Ok i just started going out with this boy named jhon 3 days ago.And i have really deep feelings for him but it doesnt seem like he feels da same way!! I am having so many doubts about this relationship!A couple of reasons im having doubt is becasue 1.He started sayin i love u the first day.2.we just met 6 days ago.3.He was goin to make out with a gurl 2 days before we started going out at the puerto rican parade!4.his friends said that he said he wouldnt care if i broke up with him.And i kinda have a gut feeling a brakeup is coming.Im afraid to talk to him about it.and he already wants to have sexual intercourse with me!?!?! I am ready but it doesnt seem right! It seems like he is using me! What do you think i should do? I dont know if i can talk to him.And i dont want to brake up! But i dont wanna get hurt! Maybe i am just so selfconcious because i always get hurt!
~lily~
Whoa!!! Definitely sounds to me like this boy needs to put on the brakes!!!6 days into knowing each other,3 days into going out and he wants sex?!?!?! No no no!!!!!!! I think you definitely need to talk to this boy,let him know that you think things are moving too fast and you wanna take the time to get to know him.I hate to say this,but it looks like this time it's not you being self-concious,it's him!He does sound like a user to me.While his friends may not always be the most reliable sources to go to,they do know him best,and guys tend to be more blunt and honest about those things than girls are.And especially if they came to you about this,they may know their friends rep and track record and be trying to look out for you!And you definitely want to know a person longer than 6 days before you go into a relationship.In my opinion,it's a great thing to be friends with a guy first,or to take it slow and date for a while before making things official.You want to really get to know that person,and find out if you two are really compatable!Don't be afraid to talk to him,stand up for yourself,let him know you think things are moving way too fast and you want them to slow down.If he can't accept and respect that,then A)He's not worth it!,and B)It's time to show him the door!!You deserve to be treated right!!!Keep in touch with me,let me know how it all goes!!! :)
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hey white its kat... member how i told u bout that guy tim, well lets just say it wasnt cus he was on stuff. he kissed me cus he wanted to and well now im startin to think that i really like him but the problem is that i know hes a lil playa. like he even admits to bein a hoe. so i really dont know what to do bout it and im rly confused! i need ur advice once again
Love,
ur sis
Well,I think you need to be straight up with him that YOU aren't like that,and that while you do like him a lot,you're not about to be played out like a sucker!!!STAND UP FOR YOURSELF GIRL!! I've taught you this!!Hahaha,j/k!! IM or call me later on and we'll talk about it!!Love Ya MUCHO sis!!!! *MWAZ*
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Hey (f/15), i've dated the same boy for the past 2 years. It's been on and off though. He kept breaking up with me and i kept letting him back, thinking he'd change. our last break up was at the begining of summer and we havent talked since. He called me the other night and we talked for 3 hours. We've never talked like that before, we actually talked about things that matter, and now he is calling me every night. We talk about why our relationships never worked in the past, and how he was an awful boyfriend to me, but now he tells me that that he wants a girlfriend like me. My question is I might be feeling somthing for him again. Should i just keep it quite or should i tell him since we are friends now?
-Confused Friends
I think it's always important that you are honest and upfront about your feelings.That way you avoid any hurt feelings,or confusion,or stuff like that!But since you've had a rocky relationship with this guy,proceed with caution.Don't just jump to take him back right away.Let him know your concerns,and that you aren't going to go thru this again if he's only gonna hurt you!Let him know what you expect him to change about the way he treated you!!!Talk it thru,and work things out.If he's sincere in his statements that he cares about you,he'll take the time to hear you,to talk it thru,and to AT LEAST make an effort to change his negative ways!!Let me know how it goes!! :)
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my doctor does check-ups on me, im a 13 female, and he's a male. he always checks my breasts for things so he knows nothings wrong--like for lumps or something .. none of my other friends have their doctor do this .. my doctor practically squeezes me, and he always unzips my pants and looks down them and feels around. like i said, none of my friend's doctor's do this, and some of them have the same doctor as me. what do you think is going on? is he doing this sexually, or just being a doctor?
Well,it's totally normal to have the breast exam and even to have the doctor "feel around down there" to check and be sure everything's ok.What really makes it seem weird to me is A)The fact that HE unzips your pants.My doc always tells ME to do it! And B)The fact that some of your friends who have the same doctor say he hasn't done that to them.It may be totally innocent,but I would still reccomend you talk to your mom about this.If you must continue seeing him,you always have the option and the RIGHT to insist that a female nurse be present during your examinations.If he in any way objects to a nurse being present,HEAD FOR THE DOOR!Maybe you need to switch doctors.It's always important that you feel comfrotable with your doctor-especially your gynocologist!!!
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Ok..volleyballl tryouts are almost over and the first day was really hard. Our coach yells alot and if we drop a ball without goin after or something we run or do pushups. But shes still a good coach. Well i take alot of things personally. I feel like its all my fault. also im super nervous wen i get out there and mess up. Wat should i do? HELP
I'm the same way sometimes!I tend to take things personally and get all upset over nothing!!Just know that sure,you'll make some mistakes sometimes,everyone does!Even professional sports players can tell you about off days they've had!!Remember it's not personal,it really isn't!As for your nerves,just try and spend a little chill time before a game or practice.Just keep repeating to yourself in your head "I can do this,and even if I make a mistake it's ok!I'm good at this!" You'll be just fine hunnie!!!!
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Is it ok to go out with someone two years younger than you?
Depending on your age,I really don't see any problems with it!!As long as it's legal,and it makes you happy,go for it!!!Hehe!!
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I'm almost 17, and I've never had a boyfriend, Its not that theres something wrong with me, except for the fact that I'm shy, and now I kinda feel like everyone has someone except for me, and it gets lonely...
help please?
I know it gets lonely,and it sucks!!But look @ it this way;you're able to have more time to get to know yourself,your likes and dislikes,etc.That will better prepare you for when the right guy comes along,cuz you'll really know yourself and you'll be able to find the right type of guy for you,which gives you a better chance @ having a lasting and stronger relationship.Your friends right now may be having relationships,but the likelyhood of those relationships being really meaningful and lasting is VERY slim.You will find the right guy someday believe me.When the time is right,and when you least expect it,it'll happen!! ;)
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do you think girls like me need to get sexy underwear like thongs to impress her boyfriend, or do u think there are more important things to worry about in a relationship, like having fun together or their personalities? should i get some to make him the slightest bit happier, or should i just not get anymore? does it turn guys on to see girls in their sexy underwear or anything? where is the best place to get cute, but inexpensive thongs?
Well,of course it turns a guy on!! ;) But you're right there are more important things in a relationship to worry about.However,if that's something you want to do,not only for a guy but for YOU,then go for it!!!If you're not comfrotable with thongs then don't wear them!You can always wear some string bikini undies if you want to feel sexy,and avoid granny panties!!LoL If you do decide you like them and want to wear them,look at all your basic little shops in the mall.Like Rave,Deb,Rainbow,etc.Even places like Fashion Bug have a lot of cute ones!!!
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k my mom let me get my belly pierced in june and shes still hidin it frum my dad bc he sed no....i already hav 4 in each ear and i wanna get my tongue done s0o0 bad!! my mom already sed no more piercings...but i want it reallllll bad...im thinking of goin behind her back and doing it...but HOW SHOULD I HIDE IT?/ any ideas??? does it hurt?? how much does it cost?? does ne 1 no ne where they will pierce it with a parent there??? PLZ HELP!!!
It's really not a good idea to go behind her back and do that.Plus no reputable place will pierce an underage person w/o parental consent and a parent being present.I had it done 3 different times(once then took it out,once again and took it out again,then once more and kept it for several months).It really doesn't hurt too bad.It's very quick.Mine cost $50,but I'm sure it varies from place to place!It will be a little sore for a few days afterward,and your tongue will swell up,which makes it very hard to hide!!!I can tell ya all the things to clean it and to do for pain,but I think you should talk it over with your mom.It's a very bad idea to do something like go behind her back.You'll lose your moms trust and that's never good!! :) If she agrees,write me back and I'll tell ya what to be prepared for and what all to look out for and do!!! :)
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wats ejulection?
Ejaculation is what happens at the climax of an orgasm,and it is when sperm is released from the penis during sex.
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How do you break up or, tell a guy you dont want to be thier gf without hurting them??
Be as kind about it as possible,and be respectful.Never ever break up with someone over the phone or in a letter or e-mail ,it's just so impersonal and really heartless.If you want to still be friends with him,let him know.He may not seem like he wants to now,but he'll appreciate it someday.Just take his feelings into consideration but don't be too...on the fence about it,you don't wanna give the guy false hopes.He'll be hurt but you can live with just a little bit of guilt a lot easier than a whole lot of guilt,if you didn't let him know the truth!
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ok my best(guy) friend just told me he liked me. i was gonna tell him that i kinda liked someone else but then he sed that. ive always kinda liked him tho. and now he wants to not go out but he wants to just hong out and know that we both like eachother. thats fine with me but im not sure if i like him. tomorrow we are going to the library and he wants to know if i like him or not. i told him that i would think about it and tell him tomorrow. im not sure wut to do cuz yea i kinda like him but i kinda like someone else to. and that someone else is his bestfriend. i dont want to say that i like him cuz i dont think that would be fair. but i dont want to say that i dont like him cuz thats not the truth. please help
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You should definitely be honest and straight forward with him.It's not fair to lead him on.Let him know that you do like him,but that right now you're unsure of what to do because you do like someone else too.Make sure to let him know that you really do care about him a lot and that's why you want to take it slow and think things thru!!
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if i am going to have sex with a girl that it is her first time how do i go about it with out hurting her? should i just go slow?
Yea,just go slow,pace yourself,and communicate with each other,have her tell you what feels good or what is hurting her! ;)
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I've been sexually active for about 6 monthes or so now, and I'm going to the gynocologist sometime this week. Will she be able to tell that I'm not a virgin? I'm only 16. Oh, and if she can find out, are they supposed to tell your parents? PLEASE, PLEASE HELP!
Yes,a gyno will be able to tell if you are sexually active.Typically they can't tell your parents or anyone else due to patient/doctor confidentiality laws.But it's always a good idea to have a close and open relationship with your parents(especially mom in this case).Mom may be able to answer some questions you may have,and help you to know what to expect!!
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is it healthy to use dildos and "play" toys in sex and i was wondering..should you give head to guys with condoms on? and is there a female condom? i heard there was but i wasn't sure
I don't see anything wrong with using toys!!If that's what you like,go for it!! Hehe!It typically is a smart idea for a guy to wear a condom when you decide to do that,to protect yourself from diseases,but that's all the more reason you should do it with a guy you know and trust very much,so you know you are safe!Yes there is such a thing as a female condom!!
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My bf doesn't love me... I know because I know .. The way he looks at me blabla .. yeah .. I feel like shit.. I'm pissed because I know he doesn't love me, I'm really sad and I have 3 days I just don't stop crying ... now what?
I think you oughta think about what it is that is making you feel so sure he doesn't love you.Who knows,you might be overreacting and you don't want to lose a good relationship over nothing.Talk to him,let him know how you're feeling,and take it from there.Don't put yourself thru all that hurt and sadness when you don't know how he is really feeling for sure!!!
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Well me and my ex boyfriend Kevin just broke up yesterday....well today someone called me and was like you dont know me but i am one of phylicias friends and do you care if her and Kevin go out so i sed no...nut i really do care alot...Phylicia is like my BEST friend in the world and i still like kevin but i dont know? What should i do?
You need to sit down with Phylicia face to face and let her know about the call you got,and ask her what's up.Let her know how you feel about the whole situation.If she's a true friend she will totally respect that and wouldn't do anything like that to you,cuz she knows it'll hurt you!!
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Last night I had sex with my boyfriend... 4 times. It REALLY hurt cause I've only had sex 1 other time. Today.. i started bleeding -- in that area... why did I start bleeding? and how do i know if he popped my cherry?
its more than a week early for my period... so i dont think its that... what else could it be?
Bleeding is typically a sign that your hymen has been broken.But you can also bleed a little if things got a little rough,or if you aren't that experienced,like you say you aren't.And when it hurts really bad like you say,you can almost always count on a little blood being there afterward.Nothing to be scared of,it's common!Not abnormal at all!!!!Just be careful,don't wanna go hurtin yourself now!!Hehehe! ;)
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I have a lot of friends that aren't real serious into drugs. They mostly drink and not even that often or that much. It's just that my life has been one huge party for so long that I'm not even sure how to have fun without being at least a little messed up. I'm not hardcore or anything, I keep the rest of my life on track, I have a 3.9 gpa, run varsity track, cross country, and pole vault, and have already been accepted to my varsity academic team. I just don't know how to get out of it when it all feels really natural, and what do I say to my friends when I've been doing this for so long, and how do I convince other people that Im not going to go back to it if they accept me? I mean, I'm only 15, not a virgin, I've done so many drugs I've passed out before, and I'm known to have a temper and get in fights frequently outside of school. If I were a clean cut person I wouldn't want to start hanging out with me.
Well,hunnie you need to stop bein so down on yourself!!!Look at all your positive qualities!!!You're very intelligent,obviously good at sports and athletics!!I'm proud of ya for that!!! ;) Well,the fact that you say you're not even sure how to have fun w/o the drugs says to me that you may be a little bit addicted.So does the fact that you say you've passed out before,that you have such a bad temper and get into fights.You need to stay away from those drugs!!!!!If you feel that you're strong enough to beat this on your own and quit them,then I'm behind you 100%!!As far as your friends,you shouldn't have to explain anything to them!They should accept and love you for who you are no matter what,reguardless of the drugs!Actually,if they care that much they will encourage you to stay off of drugs for your own health and well-being,not to stay on them so that you're the life of the party!!!!!!!!Tell ya what,IM me on AIM sometime and we'll talk more about this,k? AnGeLbAbY51529 on AIM!! :)
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i wanna have sex b4 i'm 15...sum of my friendz tell me 2 wait, what do i do?
In my opinion you should definitely wait!!! 15 is a very very young age to take on all that a sexual relationship involves.There are a lot of emotions and a lot of complications and things that can occur as a result of getting into a sexual relationship with someone.I think your friends are advising you right on this one!!But,if you do decide that you're mature enough and you're with someone you love and care about,and TRUST,and you just feel ready,always always ALWAYS take all the necessary precautions.I can't stress it enough!!!!Make sure that the guy(or you if you're the guy here!hehe)always wears a condom!!!Females should look into getting put on birth control in some form.Check out Planned Parenthood(www.planedparenthood.com for locations and info)for more info on this.They can help you and answer any and all questions you may have,and it's all strictly confidential!!Keep in mind all your options and be sure to think thru everything carefully!!!Best wishes!!! :)
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