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how can i confront her?
my friend is one of those people who is geneticly(frakishly)super skinney. no matter how much she eats or how lazy she gets she stays the same size. she is a great friend but sometimes she can be very inconsiderate of other people's feelings about their weight.she dosnt know how it feels to be fat or to feel fat. and she makes fun of people who look fat or chubby to her. this really makes me mad but being the quiet person i am i never say anything.im afraid if i confront her she will get upset with me because she dosnt understand.how do you think i should talk to her about it?
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One of my really good friends we always says has a tapeworm, because shes so skinny and she eats like more than a grownup but never gains anything. I think you should tell her how you feel and say its a little mean to say things like that because you dont no how people feel right next door.
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Maybe you should write her a letter and just tell her that it hurts to see her making fun of people that are bigger than her since she has NO idea how it feels, and if she considers you a friend or considers your feelings she will keep her comments to herself. Let me know how it all goes x0Sabina0x
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you should ask her how she feels about it. and if she gives you a smart remark, then come up with some super skinny jokes. i know it's mean, but it shows her that you can really hurt people's feelings. if you're not comfortable with the joke thing, then talk to her about it. if she doesn't listen, then she's not a good friend anyway. if you want to crack jokes, they have a lot of them on www.jokes.com. it works.
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Just tell her for God's sake!! She isn't going to hate you for doing it!! Maybe she will get a f'in clue!! Just tell her what you feel!!
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Just tell her that you don't like when she does that because it sometimes hurts your feelings. If it doesn't work then when she makes fun of someone go up to her and tell her thats mean and how would you like it if you were that fat person being made fun of.
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look just today i confroneted my friend about being a BITCH...and yes she is mad at me..so bad idea...just ignore your friend and she'll eventually ask you why you've been ignoring her..tell her!
hope i helped
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definately... it's wrong for her to just judge someone so quickly and make fun of people because of their weight. if she's super skinny, then everyone will be fat compared to her. she thinks that being fat is unattractive, but being amazingly skinny is very unattractive also. trust me, when she gets older, her metabolism will slow down and she wont be skinny anymore. and it's not like being fat is the end of the world.
If I were you, I would totally try talking to her and tell her that she should try respecting other people's feelings. she wouldn't want anyone making fun of her flaws, so why would she want to make fun of other people for it.
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Confronting someone has to be one of the hardest tasks in everyday life. I know how it feels to be indecisive about telling someone something. Next time she cracks one of those comments just add something like "Hey, so and so, that really isn't very nice...you should walk a mile in their shoes before you say something about them, maybe they have a problem or something and they can't help but be a bit chubby or overweight." I don't think she'd get mad at you for saying something like that, well, atleast, she shouldn't. If doing that is too hard, maybe you can write her a note or IM her or email her or something. Write something like "Hey so and so, I don't mean to point out faults or anything, but I notice that sometimes you put other people down because of their weight...that really does hurt people's feelings and they are everyday people like us, so I don't think you should be inconsiderate about people's weights."
Sorry my advice is really lengthy, thought I'd put in my two cents.
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It sounds as though your friend is on of those people that just doesnt understant......Walk up to her just bring up the conversation and explain that its not always the best thing to do if you laugh at someone.... Show her the golden rule....tell her that she shouldnt treat people that way( in a talking matter not mad at all)....its just like having a conversation!!!
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tell your little friend that theres nothing wrong with being fat just like theres nothing wrong with being skinny and if that doesnt work try making fun of her because shes so skinny and she will feel the pain and hurt people go through doesnt she know that because of people who make fun of others because of their size eating disorders and suicidals are considered as the only way to look better or not be hurt!
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