i tried to see him again last week but he couldnt and this week he cant go to this one party. im just so sad about the whole thing. when i heard i might be seeing him again i got so happy all of a sudden but it really sux. someone help me please. btw we were never in a relationship but i used to like him and he doesnt like me.

If i were you i would ask my parents if he could come over or if they would drop us off at the mall or somethin. i would definitely try to plan to hang out with him a couple times a week. how far away will you be next year? maybe you can still work it out to visit each other. One of my best friends had to say goodbye to her bf for 3 months because hes going to the navy! so i mean imagine that!? at least you and your guy friend can try and plan to hang out once a week or so. even if you guys just hang out at the park, hang out at each others house, go to the movies, the mall, a water park, anything! just enjoy your summer together. good luck! inbox me if you have more questions

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so there is this guy. He is really fine and has a way with words. He is very sweet and fun to be around. Me and him talk dirty to eachother a lot. And one day he said lets hangout. so i said okay and do what? and he said anything. And i said anything but sex? and he said no, im down for that. i want to loose it to you. I really like him and he is special. i am a virgin. and so is he, but he has done everything except sex. and i want to loose it to him!
Should i?
no lectures

i dont think you should. no lectures, just my opinion. like i think you guys should get to know each other more and go out for awhile first. sex should not be rushed. when its rushed, its later regretted from what i see. if you really want to, go ahead as long as you really think you're ready and will be safe.

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I loathe reading super long love complications on this site so I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
I'm 16/f.
I think I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend who has moved to another town but I still see him weekly. We've broke up about a month and a half ago but still frequently have had a sexual relationship since then. I honestly can't see the difference between when we were going out and now. Anyway, one of his best mates is in love with me and he's told me and he's just so in love with me it's crazy. I've had sex with him but I just don't feel anything for him at all. My ex is angry at him for having sex with me. He said he wants to kill him. :S. Anyway I was talking to my best friend in the whole entire world 17/m tonight and I said I might make up a fake boyfriend so my ex's bestie will stay away from me and it won't hurt him as much as knowing that I don't like him at all in that way. Anyway, my bestie said to me that to be honest he would go out with me but he doesn't want to lose me if anything goes wrong in our relationship coz he's seen it happen. I do love my best friend a bit more than I should lately and I don't know whether it would be the right thing to go out with him. Would it get my ex out of my head and would it keep my ex;s bestie away?? Does anyone have any thoughts they want to share with me of what I should do or advice?
Thanks

If you really want to get over your ex, then yes it would help. It would also keep his best friend away and i makes it easy for you because you dont have to turn him down. If you feel that you want to be with this new guy who is your friend i say go for it! i tried dating my closest friend and it didnt really work out but we are still friends. good luck!

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I've never had a job before, and tomorrow I have a job interview at Walmart. Does anyone know what questions they might ask me? Or some tips on what I should or shouldn't say?

Thanks.

Definitely look presentable. Another thing that hasnt been said is this:
Tell them that you are a people person and you know how to talk to people politely and you would help the customer no matter what. Thats a good response if they ask you why did you chose walmart to work at or why do you think you would be good for walmart. If you have any questions..ask them. Be friendly and say thank you or nice to meet you..shake their hand when meeting them or saying goodbye. Good luck!

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Im in love and I thought that was enough but Idk. I wish he would show me that he loves me some times. He does some times and he treats me right but its like he doesnt care. I want to be with him and I dont want to take another break. I feel like im controlling. I guess its my fault...

No its not your fault! I definately know how you feel. Maybe your guy doesnt know how you feel? Communication is very important..let him know that sometimes you want him to show that he cares more. If he really cares about your feelings he will do his best to listen to how you feel and work on showing his affection more. I hope it works out!

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My boyfriend broke up with me about 7 or 8 months ago. We only went out for a little over a month. He broke up with me for another girl and it took me a while to get over because i still liked him. We managed to stay friends because we chill with the same group of people. Just a few days ago my friend told me how he was talking about how he doesn't even know why he went out with me and it was only because i had a "huge rack" and a "nice butt". And now its really been making me upset and i dont know why, what can i do?

Thats a horrible thing to say and if an ex of mine told me that I would be pretty hurt. My advice is to not let it bother you..hes being a jerk! Tell him hes being a shallow idiot and you cant beleive he would say that. Only forgive him if he apologizes and reeally seems to mean it. If he doesnt apologize its his loss because hes a real loser for saying that. Keep your chin high and dont let people talk down to you. Always stick up for yourself and always carry yourself with pride and dignity. Its the best advice I can give anyone. Dont sweat him hun..your better than that!
-melissa-

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Dear Mrs. Web,

Three months ago, my wife abruptly separated from me and moved across the country. Recently, my wife revealed that she and one of my best friends had sex several times within weeks of her leaving. This friend was a groomsman at our wedding, and has been close to me for 5 years or so. My conundrum involves what I should do with this knowledge. We are all part of a tight knit group of friends from college has stayed close even years after we graduated.

I worry that revealing this knowledge will tear our group apart and hurt so many people. On the other hand, it feels like a difficult burden to carry this experience around without having those people who are closest to me aware of what I am going through. Should I tell my friend that I know about his infidelity with my wife? Should I tell some of our closest friends about this infidelity so they can comfort me, or should I keep it to myself so that our group of friends can stay strong? I'm extremely torn about what to do, and would love to hear any advice you have.

Thanks,
Torn and confused

This is horrible..but in my opinion i think you should go to your friends for comfort and support. Why worry about the group being torn apart? Your friend who cheated with your wife desserves to be cut off from this group of friends. Thats not a true friend at all and the only friends you should have in your life are the true friends. My friends help me get through all the problems in my life..so i think you should talk to them about how you feel. Dont keep quiet just because one of your friends of the group was the cheater. He doesnt desserve your friendship

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Ok Well a long time aog I knwo the sun was goign to go away and we would all die but that was goign to be way after I die so I guess it's ok but now there's news that we could all die in..i think 2012? Cuz of sun rays?

Now I'm scared and going crazy with WHAT IF..

Like the little children! So many of my relatives has little babies and now..omg I'm just so scared and going crazy.. and thinking stuff liek will it be a quick death or a slow death where we'll all burn?

Please help me I don't know how yet I can't even type all the things I'm feeling!

Alright..my best answer to this is to ignore it. In 1999 when it was about to turn 2000 tabloids ((AKA bullcrap magazines)) were filled with stories saying how this guy was predicting that in the year 2000 the world would end. People actually beleived it and stocked up on bottled water! It was actually pretty funny to watch them scurry around the stores. Many people thought that on 6/6/06 the world would end also! You have to understand the world is full of people making MONEY off of scaring people with NONSENSE. Its all garbage.You cant live your life scared. Im not saying that this stuff is impossible..but dont live scared. There has been plenty of this 'prediction' stuff and many people insisting the world is going to end every year..but it hasnt happened!
So.dont worrry hun!
-melissa- :)

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I'm dating a guy right now. he's really smart. i'm not just saying that because i'm dating him. he really is quite intelligent. he has a sore on the inside of his lip. he says it's herpes, but that oral herpes isn't contageous. that doesn't sound right to me. i always thought it was contageous. i looked at the sore and it looked nothing like herpes, at least not like the pictures i've seen in school. i don't know much about herpes, but i know i don't want to get it. i really don't know what to do.

I would definately MAKE him go to a doctor or something to get it checked out. It would suck if you get it too. Go with him to the doctor and discuss options such as treatment and if that would mean if you are protected as well. Go to a planned parenthood office to ask these questions..they are extremely helpful. You can also call them on the phone to ask questions. Dont take any chances! STDS are nottt cool hun!
-melissa-

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well does size really matter, i mean honestly its always love, understanding and respect that plays a major role in ,love and sex, and eventhough if size is not that great to boast of, but one is good in providing pleasure to the other person.....tell me would still size matter.
what are the other way of satisfying?

i really dont think size should matter if you are in a relationship with someone you care about and they care about you as well. Foreplay (oral and touching) are ways to satisfy your partner (sexually) Rob is correct..size only matters to sluts or one night stands.

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ok i just got my first boyfriend the 21st and im 13 years old and everytime we see eachother he brings a condom. but i dont know if i should. and plus im prudeee. help me outt

First off..you arent prude! Your only 13 and you are just beginning to date! Definately WAIIT for the right guy. Sex is a major thing. Think about it, its so huge that some people wait until marriage or until they are in their late teens. If i lost it to the first few boys that were interested in me back when i was 13,14,15 etc..then MAN i would definately be reeeally hurt because boys are dumb at that age and i had no real connection or truely deep relationships. At that age you should keep it to going out on little dates,hanging out together,phone conversations,kissing,that type of stuff. Dont get pressured into having sex. You are in charge of yourself..and how you lose it,when,and to who is totally up to you. Dont waste your virginity..save it for the right guy when you are older.
-melissa-

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okay so this is really important!
im not used to guys liking me
im 16 and never been on a date or kissed or anything
so this guy on myspace that lives about 20 minutes away from me added me and he didnt talk to me for like a month but he did about 40 minuts ago and we were talking and now he wants to go to a movie with me. i think hes cute, but i dont know him so im not sure if i like him. and hes 5'6 and im 5'9 and im not height shallow i just like the idea of dating a guy whos my hight but i think thats the least of my worries. my parents would freak if they thought that i was gonna go hang w/ a guy i dont know. my best friends said that they wouldnt let me go alone, just incase something happens, i dont think hes a dirty old man, but you can never be too careful. i dont want to say no and him think im not interested b/c i am, im just scared b/c things like this dont happen to girls like me. i really want some advice on this, i have no idea what to do. sorry this was so long but im like freaking out here!

I have been dating my bf for over a year and this is EXACTLY how we got together! At the time he lived 30 mins away and we never talked..we were just random myspace friends. he responded to a bulliten i posted saying "anyone wana hang out?" but anyway, he responded, we gott talking for about a week and met up. Since then we have been crazy about each other!
When i first met him i was with friends..if you meet this boy dont go alone! Definately dont worry about the height thing..all that matters is how much you guys connect with each other. Yes, this can be dangerous..but im also saying it could be a great opportunity to meet a guy who will be great for you! Make plans to meet him somewhere like the mall or the park and go with friends..i hope it goes as well for you as it did for me! Definately inbox me with an update..i really wana know what happens! :)
-melissa-

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