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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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I'm a 15 year old female.
I have had sex before, but it wasn't a good experience... of course.
IT seems like ever since, I have completely lost my sex drive.

Help?

You're left with a negative view on sex altogether because of the one bad experience. If you already have a boyfriend or when you do get a boyfriend, why not let things flow and you can talk to him about how you're feeling. Don't worry about it, though, things will sort out in the end...pesky hormones!
x Steph x

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how old do u have to be in order to get a tan from a tanning bed?

16 isn't it? Possibly 18!
x Steph x

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Alright...weird question..but oh well. My boyfriend always likes to like suck on my nipples...(heh)...and now like a week later I have a weird scab thing and its never happened before..and we've been together to a year..so umm why did this happen now?

Is it not like a love bite? If he sucked too hard then that could break the capillaries which leave to redness which lasts a few days.
x Steph x

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my boyfriends birthday is coming up on the 25th..he's turning 18! I need some good ideas of what to get him!

- His favourite chocolates
- A mixed CD of all his favourite songs
- A ring with funky engravings
- A watch
- A nice cleansing bag
- A special evening out a day after

Good luck and happy birthday to him for the 25th!
x Steph x

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ok look i shave down there and wen i do like a day after there is red bumps and they hurt a lil like wen i put on my jeans and i do use shaving cream and soap wen i dont have any

How about wax? I know it can be painful but that's the best way to keep away the redness. The skin is VERY delicate down there, so becareful!
G'luck!
x Steph x

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okay, well i like this guy and i think he might like me too.. hes in 10th grade and im in 8th. is there a problem with that? and what should i do if my mom asks me about it?

I'm in the UK so grades are all confusing to me but I'm taking it he's 2 years older than you. Depending on your mother being protective, she might not take it too well. I don't have a problem with it, but becareful. If you like him, go for it because in the end, it's you who's going to feel all these butterfly in the stomach feelings! :)
Best of luck!!
x Steph x

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Ok so this morning I shaved my legs and i had goosebumps so i kind of messed up my legs REALLY bad and they hurt like crazy. Plus they are all red and bumpy. How can I get rid of this AS FAST AS POSSIBLE. And does anyone have any tips on how to prevent this in the future?

And what is the best razor out there ( i have extremely sensitive skin) and shaving cream.

Use a moisturising shaving cream and any razor out there. It's the technique that depends on the hurting. ALWAYS wet your legs before you shave, you probably got the redness due to having dry legs/dry razor (don't worry, we've all done it!). Never go up and down with the blade, only up toward the knee, stop, then repeat.

Good luck! And the redness and pain should go in a few days!

x Steph x

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ok my hair is so boring and I have the PERFECT cut in mind I just need opinions on how it would look on me... ok my hair is brown with blonde and deep red highlights, my face is round/heart shaped, skin is an olive tan color and my hair is half way down my back.. ok this is what I want done: I want to get a lot of layers, take some length off of it, side sweep bangs, and spikey things at the top (kinda like a faux hawk but not that short) If you need details just IM me on my AIM sn: funnyfunkestuff

(if that hair wouldn't look good then give some suggestions) : ) sorry so long

Yeah, that'd be pretty cool! Always try new things, if you don't like it, hair grows back remember! It'll be different so why not go for it!? :)
x Steph x

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guys think im pretty but they are all kinda nerdyish and i was wondering why not alot of the popular guys think im pretty? i've always wondered about this so can someone tell me why? easy 5 unless your mean

I'm not bothered about the rating! :)

But, there are different types of prettiness. There's "girl next door" pretty which is like Kelly Clarkson. Then there's "sexy pretty" which is like Britney Spears. Maybe you're the girl next door pretty which isn't a bad thing but attracts different people who, at the minute are "nerdyish". Hang in there, Mr.Right will come soon and when he does, I'm sure it'll be for your personality! :)
x Steph x

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what are some good stores that sell cheap clothes? clothes that are pretty and something a teenager would wear.. any suggestions?

ASDA - George selection
The January sales are quite good so why not ask for money for Christmas then get cheap clothes in the sales?
Online

x Steph x

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Im NOT good of thinking about topics to write about. I have to write a story for school. It could be about a teenagers life, and other stuff. I seriously cant think of anything.
All 5's

Ideas:
- A girl who has been raped, you can get a grasp of how she is feeling and how she can never trust men again
- A guy who is being beaten up by his parents and how he feels threatened because his manlyness should be to defend himself but he's scared
- A boy/girl who is having suicidal thoughts and needs to escape from school, her family and her friends etc...

Good luck!
x Steph x

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ok so i like this guy and he may find out i like him the thing is i dont want him to find out i want him to like me and ask me out on his own i want him to do it bc he wants to not because he feels like he has to. i would just tell him but im way too shy i mean yea i flirt and try to get the message across but im not the one to make the first move i wasnt raised like that im so worried about this my friend says if he asks about it just tell him that i like him im so confused what should i do? tell him or not?

Tell him! In this life, take each opportunity and EVERY SINGLE chance you get to change your life! Do it girl!! :)
x Steph x

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ok me and my best friend (guy) are going out secreatly and i was wondering if that is wrong to keep it even from my best friend. Should i talk to him and see if im able to tell a couple of really good friends? im 13 and a female.
**sleepiesheep**

Is he ashamed of letting it out in the open? Someone is going to find out sometime!! If your friends are not the first to find out, then that could mess up the relationship you have with them! Talk to your boyfriend about getting it out in the open!
Good luck!
x Steph x

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13/f
Ok well i've been really bored lately and i just got of restriction that lasted for ever and i just wanta do something fun with all my friends guys and girls. So i was thinking about throwing a party but like i need a theme and some good ideas like what to do so it wouldnt be so lame and just something we could do from 6:00 pm to 9:30 pm that would be fun and wouldnt get lame and stuff like that and that we could all have fun doin if this helps i have a nice pool in the backyard but its too cold to swim i also have a trampoline and i would want about 25 people at the most so give any good ideas and ill rate u a 5
thx

I'm not bothered about the rating.

How about a BIG Christmas party? I know it's a while away but then it's themed. You can get people to dress up all Christmassy and you can buy crackers, lights for a trampoline and that's when you can give them presents and things!

Good luck! And where's my invitation! :)
x Steph x

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My g/f and i broke up a while back but I don't know what i did...we were only going out for two days and she said that she was scared that we wouldn't be friends if we broke up. The next day she had another b/f.....what did I do? Are there any suggestions on how to impress a girl...plz?

It sounds like this girl is a jerkette. Perhaps she needed an excuse to go out with this other guy which is really shallow. I'm sorry you had to go through that, it's not a nice experience but learn from the mistake.
Impressing a girl is easier said than done but here's some very brief, quick steps:
- Talk to her
- Make her laugh i.e. jokes
- Smile
- Wave
- Sit next to her
- Buy her something nice at Christmas!
Best of luck, buddy!
x Steph x

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okay im 16 and so basicaly i have the worst time ever talking to guys. just get all nervous haha. and well i suck at flirting. and there is this guy that i really really like and he is always like stairing at me. but he doesnt seem to really notice im there.. and i was just wondering what the hell i should do to get this guys attention..? :) any help/ advice you can give is greatly appreciatied.

I'm like that at the minute. But, I think you should do a VERY quick smile then look away or stare back until he looks away. Try and sit next to him or if he's next to you in a line, say "sorry" so at least you might get a reply of "it's ok". Walk past him and show up where he does, he will notice you then! :)
Good luck, hun!
x Steph x

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I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I couldn't be happier to be with him. But, about 4 years ago, when I was 11, I had my very first 'love', and I'm a freshmen now. Well, my first love has his locker close to mine, and when I see him, I like talking to him. I find it making my day sometimes because I really liked this guy and I doubt that I still do, but why do I feel happy around him if we were something years ago? And why am I curious to know how hes doing a lot?

15 and a freshmen.

Curiosity can be a good thing you know? Because your feelings used to be so strong towards him, it's normal to feel something for him (not necessarily romantic) but that thing you admired about him may still be there somewhere. I wouldn't question your feelings for your current boyfriend but just be careful and listen to your heart!
G'luck!
x Steph x

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Okay don't get me wrong I really like this guy but i don't want to go out with him. I'm 14 female and all I want is to be friends with benifits. Lets call him Pete, so me and Pete are BEST friends but I want more. So how can I devolp that more of a relationship without him asking me out? Love always diane (and i rate high pure truth!)

I'm not bothered about the rating! :)
Anyway, why not do little things like:
- Compliment him
- Share a secret with him
- Buy him something special for Christmas

Remember though, relationships don't develop overnight, it's something you flow through! :)
G'luck!
x Steph x

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k well I am a 14/f and i have been thinking about sex i am a virgin but i have not kissed anyone any guy i mean but i want to it is just i am scared that i will mess up i think a bout sex all the time is this normal

Perfectly normal, please don't worry! Hey, I haven't kissed a guy either..it'll happen to you though, one day, don't worry! But for now, live like you're meant to do, don't worry about being single or having sex-related thoughts, it's all part of this wonderful thing called puberty and hormones are freaking out! Evil little things!
x Steph x

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Ok I need help. I have a boyfriend that i really like alot but my ex boyfriend that i loved like alot. and i got over that yet i still love him so i still think back sometimes. well he called me and it just brought back memories cuz i hadn't talked to him in a long time and i just need to know how to get over him bc im so happy..but i still get sad when i look at a picture of us or think about it..help..advice please

Breaking up with someone is never easy and I suppose if you still admire the same person still, it makes it even harder to get over this person. But, as long as you show no physical actions to your attraction toward your ex, I don't see any problem! Just, chin up and enjoy life with your new boyfriend :)
x Steph x

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