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My name is Sami.♥ Wherever life takes me, you'll find me with a smile. Feel free to ask me anything, I will give you the best advice that I can :)
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okay so i know that you can't technically make someone fall back in love with you, it just happens...but what can you do to help it? if you dated someone for like almost a year and they say feelings changed...well if feelings can change then they can change again right? is there anythingg i can do? proms coming up and im going with my ex thanks so muchh
Well now taht you are broken up, make him realize what he is missing. When you go to prom just have fun, be yourself, and tell him how you feel that night. prom has a really romantic feel to it so what you say seems 10 times sweeter at prom =] Take him to dinner and do something fun like bowling or whatever. Hopefully this helps. Good luck! =]
13/f
i haven't gotten my period yet but i have been getting vaginal discharge for about a year now. the thing is sometimes my stomach (down near my bladder) hurts so much it makes me cry. i have tried nurofen, panadol, ibuprofen,and normal paracetamol. these help a bit but the cramps still hurt. i don't want to be stuffing myself with pain killers all the time. are there any herbal teas or food, even massages that i can do myself which would help?
any help would be appreciated
thanks
I put a heating pad right where my cramps are. And i know that when you have cramps that you dont really want to do anything but exercising really helps. When you exercise it releases these things called endorphins and they are a natural pain reliever and it really helps. Hope i helped =]
Hello my name is Maria and i live in Puerto Rico 23
I want to know if the clorox used in the pool will eventually whiten your skin if so one goes to the pool numerous amount of time.
ive never heard of it whitening your skin, it can make your skin really dry and your skin may get irritated. but ive never heard of it turning your skin whiter. hope i helped =]
Okay, So I am 13 and me and my friends want to do a wiji board. We were thinking of doing it in my room or across the street. But I wanted to know what others think? Like is it safe.. Could we be harmed and if you have done it, do you regret it? And how many people do you need. We were just going to do it with 4 people all girls. And we are all 13. And I don't have the board yet. & Is it true that you cant get rid of them easily?
I have heard a lot of bad stories about them from my friends. If i were you i wouldnt do it in any of your guys's houses. Plus be careful ive heard that evil spirits can and will follow you and you may be haunted. Also my uncle and some friends went to their basement and used one well he got haunted by one it broke things and choked his friend. Well then he burned the wiji board and it came back where he had it the next day. They do some pretty freaky things so just be careful. And i wouldnt suggest doing it in your house. hope i helped =]
i have shaved my thighs before and i do on a regualar basis but i was wondering which way i should shave, up or down, in order to avoid the red spots i sometimes get.
Well normally when you shave up is when you get the red spots. But if you use a shaving cream like skintimate, it usually stops those bumps. Also make sure that you dont have a dull razor. If you want a close shave, shave up with shaving cream. If not then you can shave down. Hope i helped =]
me and my ex are going to prom this friday. we broke up about 2 weeks ago but he says he still wants me in his life, but his feelings changed...he said that he was debating whether or not they actually did since the day right before we broke up we had this really romantic date that went so well, which he said was just "in denial" or "thinking the other way".. is there any chances we'll get back together after prom? is prom really magical? does anyone have any experiences where they fell back in love after prom? or just were friends before prom then went together and fell in love? thanks so much.
Well my boyfriend and i broke up about a week before prom and i wouldnt even talk to him (he cheated on me) and he just kinda pushed me into going to prom with him, i did and then that night we got back together. Prom can be really romantic. Just when you go to your activity or dinner just make sure its really special and make him realize what he is going to miss without you in his life. Just dont try to hard. Flirt a little and just make him see how special you are. Hope i helped =] and good luck!
does anyone ever feel like they dont know what to do or how to feel and you just want to crawl in a dark place somewhere and just sleep? not because youre sad in particular, but because you dont want to deal with anything and anyone... how do u get over feeling that way?
A lot of people go through this. Actually i was just recently like that. The best thing to do is to get out there, be as happy as you can and try to hang out with your friends i know that it doesnt sound fun at all but it will cheer you up a little and help you realize that life isnt as bad as you think it is. Exercise worked for me too. When i get mad or sad i exercise to help me and it really does help. Hope i helped =]
Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
Tell him that you dont believe in abortions. It takes 2 people to make a baby so either he has a part in it or not. It sounds like he isnt going to though. Tell him that your keeping the baby. Or you could put it up for adoption but your not for abortions. Dont be afraid to straight up tell him how you feel. Hope i helped =] and if you need anymore advice feel free to go to my column and ask me =]
15/f
so next month im having my sweet 16 party!
i didn't really have any good ideas so i decided to take my (girl) friends to a nice dinner. Now that i've told a few, they dont really sound excited( some do some dont). When i mentioned it to one of my closest friends, she said "well, why not a limo? ive always wanted to go in one, there so nice!".
Anyways what im trying to ask is, is it a waste spending my money on them when there not really appreciating the fact that it's my own birthday, cause it feels like a waste. Like now i only feel like bringing the friends that actually sound excited(becuase it is a lot of money to spend).
Anyway, another problem is i get to invite about 15 girls, some girls on my list i obviously want to invite, but some of them i really dont feel like inviting because im drifted apart from them(even thought we were close before); but i kind of have to invite them cuase otherwise they'll be left out. So i dont know what to do about that
And sorry this is kinda long, but the last thing is, if i wanna go for a nice dinner i obviously wanna dress up, but i dont want anyone to over dress me, and im SURE someone will. How do i prevent it?
Well honestly its your birthday, if you are planning to go somewhere they shouldnt be telling you to get a limo or where to eat, its your birthday, its your choice. It might get pretty expensive if you go somewhere nice. Try something like going to a pool or something. Or just throw a small little party at your house. Well still invite them i mean if they really arent friends then dont invite them and dont worry about how they feel once again its your birthday. Well then tell everyone thats its a nicer party so dress cute and then you show up in some super fab dress! im almost positive that they wont over dress you. Good luck! Hope i helped =]
My ex is talkinto me alot i ask her if she loves me she says yes and she says she is going to break up with her boyfriend for me and of course i love her and i wanna be with her but she is leaving him for me and because hes a jerk and i dont want her to get hurt bye me i love her to much pleae help me!!!
If you care about her that much you wont let yourself hurt her. And let her be with you if you honestly care that much =] If its meant to be it will work out. Just watch out her current bf may want to kick your ass after she breaks up with him for you. Good luck & hope i helped =]
14/f
what happens if i get pregnant? like will i be able to move out of my parents house? and live with my boyfriend? or will i have to stay home? and how would i tell my parents? what if i runaway and call my parents and tell them. will i have to go back home? because i know my parents dont want me to do this. and would pretty much beat me if i did. but i dont care about them. they just make my life worse and worse everyday. and starting a family sounds like the best thing to me right now. im not actually pregnant. but im kinda thinking about it. because of things ive talked about with my boyfriend. i know your gonna say dont do it. and im not ever sure i want to do this. so PLEASE dont tell me i shouldn't do it. or how its going to ruin my life. because it wont ruin my life. my boyfriend already has things planned out if i do want to do this. and no. he's not pushing me to do this. its only if i want to. and i just want these questions answered before i do make a decision.
thanks for the help.
- cuttechick24
Ok well no you cant move out of your house your still a minor. And if your parents dont kick you out you would be considered a run away and depending on how old your boyfriend was he could get into trouble for running away with you or letting you move in with him. If you run away and call your parents they have this thing called screening and they will find you. well having a family isnt going to fix anything i promise.
Ive been through the same thing you just want someone who will love you unconditionnaly no matter what. Well if you really think about it you still want to party and hit 21 and dring and everything. If you have a child you wont be able to do this, unless you leave your kid all the time so you can carry on with your life. and your not going to be financially ready to take care of a kid either. Im not telling you not to just think about this twice before you do.
Hope i helped =]
and if you need anymore advice feel free to go to my column and ask me personally.
My period is late 9 days, should I be worrying?
When should I start worrying that I am pregnant?
Well sometimes periods are not regular and that could be it.
But if you are sexually active you could be pregnant.
If i were you i would wait until its been about 2 weeks so in 5 days, and if your period still hasnt showed up then take a pregnancy test.
Hope i helped =]
This is a letter that I wrote to him that I'm never going to send. It sums it up: (sorta long):
I don't know what to say. I don't know now, and I won't know tomorrow, just as I didn't know yesterday. I walk dutifully to the school everyday. I look for you, just to see you laughing, just to see you smile, just to see you talk, just to watch you warm my day. Yet, you never notice me. That one class is my exception. You sit right there, in front of me, walking perfection, yet I'm the only one who sees it. Kind to everyone, serious and smart, yet funny and sporty. Even, nice to me, the one who just sits there, who's NOT funny, and has little outer beauty. I could only hope that you would look at me. Yet, you do. Just seeing you keeps my hopes up. But I know you don't feel the same way.
Everyone has those times. You know, the awkward 5th grade years where you have a 'crush,' then 2 weeks later its someone else. I've been through it. I know what it feels like. But this is different. I'm head over heels, 100% in love with you. And its different from anything I'm used to.
Yeah, sure, you talk to me, to ask me about a science question, or if I know when the tests are. At least you know me. But I can't help to wonder that if you knew me better, you might actually like me. Outside of me- the crazy girl with skin problems on her forehead and chin, the one with the goofy smile that never goes away, the one that people say "Oh, I'm glad I'm not her" behind my back to- I'm typical. But inside, it's different. Oh lord, its different. Inside, I'm athletic, I love animals, I have 2 gerbils I adore, I do dance, I'm obsessed about clothing, and I'm afraid of weird things- like sitting on the outsides of places and golf. I'm beautiful on the inside, but my outside is warring with my inside. Maybe, I could be pretty, if my face healed, and I slapped on some make-up. Maybe, you could get to know me more.
I know you're not the type to judge by the outside, but I know your type. You like the sporty, funny, outgoing kind. I met your ex, and she's perfect. I'm sporty, I just don't want people to know. It's not what they would expect. I'm outgoing, people just look at me and shrug me off. And, I'm sarcastically funny. But people, again, wouldn't expect it. I keep me inside, I'm imperfect in every way.
You, on the other hand, are perfect in every way. You're out of my league. You're out of my reach. And I hate it.
If you were to see this, maybe you'd look at me differently. Maybe you would try to get to know me, instead of brushing me past like any other girl. Maybe, just maybe, you'd like me for once.
Well your first problem is that your telling yourself that your not perfect and that your hiding yourself because you dont want people to see the real you. Thats wrong if he got to know you he probably would like you.
Show your true colors. Surprise people there is no point in hiding. If you like this guy as much as you say you do, then change be who you really are. Dont hide, be outgoing be you. People will like you i promise.
It sounds like you really like him and you want him to like you to. Well talk to him, make the first move in flirting, just be slow about it.
But most of all HAVE CONFIDENCE in yourself!!! i promise walk around telling yourself that your beautiful. Guys will notice =]
Hope i helped and good luck =]
okay, so im 15 female, and im hispanic.
so this is whats going on, im talking to this boy, hes superrrrrr sexy! ahah and hes mexican and black. (i know that doesnt sound like a sexy mix, but omgggg, this boy is gorgeous ;] lol) and the problem here is that my parents dont like me dating black guys, and no there not racist, they jus think its wrong for me to be with a black guy. which i think is dumb... but anyways, im just thinking like if me and him do end up as something serious, and start going out, how would i tell my parents? cause i would like for them to know about him.. and i wouldnt be able to keep it from them cause i have older bros and cousins that will tell and then eventually they will find out! advice? thanks
Just talk to your parents and tell them that you really like this guy and you know that they dont approve but he makes you happy. Tell them to remember that your only 15 and you and this kid most likely arent going to last. That you just want to see whats out there. And hopefully they will understand and if not then tell them that your old enough to make your own decisions and if they dont like that then you dont need to tell them whats going on in your life. But whatever you do dont hide it from your parents they will find out and it will just make them not trust you. Hope i helped =]
I like a dude, and I'm a nerd. (He knows I like him by the way.) How do I get the guy to notice and/or like me? Thanks. :)
Well first off dont think of your self as a nerd. Have confidence. tell yourself that you are beautiful and show it. Guys like a girl with confidence. Start talking to him about music food movies and just things that he likes to do. And if he ends up not liking you, dont get discouraged, if he doesnt like you its his loss, he is missing out on a great girl =] because i guarantee you that if you star having confidence in yourself that other guys will notice you just have to get out there =] Hope i helped ♥ Good luck!
Ok so my dad makes my life a living hell and i dont know what to do anymore. He makes me just want to leave(die) and never come back. i just want to get away from the pain. i want to commit suicide but im afraid. Can you help me?? What should i do about these thoughts and attempts??
HelP!!!
Talk to your dad. Tell him that you dont like how things are and tell him what your feeling.
But thinking about suicide is not healthy at all. Nothing ever gets that bad, Yeah if you take your life you think your helping yourself but your not. Your only hurting everyone around you but your still hurting yourself. I guarantee that you havent done everything in life that you have always wanted to do. Think of all the good times that you could and will have if you stay around. Suicide is never the answer. You should be afraid of hurting yourself. And if your afraid of dying that is telling yourself right there that you really dont want to leave. You could talk to a councelor or someone at your school. It wouldnt be the first time that anyone has heard about this and THEY WILL HELP YOU!
Your not alone millions of people go through this all the time. But most of them come to their sences and dont end up doing it. Im hoping that reading this and beliving in your self will help you through this, and that you will keep your life that you could do so much with.
Instead of thinking of the bad things in your life think about all the good things, about the people who love you, your friends, your family, even though it may not seem like it they really do care about you more than you know. So whatever you do dont turn to hurting yourself its never the answer. Go out and do stuff with your friends, and most of all talk to somebody.
Look i dont even know you but i know that people do care about you and no one wants to lose you.
I hope i helped =]
If you need anything else feel free to go to my column and ask me personally =]
does anyone have any info on "The house slave" by rita dove, I cannot find anything on the internet.
i'd appreciate it
Im not sure if these will help but i tried....
http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Museum/3655/dove.html
and i found her home page:
http://people.virginia.edu/~rfd4b/
Hope this helps =]
I have an acting audition on wednesday. What are some songs that will give you confidence?
Be confident in your self. i know that this sounds conceited but tell your self your the best. And be prepared, know exactly how your going to act and your facial expressions and try not to be nervous. hope i helped =]
At school I'm not popular. I don't want to be, but I do have a problem. I'm self-conscious and I don't know how to help that. Ever since I started 7th grade I've become self-conscious. I've tried to not be, but It's hard. I have long blonde hair, but I always keep it up. I always wear a big hoodie that's black. No I'm not Emo or Gothic. It's just comfy. I wear it because of the whole self-conscious thing. My parents tell me I'm pretty and so do my friends, but I'm still self-conscious.
A lot of girls go through this. I still am going through it and im in high school. But ive realized that the way people see you is not the way you see your self. When you look in the mirroryou pick out every little thing wrong with you dont you??? Well other people dont. They just look at who you are and how you carry yourself. If you hide yourself and you wear the same hoodie with your hair pulled up everyday people will know that your self conscious. Just put your fear of what other people think behind you and tell yourself that your beautiful becuase you are. Wear your hair down with a cute top some jeans and flats or pumps or flip flops whatever you want. Walk down the hall with a smile. People will notice that you have confidence. And i know you didnt say anything about guys in your quesion but guys like girls with confidence. as long as you have a cute personality and your not snobby or anything people will love you and your friends and family will love the new you! I promise! Good Luck & Hope i helped =]
If you need any more advice feel free to go to my column and ask me personally :)
15/f
my friends tell me when they notice that guys are hitting on me and flirting, personally i cant tell at all! how do i know! how do i know when i am!?
Well most of the time if you just like someone as a friend you wont flirt. Flirting is just kind of a natural thing that we do. But if a guy is flirting with you he will smile and laugh a lot and he will tease "Joke around" with you a lot. he will hug you and maybe even try to tickle you. They just act different than any of your normal guy friends would unless your guy friends like you. haha
When your flirting its kinda hard to tell but if you know that you like someone the flirting will just come with that.
Hope i helped =]