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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



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i have been going out with someone for a little over 1 month. i REALLY like him but since its summer, i have no way of seeing him. his mom gets all mad when girls call him and i dont want to get him in trouble. but calling him is like the only way i even have a chance of at least talking to him and trying to set up something. you probably know who this is =), and i really need your help!

Hey babe! Maybe you could have one of his friends call him to get them together. Or, you could be EXTRA cute and send him letters. Or, just be bold and call him. Keep the calls limited to 15 minutes so that the mother will be happy. Don't call past nine. The best hours are from 2-5, then 8-8:30. They're good time zones. And don't call every day.

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i'm having a hard time lately. it seems as though everytime i get a new friend, all the boys fall for her. i feel like an idiot standing next to them. and i really like this guy, and i have for a few months. i know i'm not an unattractive girl, but i really want him to fall for ME. we know eachother and talk all the time, but i just feel like an idiot around him and get all choked up. i dont want him to fall for one of my friends. i dont know what to do over the summer considering we're not really friends. i know some of his friends and i hang with them, and i've asked them to help. he knows i like him; but i want to do something to SHOW him how much.. i want him to see in me what everyone else doesn't. i feel as if people are superficial towards me because of my friends. i think i'll see him on tuesday.. it would be great if you could help me by then!! thanks again.

Hello! Well, I'll have to start off by saying that guys, no matter how adorable, are usually just NOT worth it in the end. Because those new friends you're gaining, although you may be jealous of them, will always be there for you. Guys find a new chick to drool over every so often.

Right now, you should just get your flirt on! Maybe do something special for him.. even the little things such as saying how you love his shirt or asking him what cologne he's wearing. Guys love stuff like that, just like girls do! If a guy falls for your friend, it'll be the hardest thing in the world, but you'll have to be genially happy for her. It's completely tough, but that's what you would want from a friend.

But, you have to think back about it. If this dude is totally amazing, you should flirt like crazy! What I did a couple of weekends ago was I really liked this guy.. and he was at a party. The night went REALLY well, so at the end I pulled him aside by the hand (very romantically, might I add!) and gave him my number. Then I made sure to look up at the end and smile at him. You should do something cute like that!

As for being mistaken for superficial.. you have to force people to see past that by showing them how unique you are! Because, you are, in fact, an individual with your own mind, ideas, style, and heart. However, if you actually aren't very happy with who you hang out with, I'm sure that you can make new friends. If you be yourself and don't worry about labels, than everything should go smoothly.

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guess which retard left this question

Uhm.. I don't know? Who is this? And to answer your question in the subject, "What the hell kind of a site is this?"... It's a site for people who need help, then I advise them. Got it?

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A few months ago, I thought I was bi. I started looking at girls in a different way then I had before. Now, I have a boyfriend, and he is bi, but I'm not attracted to anyone but him. It's hard for me to tell now if I am bi or not, because things have changed. Do you have any advice?

Well, I'm not really an expert on this subject, but you should just continuing following your heart. I mean, does it really matter what you label yourself as? I think not. Follow your heart.

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i cant breath when im running.. like my lungs get all tight.. what could be the problem. im afraid to ask my mom to take me to the Dr. because she might think i want attention. The gym teacher said i might have asma (sp) how do i know if i have it? please help
Me

Hmm.. if you're having trouble, than next time you see your doctor, tell her/him that you have difficulties breathing when you do physical activities. Tell your doctor that you aren't sure if it's anything serious, but you'd feel better if you were clear on whether or not you have a lung disease.

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Ok, so I have this friend: She and I have known each other since we were tiny, but then I moved away and forgot that I knew her. Then I moved back. We were in the same class in 5th grade and we became the best of friends, nothing would have ever happened to change that. Except middle school. And it came, and we stopped talking, and I honestly can't tell you how horrid that was. I would sit in my room and think of everything I wanted to tell her, but I didn't know if I could, if she would want me to. See, she got a bunch of new friends and I didn't feel like I was one of them.
Then came 7th grade, and boy, did I feel terrible. It was the first time that I hadn't talked to her as soon as I got home from school the first day, I thought I was going to cry. Later that year, we had a big long talk, and we decided that we had to work on keeping up, staying close. Then she started being really sad, which was so different from the way I knew her. She felt self-consious and lonely --Neither of which she should be, she's fabulous, and we are always there for her. But, the worst part was when she wrote in an online diary that she had started committing acts of bulimia. I physically felt the pain that she must have been feeling inside. I cried for her for hours, and the only thing I could think was "I don't think she understands how wonderful she is. How beautiful, inside and out, how much people love her when she is merely herself. How, people will not think of her any differently if she allows herself to cry and that they are probably clamoring to return the favors she has given them and offer her their shoulder." Now, I really need some help. How do I let her know how amazing, and beautiful, and lovely she really is?

But you just have to do stuff like this for her. You have to understand that she probably doesn't look into the mirror and see what you see in her, inside and out. I know that when I look in the mirror I can't stand it. I hate myself, inside and out. When I'm with my friends, I feel good. When I'm not, I feel depressed. So, there's only so much you, as a friend, can do for your friend. Just do spontaneous things that will make her feel good about herself. Be the great friend that you seem to be, as I can see from this entry.

And by you in person. You're the best. Thanks, Carrie.

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hey, sorry this isn't a question .. its to the person who wrote
hey sam,
i was wondering if you could help me. what i did, was i just let my hands loose to type, and this is what i came up with. Ill copy and paste it from microsoft.

look, i d k you. nor do i have any idea who you are..when i read your questions i didn't hear one good thing about your self. yeah, maybe all those bad this are true.. but you have to have atleast ONE good thing..you have to.
if you just stop compairing your self to others, you will be much better off. if you stop looking at some one else's life and seeing what your missing .. and instead look at what you have, you will be happier.
maybe they hidd their tears. i know i do.
i dont tell people my problems at school.. but i just break down at home, my life ins't perfect.. but i do look at the good things that i have in my life.. and thats what gets me threw.
i hope you are okay, and i love you (even tho i dont kno who you are!)
Justine

Thanks Justine.. from one advicenator to another!!!

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hey i just got my period. It doesn't matter or anything until I get to how do i get the products that I need for it. My mom passed away about 2 years ago and I'm really embaressed to tell my dad this and ask him to buy me the things i need. Please help me!! HURRY!

If you live close to a grocery store, pharmacy.. whatever.. go there. You can walk, bike, run, jog to get the items you need. Also, you could have a friend bring them over for you. But remember, your dad knows he'll have to deal with that stuff because he is the mom and the dad. You can tell him in time.

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I have a best-friends and she and I are really close. ButI used to have another best friend and she and I got into a big fight nd we are not friends anymore. And now my best-friend is becoming really great friends with the other girl and it feels like im being pushed away. Like they have all these inside jokes and she talks about her and it just hurts. I've had many "best" friends and I just want to keep this one and I realize that I have to accept their friendship and things. And i have alreayd talked to my bff about it and she told me that she loves me and that they are becoming good friends. But the other girl and I just can'tr seem to get along and I want to make it work but... argh! Please just help!

I know that it's really hard for you, but if they're so oblivious to your feelings, maybe you should find some new friends. Tough, yes, but true. And maybe if you leave for a little while, they'll feel bad and see what's going on with you.. maybe pay more attention to you.

But I can't really understand your question because you didn't write names.. made it confusing. Can you please write a re-post and put in names.. even if it's Sally and Pineapplehead.. I don't care. I just need to figure out the difference between the two .. or is it three? .. people.

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i really like this guy and he said he likes me but like he asked out this other girl from another school.... :-( and i dont no what to do all my friends say that i should just steal him but others say i shuold jsut wait....
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Too late, he's taken. Wait it out.

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ive liked two guys this year... and so the first guy... well he kinda just didnt like me.. and i had friends ask around and stuff... but... then i started liking dan. he was totally different... and hes cute and nice and sweet. nobodys asked me out this year... except justin check :( and hes a loser-freak! so i had my friend ask around... but he also doesnt like me. I feel so stupid. like... a ton of people have boyfriends... and all i have is me. well... and also a TON of people have had at least one true boyfriend.... but i have had NOTHING. am i doomed to being boyfriendless? cause right now.. i really want to give up and just like... die. cause i am hopeless.

I wish you people would stop saying you want to die. WORK THROUGH YOUR FREAKING PROBLEMS! I'll help you through them just STOP SAYING YOU WANT TO DIE. Boys, believe it or not, are not everything. Tons of people never even get married!

You'll get a boyfriend sooner or later. Just flirt or whatever.. find the right guy.

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okay.. this is going to seem weird..
but i never dreamm. like ever. but when i do.. what i dream comes true..and last night i had a dream (more of a nightmear!) that my b.f broke up w. me, and went out with my sister.
and now all day i have been thinking.. is he going to break up w. me!?!
but i know that he would never go out w. my sister. or my sister would go out w. him.. but i still feel that im competting for him.. like against other girl! now this boy isn't prince charming.. there is only one other girl that does like him.. and she hates me.
blah. please help me! .. and im not the one to go up to him and say, i feel that i am competing for him.
i need serouse helpp.please!

Make sure that you are always putting forward your all. If he dumps you for someone else, it means that you weren't satisfying him in the way that he needed to be satisfyed. Make sure you're always being nice and sweet and fun. Don't be mopy or ignore him. Love him to the best of your ability, and you should be fine.

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hey sam,
i was wondering if you could help me. what i did, was i just let my hands loose to type, and this is what i came up with. Ill copy and paste it from microsoft.

Sometimes I wish my life would just stop and come right to an end. My life is a disaster and my life is a wreck. I’m always late to everything, I am poor, my family has a tiny house, and I am ugly and have no friends. Sometimes my life should just stop, for good. And then I wouldn’t have to live through this nightmare. Everyone has a best friend but me. Sometimes I wish that the end would come now. As in today. Sometimes I wish that day was today. Maybe I should pick up the shotgun and end it now. Or the knife. It wouldn’t matter, either way this would be gone. This life should not be lived. This nightmare should go away. I am scared of everything. I have trouble making friends. I am ugly. My face is zit-covered. I have no friends. Nobody loves me like Briana, or Justine, or Sam, even Emily and alexa. Nobody will like me as much as they love Alana, and Hilary and jaquie and Natalie. Even Sara and Sam Virgulty. I am a loner. A poor, ugly loner. I want this life of mine to be gone. Washed away with the ocean water. My life will be gone eventually. Why not end it now? Why suffer when it could be gone now. I don’t understand this rhythm. I don’t understand this horrid life. How can it be interpreted. Why me? Why not the people above. They have the lifes of their dreams, with loving rich families. My smiles could never hide my tears. Why are people so blind. Sometimes I want to let it all out. Let it be. But it cant be. Life is too complicated to be that way. So why cant I cry. The tears wont come. They shall stay hidden and rested forever on. For when I die, it shall be hidden. Nobody will have known about my suffering and pain. Cause they were too blind to see. They were to blind to notice even the little things in my life. It is gone. My life will end. How about now. Nobody would notice, no one would care. They would be blind and I would be gone. Forever.

I dont know exactly what to say. cause i really think that maybe i was letting my feelings come out and i was really ready to let go. i think i am ready to let go. so if i dont talk to you again... have fun with your ''BFF'' and see ya.

First of all.. I don't have a best friend. Not at all. I'm almost sure I know who this is, but I'm going to act like I don't.

"I have trouble making friends. I am ugly. My face is zit-covered. I have no friends. Nobody loves me like Briana, or Justine, or Sam, even Emily and alexa. Nobody will like me as much as they love Alana, and Hilary and jaquie and Natalie. Even Sara and Sam Virgulty. I am a loner. A poor, ugly loner."
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE! If you continue to do this, it's not going to work out for you. Trouble making friends, everyone does. Ugly and zits, yeah.. well.. same here. No friends, doubtful. Nobody loves you as much as other people, well, you'll just have to accept that and be thankful for what you have. Poor, you're probably just thinking of yourself as poor because maybe your house isn't as huge as other people's. I know my house isn't.

"I don’t understand this horrid life."
Horrid life? Think about the people who live on the streets of Philadelphia begging for quarters for food, a shelter, clothes. That is horrid. Being looked at weirdly for having nothing.. nothing at all. Think about that dork in your class that everyone constantly makes fun of? The one that is so smart and dresses very oddly and is made a fool. What about them? Makes your life look pretty good, huh?

"My life will end. How about now. Nobody would notice, no one would care. They would be blind and I would be gone. Forever."
And you really think it's worth it? To throw your whole life away? Never going to a prom? Never graduating? No going to college, getting married, having children and grandchildren? You'll never have that all because you're going through a hard time in your life? The easy way out. You are weak. You can't just tell yourself that nothing is worth it. EVERYTHING IS WORTH IT! Work out through this time. It'll be hard, yeah, but you need to do it. Don't throw everything away. It is selfish.

Put yourself out there. Be friendly. Buy a new product for your skin. Most importantly, be yourself. Because as much as I see you are suffering, I'd rather you be hated for who you are not than loved for who you are not.

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I seriously hate like my chin! it's so fat and annoying! I look so awful in pictures (i think). My boyfriend says that i'm "beautiful" but i seriously hate my chin. Is there anything i can do to like reduce it?
signed,
Paper Bag Over Face

-Paper Bag Over Face

First of all, if you had a paper bag over your face, people would laugh at you. Your chin probably is not as bad as you think it is. Your boyfriend is obviously going to call you beautiful because he loves you. But, if you hate your chin so much, then I'm sure there is some chin reducing product out there. But I doubt it works. DON'T EVER DO PLASTIC SURGERY--NOW OR IN YOUR FUTURE! You are made the way you are for a reason.. don't try and change yourself!

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okay..I had the FREAKIEST DREAM EVER last night. and i was wondering if you could interpret it..okay..here it goes:

I was hanging backstage,during the play and all of a sudden a kid named Andrew comes over and says hi, So then his FATHER comes over(he was a backstage monitor)and hands me this piece of paper. And it's like a survey. So i fill out most of it(cuz i forgot to fill the rest out.) [And the questions were like:What's your name, your age, sex, Do you have a Boyfriend,have you ever had sex, Do you like older, younger or your age men..etc..]So i hand it back to him and he's like can you fill out the rest of the info please, so i said "i'd rather not, until i know what it is for." But he never told me. all he said was something like "You better fill this out, or you'll regret this..." So i run to the only place i felt safe..The Costume room(upstairs out of the way..not not noticeable)
So i grab to of my friends,Carrie and Amy (the ones that were closet to me{like near me}) and we ran up stairs. Out of breath i told them what i thought the man would do, and what he said. So i go back down the stairs back to the sidestage and I see andrew's father coming up the stairs.. And andrew was right next to me. So showing him i don't want anything to do with an older man, i grab andrew and kiss and make-out with him.(in front of his father.)...Then i woke up...

Please..I HOPE you can tell me what this dream means..
Thanks so much!

First of all, since I know you like Andrew.. this helps!

Okay. Well, you feel like his father (or any other people that you respect) are going to get in the way of your relationship. And the reason why the questions were about sex and such is because you feel like everyone just wants to know everything about the relationship between the two of you. The reason why you made ot with him is because you wanted to show the father that he can't control everything in Andrew (and your) life. You wanted to be rebelious and go for it! Continue being bold.. just not to that extreme!

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OMG I soo totally Love hard rock!..my favorite band in the whole world is Dirturbed and I love every one of their songs and i know the words to all of them and i listen to them 24/7...but i am a christian i like other music too but hard rocks my favorite....is listening to it a sin?? and do they worship the devil??? thnx for any help

Is listening to music a sin? ARE YOU CRAZY? I'm sorry, but if doing what pleases you is a sin, then this whole Christianity is retarded! You're not doing anything wrong.. you've got taste in music. It's not like you are following them. Worship who you want to worship. They'll do the same.

Oh my god, your question is like me saying "I want to be friends with this girl, but I can't hang out with her because her name starts with a "T" and I can only hang out with girls with names starting with the letter "S". But she's really cool. What do I do?" Doesn't your question seem a little ...DUH... now?

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i am finding that my hair is taking longer and longer to do, with less of a result and usually dosent stay clean for more than a day... i have tried switching shampoos (i seem to do it weekly now) and cutting my hair, i let it grow, i died it, i put stuff in it! nothing seems to work!

Whao girl.. stop for a second. Switching shampoos actually "confuses" your hair. Find something that works or just stick to a brand like Panteen Pro-V. Cutting it is a great idea, but you have to find a style that will work for you. Like, if you have thick thick thick hair.. something you want might not work for you. Also, make sure your cut will make it easier for you in the AM to deal with. Dying it will mess it up.. don't damage your hair. Putting "stuff" in it can be good.. can be bad. I don't know what your "stuff" is. If it is a leave-in conditioner.. great! If it is gel and crap.. poo. So, for now, try to put in some leave-in conditioner or the Garnier Fructis "Sleek and Shine" serum. It's in a small round container and it's really good for frizz-rid. Try to steer clear from flat irons and blow dryers for awhile. Stick to ponytails.

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is it normal for your breasts to hurt during your period?

Yes.

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I dyed my hair yesterday and i always straighten/flat iron my hair and i was wondering if its safe to flat iron it after i dyed it? would it dye it out? my hair is well conditioned so it doesnt look or feel dye but i was just making sure. Thanks!

Yeah, it's fine.. don't worry about it.

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This person who I have really liked for 3 months wrote me a note and asked who my friend liked. He knows I like him but hasn't done anything about it.. other than flirt. So I wrote back and said why, do you like her? And he just wrote "maybe" My friend really likes him but they dont even talk AT ALL. I just don't understand. Do you think that he likes her?

Sorry chica, but this isn't your dude. He seems to like your friend and not you. But, hey, be happy for your friend.. just like you'd expect HER to be happy for YOU if the situation was turned around.

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