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im 16 and ive had depression for about 6 months and it has just gotten gradually worse. I have been seeing a therapist once a week for about the past 4 months and now she said that i should try anti depressants. my mom called another doctor who can presribe me the medication but im not sure when my appointment or if the doctor called back. Im really scared about taking the meds. but im at the point where I just want to be happy again. Ive been looking up on the internet about the medication and it says some of the side affects is weight gain. I really dont want to gain weight since im self concious to begin with. Are all anti depressents commonly diagnosed to teens have this side affect? if it comes down to it i dont know what i should choose... be happy and gain weight.. or be sad and stay the same
this is all too much for me to handle
advice is needed ! (link)
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The problem is you're seeing a therapist rather than a psychiatrist who knows whether you need certain medication and how to combat your illness so you feel in control and are happy and healthy.
The therapist has NO medical diploma, is not a doctor and doesn't know how anti-depressants work and what would be right for you. I would take her recommendation about anti-depressants with a grain of salt and see a psychiatrist who will assess your condition and come up with a plan.
A psychiatrist is the only person who should prescribe these drugs to you and not a family doctor as they prescribe medication without being a specialist and knowing how it works and or could be detrimental.
You need to document what has been happening in a journal and bring it to your appointment with your family doctor and how miserable you are. Ask him/her for a referral to a psychiatrist for an assessment and further support.
Don't be scared about taking the medication. As long as a psychiatrist prescribed it you'll be fine and on the road to feeling happier believe me. All this advice comes from personal experience with mental illness and treatment. The drugs won't harm you but will make you better in most cases.
Some anti-depressants do cause minor weight gain and increased appetite but it's worth it compared to being bloody miserable. You also can't mess around with your health here and need medical treatment.
Each drug has different side effects all of which can be told to you by the doctor before prescribing them as there's tips and ways to handle them so they have minimal effect on your day to day life.
Definitely see your family doctor and then a psychiatrist to assess your problems and depression. The therapist is trying to be of assistance but anyone without a medical degree or who treats depression should not be recommending any kind of drug to you much less anti-depressants.
You may in fact not need them but wind up on them based on her recommendation and doubt from that. See a mental health specialist and then go from there in dealing with this issue. You'll know for sure what the diagnosis really is or isn't.
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my friend(i grew up with and best friends on and off) and I liked eachother off and on but never did anything about it-one time he crushed me now i dont trust people and in depression-I cant stay mad at him-were on spring break and hes gone half across the country-weve exting eachother recently which we never have before. hes all i want to talk to and i think about-he worst two possible things to happen right now is loose him as a friend again OR not do anything and then we move-im hurt either way-he says it gets awkward now that he nos I like him back-hes shy when it comes to girls although hes never been shy around me-last time we lost being friends I couldn’t take it my life was hell whats the right way…? In real life hes usually the one doin the flirting face to face but I do too but over texting or phone he barley talks what can I do he comes back Saturday and we go back the Monday and I doubt he can do anything Saturday. Over texting i asked him to come to the mall when he gets back but he says it smells weird(wtf?) so he don’t like it or go somewere but not sure were or go to either of our houses but last time I had 2 girls and him over for new years and my brother had a lot of people and he ignored me he AVOIDED me when I would come over to him. He had a excuse for last time I invited him over I don’t wana loose our friendship but I love him and his best friend says he loves me but when I mention anything he says he doesn’t anymore what can I dooo? (link)
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You need to ask yourself if this person and the situation is right for you to pursue it further? Why is he avoiding you? It could be that he's very shy and on to the fact you like him more than a friend.
Maybe he doesn't know how to deal with your feelings and his. Maybe this is the first time he's ever been here with a girl. He looks like he's just scared and downright shy and or intimidated by you now that you both see each other differently.
I think you should approach him and ask "Why have you been avoiding me?" and get a straight forward answer out of him. Tell him you want to keep your friendship going and don't want to lose it but that he has to put effort in too.
Lay everything on the table and tell him there's potential here for a boy/girl relationship but only if he's ready and willing to trust you. That's the key thing he doesn't know how to trust you or have trust in what could unfold. You need to make sure you don't come across as intimidating to him as right now he doesn't know how to talk to or approach you. Make it easier on him.
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So, in my family, mainly everyone is Catholic.
I feel like an outsider because I just recently had an epiphany that the Christian faith, and religion in general, just isn't for me...
Well, I told my family that I still believed in God, but I didn't believe in religion because I believed in simplicity and don't really like fundamentalism.
I don't like how priests, popes, bishops, .etc speak for God. It just doesn't seem right. I also don't like it when we all come home from Church and my parents are talking about what the priest said during the homily, or something like that, but they never ever say what God said at Church.
I just feel really tied down and confused right now.
I told them about this and they totally flipped out. They gave me the whole, "While you live under this roof, you'll believe what we believe" lecture.
What should I do? I feel as though I should be given at least a little portion of freedom.
I'm just so confused right now. (link)
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Sometimes those who say they are Christian act nothing at all like it. Would a real Christian, priest, bishop or anyone for that matter force you to believe something you don't feel comfortable with? That's not right and against Jesus's teachings in my mind when it comes to passing judgment. That's my opinion though.
My recommendation is to silently worship God if you choose to in whatever faith you want or not at all and keep your beliefs to yourself so as not to cause strife at home. It's silly and down right dumb to get into a fight over what you believe and or to defend it to others.
If you're really smart I would talk to those priests, bishops, teachers in catholic school and tell them what you believe. They won't agree with it but you'll find they won't judge either. They should talk to your parents about freedom of religion at any age.
Your parents have no right to tell you how to worship God or what to believe whether you live under their roof or not. Keep searching for what you feel is right for you not for what would please them or get them to shut up about what they think.
The thing is (it's not true of all but some) that fundamentalists can only see their view of their religion and everything else as wrong and they try to force their beliefs on others. In your case this is very true.
I would hold your own beliefs and not talk any further about religion with them as you can't win an argument with people who won't see.
You won't go to hell or have something dreadful happen either for turning away from something you feel isn't right. At least you can question what you're taught and stand for something you believe is right.
Your parents can't control the thoughts in your head and nor should they try to or impose their will. If you were doing something or believing something harmful (cult) it's a different matter.
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what are some funny movies to watch with a group of boys and girls?
not somthing like superbad that could be awkward with guys around
thanks so much! (link)
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Try National Lampoon's Vacation. It's the ultimate road trip movie. The Griswald's go on a vacation from hell as they go cross country to get to the Wallyworld theme park. Stars Chevy Chase, John Candy, Eugene Levy. Dan in Real Life is decent. Bee Movie is okay too. They just hit the street on DVD.
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I know because Im Fourteen Im not saposed to have sex, and I dont Im still 100% virgin but everyone seems to be doing it, and its weird because I stayed back and there all younger then me and not virgins.. when is the average of losing it and Ive been offered.. a couple times with some VERY hot guys but I said no which Im very proud of but because i keep saying now am I not interested in guys? (link)
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When your friends make a mistake and get pregnant through their recklessness you'll know you made the right choice. You will have waited for the right person. You're not missing out by waiting as you've got the rest of your life to experience sex.
They're rushing in to it and will in the very end regret some of the decisions they made. Does this mean you're not interested in guys because you turned down sex a few times? The answer is no. You're just not interested in those guys but are interested in finding the right person.
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13/f 8th grade
Ok I have a crush on this guy. I've only talked to him like once or twice. I want him to notice me more or have him talk to me. Ok I am unpopular and he is popular. I know that doesn't matter much but you know, its harder that way. So anyways I hardly talk to anyone except friends. Well I do talk to other people but only when they talk to me. But I am working on that. But its like they label you for life as the shy quiet girl who hardly talks. I mean I don't even know if there is hope for me with a guy. I have had only one boyfriend and thats it. Should I even try for the guy? And just have a crush on him and just try and focus on something else? Or should I do something else? Also its pretty hard to talk to him since I have only 2 classes with him and one is History and the other is PE. So please help me out. I feel like I'm not worth anyones time because guys would never want to go out with me. I don't think I'm that ugly but I'm not gorgeous. And I'm not super skinny. So please help me. Thanks. (link)
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Whether you should try to go out with him is something only you can determine. If the situation seems right and he's a nice guy worthy of you than go for it. One way to find out if he's interested is to introduce yourself and ask if he wants to attend your party or hang with you and your friends.
Slip him a piece of paper with e-mail or IM details then wait to see what his response is. You can tell right then without directly asking him out if there's any hope of a friendship or relationship.
You have to treat talking to this guy like you would a family member or friend. He's no different at all and the same can be said for talking to anyone period. Pretend you are the president of the united states giving a speech or saying something that is important to people in your mind. Then say it with confidence like the president would. That will help you greatly.
Next, pardon my french everyone--a curse word is warranted and here's why. What's this shit you've been believing about being unimportant and unworthy of his or anyone else's time? Where was that rubbish learned? You have to let go of it to be able to move on.
You don't have to be the shy, quiet girl that nobody knows or talks to. Don't be a prisoner to that nonsense. Be free to say what you want or join in with others. Just do it and employ my tactic above of how to speak to others confidently.
Do yourself an enormous favor and join student council or drama club. Why? It forces you to talk and converse as well as handle other people. You'll make lots of friends that way.
Stop thinking of yourself as ugly, not pretty and certainly nobody that others care about. Just be you and let the chips fall where they may. Also, go about thinking that there's no cliques as that's how to infiltrate them if you show that you aren't afraid of approaching them and aren't about to kiss their butt because they think they're above you. Be yourself, honest and you'll do just fine.
If you like this guy get to know him like I illustrated above and when the time comes just ask what he thinks of you. You have to see yourself as a winner and worthy of the right guy as to someone you're their number one match. You have it going on if you just relax and put away fears and wrong thinking about yourself.
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I am 14 and my dad and I dont see eye to eye. It seems like he never wants me around and is mean to me and never seems to want to do any thing with me. I want to have a good relationship with my dad, but he doesn't seem to like me and that hurts. For example he had three tickets to a nuggets game one time took my little brother who is his favorite and sold the other ticket with out even inviting me to go. I have never done anything with my dad just 1 one 1. It hurts and it makes me sad when I hear about how my friends get along with there dads and eveything. Whenthey ask me about what my dad and I do I always have to lie because I am emmbarressed and I dont want people to know about that. What can I do to have a healthier relationship with my dad. I dont like being at home because he calls me names and always points out my flaws and is making my brother the king because he is a smarter kid than me and next year is goong up to hs for math and is going to be in my class and hemakes fun about that (link)
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You never mentioned whether you are female or not. That matters a lot. If you're a teenage girl perhaps he's uncomfortable and doesn't know how to deal with how your body has changed, adolescence or how to relate to you. Look and see how well he relates to your mom or doesn't as it will show whether he relates well to women period.
He might relate to your sibling better than you as he's of the same sex and your dad knows what being a boy is all about. If you're male than I'm not sure why exactly he acts this way.
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel in a situation where it isn't hostile. Perhaps showing him the question you wrote us will start a dialogue. Maybe he has no idea how what he's doing is perceived by you.
Talk to your mother about it and him and try to get some family counseling so you can prepare the damage and get to understand each other. Over time your relationship will become better if both agree to work on it.
The biggest mistake you made was with the basketball game. You should have told him how interested you were in going. Maybe he sold the other ticket thinking it just wasn't something you would enjoy. show him what you wrote as I'm sure that will spark something good.
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there is this girl in my class that I really like and we have a lot in common. When it comes to girls I am hope less I need serious help because if I dont get some I will be single for the rest of my life and that would suck. Have any thing I could iseto get the girl I want (link)
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Stop thinking of yourself as hopeless. People can pick up very easily on someone's lack of confidence. Start thinking of yourself as a winner as that's attractive and what you are whether you know this or not. You won't be single for the rest of your life either if you stop believing you will be.
Listen, you're just as attractive and as good a mate than the other guy. Start believing it and go and approach her and introduce yourself. Invite her to a party or to hang out with friends. See what happens from there. It's not rocket science which is what you're believing this to be.
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im kind of scared for sex ed because i think it will be embarassing especially learning about it with guys... and im really not looking forward to it. i think it will be akward. is this normal? and can you please share your experiences? (link)
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EVERYONE is embarrassed no more so than the teacher who has to keep everyone under control and teach 20-30 kids about sex in an open, honest environment. They're sweating up there just like you are.
My advice? Write a note (anonymously) and slip it into the question box when everyone else is and tell the teacher straight up "I'm a girl but this could go double for the guys too.
"I find it hard and embarrassing to learn about or ask questions about sex in an environment with members of the opposite sex. What can you do to me make me another guys/girls comfortable?"
That right there will garner an answer and make the teacher think of how to make the subject matter less intimidating, awkward or overwhelming.
Maybe, they would divide the class up between a male teacher for the guys and female for the girls.
Your instructor needs feedback to know what is and isn't working in a class. The last thing they want you to think about sexuality is that it's gross--which it isn't.
I found as a kid your age that if I focused on what was being taught and listened and blocked out what anyone else beside me was doing I could get through it. Even if the person beside me fainted I would be focused on the instructor only and then write my question and go.
This class is also great in many ways that you can talk to your friends about what you are learning and see that they have the same questions, concerns and learn that it's all normal. That's the benefit of getting both boys/girls together to learn and understand each's experience.
Try my idea as that will get the teacher's attention. He/she won't know you wrote it. Go into detail about how certain things done or said during class is causing you to feel weirded out and awkward with boys sitting there.
You might just have their sympathy and an open ear. Trust me, they aren't sitting there analyzing handwriting on the questions or letter.
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I know to many of you this may sound strange and perhaps disturbing. It did to me too when i first started college... but now -I'm almost done and starting my masters dissertations in summer- I'm beginning to ponder on the thought....
I am not the first one to actually be willing to go through with this. And though those who've done so far remain a fraction of a tiny percent compared to those who oppose it, there is considerably more than a hundred cases that I'v witness...
My university allows student/professor relationship granted that the student is not taking a course by that professor.
I'm kind of interested in one of my professors. He's a little bit older but he has the sexiest mind and the sweetest personality. I know he's not married... and I know he's straight. Obviously i know what his subject of interest is (and thank god it happens to be my area too)...
I wanted to try and establish grounds of interest between the two of us without becoming a nuisance-causing puppy with a crush...
thing is i am afraid after classes end I won't be seeing him much if at all. So I'd like to drop the hint before term is over and see what he thinks.
how do i go about without sounding foolish or absurd...any ideas? (link)
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ADDITIONAL INFO: The only other way to keep you from coming back to this issue with him again next year is to think of him as TOXIC and damaging to your life, health, welfare and that your feelings for him will be toxic to you if you keep it up or act on them. Associate him with something extremely negative and it should be easier.
ORIGINAL:
To be blunt you probably aren't even on his radar screen. He knows the rule about dating students as well as you do. Even though you aren't currently his student him dating one will still reflect negatively on him with faculty and student population.
There's no way to discreetly date him without it being known. I think it would be a mistake to approach him at all. I know you don't want to hear that but it's reality as I see it. I have a feeling he will reject your advances, distance himself from you, and people will find out about it.
I think the reason you want to be with despite his qualities and attributes is the fact that he's this unobtainable type with an element of danger attached because of the rule. It's just a crush and it's okay to have one but it's not appropriate to act on it. In any other environment go for it but not at school. Too controversial and he likely won't risk it.
You should settle on friendship and a common interest in the same subject that does not extend outside of school. Although you said he was a little bit older that doesn't give me anything to go on in terms of age.
You have to be aware that the world of a 20-year-old versus that of a 30-year-old or 40-year-old is very different. You would be exposing yourself to a lot of things you might not be ready to experience so early in life with him.
Bottom line: What would mom and dad think about this? If you think they would be against it trust that instinct as a lot of people would be upset with you at school, outside of it etc. as they would with him rule or no rule over the fact you were a student at his school or former student. Best to keep this a crush and not act.
There's no way not to come across as a nuisance and puppy-dog to him if you approach him or act on this further. He's probably had to put several former students in their place about where he stands on this rule.
If you did approach him about it do it in a hypothetical question to guage what he thinks about students dating former profs. and the rule. You'll see if he's receptive and if he's not you can at least close the book on it with dignity intact.
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lately i havent been happy and i've been stressed and a bit depressed cause im moving in June and leaving my bf who i love and all my friends. im kinda excited to start my new life and i have a couple friends there (my one bff from when i used to live there said she will introduce me as well) but i keep eating! i have done this before but i dont want to get fat!! i always want to go to the store and buy cookies and stuff and at ome i will just keep eating for like an hour straight! what should i do?
also for this summer besides running what are some great ways to tone my thighs and butt and flatten my stomach? thanks! i will rate :) (link)
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The feelings you are having are quite understandable and normal for anyone in this situation. The problem is really about fear and uncertainty of the new situation because it's something you have no control over. You want people to like you etc. and a smooth transition.
It's okay to be worked up about that. What's not okay is for you to keep it bottled up and not share those feelings with others. You need to keep a journal, talk to friends, family etc about how you are feeling. Right now, you are bottling everything inside and turning to over-eating and other self-destructive behavior as an outlet for that.
In order to stop this habit you should do two things. Ask your family not to purchase junk foods or at the very least hide them where you can't find them and let them give you what they feel is a healthy portion of dessert, chips etc. and cut you off when you've had too much. It's drastic but works.
Next, see your doctor for a referral to a nutritionist or a have him/her monitor your weight and put you on a proper diet that won't fail you. Next, start walking or jogging 30 mins- 1 hr a day and ask the doctor for other exercises you should be doing.
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ok so im 16 and i kinda like this guy that likes me back and he's been asking me to hang out and stuff but i have just been really busy lately but im not like blowing him off i think he knows that i am interested. but should i ask him to hang out this weekend or just wait and see if he asks me again? (link)
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Ask him if he would be interested in joining you and some friends at the mall, movies etc. See what he says. Explain that you weren't blowing him off and hate people that do that to you. He'll understand and I'm sure judging from what you wrote he'll be happy to go.
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Let's start off with the fact that i love to act, i've been in over 15 shows, but recently i was performing Romeo and Juliet, and i got the role of Juliet. Well the guy who was Romeo was kind of a nerd and i didn't want to kiss him on stage at all, but after going threw that scene where i kissed him i kind of liked it. Later in rehearsals and cast parties we started to hang out and we flirted a lot! And i started to really like him. So i went to his best friend and told her that i liked him and asked if he might like be back, but she flicked me off and told me that she was in love with him and that he probably hated me. Do you think i have the right to be mad at her and keep flirting with him or should i just stop liking him? (link)
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Why be mad at her? That would be a complete waste of your time. Maybe she's just protecting him or she just wants him for herself. Can you fault her for that and using her claws to get you to back off? You would likely do the same.
What should you do? Approach the guy on your own terms and tell him you weren't sure whether he was flirting or being friendly. See what he says and tell him you're interested in him. Don't rely on other people like this girl because they all have their own loyalties and agenda.
To know where you truly stand you need to go after the source himself. If you were flirting and he showed that he liked you or got along with you than you stand a chance. This girl knows that so she's trying to knock you out of the picture. She's the last one to trust.
Go talk to him and forget about her. Let the chips fall where they may and at least you'll know whether he's in to you or not. All she wants to do is eliminate you as a threat to getting the guy she wants. That's all there is to it. Why be mad at her? Her reaction is natural as she sees you as a threat to what she longs for also.
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im going to the avril lavigne and boys like girls concert and i wanted to know if anyone that already went to it knows some of the songs they sing
get back to me if u can thanks! (link)
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Here's the set-list for March 5th, 2008 in Victoria, B.C. She's not expected to change it much for the rest of the tour. If she does it's to shuffle the order and allow for a few new arrangements in.
As for the other group try Google with their name and the date of one of the concerts with the word set list in the query and something should pop up.
Concert set list:
1. Girlfriend
2. I Can Do Better
3. Complicated
4. My Happy Ending
5. I’m With You
6. I Always Get What I Want
7. When You’re Gone
8. Innocence
9. Give it Up
10. Hot
11. Losing My Grip
12. Bad Reputation (video)
13. Everything Back But You
14. Runaway
15. Mickey
16. The Best Damn Thing
17. I Don’t Have to Try
18. He Wasn’t
19. Boyfriend (remix)
20. Sk8er Boi
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okay, so a couple weeks ago i was with my bf and everything and he was fingering me (we've done this multiple times so it was nothin new) and he made it feel really good. i mean, he he was doin a great job and everything, but the funny thing was i started crying! he asked me if he did anything wrong and i said i had no idea why i was!
it was such and awkward moment, but if it felt good and it didn't hurt at all, why did i start crying? (link)
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Nothing is wrong and neither you nor him should be embarrassed or concerned. The article I'm linking you to explains that it's just pent up energy and emotion being released during orgasm. Some people produce tears and some don't. Pretty common. It could also be hormonal too.
One article I read mentioned that if you've just lost a relationship and started a new one that you may be "grieving" and that the tears stem from that as the orgasm reminds you of being with your other partner. That was written by sex therapist on a women's health site.
All it is is your body's way of releasing all that tension. Why did it happen now rather than before? Perhaps it was more intense this time than before. Just a thought. But do read this as it explains a lot of the reasons why.
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drpatti_91n,00.html
I would also do a Google search as there's scores and scores of articles about this that will ease your mind. If you start crying again both of you can laugh and know it's okay. Which leads me to my next point it's also common for some women not to cry but to start laughter after/during orgasm. It's all about our bodies way to release all the pent up energy.
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I'm in 8th grade and I'm going to high school soon and I know there is tennis there but I have no experience and I really want to try it. I don't know where I can look where it won't be too expensive to learn. Oh by the way I'm 13 and a girl. Well I want to learn how to play. So if anyone has any advice for me thanks so much! (link)
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Your town or city should have a Parks and Recreation department. To find it search online or in the blue pages of your phone book. They should have a list of courses that are being available to kids, teens adult in the spring, summer and fall.
While it may not be 100% free you should be able to afford it. More often then not there's usually beginner and intermediate tennis programs on offer. You should also do a google search and see if there any camps for kids, teens for tennis in your area or those offering lessons that aren't expensive.
Do you know anybody at school who plays? If so you could always strike up a deal with them for instruction. Talk to your gym teacher about your desire to play because he/she may have some answers for you or at least an idea of how to get started on your own.
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this girl who ive never met before just started a bunch of crap with me and a few people. its getting to the point where its going to have to be handled in person.
i'm into kickboxing classes, so i know how to punch pretty hard.
bottom line is, if it gets down to the point where needed, i will punch this girl in the face.
please dont preach how violence isnt the answer
but just a few questions
1. how much trouble can i get in?
2. i dont want to like hurt her permanently, but like a nice bruise or something would be good, so how would i go about doing that?
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ADDITIONAL INFO: How could I possibly forget this tidbit. If you hit someone unprovoked or even if they said something to you without them hitting you first the police can be brought in by the school to lay assault charges.
ORIGINAL:
Your kickboxing teacher has been teaching you not to use what you know unless someone strikes you first. If she hits you than by all means strike back to defend yourself.
If she's just talking trash and you strike her for it you're the bad guy. You can count on a suspension then and other disciplinary actions even if she had been bullying you relentlessly. It won't matter a damn if you hit her first before she hits you.
As tempting as it is wait until she gets physical first. You then will have ground to defend yourself and will not wind up in trouble. If they suspend you for defending yourself it's really a joke and badge of honor. No matter what anyone tells you to the contrary if someone hits you first fire back. That's the only appropriate time to hit someone.
Your kickboxing teacher wouldn't approve of you hitting someone first. What should you do? document every time she's caused you trouble in a book be it over the phone or not and see if the admin and your teachers, parents can handle it first.
If they cannot show this girl that you don't give a damn about what she has to say about you period. Don't react to her at all and she should get tired of trying to make you her target. She has more problems than you do believe me. She's likely jealous because loads of people like you or you have a talent or status she wished she had.
it would be wrong for any of us to tell you how to bruise her face up pretty good. I'm sure if you had to hit her you'd know how to do it based on your training. But, as I said unless she hits you first you can't get away with it.
Your kickboxing skills come with the responsibility of knowing when not to use them. It's not time yet with this person unless she's hit you.
If it comes to dumping her on her butt to defend yourself use what you've been taught in the gym and let the chips fall where they may. I'm not trying to contradict myself but if knocking her down is the only way to get her to stop after telling adults, trying to resolve it correctly you can use your weight and enough force to knock her down without punches and kicks.
That would cause her to think twice. Instead of punching, kicking try shoving or using a non-violent way that doesn't involve strikes, kicks, punches to put her on the seat of her pants provided you have a lot of justification beyond taunts and verbal stuff you don't like.
More or less the admin, teachers et. will see you as the bad guy and regardless of what this girl said or started unless she hit you they'll take her side in this. Document what is happening and have adults deal with it. When that fails then resort to whatever else you have to employ.
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is it true that if you masterbate using the bath tub focet its bad for you? (link)
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TAKEN AND QUOTED DIRECTLY FROM SACRLETEEN.COM
QUOTE STARTS HERE. " The pressure from a shower stream or a bathtub facet is not forceful enough to cause any damage to the genitals. Water is harmless. Using shower spray for masturbation is no more harmful than simply cleaning your genitals during a bath.
Just make sure to only use water. Soap, bubble baths and body washes can irritate your genitals and urethra and result in urinary tract infections. You'd know if soap got into your urethra: it BURNS! Other than that, if it's just water, then you'll be fine.
LINK TO THE ABOVE QUOTE: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/can_i_use_the_shower_head
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well like ive had a fever of 100.3-100.8 everyday for almost the past three weeks. i feel perfectly fine, but i dont understand why i keep having a fever. and it changes all the time. and this morning i woke up not feeling well and i took my temperature and it was normal. i dont understand why i have a fever when i feel fine but when i dont its normal. can anybody tell me whats wrong?and ive had a low grade fever since december and so i went to the doctor and told them about it and it was normal then so they didnt do anything about it and i want to know whats going on. (link)
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I would get a new doctor pronto and a second opinion. Having a fever of 103 or even 100.8 everyday for three works is not mine nor anyone's idea of normal. If this has been going on since December with lower grades of the same problem than something isn't right at all.
In this case it might be a good idea or for that matter the only choice to visit an emergency room. Tell them what you told us and let them tell you what needs to be addressed. There isn't anything normal about feeling like this and a doctor having you're A-1 when you're not. Better see an emergency room to be safe and get it in check. Ditch your current doctor especially if they say something is wrong.
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i took a test for bipolar and another for depression online. the bipolar one was positive and depressions one was severe depression. i went to the doctor today but was to afraid to ask so i didnt. i really want to get checked out i need to.
my mom is against me and against my friends how we dress and are very outgoing we just have fun. outa my friends im the worst, i always wear black i just feel like a total hypacrite if i dont and im unhappy and feel like shit all if i dont wear black. my friends are not like this but shes against them saying they turned me like this. ive ben like this since beginning of 6th grade then i lost all my old friends they were just bitches to me. Then i made these new friends i love so much and they understand me but my mom hates them. if i ask her for me to get tested shed go off to me about them and thats when i just loose it we start screaming. thats the one thing if you make fun of me aout, your dead. so i cant ask my mom but ill ask the doctor. but i chickend out she brought me to the doctor because im having really bad stomach and head aches and just feel like shit. how can i ask the doctor, i was just gona ask directly today but i just started crying so i didnt. ive ben planning to ask since 6th grade its now the end of 8th and its getting so much worse.
i went to a retreat this weekend and some people told their stories and most had to do with depression and how it screwed up their life. i made 2 really good friends, one was a junior a guy he was hit with severe depression in 8th grade and he could tell something was wrong with me the face i made so he was just hugging me alot and helped so much. one was freshman girl didnt give a speech but helped me by talking. this gave me the courage to go to the docter but i couldnt ask i just told them the symtoms of depression i felt but never said depression or bipolar or anything i couldnt.
what do i do? im 14/f very long sorry (link)
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There's nothing anywhere in what you wrote to remotely suggest you could be bipolar. A diagnosis of something so serious can only be done by a psychiatrist and definitely not by some online test. That test is total garbage and should not be taken as a serious medical diagnosis.
I'm bipolar so I know when a person is in trouble, crisis or possibly someone undiagnosed who has it. Unless you have feelings of elation alternating with depression, rapid thoughts, inability to sleep, dark thoughts, weird thinking or logic, one foot in reality and one not or delusional thoughts combined you aren't manic.
If anything you may be hypomanic which isn't dangerous unless delusion creeps in or weird thoughts Wikipedia puts it best as
"Hypomania (literally, below mania) is a mood state characterized by persistent and pervasive elated or irritable mood, and thoughts and behaviors that are consistent with such a mood state. It is distinguished from mania by the absence of psychotic symptoms and by its lower degree of impact on functioning. Hypomania is a feature of two mood disorders: bipolar II disorder and cyclothymia.[1] Though hypomanic people are often associated with bipolar disorder, it is in this state that many creative talents are in their most productive and successful mood."
You might be depressed but judging from what I know you don't have symptoms of a mental health issue. What you do have is a severe problem relating to your mother. You may need counseling for that. Talk to your teacher, guidance counselor, relatives, friend's parents about what can be done to fix it.
Also tell them about your feelings of being happy, sad and then back again so they can monitor you and see if you truly need professional help or not. But for now nothing you wrote suggests a mental problem as severe as bipolar. Trust me, having been hospitalized with it (twice) I can tell you that you can put that thought out of your mind.
As for your friend's horror stories do yourself a favor and stop listening to them because all they're doing is making you afraid of something you don't have.
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