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Q: Every gel I use for my hair, makes my hair greyish and flakey. I have used numerous types and its always the same.
Is it my hair?
If not, what gel would *you* reccomend?

Thanks (any advice appreciated)
i dont think it's your hair.. it's probably just the gel you're using.
I use loreal paris studio styling gel, n i never see any flakes on my head.
I use it on damp hair, or i just apply it onto my hair and comb through it with water.
try it, maybe it'll work for you

Q: I am a 14 y/o guy who is about 115 lbs and 5'6". By far I am one of the smaller guys in our class. I have been working out for a month or so. However just like everyone else knows, working out isn't the only thing that's gunna get you in shape. What other things (food,activities, etc)can I do to help my body a little bit.

I REFUSE TO USE STEROIDS OR ANY OTHER MEDICAL WAY, I AM GOING TO DO THIS NATURALLY.
you can drink/eat like protein drinks and bars, or other foods that are high in protein that will give you energy to work out more.
in tv shows and movies, I always see people eating raw eggs(i mean without the shells) when they're about to exercise, so you could try that.
I know that like this beverage brand, ensure, sells drinks that can help you build muscles

hope I helped :)

Q: i decided i need to get into shape. so today i did 100 sit-ups (within 15 minutes.. i know, that's a LONG time =(..). is that too much to start with? does anyone have any other good exercising tips, for your stomach? (besides sit-ups and crunches).

also, can you do sit-ups by laying down and then going up, instead of bending your legs? Because i don't bend my legs.. so maybe it's not considered a sit-up.

thanks in advance!
i think the best way to get a nice stomach is by doin leg lifts. i dont know how many you have to do regularly, but i read somewhere that it's better than doing crunches and sit ups.

a sit up is when your legs are just flat, and crunches are when your knees are bent. they probably both have the same results, but crunches are just easier to do.

and if you're not used to doing sit ups or crunches, you should just start doing like around 20 or so 3 times a day(morning, evening, night) everyday, and then slowly increase the number of sit ups done everytime, and you'll have a nice toned stomach in a few months.. i'm working on toning my stomach too

Q: How can a get a tighter butt, stronger stomach, stronger arms, and stronger legs.

I'm not fat, I'd just like to be stronger.
to tone your arms, stomach, legs, and butt, there's a lot of exercises you can do. if you do squates, they can help make your stomach and legs tighter. crunches will helped make your stomach stronger, and leg lifts will make your stomach stronger quicker, and it'll help tone your legs. andd to make your arms stronger, you can try exercising with dumbells or do push ups. also, if you use a medicine ball, it'll help tone your butt and stomach and maybe your legs, and it'll help tone your arms if you use dumbells while exercising on the medicine ball

Q: i like to write songs or poems, well at least try. but everytime that i do at the end they always sound really stupid. so does anyone know any like tips or tricks that i could use to maybe get some decent ideas or to make it not sound so well...corny?
oo I used to write a lot of poems, but now I just write it when my english teacher makes us write it. all my poems are likee.. depressing and serious. I dont think that writing happy poems is a good idea because the poem will just sound stupid and pointless. sad poems will really touch people and send them a message. and they wont sound as corny as non-sad poems.. lol

if you want more ideas, I can send you some of my poems, and you can decide if you likee the style or nott

Q: Anyone know of a cute, not that expensive place to get knee socks [sort of a Harajuka Girl style]. Nothing crazy in the colors lol! Thanks!
I used to have a huge problem trying to find a store that sold these socks, but then I realized that Limited Too sold them. so I bought 2 pairs, one at like 10 bucks, and another at 7 bucks. I'm not sure if that;s too expensive, but they look nice.. gap also sells knee high socks, I'm not exactly sure how much they cost, but they're really colorful. oh and target sells a whole bunch of affordable clothes, so they probably sell affordable knee high socks also.

:)

Q: is it normal for females to discharge everday?
ya, totally. it happens to me. it's normal for a girl to discharge everydayy, it usually happens durin the first 2 years of having your period

Q: what are 'eskimo kisses'?
its a way of kissing, without using lips or tongue. you just rub your nose on the other person's nose.

hope i helped :)

Q: I am not overweight, but I have a problem in that my thighs and ass are quite flabby and I would like to tone up. I feel very self-concious in swim suits so I would like some exercises to tone up or help lose weight ready for the summer.
Suggestions not involving cosmetic surgery would help!
14/f
oo i have the same problem..
doin squats will help to tone your butt and thighs.. and running will help you lose the extra fat in your thighs/legs

o yeah, you can also try pilates; they involve a lot of leg exercises

soo i hope I helped, and if you find out a workout thing that REALLY works on toning your thighs and butt, please tell me :)

Q: so i`m getting my belly button pierced tomorrow afternoon, but i also play soccer. So after i get my belly button pierced how long will it take until i can sprint again? and also when can i take it out?
I have a belly button ring, I just got it 3 months ago, and I think that maybe you'll have to wait a few days before you can start running again. the first couple of days will be a little painful, but that shouldn't be a really big problem. andd the guy that pierced my belly button said that you shouldnt take your belly button ring out until it's completely healed. if you take it out before it's healed, the hole will close in 2 minutes or less

Q: okay big health project and the question is what turns a girl on about a guy?
i fall for nice abs, hair, looks, and style. I really like bad boys. I like guys with 6 packs, spiky hair, a really cute face, baggy hip hop clothes from brands like ecko, rocawear, pepe jeans; etc.. I see a lot of guys like that where I live.. but unfortunately most of them are taken..

yes... I know... I'm shallow..

Q: The last couple of weeks i've been noticing that I have been eating A LOT!! now i'm afraid i'm gonna gain a lot of weight. i eat when i get home from school up till dinner and no matter how hard i try, i can't stop!! does anyone have any suggestions? if u do please help!!
well, you can eat as much as you want as long as it's healthy food that wont make you gain a lot of weight. once I went on vacation for a few days, and I ate a lot more than I normally did, so I thought I must've gained like 3-5 pounds, but when I got home and weighed mysef I actually lost 2 pounds. I know it's strange, but just because you eat a lot it doesnt mean you're going to gain a lot of weight. just make sure you're eating healthy, and you'll be fine

- also, a tip is that when you're hungry, you should drink around 8 glasses of water. that way your body will be refreshed, and you wont be hungry anymore

Q: I need a new tennis racket but I'm not sure what kind to get. Any suggestions from tennis players?
oo i play tennis and I use wilson tennis racquets. they're very popular, but prince tennis racquets arent bad either.

Q: i know alot of girls probably do this.. but i always compare myself to models and girls who i believe are prettier than me.. im always putting myself down and looking in the mirror finding everything thats wrong with me and wishing i was perfect like other girls I know... does anyone else do the same.. how do you get over it
I'm self concious about my weight, i'm 5 ft and 99 or 100 pounds, and sometimes I just disapoint myself when I see how fat my stomach n thighs look. I try to cheer myself up by just reminding myself that there are far worse people out there. and there are probably a lot of people that look worse than you, and you should be glad that you're not like a total train wreck.
and everyone has problems with the way they look, even supermodels. no one is perfect, and there is always something that makes someone feel bad about themselves. you dont have to wish to be perfect because everyone is perfect in their own way. while you look up to supermodels and pretty girls, someone is probably looking up to you and they'll think that you're perfect
dont feel so bad about yourself because it is impossible to be perfect. no one is truly, truly, happy with the way they are

Q: ok i am a freshman in high school i have had sex once about 2 years ago its a long story so please dont call me a slut and no its not because i cant get any more ... so dont be rude about it please.

on anyways and soon after that i started my period and i have clear discharge every now and again and i was wondering if any one knows if thats from the sex maybe the guy had an std or from the period/tampon / w/e thing please help

~lexy~
ooo it's completely normal. every girl has white/yellowish discharge even if they've never had sex before. you usually get it durin the first 2 years of having your period

Q: Hey I realized my friend sorta WANTS to have sex and she is only 13, shes not going to have it, its just she wants to. I was on her computer and saw alot of porn websites, is this normal for a 13 year old??
I rate high!
hmm.. strange.. i'm 13 too, and even though I dont look at porn or anything, it's probably normal for a 13 year old girl to look at porn sites. if guys can do it, why cant girls?
i think a lot of girls look at porn. on a room raiders episode on mtv, they had a college special, and all 3 college girls had porn posters in their dorm. it's normal for girls to look at porn, so you shouldnt be too worried about your friend.

Q: my stomach is about 31 inches. im 13 and around 5'5". is that normal? is it too fat?! i feel fat =\, am i over-exaggerating? could i manage to lose a few inches, or gain a few? thanx
oo well i'm 13, and 5 ft, n i weigh 100 pounds, and my stomach is about 25 inches. but you're like 5 inches taller than me, so it's probably normal for your stomach to be 31 inches. dont worry about anything because I know a lot of people that are atleast 30inches around their stomach

Q: Are you suppose to pop your pimples or not? And the same with Black heads? What are you suppose to do. I use this blackhead scrub stuff and it makes my blackheads bigger. Is that giving me a sign to pop them? I seldum get pimples with white heads. And usually I accident pop them. Is that bad?
noooooo
dont pop them, unless you really really have to. if you pop it too soon, the bacteria will go deeper into your skin, and it'll stay there longer and it'll look even more red. if you just leave it alone, and use acne treatment creams/cleansers or whatever, it'll make the pimple go away in a couple of days, or a few weeks, which is a lot sooner than if you were to pop your pimples.

Q: my friend is one of those people who is geneticly(frakishly)super skinney. no matter how much she eats or how lazy she gets she stays the same size. she is a great friend but sometimes she can be very inconsiderate of other people's feelings about their weight.she dosnt know how it feels to be fat or to feel fat. and she makes fun of people who look fat or chubby to her. this really makes me mad but being the quiet person i am i never say anything.im afraid if i confront her she will get upset with me because she dosnt understand.how do you think i should talk to her about it?
definately... it's wrong for her to just judge someone so quickly and make fun of people because of their weight. if she's super skinny, then everyone will be fat compared to her. she thinks that being fat is unattractive, but being amazingly skinny is very unattractive also. trust me, when she gets older, her metabolism will slow down and she wont be skinny anymore. and it's not like being fat is the end of the world.
If I were you, I would totally try talking to her and tell her that she should try respecting other people's feelings. she wouldn't want anyone making fun of her flaws, so why would she want to make fun of other people for it.

Q: well i'm 13 and i'm a female and i totally broke out on my forehead and i have a dance coming up!! i need help on how to get rid of it fast!! any advice or suggestions? also, is it because i ate chocolate or like junk foods? (i've heard that the reason people break out...)ThAnkS fOr uR HeLp!!! *i RaTe*
when I have a breakout, I use noxzema triple clean astringent 2 or 3 times a day, like in the morning, afternoon, and before I go to bed. and after I apply the astringent, I use clean and clear advantage acne spot treatment. and in the nest day, the pimple or pimples are a lot smaller. this totally works for me, maybe it'll help you also. oh yeah, and junk food and chocolate dont make your skin break out. I've read a lot of articles, and they all say that the food you eat has no effect on acne.

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