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How can l stop caring about a cheating my husband???
Hie, l would just like to know how l can stop caring about my husband. We've been together for 5 years and we have a lovely boy. He is an educator and he flirts with his female students(emails, whatsapp & messages) l am really tired of checking his phone and asking questions all the time. This whole insecurity is making my life miserable. l want to STOP caring about what he does. Am l obsessed?? He has hit on a family member & my friends in the past. Please advice me,l don't know how long l can go on like this.
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If hes an educator, then he should educate himself on how to keep the vows he made to you. No marriage is perfect but for you to keep checking his messages and him hitting on family and friends, is a clear warning for you and him to get some marriage counselling. If you wanna fight for your man, then lets hope he startsto make a change FOR THE BETTER.
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You have devoted your life to a man and created a family. Your cares and concerns are not obsessive behaviors. You are seeking the relationship you signed up for and didn't get. I am so sorry you are going through this. What I have found to be true is the saying "it takes one nail to knock out another". I'm not suggesting that you cheat on your husband but sometimes you need the love and attention from another to finally have the strength to move on. I know for me in past relationships I didn't truly get over the guy until I found another one. It was a wonderful feeling to FINALLY be over him. It may seem impossible right now but I promise you if you allow someone else to treat you the way you deserve you will be surprised how quickly you can move on. If you think there's a chance your husband will see the error of his ways and you are willing to work things out I would hope for the best especially since you have a beautiful baby boy. However, no one deserves to be mistreated and feeling like they have to look over their shoulders and check pockets and what not. Marriage should be about trust and as you said he's making your life miserable. He is breaking your spirit and causing unnecessary stress. Be strong and I wish for you the best.
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You may be obsessing over it, but if this stuff really bothers you, all you can do is speak with him. I won't say he is cheating, or that he will.. But sometimes flirting can lead to that. Though just flirting is harmless, it can make things painful for the one who does not flirt. Sit down with him, and calmly, without accusing or anything, let him know how his flirtatious behavior makes you feel. Don't get angry, just calmly explain to him the situation.
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