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ok my and my bf want sex but am not sure cause im not on birth control pills, and its my first time. i cant get on birth control pills cause my mom would know im going to and prevent me from seeing him.
oh and dont go off saying im to young please. we are sure.
im not sure what to do?
any advise will be very thankful!! (link)
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I never tell anyone they're too young, because regardless of whether one says "Don't do it blah blah" It's up to that person them self, in the end, they make their own decision. If you feel that you are ready, it is entirely up to you, as it is your body. As for birth control pills, I do not believe you actually need your parents consent to be put on them. I guess the best thing to do is go to your local women's health center, or planned parenthood and speak with them. If that doesn't work out or you are unable to do so, there are other alternatives to birth control, such as going to a drug store, as they have a decent selection of spermicides, condoms, as well as vaginal sponges.
Combining condoms and spermicides are a more effective way to prevent pregnancy, though, even like birth controls, it is not 100% There is still that small chance.
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So i broke up with my 4 yr relationship who we also dated for a yr and a half in hs.
I broke up with him just recently because of all sorts of reasons, I lost trust with him, I had a feeling he was cheating on me, we fought all the time, it just wasn't healthy. So i got out before he asked my hand in marriage. I love him so much and he still tells me he loves me. I'm regretting losing him but I feel it was something that needed to be done.
Well, I moved on fast - i still love him and miss him so much - but I met some awesome guys. One gives me butterflies and knows how to give great advice and works 2 jobs and is a fire fighter- but he's 5 years older than me - almost 30 and has 3 kids. Then there's guy number two - he's going to Broadway because he's so talented and is offered many opportunities - I've known him for a while and i like him but he's 4 years younger than me. Then there's guy number 3 - my age - works a hard foreman job and makes good money - totally sweet funny handsome and i like him but i don't feel a spark anymore - he's my ex. I already fooled around with guy number 3 and now i feel like a piece of crap. Its not what I had in mind and now he's all in love with me and I'm still in love with my ex whom I just broke up with last week.
I'm not looking for love or a relationship but every guy I meet they charm and take care of me the way my ex never did and so I like the attention and compassion.
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Perhaps give yourself time. Don't date anyone. Maybe that's all you need. It's understandable that you feel the way you do about your ex, but you also have to realize that a relationship like that isn't worth keeping. Sure, these other guys sound great, but if anything you should just worry about you and not anything or anyone else. It doesn't hurt to date around, and get to know others, but do remember to take it slowly. Rushing into a new relationship is never a good idea. If anything, worry about you. It'll take time to get over your ex, as it always does, especially with the time you were together. But in time you'll feel better. It isn't a bad thing that you still love him, hell, you may even love him for years to come, but you got out of the relationship for a reason. Just keep that in mind, and go on with your life. If you aren't ready for a committed relationship, take your time. There are many people out there. As for the age thing, remember, age is just a number. It doesn't matter how old they are, it matters how you feel about them.
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Two nights a go I screamed in horror as I watched my dad choke my mom and then chase her with a knife. I cant stand this anymore. Alcohol is killing him and he doesn't want to admit it
he needs help but if he doesn't want it I know he won't get better. Im holding on to the last thing I have,hope. So far it hasn't helped. What can I do?
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Were the police called? Was he put in jail, even for at least one night? Does he have a court date? If not, then perhaps one of you should have called and what not to have him court ordered to go to A.A.
Other than that, there's no way you can have him go. He has to be willing to admit he has a problem, and willing to go get the help he needs. But here is some information that may help you, if not a lot, then maybe a little.
http://www.aa.org/
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
also, perhaps call a local aa organization and ask them for advice. They are use to this kind of thing and may be able to give you some sort of help.
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I've been on birth control for almost 2 whole months, I'm halfway through my period and my boyfriend and I had sex. He was about to ejaculate and the condom broke. Could I become pregnant? (link)
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All birth controls have a small percentage in failure rate ranging from 1-5%. Considering though, that you have been on it for 2 months, or at least near, your chances of NOT being pregnant are 95-99%. Also, since you were in the middle of your period, chances are your uterus has already flushed out that unused egg and you are not pregnant, though strange things have been known to happen. But with birth control, the hormones in them are to PREVENT your ovary from dropping the egg, if I'm understanding it correctly, to even prevent it's creation. So I don't think you are pregnant. But if you are really worried, then wait until your next expected period, and if it is late, take a pregnancy test. It would be best this way to put your mind at ease.
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alright. last Wednesday I dyed my hair and it was terrible. so yesterday my friend stripped my hair and then redyed it. well now there are chunks of my hair on the top layer that are lighter than the rest of my hair and it's very obvious. I want to get the same color and go over my hair again because it's annoying and I don't like the random chunks of light hair. so here is my question finally. can I go ahead and redye it possibly in a few days? (link)
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Some say they have redyed their hair the following day, while others waited several weeks to months. If you are lightening your hair, it is best to wait. Because too much lightening can be very damaging to your hair. If you wait a few weeks, while taking very good care of your hair, such as leave in conditioners, hair masks.. You may be able to redo it. If you plan on darkening your hair, then it should be alright to do so in a few days, it also doesn't hurt to contact your local hair stylists in your area for extra opinions. Best safe than sorry.
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my bf devin is starting to creep me out by saying abunch of sex things on the phone and i really like it but its starting to freak me out.what should i do?
any advise will be very thankful!!
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If it's really bothering you, let him know that. Chances are he is hinting to you that he is ready, or interested in taking your relationship with him a step further. Remember though, if you are not ready, do not just go with it. Take into consideration your age. What IF something goes wrong, and you end up pregnant? Are you ready for that? There is no rush to grow up. Enjoy being young and take things slow. If he really does care about you, he'll understand and will respect your wishes. If he doesn't, you'll then understand that he's not worth keeping. It's never easy letting go of someone, but you have your future to think of, right?
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I had sex 5 days ago (3 days before i was supposed to start). We didn't use a condom for a little part in the beginning (like less than 5 slides in and out), but then stopped and went and got it. I had never had sex before, and I'm on the pill. But after he left, I noticed I bled a little in my underwear (like the end of your period) and so I figured he just popped my cherry, but I haven't had my period yet and I was supposed to start 2 days ago, and I also didn't miss a pill... am I pregnant? (link)
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Take into consideration on how long you have been on the pill. If you're just starting, like a month or two, it can just be your hormones readjusting your cycle. As for pregnancy, most birth control pills have a 1-3% failure rate. Anyway, birth control pills take at least 7 days to fully take effect. If you have been taking this for longer, then disregard the 7 day thing. As I have heard from many people, pre-cum can impregnate a woman, but that is something I do not know whether to be true or not. Also, have you taken any antibiotics recently? Some antibiotics can completely nullify the effects of some birth controls. The best thing to do is wait another week, if you have not gotten your period then, get a home pregnancy test. If it turns out negative, then it's more likely just your birth control pills readjusting, if it turns out positive, well then.. you can always consider other options, I'm not saying only abortion, but I'm also saying, if you know you two cannot care for it, the other option would be adoption. Many families out there cannot have children, and yours would be a blessing to them. Anyway, don't freak over it. Chances are it's just the birth control readjusting with the hormones and the lot. I take bcp as well, and I had an irregular cycle for a couple of months. Now it's pretty regular.
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ok so i did what ya'll said and told my bf.
when i told him he went all out saying how cutting ruined his life and now he has scars. of couse i already knew that he used to cut.
but the catch is he figured it out from this site. i dont know how but he read it and called me up and went on and on.
now its been about 2 weeks and he has not called me.
im scared to call him cause he might go onand on again. he might even yell at me cause he came close to it and he tolk a deep breath and spoke in a whisper.
is he mad at me for not telling him or is he calming down from our "fight"?
should i call him or wait?
any advise will be very thankful!! (link)
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I guess the best thing to do is put yourself in his shoes. Someone he cares for a lot told him a while ago that his loved one is hurting them self. It's not something that people can easily accept. Perhaps he's feeling inadequate. Feels as though his part in your life may hold no real meaning. Perhaps right now, he's trying to figure things out. Trying to figure out where he stands. Or he could just be calming down. It's never easy to accept that your loved one is hurting them self. It's honestly quite an emotionally painful thing. If you really would like to stop cutting, then do it. Just stop. If you feel the urge to do so again, relax, and don't forget to breath. Remember, you may feel that your life is awful, but think of all that you have that others are not as lucky to have. I've survived my cutting experience, so can you. It's best to stop now, before things take a turn for the worse. You wouldn't want to end up the way I did. Three 4 inch deep slits to both wrists... Life is short enough. Enjoy it while you can. You will eventually, in time, regret the damage you are doing to your body. I know I do. I hate the reminders, and if I could, I would take it back. I would never have done it. The scars remind me of my weakness and that even if I had it bad, there are still others out there that have it MUCH worse than I do.
As for your boyfriend, perhaps send him a text, (that is if you have a cell phone.. I don't ;p lol) If not, then send him an email. Perhaps he's really just hurting because someone he cares a lot for is hurting. I mean, really think about it. Hypothetical. Your boyfriend is secretly cutting, because he's apparently been emotionally hurting (in this synopsis, he's with you). Instead of coming to you and talking to you about what it is, what is hurting you, (not the razor of course) you end up just hurting yourself, instead of talking to someone you "love and trust". I honestly believe he may be taking it hard. There we go, instead of hurting yourself, talk to your boyfriend about what it is that's upsetting you. No matter what it is. I know this is a long winded explanation, advice.. whatever you wish to call it, but hopefully it'll help you. If not a lot, then hopefully even a little. Get a hold of your boyfriend, and tell him what it is that's bugging you instead of going it alone and harming yourself. Hell, even call him. Just leave the sharps alone.
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I've just noticed that one of my brackets on my braces has come off the tooth. It's still attached to the wire, but it can still move about a little bit.
I've read online that you have to call your orthodontist ASAP and get an appointment, but I was told not to ring unless 2 or more brackets fall off. My next appointment's in about 3 weeks.
I'm just really confused because everyone tells me different things! Thanks xx (link)
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I would suggest just calling and speaking with your oral hygienist, you can never be too careful. Call your orthodontist and ask for their opinion, and take it from there.
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So long story short, my doctor was unable to renew my birth control prescription before I was supposed to start taking it again, following my period. So I was off the pill for a month. She had told me that it usually takes about 3 months of being off the pill for your hormones to regulate themselves, but I had got my period on the day I was supposed to and lasted about 6 days, which it normally does. Well I've been back on the pill now for the past 3 weeks, and I was supposed to get my period 2 days ago (I'm usually insanely regular, which is why i'm a little concerned at this point). So what I was wondering is are the chances of my period being late high because I was off the pill for a month, then started it again? Or should I be more concerned of a possible pregnancy or something of the sorts; because yes, my fiancee and I do have sex. I'm just kinda curious if any other girls have been through what I have and maybe just give me some insight on what had happened to them or whatnot!
And I currently live 3 hours away from my family doctors, so no, I would not be able to set up an appointment with her or anything!
Thanks for any advice/insight!:) (link)
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It typically does take three months (sometimes longer) for your body to properly regulate itself after not taking your birth control for a time. I recently had to stop taking my birth control for a month because I was unable to get my prescription refilled. Which was strange, but anyway.. For the month and a half I didn't take it, yeah, my first period after the pill was normal, but then it got a bit erratic, a week and a half after I started again. Then after starting back up on my pills, it was irregular. I worried about pregnancy, but it turns out that was not the case. Due to the sudden drop in hormones, then all of a sudden a whole rise in them, it disrupted my cycle (which is usually always steady and regular). All you have to do is wait for your cycle to re-regulate itself, and it'll be fine. If you do still worry about pregnancy, the best thing you can do is get a home pregnancy test when you are able to get it, because regardless, you never know. But, high chances are, your system is just trying to regulate itself again.
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I'm going to BestBuy next weekend to look into getting a memory upgrade for my desktop computer. I'm not great with computers and have no idea what kind of information about my computer I should know before I go. So can anybody tell me what I'll need to know about my computer? (link)
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Here is a site that can help you with what you need to know and how to go about it when buying ram.
http://blog.ashfame.com/2007/09/short-guide-for-buying-ram/
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Im 16 year old teenager girl.
I want to get on birth control.
And my boyfriend asks if I got on birth control what can me and my boyfriend NOT do?? While I'm on the birth control pill??
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I honestly believe you are making a good choice. Having children while young is quite difficult now a days. Especially with schooling and the lot. Once you have started your birth control, be careful for the first 7 days. Do NOT miss a pill, otherwise it may take longer for it to take effect. Though pills are only 98-99% effective, it does not hurt to use extra protection such as condoms and or spermicides. After your pills have taken effect (after 7 days of taking them, and continuing to take them) there are no limits to what you can or can not do. Should you ever get an infection that requires antibiotics, be sure to let your doctor know about your birth control, as some if not all, antibiotics can make your birth control stop working.
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So I have an advertisement on the newspaper and of course my phone number appears on it as I teach English,well a few days ago this strange guy started to call me pretending to need Eng lessons,but then he kept texting me saying horrible things related to sex,like a blowjob and even bareback!!I don't know how to get rid of him,I have a boyfriend and I'm really ashamed,I don't dare to tell him anything,cuz he'd go mad,I need help,thanks! (link)
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The best thing to do is tell your boyfriend about the harassment that you are enduring. If you hide it from him, and he happens to come across the text you had received, he may believe that something else is going on. Explain to him the situation, and try to come to a solution together. Chances are you may need to let an officer know about what is going on as well, and try to put an end to it. If that doesn't work, you may have to get a new cell number.
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hi im a 16 year old girl, how do i become flexible? i can barely do anything that is flexible and i want to change that! any suggestions? i dont want something really really hard to do or something that hurts haha! thanks! :) (link)
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http://www.wikihow.com/Become-Flexible
You can't become flexible over night. It takes time and a lot of stretching. There's a site that may be of some help to you.
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hi i have rub my vagina with the penis of my boyfriend but we both have clothes on and there wasn't any kind of penetration the thing is that when i went to the bathroom I saw that my underwear had little blood when i clean myself there was blood in the same day when i go to the bathroom it came blood also i don't know if i loose my virginity or the thing that the vagina has has broken .....pleasee i need to know if i had loose it i am really scared (link)
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I'm going to have to agree with imperfectionist. It sounds like you started your period, and your hymen did not break. There's no need to be scared.
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Hi there.
I have a 8 month old 'Teacup' yorkie, and her vulva is swollen, very badly.
I'm aware that she's starting to go in heat; and after talking with her Vet; I'm going to wait ti'll after her 21 day cycle, to get her fixed (due to complications, excess blood, ect while in heat)
But the question I'm wanting to know, is how can I soothe her? I know how I feel when I'm on my period; and I know they aren't SIMILAR; But I also know she is going to be anxious and stressed; and I would like to know how can I make it easy for her, becasue it'll be her first.
Her vagina is swollen pretty badly; and every time I touch it to make sure she isn't bleeding yet, she freaks out and starts crying; I just feel so bad for her;
Anything I can do to ease the pain and make this experience not terrible for her?
I already got her some puppy panties, and diapers so she doesn't bleed on anythig; and she's an inside dog as well; 'she uses potty pads; and never goes outside'
so I'm good in that department; so any help?
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The only thing you can really do for her at the moment is to keep her relaxed. I don't believe female dogs are in pain when they are in heat, it's more of just, they are ready to have puppies. If anything, just play with her like you normally would, and cuddle her often. She may be very anxious, but it'll pass.
Dogs are in heat for 21 days
There are three distinct stages of the heat cycle. The first one is the “Proestrus” and it is during this stage the owner will often notice the bleeding from the vulva. The bleeding itself can be slight or she can leave evidence of her condition everywhere she sits or lays. For those owners who keep their dogs in the house, many pet stores carry dog panties that hold special canine sanitary napkins to eliminate the mess. In addition to bleeding, the vulva will also swell and the dog will usually have an increase in urination. The most obvious sign to most owners are the increase in population of male dogs around their house. This proestrus part of the cycle will last between seven and ten days and the female will make it clear she wants no part of the male during this time. Unfortunately for the owner, the male dogs don’t know how to take no for an answer. They will climb or dig under fences, attempt to breed through the fence if the female strays close enough and often serenade the dog and owner into the wee hours of the night.
The second stage or actual “Estrus” stage of the heat cycle will often begin between the eight and tenth day after the first sign of color (bleeding). During this time the color of the blood has gone from bright red to pink and then to an almost clear discharge. It is during this stage most females will allow a dog, in fact ANY dog to breed her. The estrus stage can last between four and seven days and it must be remembered the female can become pregnant with mixed litters. Just because you bred your purebred collie to another collie doesn’t mean she can’t have puppies with the Doberman next door and the German Shepherd up the street. Your best bet is to keep her confined in the house during the entire estrus cycle or take the easy way out and board her for the necessary time. If you keep her at home, you may want to purchase a crate to keep her in. I had one Blue heeler that attempted to chew the front door down to get to the male outside. When that didn’t work, she leapt through our front window as soon as I went left. After her rendezvous with my male Cane Corso outside, she went over to my brothers because she had taken a liking to his Brittany that had been panting after her for over a week.
If you do decide to breed your dog, she will show her willingness to be bred by “flagging” whenever you scratch the area directly above her tail. By flagging, she will actually stand still and lift her tail up and out of the way. For those breeds that have had their tails docked, you will just have to wing it although a veterinarian can do a vaginal smear. Each stage of the cycle will have different types of cells appear on the slide.
The third stage of the heat cycle is the “Diestrus.” This is when the female is going out of heat. During this time she will still be giving off the heat “scent” and males will still be congregating for her attentions. Once again she will be out of the mood and will snap at the males or sit and lie down when they try to mount her. The diestrus stage will last approximately seven to ten days. Once it is over, the dog will remain out of heat for approximately six to eight months.
The average estrus cycle in a dog is approximately twenty-one days and this cycle usually occurs every six to seven months. The first cycle will often depend on the size of the dog. Small breeds such, as Chihuahuas or Toy Poodles will come into heat between five and seven months. Large breeds like the Collie, Mastiff or Great Dane may have their first heat cycle at six months but it isn’t unusual for them to delay until they are twelve to sixteen months. Larger dogs develop at a much slower rate than small dogs.
I hope this is of some assistance.
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so me and this girl have been talking for about 2 years but first we was friends. so this is the problem i moved from around her to the suburbs and by the time i moved we wasnt in a realtionship any more but once i moved to the suburb i got back in contact with her and we tried to hit off again but the thing is i always find out that she's cheating so me im a female yes i like girls but i didnt never tell her that i knew about her cheating so i just started back ignoring her phone calls and everything like a year later my birthday came around and i was thinking about her so i found her on facebook and i gave her my number now i saw on her facebook that she was in a realtionship so i didnt really try ta bring up her relationship status but she kept asking me like when we getting back together and such but i specifically asked her do you have a girlfriend right now she said no so i told her like she needs to change her facebook status then she never changed it but she evenetually broke up with the girl but was still in contact with her so me being so inlove with her i left her back into my life but a couple of days ago i told her that im not finna let her dog me like she be doing them other girls and she told me that shes not then a few days later i asked her when is she gone tell me that she cheated on me and she acted like i was crazy, i dont know what to do i wanna leave her but im too attached to her and its really gonna hurt me , i just need to know what to do. (link)
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It is always painful to have to let go of someone you love. But you should also consider your own happiness. Being in a relationship like that, it seems as though you'd be hurting more in the long run than if you were to just let go. Time heals all wounds, even the hidden ones. You will find someone who can love you and be faithful, but from the sounds of it, it's not her. You just have to be strong. It'll hurt, but you'll feel better later. Especially when you find your special someone who would never do that to you.
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So... Here goes. So I used to date this boy... Who is in a few grades above me (I'm fourteen.) We had been dating for a few months, and I gave him head about three times, and he has fingered me. I haven't had my period in two months, but I've been regular since about twelve. And I have been very tired for the last week, and I've been feeling sick and queasy every morning for about two weeks. Those are the symptoms of pregnancy, but I have never gone all the way, and what I'm describing doesn't sound like any STD or STI Ive heard of. If it helps, I'm taking ADD meds, if that could have anything to do with it. Thank you in advance for advice! (link)
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All medications have side effects to them. Read your pamphlet that it came with and find your symptoms. If you worry about an STD, go to a gynecologist and get yourself checked. Oral sex can still transmit diseases. Also, I am sure you know this, pregnancy only occurs when the mans semen is in the vagina, and the female is ovulating. If you worry about pregnancy, get a pregnancy test.
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Hie, l would just like to know how l can stop caring about my husband. We've been together for 5 years and we have a lovely boy. He is an educator and he flirts with his female students(emails, whatsapp & messages) l am really tired of checking his phone and asking questions all the time. This whole insecurity is making my life miserable. l want to STOP caring about what he does. Am l obsessed?? He has hit on a family member & my friends in the past. Please advice me,l don't know how long l can go on like this. (link)
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You may be obsessing over it, but if this stuff really bothers you, all you can do is speak with him. I won't say he is cheating, or that he will.. But sometimes flirting can lead to that. Though just flirting is harmless, it can make things painful for the one who does not flirt. Sit down with him, and calmly, without accusing or anything, let him know how his flirtatious behavior makes you feel. Don't get angry, just calmly explain to him the situation.
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Okay people,
I'm being serious when I ask this and no hateful comments because I'm really wondering.
Is it real? It's it beginning?
I mean, I know this sounds silly, but everytime I get on facebook someone is talking about it;
and than the guy from Miami that ate someones face and was only killed by a shot in the head; is that a start?
I know he was messed up on some type of salt; but still?
I'm curious to know. I never believed it until my friend showed me all these news clips saying it's about to begin.
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With zombie apocalypses, the zombie bites someone, and within no time, they turn into a zombie. The man in question (the one who was eaten), is still alive, though in critical condition. I do not think a zombie apocalypse is at hand. The news media was just comparing the instance to our favorite horror icons. If anything, think logically about it. A Zombie is a walking corpse. Therefore, it would regardless continue to rot. Now, putting this into consideration, tendons, muscles, anything used to move would be rendered useless. Besides, for all we know, this type of "salt" may also be a nickname given for some kind of street drug, and do remember, some drugs do have very adverse effects. Such as PCP. On pcp, the person does not think clearly, and some reported cases have been shown that they feel no pain. Perhaps this is the case. As for the news clips, they exaggerate. They were not saying it was going to begin, they were comparing the incident to some of our favorite horror icons. I remember reading a news article stating
"So what does that have to do with zombies you ask? Well, this particular naked diner just happened to be a cannibal and was eating a guy’s face on the street. And apparently he was shot and kept right on eating… and then they killed him. That’s kinda starting to sound like a certain undead plague we all fear terribly, isn’t it?
But was he really a zombie? Maybe, but probably not. While the details at this point are few, we can pluck out a couple key factors that lead to a verdict of hungry, not zombie.
First, there haven’t been any reports of other zombie-like activities in the vicinity, or anywhere today really. It’s highly unlikely that patient zero would be chomping on his very first zombo meal when killed. Most initial attacks take place indoors, and in clothes. Remember that new zeds have been ill, and expired only moments before the assault, which is why zombification spreads so quickly… nearby loved ones.
Second, there are no reports of the victim turning. Now this could only be a matter of time, or a cover-up, but if we trust the media he is in critical condition in a hospital. You don’t hang around in any condition except dead when a zombie eats half your face. If the sickness were present, he would most likely be dead and undead by now."
Also remember, those types of zombies do not really exist. It was Romero's imagination that created this zombie in the 60's.. I believe it was that time. ALSO! A REAL Zombie is actually a mindless slave. As more realistically depicted in the film "White Zombie". So, is there a Romero zombie outbreak? No. Are there druggies out there? Yes. Please do remember, and always keep in mind, drugs can really mess you up. In more than just one way.
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