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my ex said "i love you" to me [im 13 year old girl]
my ex and i have been on and off. and it's been 3 weeks since we've gone out. today he said he loves me. and it really caught me off gaurd. i wanna say it back. and i did. but i dont know if i completely do. but the thing is. we were supossed to hang out today. [[and maybe make out]] but he couldnt come. so i called him when i got home, and he sounded all depressed. he said that there were only 3 things that could cheer him up. they were "to get a red bull, to make out with someone, and to get his little brother out of the room." he said two of the three things would be okay. so i told him that i could get him a red bull, but he wanted me to do something else. i know he wanted to make out with me.. but idk if i want to. so i guess i need advice on how to find out if i should make out with him or not. or if i should tell him if im not ready. i want to really bad. but i dont know if i should. i really need help. please help.
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You're having second thoughts on kissing him. So don't kiss him. Cheer him up by getting him a Red Bull and getting his brother out of the room. If he's already out, well, it was done for you, it doesn't mean you now have to kiss him because you didn't get his brother out. If he insists that you should make out with him, tell him you would like to take things slow. If he truly loves you, as he had said, he will understand.
~Maria, 16
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You are very young, but more importantly you sound like you are not ready for a physical relationship. Also, you are smart enough to see through the "I love you" tactic and game-playing. Guys will sometimes say anything...yes anything, to get sex or as close to it as they can. Don't let him manipulate you into doing anything you don't want to do. Here is a clue that you really don't want to make out. It was not your idea. Guys have a way of pushing ahead and asking or begging or demanding things that would not occur to a young girl such as yourself as being necessary or fun. Most often the girl is anxious, scared, unsure, doubtful, and feeling tricked into these situations. You will have a wonderful sexual future with someone you choose, when you choose it...if you listen to yourself and not guys in general to tell you when you are ready. Be in charge of your own body and life. Being physical will not make any guy love or respect you...most of the time it does the opposite, especially in the younger years of immaturity. Your body is not his playground and it is never ever your job or responsibility to cheer him up or grant him wishes. What is he doing for you in your life? Make sure that every relationship you have serves your needs first...don't let yourself be used by anyone...it feels like shit.
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