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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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My question is I have known this guy for almost fifteen years. We have known each other since the third grade and the whole time I have known him I like more then just a friend. We used to be good friends but in eighth grade he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him and when he asked me I didn't say anything. But after that day we weren't good of friends like we were before because I didn't know how to act around him. But in high school I noticed that he still likes me because I use to catch him looking at me and smiling and sometimes we would smile when ever we looked at each other because we always had a class together through high school. When we graduated he wrote something really nice but the thing is I don't know if he is the type of guy to write the same thing in every girls yearbook or if he just did it in mine. But to this day I don't know if he wants to be more then friends or not. But I found out that he hoined the army and I am thinking of writing him a letter but I am not sure because we haven't keep in touch in almost four years so what should I do.

you should write him, i'm sure that he would love to hear from and old friend, especially if he still likes you, good luck
*~*shan*~*

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ok...im 17/m senior and ive never been n a relationship...ive been on dates with 2 ppl in my life and the last one i went out w/ 3 times...but thats done...i been told a lot recently how good ilook and how hott i am, but this is way new for me....i dont think ive ever even gotten a look from a gurl till now...im a popular guy, not the most, but every1 knows me...im a funny guy...but wats wrong w/ me...i mean i just got my first kiss! wtf...help plz. ha

ok hun here's what i think, you want to let the girls to all of the work, and you can't do that, if you see someone that you like then just go for it, the worst that any girl can say is no, and hey if you're as good looking as people say that you are then it shouldn't be a problem, if you need more advice then IM me at sexishanibabe08, good luck and i hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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I'm a 17 year old manle, and I have my mood changes just like every1 else, but it seems when i get depressed...it really hits me. LAtely it's hit be pretty hard becos it just appears the everything i do or everyone i come in contact with i just screw up, and i often have this feeling like i just want to get away from it all, just...go somewhere and leave my problems. Are these just normal feelings? and does anyone have any ideas for getting out of these moods? I have no thoughts of suicide or anything, I'm not like that, but i just have these terrible feelings and i just want to get away. someone please give me adive.
P.S. Not sure if i put this in the right catergory.

i'm not going to tell you that everyone our age has these problems, because it's not true, everyone's emotions are different and people can go their whole lives without being depressed or anything like that. i think that you should talk to someone that you trust a lot and let them know how you are feeling, and if you can't do that you can IM me sla6487 on AIM and i'll talk to you, i enjoy helping people with their problems and would do so glady. as for being a screw up, that's something that a lot teenagers go through, but you're not a screw up, you just need more people tell you that. i hope that i helped you and good luck with everything
*~*shan*~*

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Ok, well heres the thing...I still like my ex boy friend, I think...see I am not sure if I like him...or I just liked making out with him...lol I know it sounds childish but when I am in his arms I feel safe, and it feels like nothing in the world matters anymore...I dont know what to do because we dated for 3 days and then broke up for about a week and then we dated for another 4 days and then broke up and it has almost been a week, both of the times we broke up it was because he was flirting with another girl and had told his best friend that he liked her more then me, and his best friend proved it to me both times...I dono what to do...i want him back, I think...PLease help me I dont know what to do...I feel so good when I am in his arms and when we are kissing but I dont know if i just like the fact of feeling that way, or feeling that way "WITH HIM"....if you know please tell me!!! I need to figure this out because it is driving me crazy!!

i think that you need to talk to him, he needs to know how you feel and that you want to be with him again, if you don't tell him, how will he know? tell him what you wrote to us, you'll be ok i promise
*~*shan*~*

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im 17 and when i go to have sex with my girlfriend
i can't seem to keep an erection for long first time i couldn't get it in my penis is not real big
could that be the problem im a bit worried what can i do?

if you're really that worried then you might want to talk to someone about it, like your dad or maybe a doctor. i'm sure that as a guy it's something that's embarassing for you to talk about but if it's bothering you that bad then you really should talk to someone about it. i'm not really sure what else i can say about that. if you want i can talk to one of my guy friends about it and get back to you, hope that everything works out
*~*shan*~*

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soooorry its long, but i need help :(

Alrighty every1, I have absolutely fallen in love with this boy *Damien - and damien is thee greatest guy ever... if i was able to marry him right now i would!! but see we got into probably one of the biggest fight ever and i think he's gone.. for good :'(! i really dont know what to do with myself now... everything i do is "damien" i eat, sleep, drink, shower, think, talk about damien.... 24-7! i mean i knew i loved him before but tonight i just felt that "this is him" feeling! where you know that this is the person you would spend the rest of your life with... i know its crazy and 'im too young' but i dont care what you say or think because i am in love with him and thats just how it is.... but i really need some advice on getting him back! please, pretty please i am begging anybody!! thank you soo much who ever does help!!

p.s we've been together for 1 year and 2 months and NEVER broke up before... soo yea that also!! thankss!

just be honest and with *damien and tell him how you feel, also you've got to say sorry for your end of the fight. i'm sure that in the end things will work out for the best, and just to let you know i'm 17 and i'm totally in love with my best friend. so no it's not a big thing that you're in love. a lot of people our age can be in love even though people will say that we are too young and we can't understand, we can. good luck and i hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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Im 13 years old and im very scared. This summer my boyfriend who wasnt my boyfriend then got out of jail for drugs. He said he would change for me and I believe him. We've been goin out now and Last night he called me crying sayin he thinks he is going back to jail. All I know is that his dad and him got into an arguement and that he wants to move in with his grandparents. And He wouldnt answer me why He thought he was going to jail again. Then he said he had to go and that he loved me and he never called back. I dont know if he went to school today or not, but Im really scared and I dont know what to do about it. Should I call him and ask him about it or what? Last night I cried all night long. I tried calling 2 times and nobody answered. I dont want to loose him. What do I do?

call him, and keep calling him until you talk to him, if he is doing drugs then you 100% don't want him in your life, i'd find out the truth and fast
*~*shan*~*

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I'm 20 years old. Female. I've been with my man for about 4 months and I definately feel that I'm head over heels in love with him when it's just the two of us but when I'm around other guys I start thinking about dating other people. How come one minuet I feel like I could marry my love but then another minuet I think about wandering to other guys?

you might not be as in love with this guy as you think, if you are thinking about other guys while you are dating someone then you must not love him as much as you think you do. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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Can Sex keep you in shape?

i heard that sex is a good way to keep you in shape, i mean hey i've been having sex for over a year and i've lost three pounds
*~*shan*~*

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Okay I have had this guy as a friend for about a year now and he has been my boyfriend for about 3 months. and for about a week or 2 i have liked this other guy who my friend wrote a note to telling him i liked him and she put my # in there and so he called me to ask me if it was true and i said it was and i am starting to like him more than my boyfriend! i need serious help!*Hal*

talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you have feelings for someone else, it won't be what he wants to hear but it's better than the tempation to cheat on him with this other guy, and make sure that the other guy knows you have a boyfriend, if he doesn't know then something might happen. good luck and i hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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Does sex always hurt the first time? My friends say it does... but are there any ways for it to not hurt at all?

well sometimes, it all depends on the size of the guy and how gental he is. my first time hurt because my guys was, well let's just say that he'd do well in playgirl lol, hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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This is going to sound stupid but the term "getting off" does that mean like when a guy "gets off" he gets a hard on or he orgasms??

that means when a guy "comes" during sex or hey even mastubates lol
*~*shan*~*

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i've known him like forever, hes my bestfriend since we ran in diapers. recently ive noticed that whenever hes around me, my heart just pounds like crazy. i dont know why i feel that way.. i fear that i might be falling for him! if i do, what if he doesnt accept my love? i dont want our friendship to end if our relationship doesnt work out.. please help

talk to him, tell him how you feel, that's the only advice anyone can give you, just talk to him and let him know everything that you feel how you're scared that your friendship might end and hey maybe he'll love you back. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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My little brother suffers from an extreme case of obsessive compulsive dissorder and a short fuse. How do I deal with his upsetting behavior?

you do have to respect your brother and try to be patient with him, but you also need to be respected too, talk to your mom and see if you three can sit down and talk and you can let your brother know how you feel about the whole situation calmly and if he starts to get upset just take a small break so he can calm himself down or vice versa. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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ok well i have this one friend and she used to get high and drunk and all that and she was really suicidal. i mean she was in the hospital for like 2 weeks. and then i had to talk her out of it again. but then she went edge and didnt do it at all and punched one of the kids who tryed to get her to. but now shes doing it again and its really scaring me. i mean she lives about an hour away from me so i cant really keep an eye on her or anything. and i dont see her much either but we used to be best friends and now were just good friends i guess. i dont like it when she does this but i cant stop her. i dont know what to tell her so she understands how i feel about this. please help!

maybe she's got something on her mind that she's not telling anyone. most of the time when someone is destructive like that they have some demons inside that no one knows about, i know it sounds silly but something has got to be setting her off to make her want to do things like that to herself. talk to her tell her that you are scared for her and that you don't want her to hurt herself or do any of the things that she's doing. let me know if there's anything else, good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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my boyfriend... who i HAVENT talked to in like 3 weeks... seems to be ignoring me becuz he knoes im wantin to dump him... so what do i do sinc ei can never get in touch with him? Do i call and leave him a message breaking up with him?

hey if he goes on ignoring you then just start looking for someone knew and if he asks you why you are looking be like i tried to tell you it's over but you didn't want to talk to me. hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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Ok i have this really good guy friend who used to go out with 1 of my friends but she dumped him and now she is being really mean to him! I found out she likes my boyfriend and she has been trying to steal my bestfriend. She even called me a bitch once. But she does this all behind my abck and when she is with me she is really really nice. The thing is she has a reputauin for using people.All my friends are friends with her and i think that if I dump her everyone would be mad at me. My guy friend(her ex) has been trying to convine me to dump her as a friend and is saying he would be there for me if she says anything mean and stuff. I really dont know what to do! Know 1 knows she likes my boyfriend and no one relizes she is stealing my bff !I dont want people to hate me but i dont really like her much ! What should i do ?

DUMP HER! if your friends can't except the reason for why you dumped her then that's there problem, as for her trying to take your man if he really cares about you then he won't even think twice about going out with her and stay with you. trust your friends if they are true friends they will stay by your side, good luck and i hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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my best friend always talks to my mom on the comp it drives me so insane! bcuz i dont want my mom knoing about EVERY single fricken thing thats going on in my life i tryed telling her to stop but it doesnt work and i told my mom 2 stop and she wont wut the hell should i do? im miserable Answer ASAP

tell your friend that if she'd rather be friends with your mother then she can

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i feel like i'm going into depression.. my life seems like its getting worse everyday! i lost my b/f recently n nothing seems right! i will NEVER cut tho! but i dont no.. what should i do?

every teenager goes through something like this at some point in their lives, for some (like me) it's worse, the best thing that i recomend you do is talk to your parents, i suggest if you are a girl to talk to your mother she will understand better than your dad and vice versa if you're a guy. and if you feel like you've got no where to turn just IM me on my AIM babishayklown08 i'll be happy to do what i can to help. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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ok i've posted before about how i like my bff guy friend. and i thought he liked me back i mean flirt totally and he always talks to me on aim and everything was going great! and then his sister tells me he likes his old girlfriend again. i have nothing against his old girlfriend (besides the fact i like him.) i mean i really really like this guy. more than any other guy i've liked before. what should i do?

you deserve to get a chance, if you think that he likes you then go for it and let him know how you feel, you should tell him before he gets the chance to hook back up with ex. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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