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Q: Hi, idk if this is the correct category to be asking this question but I sorta figure that this is the closest?

Anyway, I'm 22 year old female and I'm confused about well, if I'm straight or lesbian or bi. (I'm female despite my username.) I found myself looking at other girls a lot lately. I look at their chests and their legs and that's it. I don't have any sexual thoughts about it. I just look.

Also, I have a boyfriend(whom I love very much) and when we make out, I do get turned on though the overall experience in bed is just ok. I enjoy it but sometimes, I don't know if I'm just faking it or am making myself enjoy it. Plus, we don't really talk that much about what we like. I get more aroused when we like talk about our fantasies when we chat or when I read heterosexual erotic literature. Idk if it's just that well, I'm the first girl he did more than kiss and me, him, so we're both inexperienced.

And lastly, I remember panicking when my boyfriend asked me if I liked gay guys. I didn't immediately hear the guys bit. My brain stopped at gay and I panicked. This also happened when my guy asked me if I was dressing up to impress other girls. It turns out he was quoting an article but yeah, I sorta panicked for some reason.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

I am almost 20 and I have looked at girls and even thought about other woman but I could never see myself with a female. I am married It may not always be a happily marriage but Im married with two children. I think guys look at other guys but not once in their life will they ever admit it.

Q: Why are all ugly guys attracted to me? I don't mean to sound like a bitch i swear i'm not I'm actually really nice, actually to the point where just because i talk to the guy he thinks we're "dating" or have a "thing"...like I don't even flirt I'm just friendly. They usually hate me after awhile because they think i led them on. But i swear i'm not trying to its just my personality and i feel awful..what should I do? ps i even straight up TELL THEM that i'm not interested in a relationship...I really don't know what to do..

If you feel like they are getting attached just remind them your not looking for a relationship right now. People arent ugly. There is just a certain person for each person.

Q: So i asked this girl to prom, she said yes and we hit it off pretty well. We hung out alot and texted all day every day. She often texted me first and used smiley faces and stuff. Prom went good but now she wont text me first and doesnt use smileys anymore. I asked her out but she said there's no point because she's going to be gone all summer. Do you think that is the real reason? I know she used to like me but how do i know if she still does?

She may not want to get to close to you if she is going to be gone all summer it could hurt you and her both. I would just be like hey i know when we first started talking and stuff we really hit it off has something changed your feeling towards me it seems your more distant that when we first started talking.

Q: I am belimic and nobody absolutly nobody knows but the other day i was wearing a tight shirt and my aunt goes " oh my goodness sweetheart you have lost so much weight. You are eating right?" i anwsered yes because i am. She said it when it was only memand her and my mom doesnt notice anything. And i want to get help but i have no idea how to tell anybody. Even for people to try to see when i am at my house i always lift up my shirt and rub my ribs so people might see how skinny i have gotten. So please somebody help me tell my mom and i need you to say it clear and gentle because my mom doesnt take new things well. So please my life is on the line right now. Please

You need to start you conversation out by saying, Mom I have a serious problem and I am really needing your help. For a long time now I have been making my self sick because I have been worried about my weight. Its starting to make me really sick now. and show her your bones and then tell her what you have been doing. good luck hun if she doesnt listen go to your school counsler a doctor. some body please.

Q: Im 14 years old and i just gave birth to my baby girl Dacey Aisillin Roache!! She is beautiful!! Im still in the hospital, but dont worry i have my laptop!!!!!!!!! :D Is it okay to let your baby sleep with a pillow or should i wait?

babies dont sleep with pillows. they are supose to sleep on there back. although i let mine sleep on their belly at about 6 months and a pillow at 1. your baby can die sufficate or die of sids.

Q: 17/f 21/m

I dated this guy when I was 15 and got pregnant. I broke up with him when I was 4 months pregnant because he was very controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive, intimidating...etc. He never hit me but he has left bruises on me because he grabbed my arms too hard. He got married, and I knew his wife before they started dating. He came to see the baby for 3 months, dipped for 8 months, came back, and now he hasnt seen her in a month or 2 'because of work'. He doesnt pay child support but I dont want to pursue it because I dont want him to get any kjnd of custody.

This week, he was arrested and I found out that he has been physically violent towards his wife the whole time. She sent me a picture of her black eye. She got a restraining order on him and she suggested I do the same. Now im terrified of him because he has anger towards me and I now know what hes capable of. I have a few questions:

-i really dont want him apart of my or my childs life because hes unstable and dangerous. Hes not on the birth certificate either. Is it wrong for me to cut off all contact from him and not let him see the baby?

-hes from peru and was not a citizen, but his wife is. Did that automatically make him a citizen? Or did he still have to apply? Because she wants to try to get him deported. (he already has a pretty large record)

Any other advice is welcome, thank you !

my son is now 4 and i was 15 when i had him. since the day i got pregnant till not i have recieved 37.61 in child support. which was in april he quit paying child support. i moved when my son was 1 1/2 old hes seen him once since then and because i went back to the other state to see my mother. i think you should move and get away from him.

Q: what age can you start working at mc donnalds

Depends on the area the McDonalds i work at is 17.

Q: I dont know if im in the write section but i have an eating disorder. I am 12 years old. I am seriously afraid to tell my parents. Or maybe its because i dont know how but every since i was in 2nd grade i was teased because of my weight so in about 4th grade i stoped eating. I would Only eat 150 calories a day and if i went over that i would through up whatever i ate then wouldnt eat for afew days. When peOple look at me they just think that imam fit but everyone can see the outline of my bones. My mom just thinks that i am skinny. I need help. Please somebody help

You need to tell your parents and your school nurse. That way you have two people helping you. One while you are at home and one while you are at school. Next you need to speak with your doctor about finding someone like a theripist to help you until you get back on track honestly I know how you feel about weight you are pressured every where you go about it but you have to look in the mirror and feel beautiful with your self and not care what other people say as long as you know how beautiful you are than you wont have a problem

Q: Well today my mom was breathing down my neck as usual about my english grade and college. I need to upgrade my english marks for a college course, so i have to sign up for an adult high school for the course. She keeps reminding me about it and she keeps telling me i better get it done quick every time she sees me and i was getting sick of it. So for once in my 17 years of living i actually stood up to her and told her to stop pressuring me about school. Then she lashed out at me about how she doesn't care about me anymore. What should i do now?

you should sign up for the class. then go to your mother and apoligize for yelling at her you were just under alot of stress tell her but i did sign up for the class.

Q: 15/f

So, I'm not sure if this is anything to worry about or not so I thought I'd ask.. Well, it's kind of like I'm sick but it hurts some where different every day. It seemed to have started a few weeks ago when all I did for like 3 days was sleep. If I wasn't at school I was sleeping. I was just exhausted. Then sometime last week, in class we were reading from our novel and my right shoulder started to hurt and the right side by my upper ribs had a very sharp pain in it every time a took a deep breathe so I was taking very short brief breathes. I even tried taking a really deep breathe but it was too painful and my vision started to fuzz so I stopped. Eventually, that stopped. Then like the next day, I was laughing and my back started hurting really bad whenever I laughed. Also, I rarely ever get headaches but I've been getting a few lately nothing really painful but still. Different parts of my body have been hurting, like one day it'll be my back the next my neck it's always different.

Everyday, I usually jog around the block for approximately 30-60 minutes and I just found I get really bad cramps so I've been walking the majority of it. I'm 5'1 and around 110 pounds. So I'm at a healthy weight. I don't think it has anything to do with my period, since I'll be expecting my next one in about two weeks.

So what could it be? Anything to worry about?

i know it scares you about what could be wrong. i honestly think you need to speak with your doctor because nobody on here can tell you if something is seriously wrong just as if you were to call a nurse on the phone they would tell you they would have to see you in person. in my belief i feel if your body is hurting its a sign that something is wrong if you havent given it a reason to hurt. you need to write down everything that has been wrong since it started and take that with you so you dont forget to talk about anything with your doctor.

Q: I'm a straight A student and I got a 72.5 on a science quiz! I've ruined my grade completely!
I also am on the lacrosse team but I have never played before and there are other girls on the team who have been playing since age 4. Help!!!!

With your science quiz go to your teacher and ask to make up the quiz and try a second job. If your teacher tells you know ask if there is any kind of extra credit you could do to fix your grade. As far as the lacrosse team praticing every single day with your team mates who know what they are doing wold help you out.

Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for 4yrs already we have 2 kids together. He treats me like im a piece of garbage and i dont understand why I put up with it.
Im a smart person i got my AA and now im working on my teaching degree. Im the one that works and takes care of our kids while his lazy ass sits around and does nothing yet he has the nerve to call me nasty names to tell me im ugly, fat, and worthless... I know i deserve better i just had my son 2 months ago and im not fat i have a pouch but that will go away with some exercise im 5'4" and i weigh 155. I think im a beautiful person inside and outside. I just cant understand why he treats me the way he does I do everything for him. I go out of my way to try and keep him happy I even go to the extent of taking my kids in the mornings on my days off out to visit my mother or run errans just so he can sleep and not start insulting me.
I come from a great family my parents always helped eachother out and they would do anything for me. Its sad that even after all the things that he has said and done to me I still love him and Im trying to make it work between us. I love myself too I know im not ugly im a good person i just dont understand why he is such a nasty person and why i put up with it?

Answering this question is hard for me because im in the same situation but to give some one advice that was in my situation I would tell you that do you want your children to hear the things he says to you and him laying around not doing anything thinking that , that is the right way to live because its not and its upsetting watching somone put up with it. you can do so much better and have someone care and love for you unlike he is doing to you.

Q: Hi im 13 and for the past week on the lower right side of my stomach ive been having consistent EXTREME pain. It lasts for hours and then will come back again it really hurts. What could it be a sign of? Do i need to see a doctor?

you need to go to the emergency room sounds like your appedix but i am not a doctor although if like burst you wil be in the hospital for months instead of days

Q: In order to understand this situation better I should probably give you some background.

Im 19, female, and have been dating this amazing guy since the beginning of March, although I met him in December when I was home for break. He's everything I ever wanted in a guy, not to mention he treats me amazing and he worships me. However, my previous relationship was a two year one where I made so many mistakes by staying with the guy it turned verbally and emotionally abusive to me. Whats strange is that a week after I left my ex, I met my current boyfriend.

Thing is, after a long relationship last thing I wanted was a new one, so when I met this boy at a party I just shrugged our encounter off as a hookup, even though we exchanged numbers. He continued to contact me through out december and january, even when I went back to school, to hang out or go out but I would always blow him off. My university is close to home so distance was not the issue. Then, around the end of january he invited me to hang out with him and his friends one more time, and for some reason, I accepted.

What followed was almost a miracle. Not only was this boy perfect in every way for me, he thought I was perfect. He treats me incredible and would always say how amazing i am and how lucky he is to have found me. It's really insane how perfect we were together and how much i fit in with all of his friends as well. We continued to hang out and hook up throughout february and eventually he asked me to be his girlfriend. Because i had just ended a bad relationship, I said no. However, two weeks later after we kept going out and his friends pretty much considered me his grilfriend and after I kept seeing how amazing he was to me, I accepted. That was early March, it is now mid april and the experiences I've shared with him are priceless. I haven't felt this loved ever in my life and he truly is an amazing person. I think I've fallen for him. I say this because sometimes I get the urge to say "I love you" when were together but I always abstain myself.

Two interesting things happened, one, I was using his computer one day while he was showering and when I went to the internet, recent pages came up, and it showed he had researched "when is it too soon to say I love you". That sort of melted my heart it was very sweet.

The other interesting thing that happened is that we were laying in bed one night, we hadn't done anything, just cuddling, and we fall asleep. At one point though I wake up a little bit and he is hugging me so I turn over to face him and look at him and he is awake and whispers softly "i love you" and i couldn't be sure that he had said it so I asked What? and he repeated it, again softly. I wanted him to really say it so i said what a third time and again he said it very faintly. So i closed my eyes and hugged him and "went back to sleep". I'm not sure what this means, because I definitely think I heard him say it, three times, but it was so soft I'm not sure and he hasn't said it since and then I was not at a point where I felt like saying it but now I am and I want to but am very scared to. Idk when or what the right moment would be or what if he hadn't said it that night and I end up saying it first, I don't want to freak him out, I also dont want to say it too soon since it's only been a few months of dating but I just feel it, or at least I think I do because why else would I want to say it so bad? it always come up in my mind when I look at him.

My question is, should I say it even if he hasn't repeated it since then? Whats the best time and should I just be random about it or make sure its a special moment or what? What do you guys make of the situation? Does it count if he said it softly when we were "asleep" because I feel like it doesn't but I also have a feeling he thinks that since he said it he doesn't want to again until I do...I'm confused about this whole thing.

When to say I love you, You say I love you when it just slips. dont think about the moment. youll look a little blushed when you said it. You say when you comfortable saying it to him. itll just happen good luck

Q: Hey everyone, 23/f here.
Okay, so I'm trying to be open to all suggestions as far as treating/managing/dealing with this is concerned. I've been against medicating myself for this, as I'm already on a bunch of meds for other stuff, but I'm starting to struggle more.

I have undiagnosed and untreated general anxiety disorder, and PTSD. It's starting to get in the way of my job. My coworkers are therapists and other wonderful people, so they understand when I ask them to stay five feet away from me at all times, but I shouldn't have to. I don't want them to feel like I'm pushing them away - they're like a second family to me.

I've always kind of had some anxiety, nothing too bad, but it's gotten much worse since a traumatic event about six months ago. I've been having trouble being in even small crowds, and I'm getting, like, no sleep. I'll go to bed at 12 and waking up at 4:00, unable to go back to bed. :(

My friend triggered an attack by accident today. I started crying and shaking and had to step away for a second, at work. It's ridiculous.

Has anyone dealt with or had any success in managing their anxiety? Any tips, tricks, techniques, or miracle-drugs? Any good ideas?
Help :(

I have PTSD and the only way to really treat it is by seeing a theripist. I dont any more with my work schedule and my kids I just dont have time but i had to start my self on my anti depressents again which is really helping im on celexa 20 mg. and im not ashamed of it and you shouldnt be either it really does help. i just take it once a day but Ive been raped. 2 times, held at gun point and in an abusive relationship which is all my PTSD. I love watching law n order but sometimes just the show triggers attacks.

Q: 18/f

My school starts at 8am and I live about 10 minutes away from my school. I usually wake up at 7:30 or 7:40. Do the math.. I take about 10-15 minutes to get ready. My routine is wake up, brush hair, brush teeth, throw on some clothes, put on makeup quickly, and then leave. When i'm at home, I think I look alright. Not great but not bad. Usually I just throw on some jeans and a sweatshirt. Wear my hair down or up in a ponytail. Makeup is usually eyeshadow with mascara and some blush.

However... When I get to school, I notice that a lot of girls are dressed really cute. They look like they actually spent more than 20 minutes getting ready.. I hate to admit it, but i'm so jealous of these girls. I wish I could get up earlier and spend time getting ready. There were so many times when I tried getting up early, but i'm not a morning person at all. I just either turn off my alarm clock or just hit snooze a bunch of times.

Can anyone help me? Any advice you can give me? How can I wake up earlier and actually spend time (more than 20 minutes) getting ready??? I want to stop looking "ok" and actually look cute for the day :) Thank you!

You have to be motivated set more than one alaram 5 minutes apart get up weather you want to im 19 and i have to get up at 5 am to go to work is sucks but onces your awake you feel refreshed and you have more to do during the day on the weekends get up at the same time.

Q: So here's my question.. What exactly does it mean when someone says "I'm a virgin again"? My boyfriend told me that. When we first started talking he told me this. I mean, I guess it might pretty much mean what it says but I'm not sure. When he first told me this I guess I didn't see the "again" part. But one day we were talking about sex and he told me about this other girl he had sex with and I was so surprised! I thought he said he had never had sex since he was a virgin but I guess I missed the "again" part.
How in the world can you be a virgin again? If you had sex in the past then you arent a virgin.. Like what the heck.

He may wish or say hes a virgin again to make you not think hes hoeing aroung or what ever. but there is no way you can become a virgin again.

Q: Ok when a guy proposes and gives a girl a ring, does she get him an engagement ring too or does he just get the wedding ring? How does this work?

Just wondering, thanks!

It depends. My husband didnt wear an engagement ring. instead of spending money on something you dont even wear for ever we spent it on our wedding.

Q: how do i know if he is gay and what advice on how to deal with him?

Little things I mean does he have sex with you. What are the reason that you think is gay?

Q: Name key (fake names):
Me: Annabeth
Boyfriend: Jaysyn

I'm 16, a sophomore in high school. My boyfriend, Jaysyn, is a senior, 18. He's really sweet, and it didn't take me long to fall head over heels for him. I met him last year when I was a freshmen and he was a junior, and we started dating one month later. He was always very sweet and understanding about the whole sex thing: he wanted it, but every time I tried, I told him the truth--I'm no where near being ready for that, even if I might want it. Every time I said so, he was really sweet, saying he understood and wouldn't dream of making me do anything I wasn't ready to do. Lately, he's been going back on that promise. He's been getting kind of physical about it, too. Pushing me and shoving me and stuff; a couple of months ago we were at his house watching TV in his room because he gets free movies on his XBox through netflix, and he started kissing my neck and touching my leg and stuff. He was getting really touchy, and pushed his hand away and told me to stop, and he got really mad and he raised his hand as if he was going to hit me, but instead he just pushed me away from him, and I almost fell off the couch. I left when he did that and I went home. He called me five times an hour all night after that, and almost ten times the next day. Since then, he's been getting more violently, and touchy feely and rough, and when I deny him sex he gets really pissed. Last night I got up to leave and he grabbed my arm so hard I thought my wrist would break. Then he pushed me and I fell into the table--my knees are bruised. He called me a whore and a tease and told me I was being a bitch, and I left. This morning we had a date, and I didn't expect or want to go on the date after last night, but he showed up at my house right on time. I told him to go away and started to close the door, but he forced his way into the house and apologized for last night and got my oat from the closet and we went out and actually had a good time. He was really sweet, and he acted as though last night never happened. What do I do?

I would not stay in this relationship it seems he is getting tired of waiting for sex and a man who really cares about you should even try to get you to have sex or call you those awful names you are better than that.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.