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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion."I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, or where I'm gonna wind up. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next."
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So I want to do something new to my hair and I'm thinking of getting a body spiral perm to look like Taylor Swifts hair. (Yes, I know it is naturally that way) But I have asked everybody about getting one and some say 'Sure, you would look good with curly hair!" Then same say 'NO! Bad idea, It damages your hair!" And my head is just spinning with confusion on what to do. Can I get someone who knows a lot about perms (like a hair stylist) to help me out. You dont have to be but I would much like that. Thank you so much!
my friend got a perm for prom and she said she hated it. when she got it her hair smelt awful and she said it was always so frizzy and like everyday she would tell me that she can't wait for it to go back to her normal hair. i guess it depends on what your natural hair is like though.
So I had sex awhile ago.... I'm in college and im freaking out usually my period is really weird if i dont take birth control... well i havent taken it for a month and never really good before that maybe once a week. my period won't start usually it does... how long do you have to wait to take a test to tell if you are... please help
i would give it at least 2 weeks after you've had sex, then take another one 2 weeks later because the first one sometimes isn't as accurate as the second.
do guys find it gross or unattractive if a girl does not shave down there? and do guys usually shave down there?
most guys find it gross if you have a huge bush going on...if you have just a little hair its usually no big deal but most guys like it shaven. and from what i've heard most guys don't shave down there unless they're having sex with their girlfriend or something and she likes it shaved.
like im a 13 m and im in high school i like this girl right but im pretty sure she doesnt like but the thing is she like one of my best friend what should i do
i think you should just stay friends for awhile, you guys are still kind of young so if you stay her friend for awhile there's a better chance of her developing feelings for you. you can flirt a little to get her reaction but don't make it completely obvious and creepy.
16-f So there's this guy in school and he's liked me since last year and I've always kinda been unsure about my feelings for him. recently he's been flirting a lot with me and he unexpectedly kissed me a couple days ago. he's a good guy and i don't not like him but im not in loveeeee with him so i'm just really unsure what to do. I don't want to lead him on any further since I'm so unsure, but I dont want to end up regretting not doing anything about it. i'm pretty independent and hes kinda clingy which is a big no haha but what if im just scared and am missing out on something good. I'm just also scared that if i decided to go further into this i'll regret that and feel awful later on. I don't want to settle and I think that maybe I should wait for a relationship when I'm really crazy about the guy. What should i do? HELP! pleasee.
i think you should give him a fair chance. the worst that could happen is you could not like being with him but then you can always break up with him. if you don't give him a chance, months or years later you might realize how good of a guy he is and you'll be wondering what would have happened if you just took that chance, but you'll never be able to go back in time to find out. that should help you decide and if you're still unsure about it or you want to play it safe, tell him exactly what you said in this question about being unsure but you want to try it out just to see how things go before getting attached or anything. in that case he knows whats coming if he decides to go along with it, so no one gets hurt.
oh and just from experience, i was unsure about my boyfriend when we first started dating but after spending time with him and getting to know him i started getting crazy about him and we've been together for over a year, so it is possible for things to work that way.
15/f
i've been hearing a lot about oral sex lately
um i was wondering, is it just me or does anyone else think it's absolutely DISGUSTING? or am i just prude or something?
thanks(:
it is kind of gross...i mean licking someones special regions isn't that delicious...but you just think about something else while you're doing it or if you really like the guy/girl you know you're making them happy so its all good. some people pop a mint before it...i've never tried it but i heard it gives off a nice cool feeling and it keeps the minty taste in your mouth so its a win win.
What does it mean when a guy loves you but leaves your relationship hanging?
what exactly do you mean by leaves your relationship hanging? like as in he leaves the relationship? if thats what you mean then it could be a number of things, he could not want a relationship at the moment or something like he could think it would be hard if you can't see each other as much as he wants to...not really sure what you were trying to ask but if i didn't answer your question right let me knoww and ill try again :)
Ok so I am going to have my braces off soon. Can anyone tell me what wearing a retainer is like? Do you have any tips to makes it the best possible experience?
Thank you!
which retainer are you getting? i have the clear one that looks like invisilign. its really not that bad, when you first put it in it might feel a little tight but no pain or discomfort or anything. its annoying to keep taking out and putting back in but its soo much better than braces. wear it or else your teeth will shift and all the money on braces will be wasted. there's not much to it.
So I'm the type of person that says "I love you" a lot. Like, my family's as dysfunctional as can be, but I always make sure to say it before I leave the house or hang up the phone. I say it to my best of friends whenever I say "bye," and whenever even an acquaintance makes me laugh or does something nice for me, I'm always like, "holy crap, I love you," and I mean it.
I met this guy in late September and we went on our first date less than two weeks after meeting. Because we talked nearly nonstop over text and IM, we were super, super comfortable with each other by the second date. We saw each other unofficially for four weeks and have been officially dating for nearly three weeks. This is my first serious relationship (I'm 16) though he's had a few girlfriends before me (he's 18).
I'm not one to overcomplicate love (obviously). You don't have to love everything about a person to love them. This guy is the sweetest-- he compliments me constantly, isn't afraid of PDA (romantic kisses goodbye, not makeout sessions), would do anything for me, and would never want to intentionally hurt me. He's not "in it to hit it" either-- he knows I'm abstaining until marriage and he's fine with that, and we didn't even kiss until the third date.
What I'm saying is, I know I love him, but is there a clear difference in the love you feel inside when loving someone as a person and loving someone romantically? He makes me happy, and I want to spend every second talking to him and just being with him. And I could not STAND to see him with another girl. But what qualifies love to be romantic rather than loving someone as a person? Have I already crossed it?
Also, how soon is "too soon" to say it? I know his family says it a lot too, and he says it to his family in front of me, so I know he's not uncomfortable saying it. But I don't want to freak him out.
Any advice whatsoever appreciated, or past experiences :) Thanks so much!
i get your point but you guys have only been dating for three weeks. you sound like you really like him as a person and you love the way he makes you feel but usually it takes a little longer to love someone. since people are complicated it takes time to completely get to know them 100%. if it makes you feel any better, it took my boyfriend 4 months to say it to me, and honestly, im glad he waited because he was sure when he said it to me and it made it so much more special. i say you at least give it a couple months, you don't wanna do anything to ruin the relationship and you definetly don't want to put him on the spot or force words out of his mouth that he doesn't mean.
16/f well i have this boyfriend and in 4 days we'll have been together for 2 months. well he's VERY sexually active & wayyy more experienced then me [he's 16 also] but i've only done it once. [& it wasn't what i expected. i had a straight face & i stopped the guy in the middle of us doin it. he was kinda small] but back to my boyfriend. i'm not saying that we're going to have sex asap. cause i don't wanna rush it cause i really wanna be with him. but i'm just asking for when the time comes how would it go. [like kinda give me pointers on what to do and stuff] cause it'll feel weird him knowing what he's doing & me just being clueless. ohhh and moaning. does everyone moan ? cause i don't wanna be a moaner lol but i don't want him to feel like he's not doing anything. but idk i don't really like moaning sounds & i think i might sound weird . so tips on that ?
tips tips tips ?
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since he's more experienced, have him be on top until you get the hang of it. you won't really have to do much, just let him do everything but maybe like run your hands down his back or something to let him know he's doing his job well hah. and for the moaning thing, just let it come naturally, you can also breathe heavily too, apparently all that turns guys on lol.
Some boy at school held up two finger like a "V" I guess and put his tongue between them. What does that mean?
well the v represents a vag, so it means he wants to eat you out but people joke around with that too so don't assume anything without talking to him lol
We have co-ed gym in my school and when we get in there sometimes you can see the girls breasts like it was some kind of wet t-shirt contest. (I wish they would make them wear bras!)
I guess you can guess what happens next. Yep! Boner in gym class. Lucky me!
Can you guys tell me any mind tricks or something to keep this from happening? I am not thinking any bad thoughts or anything but you know how it is you see boobies and your body does the rest. :(
unfortunetly there's no real way to stop your body from getting a boner if you're concentrating on that the whole gym class. if you can, focus on something else, and don't look at them. and you can always picture something gross in your mind that should do the trick.
Why Are Guys Sensitive On The Back Of Their Necks. Is That Really True? Do Guys Get Aroused By This?
my boyfriend definetly does. i've heard it works on a lot of guys haha i don't know why but its fun to do it ;)
this might be quite long, but i will MUCHLY appreciate anyone who helps me out.
18/female. my friend taylor is about to turn 17 and the guy (joe) is about to turn 18.
so last night i hung out with my "friend" taylor. this was our second time hanging out, she's a cool girl i thought. well shes never met joe before but she seen him somehow and thought he was hot. she thought it was awesome that i was close with him. i told her our past, and how he tried getting with me. and how i've always had a thing for him. i was like yeah he is cute haha. well me and her went out to dinner and taylor was texting my guy cousin and he was like yeah im at the basketball game with joe and jeff. and taylor was like lets all hang out after? and i guess my cousin was like alright, at my house? well then a little after taylor texted him back i guess and was like make sure your friends are there! and then he was like well i guess after there going out to dinner, turns out they were going to the same place we were eating. we had no idea. so it had been a little bit and taylor kept bugging me like text joe to see if hes coming, and i was like nahhh thats ok. and she like grabbed my phone and tried calling him, but she called the wrong joe. well then like 5 min after joe actually called me and was like where are you? and i was like buffalo wild wings, and he was like ha alright well me and jeff are coming, stay there! and i was like alrighttt. me and taylor were playing the games they had there and i had my back turned and all of a sudden joe comes up from behind me and was like BOO! i jumped sooooo hard. he sat next to me (we were in a booth) because he didnt know taylor. well then taylor texted me and was like JOE IS SO HOT! and i was just like "haha yeahhh" then joes friend jeff came and taylor tried getting ALL the attention on her and trying to make me look dumb? it was sooo annoying. welll then i saw some friends i knew so i went to go say hi to them and then taylor came a little after and i went back to the table and joe was like alright we're going to head out, and he gave me a hug:) and then i was like jeff give me a hug too! and joe was like taylor nice meeting you. THEN get this, this is what kills me. i had my phone on the table and taylor grabs it and takes joes number! and i was like uhhh ok? are you going to text him? and she was like ahh i dont know i'm scared! and she was like will you text him and ask if i can have his number. i cant say no so i was like sure. so i texted joe and was like are you still up? taylor wants to talk to you, can she have your number? and he was like yeah thats fine. well then taylor texts him and was like heyy:) and i guess he was like hey whats going on. and she told me he had a smiley face at the end, HE DIDNT. she lied, i saw the text. well then they were talking and she was like your fine as hell. and he was like you really think so? thanks. and she was like hell yeah i do. and he was like thanks :) and she was like sams (me) parents are gone for the night, you guys should come over. (DIDNT KNOW SHE SAID THAT, SHE INVITED THEM OVER BY HERSELF)and i guess he was like were already home, otherwise i would of! and she was like you shouldnt of left so early! and he was like sorry! then i think he fell asleep.
i just wanted to cry. i couldnt believe she was doing that to me. and i dont know if joe was just trying to be nice by texting her back, or what? but just how he texted her, he NEVER texts me like that. i dont know :( i dont think he texted her today, i havent talked to him either though. im just so hurt..
well first i wanna say that this taylor girl sounds really clingy and annoying from what you told me here. so even if something does happen between her and joe (doubt it though because he doesn't seem that interested, it sounds like he's just being nice) he would realize that she's clingy and annoying. i hate when girls go crazy texting a guy the way she did like saying things like "you're fine as hell" right when they meet. i've talked to my guy friends about it and they think its slutty to come right off and do that without actually getting to know them first. i say you should still text joe, don't be like your "friend" though. if he texts both of you, he'll choose which one of you he wants (if he wants either of you). taylor can't make him like her and from what you said here she doesn't sound like anything special no offense to her. just play it cool and see where things go from there :)
so my long distance boyfriend hasnt talked to me all day and im really upset about it
and we both have to the same company of cell phones so it says when he gets my texts.
hes got all my texts except one from like a couple hours ago so either he is out and doesnt have service or something
but when i call him his phone rings and everything
and i thought when you dont have service it doesnt ring and just goes straight to voicemail.
he always has a ringback tone for a ringer if that helps with my question?
so im kinda thinking he went and got my number blocked.but i dont think he would do that.
so idk waht to think/
help meee!
don't assume anything without talking to him first. it could be alot of things. its only been a day so he could've left his phone somewhere by accident or something, chill for a little and unless you guys are fighting or something he probably wouldn't just randomly block you. just chill he'll probably call you tomorrow.
I'm fourteen and i have really small arms I was wondering what work outs I should do to make them bigger because I do work out but I don't seem to be getting any bigger
if you want bigger arms as in muscle then start lifting weights, start at a lightweight then keep increasing it as you get better.
should I break up with my boyfriend? We fight about 2-3 times a day averagely; I love him still but this fighting is getting to be too much.. is this reason enough even though i still love him? we have tried to work this out, believe me.. he promised and the promises were broken.. nothing works
unless fighting makes you happy i think it'd be better if you broke it off. think of how many times he's made you happy, and think of how many times he's made you upset/angry, that should help you decide.
15/f
there is this boy in my photography class (dylan) and he kinda flirts with me. Me and him got sent down to the gym to photgraph an appearance from a local hockey player, Rocky Thompson. We talked alot then and after that he started calling me rocky. then the other night there was the halloween dance. me and my boyfriend went in the haunted house together, where dylan was working. i was still holding my boyfriends hand, and dylan came behind me wrapped his arms around me in a big hug from behind and said, 'hey rocky, you look good'. i ignored it and luckily my boyfriend didn't hear. What is dylans problem, does he like me or is he just a jerk? It would help if you could also answer my other question about my boyfriend- http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=573146
Thanks a bunch guys
from this it doesn't really sound like he means any harm he's probably just the flirty personality type and thats what he feels like he has to do to make friends. you said he saw you with your boyfriend so thats good. just chill as friends and see the way he acts towards his other girl friends and you'll know what kind of person he is. just keep a close eye but i'm sure everything will be fine.
what is the order of sex? like does a guy have to be hard to have sex? when a guy is hard do you have to give him a blowjob? should a blowjob happen before sex?
um theres really no order but usually it starts off with kissing, which leads to touching, fingering/handjob, oral (if you want), then sex. and yeah the guy has to be hard but if you go through all of that he should be.
well he's awesome to me. but not so much to other people.
he's kinda rude and inconsiderate and makes fun of people.
he also has a really low self esteem.
he always calls himself mean and ugly and that noone likes him.
this could be though because he doesnt have a dad and his mom hardly does anything.
what are ways for me to help him out?
and to show him that he doesnt have to be so mean. he has a choice, because he always says he cant change that hes mean because that's just who he is. please help!
thank you!
i dont know what to do!
hey, try telling him that if he's nice to other people, they will appreciate him more, just like since he's nice to you, you like him. i don't know if you already do or not but compliment him alot, on his hair, his clothes, tell him how much you like/love him, its a huge self-confidence booster when a guy gets compliments from a girl. be incredibly nice to other people when you're around him, set an example for him and will most likely catch on.