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I need some advice FAST I want to know what to do about my boyfriends son, I think he was molested by another boy when he was younger. He is on the verge of telling us. He is 22 yrs old. He has alot of rage inside of him, he has just beat up his girlfriend & talks of thoughts of killing people.
How do we handle this when he tells us (which I suspect is the molestation I mentioned) What is the appropriate thing to say & then do after the fact. He does not trust or like alot of people, I'm afraid of where he is headed

first of all you need to put him in professional care. not just a psychiatrist if he has thoughts of killing people. you need to get this girlfriend away from him because if his anger gets out of control, he'll hurt her worse than ever and no one wants that.
when he tells you, you need to calm him down. i'm guessing when he tells you he'll be looking for sympathy considering that face that he's decided to open up. so give him what he wants. if he wants to close the discussion afterwards then don't force him.
do not blame him for not trusting people, he has all the right to and even if he gets professional help and all the anger is taken out of him, he'll still have trust issues

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im going to ninth grade next year and im knida happy but i cant get over the horrer stories i heared of high school and i want to know is it really bad????thanxs

i will tell you that you'll either love high school or hate it. it's either or in most cases. most people love it because it gives you MUCH MORE FREEDOM than middle school. there are much more fun times in high school i'll tell you that. and there is something for everyone whether it has to do with classes, groups or activities and stuff like that. I personally love it. you don't worry about stuff as you do in middle school. hope i helped and i'm pretty sure you'll love it =]] dont worry about it also, its only a couple of years of your entire life. it's not the biggest thing out there

es =]]

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I'm 16/f
I wish I had one of those moms or sisters that I could just talk to and be cool with, but I don't. Advicenators helps when I have short questions, but some of my thoughts I think if someone just sat there and talked through it with me I wouldn't feel like I was gonna explode all the time. I mean everyone needs that person where they can just TALK, right?

Does anyone know another site or something that has people that will just listen?

-A

i know exactly what you mean and i don't feel like this site will help with going into details about how you feel just the basics pretty much. there aren't really sites better than this one and i've tried them.

if you wanna talk you can always im me i'm always on mobile or on aim
my s/n is xxes25

and i will listen to you cause i know what you mean.

es =]]

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15/ f
i've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years.
i care about him alot, the thing is if we break up for good he's going to move back to where he use to live, which is 8 hours away by plane.. I would lose a best friend, and a boyfriend. A reason why we would break up is because of me.. i could see myself marrying him, but not right now. I wanna "play the field" alittle bit.. be with other guys but i cant or he'll move. Any advice on any of this?

so you have 2 options pretty much : stay with him, be in love, as happy as you are now, or you can break up, see what's out there and maybe you'll find someone you love other than him.

the thing is, you are amazing lucky that you found someone you have fallen for this early in life. the fact that you two have been together for two years proves that this isn't your ordinary high school crush that lasts for a couple of months and is over. just remember that.

i'm sure you wanna play the field, but guess what? i highly doubt that you'll find someone who will stay with you for as long as this guy has because most guys today will only look for sex and other favors from girls. this guy genuinely seems to care for you so you need to ask yourself if you would be okay with letting him go in the end, and if you arent in any way, then tell him to stay. if you think you can be without him, then let him go.

i really wish you luck
im me if you wanna talk
xxes25


es =]]

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Ok, so I have been dating this guy for a while now and I really do love him. Like I have thought I was in love before, but realized I have never loved anyone the way I love my boyfriend now. And I know that he loves me. I don't need him to say he loves me, although he does, but I can just feel his love. Well, about a month ago he bought me a promise ring. It is really pretty and I almost never take it off. It's white gold with our birthstones (real stones) and our names engraved in it. The night that he gave it to me he told me how much he loves me, and that someday he would love to marry me. He was saying that he might propose to me in a year or two. I think about this everyday now. He really is my everything. I guess that my problem is I find myself thinking of the future too much, if he proposes. And when I think of this, I become really quiet and he knows what is running through my head. It makes him sad a little just because I am so quiet when I think. Is there any way to not think so much about the whole possible engagement?

if your thoughts are happy then you shouldn't be bothered by thinking of this, its wonderful. not many people find true love in this world and you have everything to look forward to. however if these thoughts aren't good then you should pay attention to what life is giving you at hand. when you find yourself caught up in how the future will be just stop for a second and clear your mind.
there are many aproaches to clearing your mind such as visualizing yourself surronded by a bubble and all the thoughts you want away from you are outside this bubble. you should then feel like you are staring into darkness or into the center of darkness. other than that i'm not sure how you can stop thinking of him. good luck in your future with your love =]]

es =]]

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i'm not sure if it's my contacts or not.. but yeah. okay, well i just put on my contacts.. and everything seems clear, like how it's supposed to. but then it's also kinda blurry at the same time. like it can't really focus real clearly. especially when i'm staring at the computer screen. what should i do? & what is going on?

this happened to me and there can be a couple of possible causes for this problem:

1. you're tired therefore you can't focus clearly although this would have been obvious.. you might want to take out you're contacts and let your eyes rest

2. you have astigmatism. i never understood or believed it and thought it was a way for optomitrists to charge more money and basically bullshit you but in reality that is most likelly the main cause. you see blurry when your eyes are in focus, so you need to see if special contacts for astigmatism help.

es =]]

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I started babysitting a couple months ago on a regular basis and now I'm getting a lot of people asking me if i can babysit for them and what I charge. The thing is I don't have a set fee. the lady i babysit for now pays me about $20 if its a couple hours and if it's the whole time it's about $50 depending on what kids i have. b/c there are 4 kids. so the questions are...

what should I set my fee at?
am i being payed unfair with the lady i babysit for now?


thankz in advance
-cuttechick24

you are definately getting underpaid so far. i suggest 7+ dollars an hour. most of the people i know babysit ask for 10 an hour. if you ask for less than 7, it's considered slavery as work because it's less than minimum wage.

hope i helped

es =]]

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A few months ago I noticed that I had gained about 10 pounds unexpectedly. I've started running three times a week, strength training, I eat healthy and I lost no weight at all (I mean inches by that, I know about muscle weight gain)

Even for a while, I didn't eat. I refused to eat for about two weeks, other then a few pretzels a day, and I still lost no weight.

Am I just like, immune to weight loss?

ok so the most logical reason is that you've hit a plateau meaning you wont lose anymore weight until you change up your routine.
so do just that, i'm guessing that running built up your leg muscles but did nothing else for your body, try crunches or lunges and other exercises to see if you lose weight, and plus it will tone your body.

as for eating, having a few pretzels a day won't help for long term affects, it will only allow you to lose weight for a short period of time like a few days and then the weight will come back.

try cutting back on sugar and then once you feel there's a change or you've hit another plateau, cut back on fats and carbs instead. you have to alter your routine to see results. good luck


es =]]

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im 15, im american! And i am hairy!! Its really ugh! i dont like it! my legs are hairy, my stomach is hairy. thats about it! my stomach and legs! i hate it! i trie everything and it keeps coming back! I wish i can get rid of it forever! im the only one in the family with this problem, and IM AMERICAN! im white! im from new york city! i dont know why i have this problem! i wanna get rid of it. i want it goooone!!
i hope there is a way. please get back me.
-Phoebe

i'm not for taking pills but here's what i know works because my friends take it.

birth control would raise your estrogen levels, reducing hair growth on arms, and stomach for sure

definately ask a doctor beforehand to get prescription. it will help and if your parents are ok with it then go for it and good luck


es =]]

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Ok im a female 13 and in the 8th grade i wana have sex with my bf i told him that im not a virgin even tho i am hes 15 and he wants to have sex to hes really exspiriensed.But i was wonderin if there is any way he could tell that im a virgin when we have sex i think my cherry is popped from my tampons but im not sure i have to use large tampons and im not over weight or anything im about 88 pounds but yea i was just wonderin if he could tell if i was a virgin ok thanx(and please dont say im to young to be having sex) thanks and please help =]]

he might be able to if you're tight down there. after having sex the first time you start getting loose and he can find out

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14/f
ive cut for like a year and for the 3rd time im trying to quit i just need someone to talk to about it and i dont mean a shrienk or anyone like that.im not trying to seek attention from this just help. i know how much my life can change if i keep cutting and how important it is to stop but i dont want to hear that.
if your a VERY trustworthy person that i could keep talking to and wouldnt annoy you then HELP ME PLEEZ!

i'm here to talk. doesn't matter what time it is. IM me i'm always on my s/n is xxes25
if you don't have aim you can message me on here.

es

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Hey, could you guys please recommend songs that sort of say "I love you but you don't know it" or something like that. It'd really help. Thanks :)

xoxo,
K

LEA SALONGA - ON MY OWN

jordan sparks/tom jones - i who have nothing

chiffons - one fine day

dido - white flag

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lately ive been feeling really sick. the other day i was sitting down and my leggs were shaking uncontrolably and i couldn't get them to stop no matter how hard i tried. i also hear ringing in my ears . any idea what it might be? i think it may be nervousness but im not sure

sounds like it might be anxiety but there aren't enough symptoms to be sure. if your legs start shaking again make sure you plant your feet on the ground. when legs start shaking it's because of tension in your muscles. try stretching and relaxing your legs even though it's hard. if your feet are firm on the ground then it will stop.

ringing in the ears can be tinitis if it's constant.

if you need more help or questions im me

xxes25


es =]]

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Hi, My current husband, father of 2 of my 3 kids is starting to treat me wrong. I am currently with him because I have a 7 month old baby. He started treating my 8yr old from a previous relationship bad. I can tolerate him treating me bad, but not my son. He is just a kid and he shouldn't take it on him. My son told me today that he kicked him and he denies it. I don't know who to believe and if I ask my husband he gives me grief. I have been with him since my son was 3yrs old. I don't let his real dad see him cause he wasn't there for me during the pregnancy.

I dont' know if I should believe my son or who...
Should I move out on my own?
Things are pretty bad now...Please advise.

first of all why would your son lie to you?
and wouldn't you feel horrible if your son is being honest with you this whole time (while he's being mistreated and beaten) and all you're doing is questioning the situation?
and isn't it enough proof that if this man treats you badly that he'll do the same to your child who happens to not be his?
honestly, you need to think about why you're questioning your son.

what ever you do i hope your son is getting proper treatment. think about him because in reality no one else matters. you brought this kid into the world and you need to think about him and raise him to be a good kid and not be a subject to abuse.

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okay so my sex life is good except one thing
when I'm with my boyfriend having sex i feel so insecure about my body, when he tries to take off my shirt i usually start doing something else so he wont like i feel really fat when im naked im 5'3 and 120 and hes never said anything about my weight but i just feel fat and i never let him take off my shirt and i want to let him to and stuff but i cant get over it.. how do i get over it and just let him?

the only thing you need to realize is that he's already having sex with you and if he didn't enjoy it and didn't like your body then HE WOULDN'T BE DOING IT but obviosly he is doing it so you have nothign to worry about. if he thought you were fat and didn't find you attractive he wouldn't try to take your shirt off but he does which means he likes what you look like.

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i want to be able to go out with my friends like every other weekend but my parents wont let me, they make up excuses so i dont go. like 'oh your rooms not clean.' or 'no do this' or 'you have to watch ur brother tonight' they only let me go out like once a month with my friends.

how do i let them get me to go out more?

my friend had the same problem and she started thinking 2 steps ahead of them.
example - the parentals always say "no you have to clean your room" so a couple of days before make sure your room is spotless for them. if they say "your homeworks not done" make sure you do it and show them. also parents like it when you succeed so if you get an "A" show them cause it will help persuade their decision.
also telling them a couple days in advance would help i dont konw if you do that but give it a try

es =]]

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I've been really addicted to lemonade lately. For the last three weeks or so, I've been drinking 20 fl oz bottle lemonade a day....I'm totally hooked on this brand called "Calypso." They have multiple flavors, like Kiwi Lemonade, Mango Lemonade, Black Cherry Lemonade, etc.

Well, for the past few days, the lemonade has started to leave an awful sour taste in my mouth - and I'm positive it's not because there is anything wrong with the lemonade. The more I drink, the more sour it gets. I drank a whole bottle this morning and my mouth actually hurts. It's also started to upset my stomach. I can't even have a sip of it without setting my mouth off.

Could it be the acid?

I'm starting to get worried. Lemonade is my favorite food in the whole world. Does this mean that I'll never be able to enjoy lemonade again?!!!!!

lemonade is extremely acidic. too much acid equals upset stomach. taking vitamins would help nuetralize this but it's still better if you stay away from acidy stuff for a while until your stomach feels better.

and you can enjoy lemonade but stay away from it for a while (a week maybe less) and then if you do drink it take it in smaller portions

hope you feel better
es =]]

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Not that i'm going to try this but...
Can what happens if the girl hasn't hit puberty yet and has sex? Can she get pregnant?
And what happens if the girl has hit puberty but the boy hasn't????

in VERY RARE OCCASIONS the girl might get pregnant before hitting puberty but that's only because she's maturing fast. and in that case the baby is most likely not able to survive because of the lack of blood (not having a period)

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I just got a 93% on my english final.
It brought my grade to a 89.52..which is a B.
ALL my other teachers counts 89.5 and above as an A except this teacher. =[
If I go in tomorrow to tlk to him, is there anything I can say or do to try to convince him to raise it to an A?! maybe do extra work/bring in something?
it will raise my gpa to a 3.5 instead of 3.3 if he raises it!
which helps balance out my gpa since its ALWAYS been a 3.5 throughout high school!
thanks a bunch =D

explain to him your situation. if he doesn't agree then go to your guidance office and tell them. also, no one goes by 89.52, they cut it off at the 10s place which would make it 89.5 and it would raise it to a B.

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Hi, I have thick wavy semi damaged hair, I bought a curling iron because I REALLY LOVE my ahir CURLY! now how do I do it. Do i need to spray hair spray on my hair while curling it. I don't want my hair to be stiff I want it Curly Bouncy with movement. What do i do. Please help.?

i suggest you curl your hair as usual then put in Pantene Serum for curls. they will look amazingly healthy and bouncy. also, when you go to sleep at night, if you sleep on silk pillow cover it's better for your curls because then they don't get seperated.. therefore no split ends or seperations =]]

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