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my dad
I am 14 and my dad and I dont see eye to eye. It seems like he never wants me around and is mean to me and never seems to want to do any thing with me. I want to have a good relationship with my dad, but he doesn't seem to like me and that hurts. For example he had three tickets to a nuggets game one time took my little brother who is his favorite and sold the other ticket with out even inviting me to go. I have never done anything with my dad just 1 one 1. It hurts and it makes me sad when I hear about how my friends get along with there dads and eveything. Whenthey ask me about what my dad and I do I always have to lie because I am emmbarressed and I dont want people to know about that. What can I do to have a healthier relationship with my dad. I dont like being at home because he calls me names and always points out my flaws and is making my brother the king because he is a smarter kid than me and next year is goong up to hs for math and is going to be in my class and hemakes fun about that
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You never mentioned whether you are female or not. That matters a lot. If you're a teenage girl perhaps he's uncomfortable and doesn't know how to deal with how your body has changed, adolescence or how to relate to you. Look and see how well he relates to your mom or doesn't as it will show whether he relates well to women period.
He might relate to your sibling better than you as he's of the same sex and your dad knows what being a boy is all about. If you're male than I'm not sure why exactly he acts this way.
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel in a situation where it isn't hostile. Perhaps showing him the question you wrote us will start a dialogue. Maybe he has no idea how what he's doing is perceived by you.
Talk to your mother about it and him and try to get some family counseling so you can prepare the damage and get to understand each other. Over time your relationship will become better if both agree to work on it.
The biggest mistake you made was with the basketball game. You should have told him how interested you were in going. Maybe he sold the other ticket thinking it just wasn't something you would enjoy. show him what you wrote as I'm sure that will spark something good.
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