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I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.
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I met my girlfriend over the internet about 7 months ago. We started as a good friendship. So then I asked for her phone number. We talked on the phone for hours and hours. I started to love her and have really strong feelings for her. She did too. We did webcam and send pictures and mail. But things started to happen to me I started to feel depressed. I started to have personal problems with my family about it. I didn't care I know I love this girl a lot. I haven't seen her yet cause I'm not ready yet. I want to look good for her physically and in ma peronality. I don't want her to see an ugly me. I want to lift weights get taller and look good for her. I want to have money and get my education. Thats why I haven't gone to see her. I want to be for her inside and out. But is gettin frustrated. Cause so many guys have I asked her out but shes says no to them cause she waiting fo me. But I can't cause I went to get muscles and get taller and get ma money straight get new clothes and get ma education. So, then I can see her. But I don't want her to give up. I feel bad cause I want see her but I want to surprise but gettin muscles and lookin taller and being a person who can make her smile, laugh, make her feel good about us and look good for her. I love her a lot she is a beautiful young girl. She is cute, nice, hardworking, special, and comfortable to talk to. What do I do. I'm a male who is 17
firstly lifting weights isnt going to make up taller, and if she really does love you then your appearence isnt going to make a difference. just meet her, you both want to be boyfriend and girlfriend, there's nothing stopping you. if you keep her waiting so long she might think your hiding something, it's been 7months, if my boyfriend kept making excuses not to see me for that long i'd leave him because i'd think he qwas cheating on me or not who he says he is. meet her before she gets suspicious or has doubts about your relationship. if you both love eachother then nothing will stand in your way, if you want it to work then you'll make it work. but your relationship cant progress or go anywhere until you meet her in parson and date her for real.
ok well theres this guy and hes super fine and i really want to date him and everything and he told me to go to hishouse and all but i dontno if i should or not bc i have a problem.... i was born with more testaturone in my body then estogine and well im very flat chested and i have some well.....chest hair and no matter how much i wax and save it always comes back like right away.... i also have alot of hair on my down stairs dont worry i have a vagina and everything its just sort of scary i dont wanthim to feel me up and get a hand full of hair instead of breasts. i dont no what to do should i wear a sweatshirt or something or just not go i dont no im so confused!
If all he wants you to go round to his house for is sex hen he's not worth it and he's a user. if he likes you and really cares about you then your hair and flat chest wont faze him and he'll like you no matter what.
(Also, dont worry about being flat chested and having alot of hair, alot of girls do even if they wernt born with high testosterone.)
on your body heair trying using a good hair removing cream, they are effecive and can last upto 3 weeks. i dont know if this will be much different fromw axing but its alot less painful (it doesnt hurt at all) so its worth a try.
ok so i have a boyfriend that i've been with for about 6 months now. im 16, my boyfriend is turning 19 in september And about four months into the relationship, i got raped by his older brother and now his family is blaming me and telling ppl it wasnt raped so now im questioning myself if it was rape or not. and then the cops got involved because my boyfriend called the cops since i told him what happened when i slept over. so when the cops were investigating, they found out that me and my boyfriend have been having sex as well. so now me & andrew arent even allowed to see each other legally and im just wondering if i should stay with him after all this happening, we want to have kids in the future and he even asked me to marry him...is this a good idea?
he loves you, you love him. say together if its what you both really want. he called the police on his own brother, it just shows he's on your side. his family might try to turn him against you but if you love eachother that much then you have to make it work.
I am 14/f and i am 5'6'' and i weigh around 160 lb
(my scale isnt accurate...)
but people ALWAYS mistake me for around 140 pound
and i know i am fat...ohh harsh me.. i mea overweight. but i do try to lose weight.
i exercise regularly. every monday wednesday and friday (it was on health magz that its not good for you if you exercise everyday when you get older) anyways so i lost 10 pounds around already yes i know i was even fat loser then.
and i dont eat alot, although i snack sometime like eating desert like little bit of ice cream but not a lot.
so what is normal for my height and weight and my age? and how can i get my self to stay exercising?
because during those times i been quiting in and out and technically i only exercised for a month
or 2. so its pretty good losing 10 lb in those month because i dont want saggy skin...talk about ew. no offense... to people who do have those ...
anyways and i am thick in the leg. and arm... and i cant do lifting dumbels anymore because i kinda got hurt from that...
so how do i get my legs to be slender?
and keep on track and any tips on losing weight faster?
please i need help ! i havent had a boyfriend ever! i know people say its not about what's on the outside becaue then its not true love or stuff but i really want a boyfriend and i WANT to look good for him (well future bf ) and i want to feel better about my self...
so please help me
as you can see on this chart, http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/healthydiet/healthyweight/heightweightchart/, the normal weigh for your height is between 8 stone and 11 stone (you are 11 stone).
i cant help you with losing weight but if you did want to then dont lose too much, you dont need to. super slim isnt attractive, having a curvatious body is attractive so be proud of how you look, alot of women would love to have curves.
How much should a 13 year old who is 5 foot 8 inches weigh?
as this height weight chart shows, http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/healthydiet/healthyweight/heightweightchart/, someone who is 5 foot 8 should weight between 9 stone and 11 and a half stone.
After about 10 minutes into a shower i'll start to get dizzy, my head will hurt, my vision fades, and i seriously feel like im gonna be sick. this has happened to me a few times in the past off and on but now its becoming ritual (and its only when i shower). its so bad that i'm not even able to finish showering. does anyone know what's going on and does this happen to anyone else? i've tryed opening windows and changing my products but nothing helps. i'm at the point where i'm seriously afraid to shower lol... i'll take any advice i can get, thanks
i get like it too, its because its so hot and your standing with your head and body under hot water it makes you feel like you are going to pass out. when this happens to me i stand back and let my self cool off. also, have a cold drink in the shower room with you so you can get refreshed when you feel bad and have a colder shower instead of hot or really warm.
im 14 and im a virgin. and im dating a 17 year old guy who fucked almost every grl he met. he says he changed every since "something happend". he says he really likes me and hes not gonna presure me to do anything. but i dotn know ... i really like him but i dont knoe if he likes me back. or if hes just using me. its not that im scared to lose my virginaty. im just a lil worried about losing it to him becouse i dont know if hes gonna still feel the same towards me or if hes just gonna throw me aside.... :-/
dont have sex with him unless you are 100% sure that he loves you and wont leave you after and that you wont regret it after.
he seems like the "love them and leave them type" which means once he's got what he wants out of a girl (sex) he dumps them. dont let him use you. if he dumps you for making him wait or if he tries to put pressure on you or emotional blackmail then he's not worth it.
sex, and especially your virginity, is a special thing, keep it for some one special, a long term boyfriend who has love and respect for you and who you feel the same way about.
Ok so today July 28th is my boyfriend's birthday. I have already gotten him a dvd of his favorite show, and I made him a cheesecake. I am also gonna make him a card and leave it in his car so he sees it on his way home.
I was wondering what else could I do for him that won't cost any moeny and that is sexual?
Thanks in advance.
Just casually talk about sex before his birthday, find out his sexual fantasys and act them out for him on his birthday
I'm a mysophobiac (germ freak, afraid of things being contaminated) and I hate it because I wash my hands constantly and I go through a bottle of handsanitizer each day, and I don't trust people with my food or drinks (or anything along those lines)...does anybody know how to cure phobias? I'm desperate
like you, i have this fear too, it's called OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).
You need to see your doctor and he/she will refer you to a cognative behavioural therapist.
What these therapist do is they change your thought patterns so you wont think like this anymore and help you overcome the negative thoughts and fears that you have.
Have a look at this website, it will give you more information.
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/23069002/
i wasz wondering if theres any sites online to find a e-pal or whatever u would call it, like a pen pal only online. If anyone knows of any please let me know thanks.
i used to go on this one alot http://www.penpalnet.com/
this website has a list of epal sites you could try, be careful though as some of them could be dating sites.
http://www.ability.org.uk/pen_pals_by_email.html
also have a look in google.com for some teen epal sites if you are a teenager
there is this guy that i really like but he's really shy and he also sorta likes this other girl what can i do to make him really notice me or really make him want me? thanks.
Here are some tips for you;
Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.
Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.
Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.
Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.
Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.
When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.
alright so theres this boy thats hot and ik him but he lives 30 min away in a dif town.. i like him, i guess only for the summer...and he likes me but he says i live too far away to go out with, and that maybe if he had a car ya. and so i was kind of crushed by that, anyways.. i go to watch him play bball this summer monday and wednesday nights.. so i can see him.. and i talk to him online pretty much every night. or every chance i get.. but Okay his birthday is aug. 1st, next monday, and i dont know what to get him! im thinking a blockbuster giftcard, buy a card n write in it too, and then give that? or what? GUYS, BOYS, MEN, help me out! hes gonna be a freshman in hs, and i wanna give him something possibly making him like me more, or just to make him think about me, or leave an impression, u know? HELP!!!!!!!! (guys preferably..)
first of all, half an hour isnt a long way, when i moved house i used to go to school and town and meet with friends who were all a half an hour bus journey away so thats no excuse.
cant you hang out with him before or after football?
secondly, if you arent good friends and he doesnt concider you as a friend then then i would buy him a present if i were you. get him a card though if thats the case.
if you really want to get him a present though then have a look at www.iwantoneofthose.com it has cool gadgets and stuff on there.
I have really bad panic attacks and they seem to be controling me. I am running out of ideas on what to do. I have had aniexty since I was 4 years old. I am 15 now. I just need to get my life back in order. I am just not sure how. If anyone has panic attacks, can you give me ideas to get over them?
I also I many mental issues. Like angoraphobia, O.C.D, Panic disorder, Aniexty, and alot of others. I have been to two mental hospitals and 50 or more doctors and consualors.. I am losing all hope on myself.
hi, i have panic attacks too when i have to go out so this is a good idea for you to try, i really helps me. When i go out i usually take a "comfort bag" with me (it stays in the car if were in town), this can just be included in you normal school bag or take a bag to town, just a normal bag (not a carrier bag).
This comfort bag isnt for you to rely on so make sure you dont depend on it, in this bag you can take things you might need just incase you feel a panic attack coming on.
So deffinatly take a drink or two of water or juice (or both), a magazine to read or puzzle book (with a pen) just so you have something to do to keep your mind off how you are feeling and to calm you down, if i am going to the hospital or doctors i take a hot water bottle (wrapped in a towel) in my comfort bag because when i panic it gives me stomach ache so i cen feel the heat through the bag and just sit with the bag on my knee. dont use a hot water bottle too much though otherwise you'll end up with nasty burns.
i cant help too much because i dont know what these panic attacks are stopping you from doing, but if you get scared to go out alone or even with friends or in public places then it sounds like you either have or are developing agoraphobia. if this is the case then i'd really like to chat to you properly on msn or email because i can help you more that way.
Also, like you i have O.C.D's, panic and anxiety so i'd really like to help you before it gets too bad and you get housebound.
I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 15. I know that it's ok and that I don't need a boyfriend to make me happy, but I really want one. I see how happy my friends are with their relationships and I just want to feel that special feeling, you know? I don't wanna sound conceited but i don't think looks are the main problem. My friends tell me that I'm not flirtatious and outgoing like them. Its just that I feel awkward being flirtatious and always question myself like omg he doesnt like me and stuff. How do I become more flirtatious and outgoing to get a boyfriend? thanks so much
Make sure you find someone that you like and that isnt only after one thing. If you have a crush on someone and you think he's the right guy for you, not one that uses girls and hurts them because you should have someone who is special and who will respect you.
i asked some of my guy friends what they find attractive about girls. The main things they said was that someone who makes them laugh is important, genuine, honest, who they can chat with for hours about everything and anything.
Here are some tips for you;
Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.
Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.
Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.
Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.
Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.
When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.
ok. heres the thing: guys have always been my best friends. id actually rather have guy friends then girls because guys dont gossip and dont start drama. well ever since i got a boyfriend hes been getting on me for flirting with other guys. BUT I DONT FLIRT WITH THEM ITS JUST THAT THERE MY BFF's AND I JOKE AROUND WITH HIM. how can i get my boyfriend to understand that im not flirting they're just my friends. i've tried telling him that and i've tried to stop hanigng out with the guys as much but nothing seems to work. HELP PLEASE. ill rate you high!!
Ok, dont give up your best friends just to please your new boyfriend. tell him that these guys have been your bestfriends for years and you wont stop being friends with them just to please him because what he is doing is unfair.
he seems insecure, maybe he's been hurt before but tell you how you feel. explain that it would be like you asking him to give up his best friends, its just not fair. also explain to him why these people are your friends and just because they are guys, doesnt mean that your going to get with any or all of them. they are friends and nothing more.
I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much.
it sounds like you have the perfect boyfriend, he sounds like a nice guy so i wouldnt worry about your inexperience and wanting to wait before you do anything sexual. just go on how you are, its lovely at the first stages of a relationship when your all kissy and cuddly, and it seems as though you both really like eachother.
i was 16 when i got my first boyfriend too and was very insecure but you'll find now you have a nice boyfriend who likes (or loves) you for being you then your confience will grow.
you're scared because your so happy and its all so new and you've found a lovely guy who you really want to be with, you're worried it will all go a bit pear shaped. its natural to worry about those things but dont get upset, you've got yourself a gentleman. have a quiet chat with him about how you feel, dont make a big deal about it, just tell him that you really love being with him and love what you have together but your not ready to do anything sexual yet. if he's the gentleman he sounds like then he'll tell you its ok and you have nothing to worry about.
Hi. im not writing this question for people to tell me im unique and crap, but lately, ive just been feeling bad. I think im ugly. People always tell me that im ugly. its just my face..i mean my nose is just so weird that i feel so self conscious and whenever im with my friends it hurts me so much always seeing guys all flirting with them and stuff. ive never been asked out, and people always tell me that im ugly. i know its mean, and only sometimes i feel pretty. i know that if i feel beautiful, i am beautiful, and being confident is bueatiful, but i dont want that crap. i need some way to make me feel better about myself....any suggestions?
i'm guessing you young, in your teens. people at that age are so cruel and it hard because you at that age where your trying to fit in and feel confident and be yourself.
you sometimes think you are pretty which is a good start because if you were ugly you'd see that and feel that all the time.
you need confidence, i also am very insecure about my looks and was bullied loads but i found that councelling helped boost my confidence loads, it got to a point where i could cope with bullies and stand up for myself and not be afraid to go out incase i got called ugly, so i think that can be a good step for you to take. if you have school/college councelling then its free or if you go through your doctor and asked to be refferd thats free too.
also, another thing that gave me a huge confidence boost was having a makeover in a shop. it was for my birthday, but they are so nice and make you look really beautiful. that will boost your confidence too and make you feel better about yourself. (mine cost £10 but you got £10 off make up so its like having a free makeover)
also, experiment with your clothes, hair and make up, find out which styles suit you best and which colour make ups, the ones you use now might not be making you look your best but if you have a proffessional makeover they'll tell you how to do your make up properly and find out what suits your face best.
Hello. I need your help desperately. I'm a female and I hate the summer because I sweat like crazy. As a result of this, I get massive sweat stains under my arms. This makes me extremely self-conscious. I usually put on tons of deodorant with anti-perspirant in it to stop me from sweatting so much, but it doesn't help. I get really embarassed because of it, and now I only wear darker colored shirts because you can't see them as bad. What do I do?! :-( Thank you so much for your help.
i think you should see you doctor about it. also wear vest tops to keep your arms aired off and cool, if you wear tops that had tight sleeves it will be worse.
depending on how old you are there are things that can be done, i saw on a cosmetic surgery program that a lady had problems with underarm sweating and she had botox on her armpits which really helped her.
I have my senior pictures on Friday, and my face is kinda broken out because I just ended my period. I really wana clear my face up before friday if I can. Any advice is appreciated!
valderma cream works wonders. cleared my spot up very quickly
okay well my friends birthday is coming up... shes turnin 16... but her birthdays a a suprise! so i really need ideas for what to get her... her parents are gonna buy her a car i kno... and her bff is buying her a really really expensive jacket... so what are some ideas!! please help! thanks... ill rate
try www.iwantoneofthose.com its a really cool site for gifts and gadgets