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Ok, well lately, many of my friends have been smoking weed. I tell them that it's stupid and that it can harm your health, and stuff such as that, but they keep telling me that weed doesn't harm your body in any way what-so-ever. If anyone knows, can you please tell me what side-effects you may get from smoking weed? (I'm a 14/f, if that's important, which I don't think it is.)

I don't consider these "side effects" of smoking weed but it will make you smell bad and you can forget about things. I hear it does do things to your brain cells and harms them. My friend smokes weed and she just gets really annoying sometimes so you can also consider that as a "side effect." Tell your friends that smoking weed does affect your body but smoking weed won't do that much to your body like smoking cigarettes but if your friends do smoke it for a long time, then it may.
-Karen

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ok im freaking out here...me and my boyfriend were under the covers at his house...and he was fingering me and i gave him a handjob...i tihnk he ejaculated a little bit but on the blanket away from me...he didnt go that much because he can control it and stuff...well i was expecting my period on the 19th (thats when i had it last month) but my period is always on a weird cycle...now im wondering if he got a little bit of sperm on his fingers or something and fingered me....hes really careful about that stuff though...so i dont know...ive been totally stressing out so much (we did this around the 11th or the 12th) what are some symtoms of pregnancy besides a missed period??

Some symptoms of being pregnant are having morning sickness for a few days after getting sperm inside of you, eating more than you usually do, gaining weight, being moody, having pains, and so on. If your boyfriend didn't get any cum onto his fingers when he then fingered you, then you aren't pregnant but if he did and then fingered you, then there is a chance that you may be pregnant. If you period has always been on a weird cycle, then it's just irregular and doing this to you. If you don't get your period any time soon and you start to have these symptoms, then you should take a pregnancy test.
-Karen

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if a woman is about 2 months or 1 month pregnant and not showing at all...and she went on an amusement park ride that had a sign that said no expectant mothers posted on it...what would happen to the baby? would it cause a miscarriage??

A few years ago, when my mom was pregnant with my sister, now 5 years old, we went to an amusement park and she went on a ride that didn't allow pregnant women on it and she was about 3 months old and nothing bad happened to her. There is a slim chance of something happening to the fetus but nothing will happen to the fetus, since it is small. But if this woman was more than 2 months pregnant and was showing, then yes, something could happen to the fetus, since it is bigger and any movement such as going on a ride could do something. This wouldn't cause a miscarriage to a woman who is about 2 months pregmant but then again, it could.
-Karen

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Ok, Recently i told this boy lets call him kyle i like him and i really have major feelings for him and he told me he has serious feelings for me we keep writing to eachother and flirting but i have a boyfriend... lets call him justin and kyle and justin sit at the same table at lunch and usually justin walks me to gym and he forgot about me and i forgot about him and is that a sign to break up with justin and go out with kyle? please help me i know this is confusing but i really need help! i'll rate high!

Well, I don't think that Justin forgetting about you and you forgetting about him is a sign that you two should break up. You should talk to Justin and tell him how you feel and that you have feelings for Kyle. He should know what's up, since he will eventually find out from someone else. If you want to break up with Justin, talk to Kyle and make sure that he will go out with you, once you and Justin break up so you didn't break up with for no reason. If you like Kyle and if he likes you, then yes, you should go out with him but just make sure you talk to Justin.
-Karen

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Nasty people keep giving me positive feedback but then rating me low because I "beg" for ratings. Now here comes the advice part *wink* .. Should I say "SCREW YOU!" and keep "begging" (retards) or should I close down my column because some people in here are too imature to handle a question?

No, don't close your column down. If you check out the answer ratings in the FAQ's, it will tell you that if you beg to be rated, that people will rate you low, since it is annoying. Not that many people are doing it now but they used. Putting "Please rate me" or whatever you type in your answer, people will assume that you just want to be rated and they get annoyed by that so they rate you low. If you just answer questions without telling people to rate you, then they won't rate you low.
-Karen

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Does anyone know any free mp3 music download websites. Please help.

You can download Kazaa Lite, Limewire, or WinMX to get free mp3 music. Just go to http://www.download.com and search for which ever music downloading program that you want and download it.
-Karen

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i have recently had a coldsaw but my girlfriend wants me to give her oral sex but im concerned that if it is not gone completely she may get infected. is it safe?

No, this isn't safe. If you want everything to go right, then you should wait until your cold sore is gone. You can use Abreva or any other cold sore medicine.
-Karen

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there is a guy at my work who is going back to brazil where he came from. we have gotten really close and i'm going to mis. tonite was my last night seeing him and he gave me his number, his address, and even his email. he keeps asking me when i am turning 18, and i don't understand why. he is a 25 year old male and i'm a 17 year old female. any ideas what this guy is trying to say?!

It sounds like this guy likes you and probably wants to start a relationship with but he can't, since you aren't legal and he probably doesn't want to get into any trouble. He also probably wants you to keep in touch with you and wants you to tell him when you are 18 years old.
-Karen

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there is this guy i like that i send letters to but i was wondering should i ask him if he is single or would that be to rude of me?

Nope, it wouldn't be rude at all to ask this guy if he is single. Most guys wouldn't think that would be rude and they don't mind being asked that question. Just go for it and ask him.
-Karen

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hey i know this is a strange question, but how likely is it that a guy would put a condom on inside out? Because I kind of think my boyfriend did but I don't know if he would have to be really stupid to do it, or if like he noticed but he felt dumb so didn't say anything. Also if a condom is on inside out is it less effective? Thanks for your help!!

You would have notice that the condom was put on backwards, since you actually need to turn it inside out and then put it on. It wouldn't be less effective if he put the condom on inside out, since it's still a condom, just put inside out.
-Karen

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Ok so at school there is this really hot/nice guy. We talked to eachother before but not alot. He has a girlfriend but he has told a few people that he likes me too. He also says that hes going to stay with his girlfriend. But one day at PE he came sat by me there was no room by me so he asked my friend to move over so he could sit by me. I kinda do and kinda dont want them to break up. i just hate it because i cant ever get a boyfriend. I really like this guy what should i do???

Don't tell this guy how you feel right now, wait until he breaks up with his girlfriend so you won't ruin their relationship. Once they do break up, you should tell this guy how you feel about him. Don't worry, you will get a boyfriend.
-Karen

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hey well i need some advice..you see well this is kind of weird but I am 14, and i have not had my period yet. I dont know when I am going to get it. My friends all have it and have boobs. I dont want to talk with anyone about it, like a doctor or family. Please help. When do I know I am going to get it? Thanks xox

Hey, don't worry, you will eventually get your period once your body is ready. It's good that you haven't had it because it's a pain when you do have your period. You know when you are going to start your period when you get a lot of discharge. If you don't get your period before you are 18 years old, then that is a problem.
-Karen

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is it bad to pop your knuckles? Some people say it is and others say it isn't...

Yes, it is bad, since your knuckles will break and your fingers will get bigger and widder when you get older. It's alright to do it once in a while but if you do it everyday, then you should stop.
-Karen

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do you think it's better if a 17 year old dates a 25 old?! or do you think it's better for me wait until i'm 27 and he's 35?!

I think you should just wait a few more years until you are legal. Being 17 and him being 25 years old sounds younger than being 27 and him being 35 years old. Just wait a few more years and it will be better.
-Karen

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Is it normal for girls to have there period for 2 days.


-thanks

Yes, it's normal for you to have your period for 2 days. Your period will do weird things and it will be irregular for a while. It's very uncommon to have it for two days but it is normal, don't worry.
-Karen

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what does (sp) mean?

It can mean a few things. One meaning that if someone thinks they spelt a word wrong, they may put it after that word. Or it means like "I spelt this word wrong." It basically means that some thinks they spelt a word wrong. For example: prolly (sp?) instead of probably.
-Karen

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my friends stepdad molested her last night and i dont no what to do. i no i NEED to be there for her. and her mom said that if they cant find another house to buy they are moving over an hour away. which means i will probably never see her again. she is like my best friend. someone please help me. it has just hit me that i might not ever talk to her again. someone please help. i have been crying a lot...

Wow, I'm really sorry that this has happened to your friend. You need to be there for your friend and try to help her through this. In the mean time, start helping her mom by looking in real estate brochures or in newspapers and if you find a place that's close, show it to her mom. If your friend ever does move, you can still see her but not as much but you could always talk to her on the phone or by writing letters to each other. Just be there for your friend and show her that you care about her and want to help her out through everything.
-Karen

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Just out of curiosity, what are some hints that guys may give if they like you? And what are some really subtle ones? I'm always oblivious to these things and was just wondering. Especiallly to see if any of them apply to the guy I like. Thanks!

If a guy likes you, he may flirt with you often, pick on you, he tries to be around you a lot, and he talks to you a lot. There are more hints too but you just know when a guy likes you.
-Karen

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DONT CLICK ON THE LINK ITS A VIRUS!!!! but does anyone know how to get rid of the following virus it randomly puts it on my away:
NEW PICS FROM THE BEACH http://www.ianpeterson.com/photos.pif !!!!!

You need to download a virus scan program or buy one and it will get rid of it. If you don't have one, just uninstall AIM and then install it again. That's why you should never click on a link like that.
-Karen

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for excersise I am walking every other day the other days doing taebo. I do curl ups squats and the ab lounger everyday. I eat oatmeal for breakfast and a smart choice meal for lunch and dinner how much could I possibly loose in 2 in a half months and what could I do to speed it up? I am overweight and I really wanna do this....plus theres a guy :)

What you are doing to lose weight will definitely work and you will probably lose about 15-20 pounds, depending on your body, in 2 and a half months. Just keep on exercising and eat healthy and you will see great results.
-Karen

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