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I am Maria, I don't answer inbox questions (with very few exceptions, for example those people that use proper grammar and spelling). I try my best to point people in the right direction when I am answering questions. Check out my forum!
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Is it okay to put the car in park or neutral at a red light ?
Its okay. The only thing about it is safety concerns because you might shift back to rear or something and that would be bad. My dad told me it saves gas but I don't know whether that's true or not.
~Maria, 16
my hair is about sholder length.maybe 2 inches longer. and i want to grow it out to this length
http://l.yimg.com/img.tv.yahoo.com/tv/us/img/site/21/10/0000042110_20070815142656.jpg
how long would that take me to grow it out?
My hair was as long as yours, and it took about 12-15 months for it to grow to be the length in the picture; I didn't get a single hair cut whatsoever.
~Maria, 16
I have no confidence whatsoever in myself...none!
Is there any way i can fix this?
what are some positive things i can think?
Have a confident walk. Walk like you know exactly where you're going, don't glance behind you, basically just strut, but look people in the eyes and smile at them. If you look like you have confidence in yourself, people will believe that, and if people think you are a confident person with good self esteem, you will become confident. Whenever you feel un-confident, pretend you are.
~Maria, 16
I've heard going on birth control makes your boobs one cup bigger normally
Is this true?
It depends on the birth control, the woman, her daily habits, diet, a ton of different stuff. Some of my friends got bigger boobs, others had no change in breast size at all. But yes, most girls do get bigger breasts on birth control, but its not guaranteed. For example, I'm on birth control, but there's no change at all.
~Maria, 16
So I'm having difficulty naming my grey female kitty. I've narrowed it down to a few names. I trust your opinions so let me know which one you like the best:
Pandora
Tabitha
Mabel
Scarlett
Paloma (Spanish for 'peace')
Stella
If you have any suggestions, that would be nice too. Thanks a lot!
Paloma.
I always like to act and dress up like a little kid sometimes (I'm 16!) and sometimes I have this urge to scream or shout I HAVE DOWN SYNDROME =] when I'm outside.
But i was just wondering if it will be offensive? Because I think down syndrom is a mental disability( or correct me if I'm wrong) so it will be offensive to many people?
My friend's little brother has down syndrome, and I know all three of us would be very offended.
~Maria, 16
my ex and i have been on and off. and it's been 3 weeks since we've gone out. today he said he loves me. and it really caught me off gaurd. i wanna say it back. and i did. but i dont know if i completely do. but the thing is. we were supossed to hang out today. [[and maybe make out]] but he couldnt come. so i called him when i got home, and he sounded all depressed. he said that there were only 3 things that could cheer him up. they were "to get a red bull, to make out with someone, and to get his little brother out of the room." he said two of the three things would be okay. so i told him that i could get him a red bull, but he wanted me to do something else. i know he wanted to make out with me.. but idk if i want to. so i guess i need advice on how to find out if i should make out with him or not. or if i should tell him if im not ready. i want to really bad. but i dont know if i should. i really need help. please help.
You're having second thoughts on kissing him. So don't kiss him. Cheer him up by getting him a Red Bull and getting his brother out of the room. If he's already out, well, it was done for you, it doesn't mean you now have to kiss him because you didn't get his brother out. If he insists that you should make out with him, tell him you would like to take things slow. If he truly loves you, as he had said, he will understand.
~Maria, 16
I started cutting when I was 14 and im now 17, and it has been getting worst, now after cutting I would take alot of pain killers, which makes me throw up alot, i now i need help, but im too scared to get it
Tell someone you live with, like your mom, for example, even if you don't have the greatest relationship with her. She will know what to do. You are sick. She will take care of you, whether it means taking you to the therapist or providing emotional (and physical) support. If you aren't going to get help, one day you're going to take too many pain killers, or cut yourself too deep, and it will be too late to do anything. Once you tell someone, a lot of the burden will be taken off your shoulders. Don' be afraid to get help.
~Maria, 16
im going to italy in february and i want to know what the weather is like. Should I pack warm clothes?
It will be freezing. What most people forget to pack are scarves, socks, gloves, and some water proof shoes. If you like, pack a hat that covers your ears or some ear muffs. I suggest bringing lots of layers, and especially turtlenecks. Sure, they might be considered geeky here, but there everyone wears them over there. It also depends on where you're going. If its southern Italy, for example, it would be a little warmer but still cold. Temperatures tend to be in the 30's (Fahrenheit)
~Maria, 16
I'm fifteeen and a girl [:
me and this guy were going out for about a two years. we broke up in march of 07. ive been talking to him lately through texting and aim. everytime i talk to him i get the same feeling i used to when we were going out and he makes me feel alive. i know that sounds corny, but its amazing how much of a little girl i become around him. i can say stupid things no one else would get and we can practically predict what one other is gonna say. i honestly dont think me and him are done. i know one day we will get back together, and hopefully soon. theres a dance comming up at my school in febuary and I'm thinking about asking him. I dont hangout with him alot. more like i never hangout with him, and when i do it's pretty awkward. neither of us know what to say to eachother in person and i obvouisly want that to change. I think asking him to the dance would give us a chance to become not awkward around eachother and maybe give us another chance. Should i go for it or play it safe? any other suggestions? thankss! [:
Go for it. You might not have another chance. What do you have to lose?
~Maria, 16
So you've probably all heard about jamie lynn spears being pregnant
But I'm curious to hear every ones opinion on this .
Good or bad what are your opinions on jamie lynn spears being pregnant at 16 do you all think its a bad influence on youngsters? What do you all think ?
Jessica Martinez, - Seventeen Magazine
I think that the fact the Spears is pregnant will normalize the whole "pregnant at 16" thing. What probably upset me the most about this whole ordeal was the reaction of the producers of Zoey 101 or whatever that show is called. They do not critic Jamie Lynn for becoming pregnant, although I'm sure she's getting enough harsh words thrown at her, I think they should have reprimanded her for the sake of the young girls watching the show. Something along the lines of "we are very disappointed in Jamie Lynn Spear's acts and she will no longer be representing Zoey 101" would have been more appropriate, in my opinion.
But perhaps it will encourage teens to use protection if they decide to become sexually active.
Oh, and I would like to add that although I admire her decision for keeping the baby instead of getting an abortion, I think she should give it up for adoption. The Spears family is most certainly lacking in brains, and most likely a brain lacking mother will bring up a brain lacking child.
~Maria, 16
me and my boyfriend landon really like each other. we have those little fights about whos cuter or who loves each other more. and at school, WE ARE SERIOUSLY ALL OVER EACH OTHER! we tell each other that we love each other. hes all i can think about. and he tells his friends, that he loves me and that all he can think about is me. i really miss him alot, and im going to see him tomorrow. so, does it sound like were in love, or...are we just really close in our relationship?
-shelby/13/f
I personally think its infatuation. Think of it this way. You know those really cute old couples you see walking down the street? Well they are in love, but you don't see them all over each other. They probably don't say "I love you" very often. Those little fights about whose more cute don't mean anything. It's puppy love. In a few years or even less you will most likely grow apart, and even start liking other people. Its not 100% sure, but it is most definitely possible.
~Maria, 16
There's a christmas party tonight but I'm not sure whether to go or not. Our house got broke into about two weeks ago and I'm scared of leaving the house unattended for so long.
I could tell everyone to go and I'll stay at home but it's everyone goes or nobody goes, my mom doesn't want to leave me alone in a house that might come to a dangerous situation.
I don't really want to go but i don't want to break my sibling's spirit, it IS a Christmas party and the last thing I want for them after having a pre-terrible christmas break with someone breaking in is to not go to the only party that they want to go.
But..we'll live if we don't go right?
But..my cousin was so excited, tleling me how hard she picked the presents and that it's that ONE PEFECT NIGHT.
What should I do?
If you were in my place, would you go or not go?
I would go. The chances of your house being broken into again are slim. Just make sure you bolt the doors, windows, etc. You could leave a light on in a window visible to the street, and even leave the TV on (kind of loud). That is a bit of a waste of electricity though.
Perhaps you could let a neighbor know of your dilemma, and ask them to keep an eye on the house, and call the cops if someone does break in. For example, you can leave the lights off, and if someone breaks in they might turn the lights on to search for stuff better. The neighbor will most likely see that the lights have been turned on. But I would leave the neighbors alone because that is a pretty big favor to ask on Christmas Eve. And probably whoever broke into your house (if they stole anything) took what they needed. I wouldn't worry.
~Maria, 16
my pets sleep in my room sometimes and they tear up everything i hide the important things from them and they still find it and my pets are dogs what do i do
If they're puppies, then its most likely just a stage they go through. My dog as a puppy did the same thing. If we saw him doing that, we take the object away and yelled at him, telling him he's a bad dog and that's not okay. The dog needs to get scared in order for this to work. If he's wagging his tail than he's not getting the message.
If they're adults, same concept. Take the object away, yell at them (you don't have to actually scream, but definitely sound very angry.) Make a move with your hand like your about to hit him (just don't, or if you do, do it lightly so it doesn't hurt). You're dogs need to know that you are the alfa dog, and that you set the rules.
Try getting them chew toys, or these pet treats called "Greenies."
If nothing works (give it time, it won't happen overnight) maybe take them to an obedience trainer. Tell them your problem and they should know how to take care of it.
~Maria, 16
alright this might sound strnge but..
Okay last time I had sex was august, I don't remember if I got my period I september but I KNOW I got it in October. I missed november and so far, December. My friends tell me its probaly because I only had my period for not even a year and its still irregular, but i don't know I'm convinced I'm preagnut I even think I'm getting bigger and in losing my appitate. My friends say its all in my head but I'm still not sure , and I'm terrfied to get a home test because of the reaslut what should I do
Sorry I'd I mispelled anything I'm on my itouch
but any help would be great!!
If you got it in October, than you aren't pregnant. But definitely take the test to make sure, but I would bet a hundred bucks you aren't pregnant.
~Maria, 16
Okay so I want to get a tattoo. My dad thinks its okay but my mom doesn't want me to get one.
Anyway I have the design but I don't know where I want it.
[IMG]http://i12.tinypic.com/85kcopd.jpg[/IMG]
That's the image code thing. I was thinking I should get it like around my neck or something. I am madly in love with the design and I won't regret it. I don't want it visible to my mom because she doesn't like tattoos at all.
Near your bikini area. No one will see it there unless you're wearing a swimsuit. Also, some places won't hire you if you have a tattoo.
~Maria, 16
im female....18 years old.
i am SO tired! constantly. when i wake up, all day, and im ready for bed at like 8 pm. what is wrong with me? i was thinking anemia? is it something to worry about? its been going on for a few months and its interferring with everything i do. any help would be so appreciated!
Lol, I think every person that's going to answer this question is going to tell you different things. If it's anemia, really make sure you're getting enough iron. Do you bleed a lot during your period? Here's a good site to look at if you're anemic:
http://www.healthcastle.com/iron.shtml
But I would see a doctor. It could be something serious. None of us here on this website are capable of diagnosing you.
~Maria, 16
okay , im skinny and everything but how could I improve on getting more curves?!
Thanks!
Betty!
There's really not much you can do besides gaining a whole lot of weight and waiting.
~Maria, 16
my little sister has gone...dare i say it...GOTH i dont know why she has she just suddanly started wearing black and white make up and dressing in all black with chains hanging down from her pants what do i do
You don't do anything.
~Maria, 16
my bf is starting to bore me. when ever we hang out or hold hands in the hallway he never says a word. i try to start a conversation and i feel like im talking to myself. also he has no experience bc im his first gf so my friends always tell him to put his arm around me and stuff. also i like the guy to make the first move. i no he might be shy but he doesn't do anything with me. im really not into him at all anymore and when ever he comes near me i think...great hes here now. he totally turning me off now. i like a lot of my guy friends more than i like him. how can i break up with him bc i don't want to hurt his feelings and i will feel really bad. thx in advance♥
He's just shy. If you like him enough to wait a while for him to become accustomed to the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing so he can open up and relax more, than do that. But if you are completely miserable just break it off with him. For a relationship to happen, it takes two people, and he obviously isn't doing his part, so you shouldn't feel guilty about hurting his feelings. But if you feel like that, I would still let him know that you are frustrated with his lack of participation in the relationship, and if wants to do something about that, give him a chance.
~Maria, 16