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Ok i really realy really really really love this guy............ but he lives kind of far away! And the other day this guy that i've had a crush on since i was 8 asked me out .... i told him i dunno but i dunno! lol i mean im so confused! i love them both and i cant decide ............. im so confused! I wanna be with them both but we all know that's not possible! i just wanna be able to know ..... but i also dont wanna hurt ANYONES feelings! i mean .... do i really have to do what i think i have to do? and if so i just cant! it'll break his heart and i think i'm the only one that's here for him ..... i love him but there's just a few miles keeping us apart........ also my mom says if he comes down here she'll kill him! (and i dont doubt my mom) And the other guy she's known since i've known him and she likes him and (duh) so do i but what am i supposed to do? I cant hurt anyone i just cant but what if that's what i have to do? even if i dont want to? Which guy should i be with? and (also the guy that lives miles away lives in a whole another state away and he's ugly but the sweetest ever

Well first off, I'd say don't say you love him, say you like him. Love takes forever to find, and if you loved this guy, you wouldn't have to think twice about dating him.

Okay, so here we are. I think if you shouldn't do anything if you are confused. Go with your gut instinct. If you have to think about something, then it's not meant to be.

Oh, and, I'm assuming it would be incredibly difficult to date someone in another state.

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my friend is one of those people who is geneticly(frakishly)super skinney. no matter how much she eats or how lazy she gets she stays the same size. she is a great friend but sometimes she can be very inconsiderate of other people's feelings about their weight.she dosnt know how it feels to be fat or to feel fat. and she makes fun of people who look fat or chubby to her. this really makes me mad but being the quiet person i am i never say anything.im afraid if i confront her she will get upset with me because she dosnt understand.how do you think i should talk to her about it?

Confronting someone has to be one of the hardest tasks in everyday life. I know how it feels to be indecisive about telling someone something. Next time she cracks one of those comments just add something like "Hey, so and so, that really isn't very nice...you should walk a mile in their shoes before you say something about them, maybe they have a problem or something and they can't help but be a bit chubby or overweight." I don't think she'd get mad at you for saying something like that, well, atleast, she shouldn't. If doing that is too hard, maybe you can write her a note or IM her or email her or something. Write something like "Hey so and so, I don't mean to point out faults or anything, but I notice that sometimes you put other people down because of their weight...that really does hurt people's feelings and they are everyday people like us, so I don't think you should be inconsiderate about people's weights."

Sorry my advice is really lengthy, thought I'd put in my two cents.

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Well, I am a sports freak, but I have started to get out and try new things. I tried color/winter guard, but when my grandfather passed away, I got behind and couldnt catch because I couldnt get anyone to teach me the things that I had missed. So now I am the manager of the track team and I love it... except for one thing. When Im at practice the coach is late, I try and tell them what they should be doing and stuff until the coach gets there. Then one of the girls tried to tell me off and say that you cant have practice unless the coach was there and one of the guys was telling me that he had been there longer and that "we strech as a team", but the rest of the team except maybe two or three, including him, were running. If they strech as a team, shouldnt they run as a team? So, how do I get them to respect me and not be smart ellic to me when I tell something to do, both in a nice way and a mean way? I have talked to the coach about the two times they have disrespected me.

Apparently it's not a team if they aren't respecting you. Being a team includes respecting your fellow team mates. If you have the power to, give them push-ups to do or something. I'd talk to the coach and ask him to tell the team to respect you, and also to tell the team to listen to what you tell them to do if the coach isn't there.

I would try not to let those jerks that are on the team get under your skin too much. Remember, there will ALWAYS in all situations be a moron, someone to hate.

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