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ok ive heard from lots a friends that oral sex hurts a lot. is that true? or does it feel good for a girl? bc i havee been thinkin about giving it to my bf but i am scared please help!!!
thanx in advance!
Well, if oral sex is done properly, it shouldn't hurt for neither the giver or the receiver. In fact, it should feel pleasurable for the receiver, and maybe a bit uncomfortable for the giver.
I don't think you are ready to do this with your boyfriend, which is totally okay. You seem to not have a clear understanding of what oral sex is (stimulating the genitals using one's mouth), because otherwise you would understand that it is not painful, unless the giver does it incorrectly. I would wait it out, until you are comfortable doing this with your boyfriend (no feelings of scariness!). Don't let him pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do.
~Maria, 16
I recently noticed a bump on my thigh, it looks like a bruise but feels like there could be a marble or something underneath it. It doesn't hurt or anything to the touch or otherwise, my mom said it might be a cyst, I don't know. Should I get it checked out or what?
If its been there for a while (I don't know how recently was "recently, if you know what I mean) definitely get it checked out. If you only found this a few days ago, wait a week or, and if the bruise and/or cyst don't seem to be going away, go see a doctor.
~Maria, 16
my best friend ever is a black boy named even and no one knows that he is my best friend on earth im afriad to tell my parents about him because they dont really like black people and i love him like my own brother please help i want to tell people about him but i dont know how please help and thanks
What you're parent don't know won't hurt them. There's a chance they won't let you hang out with him if you tell him, and he might get some harsh words, as well.
As for the "other people," tell them. You shouldn't hide an amazing person from your friends. If you're truly friends with him, you wouldn't care what other people think of you hanging out with him. Introduce him to your other friends, share this amazing person with them. Who knows, you might help stop some racial disputes that go on where you live.
~Maria, 16
Recently this month, when I wake up, I have just a really terrible bad breath and my mouth has this nasty stale taste! I know it's normal to get bad breath when you wake up, but it's really bad and when I wake up or open my mouth during the night when I sleep, it's so bad it wakes me up and I can't get back to sleep.
I brush my teeth with a lot of tooth paste in the morning when I wake up but the smell is kind of still there. It goes away before lunch and etc but still, that's really gross, right in the morning. I don't like the taste it gives me before my breakfast either!
And also, while I'm brushing my teeth, there's a feeling in the back of my throat, like as if there's a lump of something down there so I have to try to hork what ever it is out very day (even though I can't even hork at all) and the feeling's still there. I feel like an old person when I hork while brushing my teeth. Very gross indeed.
Is that normal? Is there anything else I can do?
Oh gosh, I have the same thing. Make sure you are hydrated (drink lots of water, not juice, or sodas). If you are breathing through your mouth when you sleep, that can be a huge cause of bad breath. Brush your tongue, and gurlge mouthwash. It really helps to eat breakfast before you brush your teeth, and before you eat breakfast, drink some water. Try horking the stuff up more often.
Those are some things that I came up with. They don't get rid of this, but they do make things a lot better. But I would say drinking lots of water is what helps the most. Also sucking on a mint when you go to bed (just put in between your cheek and your teeth, so it doesn't disappear quickly) helps a lot too, but you need to make sure you are breathing through your nose first, and there are potential chocking hazards, so be warned! (lol)
~Maria, 16
I'm in love with my stepsister. She's fun to be around and jokes around alot and she's beautiful to me. I'm terrified of rejection so what should i do?
Hmmm, that's a tough one. On one hand, you guys are now siblings, but on the other hand, you're not blood.
It depends on what (both) your views are on this subject. Maybe casually bring up the subject, by saying something like "My friend is going out with his step sister," or something along those lines. Watch her reaction. If she is disgusted by it, don't make any moves on her. If she was interested, or viewed it in a positive/indifferent manner, take it from there.
But I will be quite frank with you. Some people will view this as a form of incest. I honestly would view it in that way, too. You guys are now siblings (even though you don't have the same blood). I wouldn't ask her to be your girlfriend, or anything like that. I mean, just think about it. Your parents are an item, and their kids are an item, too?
I know I'm not being helpful, but I want you to see the situation from another person's point of view (and quite possibly your step sister's, too).
~Maria, 16
im 15 and wanna know like what size should be my penis and at what age does a penis stop growing
http://www.coolnurse.com/penis_size.htm
That should answer your first question. As for your second question, a penis stops growing at around age 18, but every guy is different.
~Maria, 16
Okay so first of all I'm not at all over weight, my appearance is thin. I'm 16 and 100 lbs, but that doesn't really matter too much.
I want to lose the fat on my lower stomach- because if I'm wearing a tight shirt it looks somewhat bad. I don't know if people notice but it bugs me.
Haha anyways it's a hard spot to target with exercising so I've heard.
Does anyone know good exercises for this? besides crunches? I have a yoga ball too, would that help?
Thanks in advance (:
1) Lie down on your back, hands at your sides, legs straight. Your legs must touch the ground at all times. Sit up, bringing your arms to your ears when you are in the sitting position. Its okay to put you feet underneath something at first.
2) Lie down on your back, legs straight, hands underneath your butt. Slowly lift you legs to a 65 degree angle, trying not to let your back come off the ground. Lower them slowly, but don't let your heals touch the ground, and keep you're legs straight at all times. If your yoga ball is small enough, you can out it in between your legs (by your feet) and do the same thing.
3) Lie down on your back, legs bent, then let your legs fall to one side, so you are in a twisted position. There should be a 90 degree angle at your stomach and thighs. With your hand behind your neck, do a crunch like you would in the regular crunch position. Be sure that you do not lift from your neck, but try to do these keeping your back straight.
~Maria, 16
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ya ni znala ti rasgavarish na rooski
A kak ti umeesh govorit po rooski?
ti rasgavarish na rooski?
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hi.
okay.
im 16.
im 5 months pregnant.
my boyfriends family and mine want us to keep it.
im very scared.
okay my first question is.
1. can i take the baby to school? or should i leave it at home? cause i really dont wanna leave her.
2. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. (hes 18) and he wants to get married as soon as the babys born. Should i do it?
3. Im really strating to "pop" do you guys have nay good stores for me to go get cute prenancy clothes?!
thankss.
1. Unless you go to some strange school, you won't be allowed to take the baby to school. In fact, you will probably have to drop out because taking care of a baby is a full time job.
2. Do you love him? Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with him? Will your parents give you consent to marry him? You are the only one who can answer that question.
3. Shouldn't you be more worried about saving money to take care of the baby, not to buy cute maternal clothes? If you have a steady job, and so does your boyfriend, I would still be saving my money for the baby, not for clothes, unless your parents are willing to support you financially, but I wouldn't depend on them because you are the one who got yourself in this situation.
~Maria, 16
Im 16, just had my period getting over it today. but two nights ago, i was really tired and i went to change my tampon not realizing that i already had one in. Later i completly remembered.. took the second one out and the 1st one i got, but when i took it out it had no string.. is that something i should worry about or not a big deal? please helppp!
Unlike what other people said, I would worry about it. That string that could possibly be in your vagina can't just fall out, and the likelihood of it being taken out with the other tampon is slim. It could be stuck up there, and honestly, I wouldn't take chances. The risk is that you could get TSS (toxic shock syndrome, a fatal illness) or some sort of nasty infection. Go to the doctor asap. There is nothing to be embarrassed about, many girls use tampons, the doctor has seen many vaginas; there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about.
~Maria, 16
(15/Female)
Recently my mom found my Xanga, I swear I had it on a private lock so I used it as a private journal to deal with my depression and everything going on.
Well, she found it and read everything. She read about my anorexia, fooling around with boys, cussing, smoking, drinking, the one-time pot smoking, the times when I hated her. To make things worse, she was admitted to the hospital the day she found it. She hasn't talked to me about it yet because she's still in the hospital but I overheard her telling my dad she found it. This will be the third time I'll be in trouble this Christmas break. (She already found out about the messing around with boys thing, also about the pot smoking) But still, I'm afraid she won't be able to forgive me.
I'm not sure how I should handle this and how I should get my life back on track. I used to be a straight A, cheerleading, loving life kind of girl.
I think its very luck your mom found out everything. She will help you put your life on track, even though she is probably shocked and angry right now, she is your mother, she loves you, and will forgive you, and she knows what is best for you.
I'm pretty sure that she won't let you out of the house anymore, because she completely lost trust in you. Tell her you love her, and tell her you want your life to be back on track. It will be rough, but it'll be worth it.
~Maria, 16
what could we do this friday thats like really fun! ok so i dont really want to ddo the mall thing or movies or go out to dinnner becuase we do that almost every weekend and we want something new to do.. we already though of a sleep over but ehh not so awesome! ya know? so i was wondering if anyone had any ideas on what we could do thats really fun???
were 16 if that helps anything :]
Baking party
Camp out in the back yard
Amusement park
Roller blading
Any themed party in general
A potluck, where everyone just pigs out
Twister Night
Spa party
~Maria, 16
My brother.
He hits me. Alot. And i know what your going to say, just a brother/sister thing. No, it really hurts. Not just a little, alot.
My mum, she just stands there not doing anything. Then when i start screaming at my brother, she then shouts at ME telling me not to shout at him!
Then i storm off upstairs and I get in trouble for it!
I can't talk to my mum because i know EXACTLY what she will say.
''Stop annoying him then''
I don't DO anything to him. I would just come downstairs one day and he would just start hitting me for no reason.
And sometimes we get along really well. And i don't know why he does it..
Any advice?
If it helps, I'm 14 and he's 16.
Well, I'm an older sister, 16, and have a little brother, 12. I kind of treat my brother like your brother treats you, except I don't hit him. I will talk rudely to him, make fun of him, put him down, annoy him, etc, and other times I'll be super nice to him, spend time with him, etc.
Why am I like this? Because he is always ready to forgive me, we make up every single time in the next five minutes or so, unlike friends, parents, etc that will hold grudges against you, they won't really forget it. So unfortunately, when I am sad, angry, or frustrated, I take it out on my poor brother.
I bet the same thing happens to your brother. If he had a bad day at school, or woke up on the wrong side of the bed, he will probably take it out on you, because you're the only one that won't take away his allowance, and he won't lose your friendship. I found that if the older sibling is a guy, he tends to be physical and hit his little sibling, probably because of testosterone. If the older sibling is a girl, she will use words.
I think that should give you an understanding of why he does it.
To make him stop, avoid him, or if you are together, don't look at him, don't talk to him unless he talks to you first. Answer politely, friendly-ly, and don't ask questions. If he hits you, don't throw a fit (however much you want to), just say "Ow, that hurt!!!" or "What was that for!!??", but don't start name callings or stuff like that. Than continue on with your activities.
However, if you feel like this is really out of hand, show your mom any bruises that he caused, tell her you do not provoke your brother in any way (if you really don't), or, if you're up to it, talk to your brother. Tell him that he really does hurt you mentally and physically.
~Maria, 16
Sophomore/female.
My parents are seriously considering home schooling for me. They think it's much better to be surrounded by an environment that doesn't involve drugs or bad influences..I just don't know where to look for the best homeschooling. I know there are websites..but which ones are the best? Is anyone homeschooled here? If you can, please tell me where to look. :)
I have been home schooled since seventh grade. Basically, I follow the regular high school curriculum, and everything my mom can't teach me, I take at the local junior college. We are part of a charter school that provides text books, teachers, counselors, and even classes that you can take with other kids that are part of that charter school. It is a really positive experience, and a lot more layed back than high school. I learn a lot more than an average high schooler, and learn important life skills as well. I'm glad that you're parents are considering this option for you, although homeschooling isn't for everyone.
I don't really know what kind of websites you are talking about, but if you explain yourself better I would be happy to help you out =) If you have any questions about homeschooling, feel free to message me.
~Maria, 16
i was watching that movie and i was wondering if you've seen that movie is it possible to have sex when your pregnant?Can you get pregnant again?? I feel stupid for asking but i'm just curious because it keeps making me wonder.
It's possible, and it doesn't damage the baby as rumor has it. The women's sex drive is pretty low though, so it doesn't happen too often. And you can't get pregnant while you're pregnant, but it is possible for you to get pregnant after having a baby, although the chances are high for it to be unhealthy if you don't wait the right amount of time.
~Maria, 16
I was on birth control like 4 or 5 years ago. i dont remember the side effects and the doctor that put me on them assumed i knew them. my problem is: im having like hot flashes.. randomly. and its not the clothing that i wear. (i wear like .. tshirts in snow) so i dont know if that is a side effect or i should go back to the doctors?
So as I understand it, you stopped the birth control 4/5 years ago? Then I highly doubt that these hot flashes have anything to do with the birth control. I was recently put on birth control, and my doctor never mentioned hot flashes.
I think that it is the clothes you wear. If you wear a tshirt in the snow, your body is trying really hard to keep you warm, and sometimes you'll feel strong sense of heat in certain part of your body.
If this really concerns you, I would call a doctor and check with them. It could be some sort of health issue.
But this question wasn't detailed enough, so I don't really know what you mean by "hot flashes," but you can check out this website
http://www.breastcancer.org/tips/menopausal/facing/hot_flashes.jsp
~Maria, 16
I was washing my face with soap that my sister used on her foot that has a plantar wart. I didn't know at the time, until she told me later. Can I get a wart on my face?
THANKS
The wart is caused by the Papilloma virus, and it spreads by infecting cuts. So in other words, it needs to penetrate the skin in order to become a wart, otherwise nothing happens. I didn't find any information whether they can form on the face, it is only found on the foot. Also, the older you are, the more likely you are immune to the virus. So unless you had cuts on your face, and even if you did, I wouldn't worry about it.
~Maria, 16
My boyfriend is getting me a promise sing. So I'm thinking about getting him one too. A silver one with outside engraving. I'm not sure what it should say. I was thinking of putting our anniversay date on it or I love you. I guess i don't want to mess up on the text. Any suggestions?
Should I just go for the names and a heart in between it?
I really like your idea, the one with the heart in between your guys' names. So as I understand it, it should look like this:
[your name]heart[his name]
Maybe talk to your boyfriend if you're rings can match?
Personally, I think having numbers on a ring (even if they signify something) doesn't look very nice. Putting "I love you" on there is just a tad bit unoriginal, I bet there are tons of purity rings with those words on them. Having both your names on there gives it uniqueness, and everyone will know that your boyfriend is taken by [your name here], and vise versa. Anyways that's my opinion.
For some more ideas, you can put "True love waits," but again, that's pretty standard. Also, a purity ring doesn't need to have writing on it, it could have a crown of thorns, and other designs.
~Maria, 16
Ok guys this is going to sound really wierd. Alls i need you to do is just pick a letter for me.. either A J M. Thats it :) Thank Yuu x x x
M!!!! I'm not helping much am I?
~Maria, 16