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The L Word
In order to understand this situation better I should probably give you some background.
Im 19, female, and have been dating this amazing guy since the beginning of March, although I met him in December when I was home for break. He's everything I ever wanted in a guy, not to mention he treats me amazing and he worships me. However, my previous relationship was a two year one where I made so many mistakes by staying with the guy it turned verbally and emotionally abusive to me. Whats strange is that a week after I left my ex, I met my current boyfriend.
Thing is, after a long relationship last thing I wanted was a new one, so when I met this boy at a party I just shrugged our encounter off as a hookup, even though we exchanged numbers. He continued to contact me through out december and january, even when I went back to school, to hang out or go out but I would always blow him off. My university is close to home so distance was not the issue. Then, around the end of january he invited me to hang out with him and his friends one more time, and for some reason, I accepted.
What followed was almost a miracle. Not only was this boy perfect in every way for me, he thought I was perfect. He treats me incredible and would always say how amazing i am and how lucky he is to have found me. It's really insane how perfect we were together and how much i fit in with all of his friends as well. We continued to hang out and hook up throughout february and eventually he asked me to be his girlfriend. Because i had just ended a bad relationship, I said no. However, two weeks later after we kept going out and his friends pretty much considered me his grilfriend and after I kept seeing how amazing he was to me, I accepted. That was early March, it is now mid april and the experiences I've shared with him are priceless. I haven't felt this loved ever in my life and he truly is an amazing person. I think I've fallen for him. I say this because sometimes I get the urge to say "I love you" when were together but I always abstain myself.
Two interesting things happened, one, I was using his computer one day while he was showering and when I went to the internet, recent pages came up, and it showed he had researched "when is it too soon to say I love you". That sort of melted my heart it was very sweet.
The other interesting thing that happened is that we were laying in bed one night, we hadn't done anything, just cuddling, and we fall asleep. At one point though I wake up a little bit and he is hugging me so I turn over to face him and look at him and he is awake and whispers softly "i love you" and i couldn't be sure that he had said it so I asked What? and he repeated it, again softly. I wanted him to really say it so i said what a third time and again he said it very faintly. So i closed my eyes and hugged him and "went back to sleep". I'm not sure what this means, because I definitely think I heard him say it, three times, but it was so soft I'm not sure and he hasn't said it since and then I was not at a point where I felt like saying it but now I am and I want to but am very scared to. Idk when or what the right moment would be or what if he hadn't said it that night and I end up saying it first, I don't want to freak him out, I also dont want to say it too soon since it's only been a few months of dating but I just feel it, or at least I think I do because why else would I want to say it so bad? it always come up in my mind when I look at him.
My question is, should I say it even if he hasn't repeated it since then? Whats the best time and should I just be random about it or make sure its a special moment or what? What do you guys make of the situation? Does it count if he said it softly when we were "asleep" because I feel like it doesn't but I also have a feeling he thinks that since he said it he doesn't want to again until I do...I'm confused about this whole thing.
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I say you say it. if his looking up when is it to early to say i love it means his feeling it too. maybe when you said it faintly he didn't hear you and thats why he hasn't said it. so just say it when you feel like saying it it will come natrally. good luck! :)
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When to say I love you, You say I love you when it just slips. dont think about the moment. youll look a little blushed when you said it. You say when you comfortable saying it to him. itll just happen good luck
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Have you ever honestly told someone how they make you feel? Like, no pomp and circumstance, no worrying about special moments, just wanted to express to another person in human terms they mean the world to you?
Honest outpourings are more meaningful to people than planned out perfect moments. He could show up with roses and diamonds tomorrow and boldly proclaim how much he loves you but in a few years what you'll remember were the whispers, when he put himself out there and was laying in bed with you just as nervous as you were.
Just express it. If you have to stutter it out do so, just tell him whats up with you and get on the same relationship page.
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