My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka
I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.
I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(
Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.
MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)
Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
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i want to write a poem, im not sure what to write about and im not good at making them up lol i will send anyone my poems if they wanna read them. i have one called love lost. that one was acctually good lol. anyways, i need a poetry partner or someone that can help me write a poem 4 my (hopefully) boyfriend. (link)
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I LOVE writing poetry. I entered a poetry contest and my poem was good enough to be published in a book called "Patterns of Life." My poem was called "Always with me".
In school I just yesterday entered a poetry contest for the peopl ein my school and the winner gets their poem published in a book. One of the people who chooses whose poems go into the book (who was my English teacher last year) came up to me and said my poem was beautiful. (so I think maybe hopefully I have a great chance at winning).
To write great poetry with descriptions and details in it, it helps to have a good vocabulary. I write poems that rhyme sometimes, and other times I write free verse (which means you don't rhyme and you just write what you feel).
If I were you I wouldn't send your poems onto this site. There are a lot of people who will see this and I know you want advice but someone may see it, like it, and steal the idea. But then again I'm a caution freak like that. I would only tell people who you trust on advicenators.
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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how to know you feel better about doing the right thing (link)
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?? What exactly do you mean? If you're a nice person, doing the right thing feels great. It feels like you accomlished something by helping somebody with a problem, or being nice to somebody...that's pretty much all there is to it.
If you don't feel better about doing the right thing, you'll know...everyone reacts and feels different things when they do certain things.
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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the past day I constantly feel I need to urinate, what is wrong with me, do i have an infection?
do i need to see a doctor?
what do i do?
i also have a weak bladder control (link)
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Yes, you probably do only have a bladder infection...but it's nothing to worry about if you go to the doctor's and ask him/her about it.
~GL~
~!*!~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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A guy I know asked me out a week ago, and I refused, nicely. I thought it was all over... Until his younger sister came up to me, and asked if it was true that I'm dating her brother. I told her that I wasn't, and I that I like someone else. She said that her brother told a bunch of people that we're dating! I didn't beleive it at first, but by the end of that day, 5 other people asked if it was true! He's spreading all these false lies about me, saying that we went to the movies & made out... Well, here's the scoop: I went to the movies, but not with him. I saw him there, and he sat behind me. I touched his arm when I was walking outta the theater, I never kissed him, let alone make out with him! What should I do? (link)
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Tell everybody the truth. Tell him how you feel. But DO NOT make fun of him or spread rumors about him. Just tell him how you feel. It can be fast, blunt, and even a little rude...don't worry about embarrassing him to a certain extent. Just tell him that you're mad and everything...and just walk away without saying anything more.
If people come up to you and question you about what happened, just tell them the truth...if they don't believe you for some strange reason, then just ignore it...it will go away. As long as you tell people what really happened, there's nothing to worry about. I know it's frustrating...just don't sweat it, talk to him, and tell everybody the truth...BUT DONT MAKE FUN OF HIM!
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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ok im in 8th grade but nxt yeari will be going into highschool and im so scared. the school im going to has over 2,000 kids. im really scared of not finding my class cuz its such a big school and im scared of all the boys that will hit on me
please please please help (link)
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I know it's hard to go to0 a new BIG school...but ask for help if you're lost. As for the boys, don't assume they're all going to hit on you, because maybe they won't. If they do, tell somebody.
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I'm 14 year old girl. and I'm a little confused by stuff... at my school and with pretty much everyone I know it's not really a big deal to make out with someone you don't know or just met and I admit that I have. ALot of the time you can't really go out with anyone unless you give them a handjob or something. It seems sort of wrong to me, and it go me thinking about abunch of stuff.
When I was younger I thought that I wouldn't have sex until I was married and I realized that I don't care about that. Now I just don't know when is the right time to have sex.
Friends of mine have said that they are just going to get it over with at a party we're going to soon or that they'll do it when we enter high school next year.
I was just thinking. How do I know when the right time is for me? I don't care about losing it before I'm married or out of high school, I just want it to be right.
How do I keep myself from doing something stupid that I can't take back? (link)
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(I edited my answer because I accidently cut off part of it...so please just read it again).
Do not have sex until you're older. I'm guessing you've had your period already...and sex has SERIOUS consequences. I know you've probably heard this soo many times before, but you could get pregnant.
I feel the same way about these type of things (not necassarily sex per say....but all types of peer pressure) I'm afraid I might someday give into things such as cigarettes, drugs, drinking, stealing, etc. AND I DONT WANT TO! So I just stick with this thought that I DONT want to smoke, have sex until Im married, do drugs, drink, get high, whatever...I just keep these thought with me everyday and they don't go away. I know it sounds stupid...but I just think of the consequences.
There's NO WAY I could tell you how to keep yourself from doing stupid things, but just keep the thought with you. DO NOT do what your friends do just because you want to fit in. There your friends...they'll understand, and if they don't they're worthless anyway. Make you own choices--GOOD ONES!...and say no.
My cousin Rachael and I were walking down to the lake once and we were going to go swimming and sit around a little and catch some sun. I HATE my neighborhood...its full on SNOBS everywhere you turn...and they've all made fun of me at some point in their lives. They are all the popular type who make fun of you if you're not up to "their standards" or whatever mustanish thing they call it. Anyways, Rachael and I were sitting around and we were both 13 at the time and we sat around talking and all those kids started passing NASTY CIGARETTES around, and smoking them. Our backs were turned to them but they kept saying "Who wants some." (and they were talking to us too). We just ignored us and turned our backs on them and walked away. It was no big deal...they didn't FORCE us. And it feels so good to say "no" (or at least walk away or give them the cold shoulder) like that.
So just say no! And leave it at that. I don't understand why that is so hard for people. Some of them don't say no...so they end up with LUNGS FULL OF TAR! That's disgusting. Well, that's the price STUPID people pay for wanting to be popular.
And...you don't smoke now do you? If you don't, that tells you something, doesn't it?? CONGRATULATIONS for not giving in to peer pressure...you've obviously suceeded at it SO FAR.
~GL~
Make the right choices~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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hi, it's me again who wrote before, "wat do u think" well bascially i have this male friend in college and his quite older then me, the thing is we have a good times by ourself or in groups but the thing is sometimes i'm confused in what things he say's to me and why? he say's thing's like it's just like being married to you? i mean wat was tht all about?? and he also said this in a joke way before that he said "you need relationship counselling i think" as in a jokey way though, then i replied and said; well look who's talikng when you are then one had lots of breakdowns in your past relationship and being dumped ny your ex-girlgriends then he say's; i actually dumped them when only he was trying to deny himself but when i said that he had a grin on his face and went red.
As in the other hand i'm single and i havn't been out with any one for a long time even though i had lots of guy's askin me out in college and out of college but thats not the point i didnt say this to him though because he was saying to me in a joke way and saying are you trying to play hard to get? wat was he on about there! not only that he say's that he has a great sociable time with me when were alone and has called me "you'r such an sex symbol" and no wonder why older guys prefer you more is because you are so attractive and nice/very mature and loving caring person etc...
He also said the other day i can imagine already bumping into you in 8yrs time having lunch with you while you tell me everything about your life.
i mean he does talk to me alot and has a happy smile when i say something to him or make him laugh alot and sometimes he goes red, i'm just confused when he says things tome and why does he say it and what does he mean about it's like being married to you. Recently he has been in a funny mood blanking me then talking to me and sayin is everything ok and how r u etc.. but then agian he makes me be the last perosn to be looked at while he takes his time talking to other girls but i don't mind it's just that why doe she keep me the last one to be listned to is it because he is trying to get my attention or what? and when he talks he looks deep down m eye even thogh my hair is in the way it's like he is trying to search them and when he talks to the other girls he always try to glance at me every now and then if i'm looikn or not or wat am i doing? also he does tease me alot and jokes with me alot and winks at me when ever he see's me and say's frount of people it's like being married to you, and he does say hi all the time or if i don't reply he will say it continously and tells me at least you can smile back at me or say hello! and not only that he said i remind him soo much of his ex-girlfriend as he was laughing but he used to say nice thing about her, even though it's his x and he said i also remind him of somebody else with a happy face but why does he mention these peculiar things to me or says it to me then somebody else and he always takes me as a game or a joke and somtimes not taking me seriously or listening to me apart from mirroing me with his face expression or when i say something he is trying to make laugh and always pull his eye-brow up and down but why it's really annoying and embrassing, but we are only gd frineds though we only known each other for 6/7 months. SO PLEASE HELP ME OUT I'M REAL CONFUSED LIKE HOW THIS PERSON IS ACTING AND SAYING THESE THINGS HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY OR WHAT IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO SAY? ansd i never know what he means it's like being married to you he was realy laughing and having a grin on his face when he said that. well srry about this long essay and thanx ever soo much 4 ur reply tke care! bye sweet facex
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The truth? I think he likes you...unless he's just goofy like that ALL the time.
But then again, this kid named Keshawnt in my school goes and says hes married to all the girls. He even says it to my art teacher. And he jokes around saying things like "I'm glad we got a divorce." "Or we need to work this out". It's really funny but the whole time he's kidding...so that's what this guy can be doing to you.
Watch him closely...do you like him? Does he send you hints? If he's getting red it seems like he's got "a thing" for you...but then again I get red and blush all the time, even when I don't like the person.
See, I'm stumped...because this sort of situation is a confusing one. But personally, I think he is trying to send you hints BIG TIME...but don't be too sure...yet.
If he's saying things like "you're such a sex symbol" and "no wonder why older guys prefer you more is because you are so attractive and nice/very mature and loving caring person" etc...that sounds like a hint to me...
Just have fun with him a little. Go along with what he says and have fun, and then maybe soon you'll find out what's going on.
For example: if he goes and says something about you two being married, go along with it for a few days and then one day just casually ask "Why do we do this anyway?" and laugh. This could let you know the truth on why he does these things...and the laugh could lighten the mood.
He seems like a very kind guy...(saying "hi" to you, asking how you are, etc.)
He may seem embarassing...but people have totally different ways of expressing themselves with other people. Like you said, you two are pretty good friends...so just have fun with him as a friend and casually drop things into the conversation. If you like him, flirt with him a little...but not TOO MUCH. Just keep it on a low level to where you're still friends...not "almost a couple"
I'm sorry if this isn't making ANY sense at all.
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~Flirt a little like he does with you
~Talk to him more
~Go along with things he says and jokes about for a little while
~Every once in a while casually drop things into the conversation.
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I REALLY hope this helped. Ask me another question if you want to...and I'll try to help more. Also, keep me updated...I'd like to know how it goes. You can ask me another question on advicenators, email, or instant message me.
~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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my auntie died 2 years ago of cancer and i grew to know just as she was dieing and every time i see things of hers or i photo of her i start crying because i reminds me of the day she died i saw her dead on the bed i did not know she died and i walked into the room and everyone else was there please help how can i get the picture out of my head i hate the picture please help me (link)
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Pray...about her. About things that bother you. Think about things you love, and memories with your auntie. Not many people actually witness one of their loved ones dead...but it's okay. Just think of heaven...talk to her in your prayers...it's possible.
~GL~
*hug*
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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I like to eat the crumbs, and small ones first, even if I have to dig deep in the bag. Sometimes, I dump them out to get to the small ones. People think I'm weird. Am I? (link)
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I wish we could live in a world where people aren't judged by how they eat their chips...but...that's just me.
No...you not weird -- me weird.
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my partner and i love our sex life, but she won't give me head like she used to. before she would try to deepthroat all the time and now she only sucks enough of it to shut me up. how can i bring out the animal that she usd to be? (link)
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Don't always EXPECT things...
And respect her a little...give her time. A relationship isnt all about that crap.
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me and my m8 are both meeting up wt our bfz on Friday nite and they wanna finger us. this is our 1st time bein fingered. How is it menna b down below, hair,shaved!? AND wot are you menna do wen they r doin it 2 u? pull/make noises??? is it menna b wet or dry plz help !!!!
b4 friday!!!! thanx xxx (link)
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um....and HOW old are you? You might want to mention that next time.....because age matters. You might be too young...we dont know....
nasty...
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I'm 13 and I found a dildo in my moms dresser a couple of months ago, since then I've fingered myself every day. Is that normal? (link)
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Well you didn't use your MOM'S dildo did you? I'm not saying that she has a disease or anything...but you never know. So DO NOT use hers if you plan on using one.
Well...I DON'T finger myself but I know your just curious, as am I when it comes to puberty, sex, and relationships or something like that. I'm not quite sure if it's normal for a 13 year old to finger themself, but then again it's not REALLY BAD or anything like that. Just be careful. WASH YOUR HANDS AFTER...Fingering yourself is better then actually participating in a sexual activity with a partner...do you see what I'm saying? So just do what feels right?
Do you feel it's okay to finger yourself after seeing what your mother had in her dresser? Because just because your mom does it doesn't mean it's okay for you to do it. I don't mean with fingering yourself either...it's okay to do that if you really want to. So don't worry...it's nothing BAD...but don't go overboard.
from,
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2years ago my mum went on hoilday and left me at home with her bf. one night ewarly in the morning i heard my bedroom door open when i leend over to see it was her bf in a shirt and undies. i screamed and he shouted sorry and slamed the door but i new it wasnt a dream coz you have to lift the door to shut it. I was so scared . now i lock my bedroom door and cart sleep i have to fall alsleep to the tv. last night he was at my door saying he didnt no who to go to bed with me or my mum how sick i cart tell my mum i no ur goin to say i much but i dont no what to do i have a bf but i cart talk to him hes older and lives in london he said i could go live with him but i dont have the cash i wanna get out of here i cart stay with my dad coz he died when i was young help (link)
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I edited this answer because I misunderstood the question...
Anyway, this is NOT good. You never know what could go on in situations like this. If this guy said these things to you, then YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR MOM. Pretty soon she may be marrying him for all you know.
If anything gets worse call teh police and then tell your mom. Or tell your mom and let her deal with it.
Don't go live with your boyfriend in London. You have no idea what you're doing, (because by the way you type you seem young). AND THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO TELL YOUR MOM!!! You don't want her going out, let alone ACTUALLY MARRYING THIS PERVERT SOMEDAY!
Even if he's changed for the better since that night...STILL TELL YOUR MOM! This really isn't good. If you're ever alone with him again, KEEP A PHONE IN EVERY ROOM. But I expect after you reading this you will tell your mom. It's really important you do this. Not just for you, but for her too. Trust me, it's for the best.
A guy like this may rape you, become abusive, or take advantage of you or your mother. DO NOT CONFRONT HIM ALONE. You may make him angry and get him started with something.
Tell your mom.
~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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I have a biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig butt. Every guy just stares as i walk into the room because my butt is sooooo big. I don't want people to see me as a small waist and a big butt. Please tell me how to make my butt appear smaller
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Wear black...it's clingy.
Watch what you eat~
As they say~ A moment on the lips
A life time on the hips...
I don't have a HUGE BUTT...but I am skinny and I am rather uncomfortable with my thighs and butt. They aren't like totally fat or anything...but I just wish they were a little smaller too.
I know what you mean...but just limit yourself when it comes to junk...most junk goes right to the thighs, butt, or hips...just eat more healthy things and if you have any urges to go for that extra icecream bar...just say no.
~GL~
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Is it bad to have wet dreams? (link)
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Puberty...
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Toady I had my first kiss with my boyfriend. I guess I kinda wanted to do it but I wasn't 100% comfortable. I thought it would be really great but now I think that it was totally horrible. And to make it worse my friend got online afterwards and told his I liked it...ew. What should I do, I dont want to break up with him...maybe i do...oh i dont know! Help! (link)
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I just answered your other question...BUT DON'T BREAK UP WITH HIM BECAUSE OF A KISS. It will get better, and if it doesn't just do what you think feels more comfortable.
But I've never kissed anybody yet but it's almost a fact that first kisses (whether your FIRST one or your FIRST ONE WITH A NEW PERSON) can go very wrong.
Just give the boy a chance...don't judge your relationship because of a first kiss...if thats the only reason you want to break up with him then DONT...just give him a chance...
~GL~
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I was the one who wrote "First Kiss Gone Wrong" I have had time to think about it and I really don't want to have a boyfriend right now. *Peter* is really nice but I just don't really want to be with him anymore. If I break up with him everyone at school will say, "I told you so!" Because they all made bets on how long we would last the first day we were together. I don't want to have to be the one to break up with him but I will if I get really unhappy. HOw can I 'make' him break up with me? (link)
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Tell him all the important things you just told us...(except leave out the bet)
Just be honest...and say you really like him but there's too much going on right now. It's the best way...don't lead him on just so you can make your friends happy. The words "I told you so" don't hurt as much as the words dont hurt as much as you think they do.
The words "This isn't working out" are best taken when the relationship hasn't been too long...so what I'm saying like I said before is DONT LEAD HIM ON. Do what you feel is right.
~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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At school, there is always someone who makes fun of me.. Because of how I dress and how I act, and just because I like a certains tyle of music.
This kid always says you're a freak, and whyd o you ahve black nails, and one kid said that I should dress like this, because its cool, not hwo I dress, and I was liek whys hould it matter how I dress... sheesh, and he just kept saying it and syaing it.. and I dont have a question, Im sorry.. unless you guys wanna know, i cana dd some things.. Just im me or e-mail me! (link)
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Hey...don't worry about what other people think of you. I know it's hard to block these sort of things out...but in reality, they're the IMMATURE ones if they waste their time coming up to people they supposedly "don't like" and make fun of them like they do. I know you probably hear this all the time...but it's the truth.
Everybody is made fun of at some point...I am too...but it's come to the point where I HONESTLY don't give a crap anymore. People are going to talk...no matter what you do...
Even the people who are MADE FUN of are going to talk...do you get what I mean? It's nothing you can control...it's out of your hands. As long as you are GOOD TO PEOPLE while you're being YOURSELF you'll get what you deserve (WHICH IS GOOD)...
In my old school...I wasn't made fun of for how I looked, how I dressed, or what I liked...do you know what I was made fun of for?? BECAUSE I DIDN'T TALK TO MOST OF THEM. I had a few friends who I could talk to...and a few friends that I didn't talk to (but I think they understood). But see the thing is...it wasnt because I didn't want to talk to people....I just couldn't help it at all. People still made fun of me. It hurt...and I used to run up to my room and cry for hours and if I talked to any of the "popular" people online they would start fights with me...
I USED to cry...I still do sometimes about these situations...but not to an EXTREME...I let it all go. You know what really gets them angry...when they make fun of you and YOU DON'T CRY...do you understand? They WANT you to cry...but don't.
Think positive thoughts and just smile...or give a Im-better-than-you SMILE...and don't say anything, but turn and walk away...that will get them so mad without even doing anything wrong. It's better then punching someone out because they cant do anything about a SMILE...but they will get frustrated and at first they may call you some names (but then again they might not).
So just remember: Two wrongs don't make a right
But smile-it's better then a fight
WOW! I just made that up on the spot...simple and to the point lol
~GL~
YOu need any more advice email me kay?
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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Did you see where my sanity went? I need to catch it and sacrivice it to the Gods of Randomness. (link)
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It's...stuck in your chocolate milk...
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at my school dance i was dancing with this guy named sean he is really nice then we started to freak dance. i knw that is worng but i think he likes me also does he? (link)
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That happens all the time in my school...it doesn't mean he necessarily likes you (not to be mean). But really though...if he's a jerk move on, because freak dancing doesn't mean somebody automatically likes you..it just means they want to have a little fun...or whatever.
But if YOU think HE likes you than ask him...that's really the only way to find out.
~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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