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bipolar or depression and my mom makin it worse


Question Posted Monday March 3 2008, 4:13 pm

i took a test for bipolar and another for depression online. the bipolar one was positive and depressions one was severe depression. i went to the doctor today but was to afraid to ask so i didnt. i really want to get checked out i need to.
my mom is against me and against my friends how we dress and are very outgoing we just have fun. outa my friends im the worst, i always wear black i just feel like a total hypacrite if i dont and im unhappy and feel like shit all if i dont wear black. my friends are not like this but shes against them saying they turned me like this. ive ben like this since beginning of 6th grade then i lost all my old friends they were just bitches to me. Then i made these new friends i love so much and they understand me but my mom hates them. if i ask her for me to get tested shed go off to me about them and thats when i just loose it we start screaming. thats the one thing if you make fun of me aout, your dead. so i cant ask my mom but ill ask the doctor. but i chickend out she brought me to the doctor because im having really bad stomach and head aches and just feel like shit. how can i ask the doctor, i was just gona ask directly today but i just started crying so i didnt. ive ben planning to ask since 6th grade its now the end of 8th and its getting so much worse.
i went to a retreat this weekend and some people told their stories and most had to do with depression and how it screwed up their life. i made 2 really good friends, one was a junior a guy he was hit with severe depression in 8th grade and he could tell something was wrong with me the face i made so he was just hugging me alot and helped so much. one was freshman girl didnt give a speech but helped me by talking. this gave me the courage to go to the docter but i couldnt ask i just told them the symtoms of depression i felt but never said depression or bipolar or anything i couldnt.
what do i do? im 14/f very long sorry


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solidadvice4teens answered Monday March 3 2008, 10:51 pm:
There's nothing anywhere in what you wrote to remotely suggest you could be bipolar. A diagnosis of something so serious can only be done by a psychiatrist and definitely not by some online test. That test is total garbage and should not be taken as a serious medical diagnosis.

I'm bipolar so I know when a person is in trouble, crisis or possibly someone undiagnosed who has it. Unless you have feelings of elation alternating with depression, rapid thoughts, inability to sleep, dark thoughts, weird thinking or logic, one foot in reality and one not or delusional thoughts combined you aren't manic.

If anything you may be hypomanic which isn't dangerous unless delusion creeps in or weird thoughts Wikipedia puts it best as

"Hypomania (literally, below mania) is a mood state characterized by persistent and pervasive elated or irritable mood, and thoughts and behaviors that are consistent with such a mood state. It is distinguished from mania by the absence of psychotic symptoms and by its lower degree of impact on functioning. Hypomania is a feature of two mood disorders: bipolar II disorder and cyclothymia.[1] Though hypomanic people are often associated with bipolar disorder, it is in this state that many creative talents are in their most productive and successful mood."

You might be depressed but judging from what I know you don't have symptoms of a mental health issue. What you do have is a severe problem relating to your mother. You may need counseling for that. Talk to your teacher, guidance counselor, relatives, friend's parents about what can be done to fix it.

Also tell them about your feelings of being happy, sad and then back again so they can monitor you and see if you truly need professional help or not. But for now nothing you wrote suggests a mental problem as severe as bipolar. Trust me, having been hospitalized with it (twice) I can tell you that you can put that thought out of your mind.

As for your friend's horror stories do yourself a favor and stop listening to them because all they're doing is making you afraid of something you don't have.

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Andreaaaa answered Monday March 3 2008, 8:11 pm:
Well, online test don't really have all the answers.
But if your said all the time and this has been going on for two years now, you really should tell someone how your feeling. I have mild depression. I've had it for two years two and to make a long story short, it can lead to other things...I never talked about my feelings and what was bothering me to other people. I just delt with my feelings in my own secret way. I thought it was helping, but it only makes things worse. Long story short. Maybe you just need to talk to someone about things. It helps with the depression A LOT. Talk to your school counselor, a friend, someone. You can even talk to me about your problems if ya want! haha Just message back for my screen name or something. Hope everything works out for you! :)

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